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"Pearl, I didn't get the house when we divorced either. I didn't take one teaspoon out of our marital home. The only thing I took was my clothes, my personal belongings and my children. The removal van with all our belongings fit into the back of a Ford transit, not a lot to show for 24 years of marriage. Pictures of the children I left as they were on the walls, all I asked was for him to make copies so I could have a set and he did. My ex husband and I simply fell apart after the death of our son. We really tried to hold it together for the sake of the girls, but we couldn't. The death of our marriage was slow and painful. My ex didn't think I'd ever leave, as it wasn't the done thing. You stuck to it...but then my mother died. She had the most miserable marriage with my father - 47 years - but stuck at it. Looking at her in her coffin I thought "oh hell no...that isn't going to be me." My mum looked happier dead than alive!!! The following year I bought myself a new house, furnished it and left him. He suffered a nervous breakdown, as he really is a family man at heart and to lose us nearly destroyed him, but he recovered and came to terms with it. Today, eight years on, he remains the only man I trust 100%. We spend the girls birthdays together, we attended college/uni open days together, both of us sat side by side at graduations. We visit our daughter at uni in Derby together. When our daughter got engaged on her birthday, new year's day we all celebrated together. When he has a day off he'll come and take me to lunch, we spend bank holidays together. I've just helped him through the TUPE process...we get on, he's a good man. He's the father of my children, we have three beautiful, smart, happy, funny girls who can turn to both parents for anything, are secure knowing that they are loved more than anything, and have grown to have healthy happy relationships of their own without any gender issues. We did that together, we couldn't make it work, but I still say I picked a winner!" Lovely post, sassy. xxx | |||
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"sassymissuk, ur post really brought a lump to my throat. I dearly hope u are now coming into ur own, and finding all the excitement and happiness you deserve. Its not an easy decision to leave, and decide that your own happiness is of the utmost importance, especially when u have seen ur mother 'stick it out'. Good on yer!! xxx" It was harder than you imagine. I was 43, never been alone and was recovering from an illness that had robbed me of 80% of my sight. One of us had to make the decision as neither of us was happy and the girls were suffering. My leaving was the best for all of us, and the proof is my ex-husband and I are good friends, and our children and happy. | |||
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"I lost my virginity when I was a carefree single young man but found it again when I married my first wife. And that's all I have to say about her. " Oh Wishy...play nice! | |||
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"I prefer to refer to mine as 'the best mistake to ever happen' He gave me a daughter but has no part in her life. She is my life and love her with every part of me, but i hand on heart hate him for not wanting to know her.." That's something I really never understand. When we split that's something I was concerned that if it was made awkward for me to see my son. To this day a few years on though seen him 3 nights per week. Personally I feel the 'bond' between two people having a child is greater than any marriage etc in life. I've spoken with many that now see their children. Sometimes when people speak as to the real reason why they don't it can be apparent it's not a great one or a 'tricky' one. Bottom line though in 99.9% of cases it's not the children's fault - why should they suffer and sometimes children can feel it's their fault. There are a few 'exceptional circumstances' where it's not for the best. Children can and are used as a 'lever' at times. However if the real reason is found out and dealt with accordingly there could be a lot more happier people out there. Including the children. | |||
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"3 ex’s proposed marriage…. didn’t marry any of them. All 3 stay in touch… for non-sexual reasons. I am godmother to the children of one ex…. I am also godmother to an old fuck-buddy’s daughter. All the relationships ended amicably and each time we just left with what we came with. None of them lied to me… that I know of nor do I have reason to believe they did… so I have no reason to feel any anguish. They are all great guys… well of course they would be, I wouldn’t have been in a serious relationship with any of them if they hadn’t been. It is great to have friends who know you to that depth. " Agree! | |||
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"Mine blessed me with a broken nose so no I've nothing but unfond memories about mine" So did mine like a fool took him back | |||
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"Before you say it - if you have nothing good to say keep thinking til you do. I'd say the majority of,if not all here have an Ex of some kind. Think most will have heard the bad - So what is the best thing you can say about them ?? " We are no longer together lol | |||
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"Still ashamed i am divorced but its life" I understand how you feel. I don't care that two out of three end in divorce, I wanted to be the one that made it. I wouldn't actually say I was ashamed, just rather sad actually, especially as we are very good friends and close. I do smile when I see him...but sigh in relief when he goes! | |||
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