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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge? |
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over a year ago
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If you are providing any kind of legitimate treatment it's not ethically questionable, it's ethically wrong.
but then, if you were offering any kind of legitimate treatment, you would know this.
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?"
As long as you never take it further than wondering what if that's the safest option. Not worth the risk to your job or reputation no matter how hot she is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are providing any kind of legitimate treatment it's not ethically questionable, it's ethically wrong.
but then, if you were offering any kind of legitimate treatment, you would know this.
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This |
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?"
I would ask for a chaperone in this case |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Career suicide if it goes tits up. "
Depends what his job is, if he's a physiotherapist its a massive no no, if he's a self employed massage therapist who's going to sack him? |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Thinking and doing are completely different things and if professional you know where that line needs to be drawn!"
Absolutely. And I'm aware of that. It's not something I would ever do, however the forbidden fruit is always tempting lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thinking and doing are completely different things and if professional you know where that line needs to be drawn!
Absolutely. And I'm aware of that. It's not something I would ever do, however the forbidden fruit is always tempting lol."
try and to not think about it and also keep it to yourself if you do
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do district nursing and there is no way I'd ever have a sexual relationship with anybody who I go into, or any of their family members, and I have had it offered, the son of a woman I go into daily has asked me out for a drink a few times but I always say no, even thought we get on and I really like him
I've worked way to hard to get where I am today to throw it away for a shag  |
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"Career suicide if it goes tits up.
Depends what his job is, if he's a physiotherapist its a massive no no, if he's a self employed massage therapist who's going to sack him? "
No one would sack him in that case but word of mouth matters a lot. If it got out that he slept with a client he could be seen as a predator. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I do district nursing and there is no way I'd ever have a sexual relationship with anybody who I go into, or any of their family members, and I have had it offered, the son of a woman I go into daily has asked me out for a drink a few times but I always say no, even thought we get on and I really like him
I've worked way to hard to get where I am today to throw it away for a shag "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. Don't do it.
I remember when a tradesman hit on me in my home. My personal space. My castle. He was in my hallway, and I couldn't ask him to leave because he had to finish the job. I ended up asking a friend to come round because at that point I felt vulnerable. Almost ten years later I still don't like having tradesmen in my home without a friend there.
Now imagine how someone like me would feel if they were in a professional situation. That would make me worried to go back for more treatment. Not just to you, but to anyone. |
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?"
You've been faced with this 'dilemma' on NUMEROUS occassions ? Do you work in a red light district ? |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
One of my friends is a physio colleague with a thriving private practice and he's told me "you won't believe what sometimes happens in the office", with a naughty grin (works with many athletes). I've told him he's playing with fire and will get burned. Only a matter of time. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?
You've been faced with this 'dilemma' on NUMEROUS occassions ? Do you work in a red light district ? "
No I don't lol. But after 18 years of practice, there will be numerous occasions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I hate reading things like these. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I have to go to the doctor or xray and it's a man. I know it happens that people have sexual thoughts at inappropriate times but I don't like hearing about it. Although a doctor I was seeing said when he's at work he's in professional mode and concentrating on the patient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?"
I take it you're a physio? And they're the profession who is most likely to be struck off the HCPC register due to inappropriate contact with a patient. If you want to keep your job, don't do it. |
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"I hate reading things like these. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I have to go to the doctor or xray and it's a man. I know it happens that people have sexual thoughts at inappropriate times but I don't like hearing about it. Although a doctor I was seeing said when he's at work he's in professional mode and concentrating on the patient. "
I asked a surgeon I was sleeping with about it and he said a similar thing - even if it was someone he would be attracted to in another scenario, he couldn't think about patients that way because he wouldn't be able to cut into their muscles and bones if he didn't think about them purely in professional mode  Which was sort of reassuring, in a way... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive fucked a client during working hours in her frosted glass private office - could see the silloettes of people walking by as we were at it- was good fun and pretty horny  |
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"I hate reading things like these. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I have to go to the doctor or xray and it's a man. I know it happens that people have sexual thoughts at inappropriate times but I don't like hearing about it. Although a doctor I was seeing said when he's at work he's in professional mode and concentrating on the patient. "
I see the genitals of about 40 people every day, I work with men and women and to be honest none of us see them that way. It's so common place that all I'm thinking about is how to treat them as efficiently as possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've asked my osteopath before about being 'hit on' and he replied he doesn't see women patients that way, it's a body that he's treating & nothing more.
Which is reassuring considering your laying there in underwear completely exposed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hate reading things like these. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I have to go to the doctor or xray and it's a man. I know it happens that people have sexual thoughts at inappropriate times but I don't like hearing about it. Although a doctor I was seeing said when he's at work he's in professional mode and concentrating on the patient.
I see the genitals of about 40 people every day, I work with men and women and to be honest none of us see them that way. It's so common place that all I'm thinking about is how to treat them as efficiently as possible. "
You get to the point that looking at genitals is no different to looking at an arm
It's just a body part |
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"I've asked my osteopath before about being 'hit on' and he replied he doesn't see women patients that way, it's a body that he's treating & nothing more.
Which is reassuring considering your laying there in underwear completely exposed "
If he was a pervert do you think he'd tell you just because you asked
I've worked with a couple of people who have been struck off for inappropriate behaviour, it does happen |
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"I hate reading things like these. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I have to go to the doctor or xray and it's a man. I know it happens that people have sexual thoughts at inappropriate times but I don't like hearing about it. Although a doctor I was seeing said when he's at work he's in professional mode and concentrating on the patient.
I see the genitals of about 40 people every day, I work with men and women and to be honest none of us see them that way. It's so common place that all I'm thinking about is how to treat them as efficiently as possible.
You get to the point that looking at genitals is no different to looking at an arm
It's just a body part "
Absolutely, it's difficult to understand why people can be so precious about stripping down in front of me in the job I do as I see it so often, I often have to remind myself that this may be the first time they've removed their underwear in front of a stranger, especially in such an ethnically diverse area as Birmingham is. |
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?
You've been faced with this 'dilemma' on NUMEROUS occassions ? Do you work in a red light district ?
No I don't lol. But after 18 years of practice, there will be numerous occasions."
Okay. Well I have a bone in my leg that needs looking at ..... I trust you. |
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?
You've been faced with this 'dilemma' on NUMEROUS occassions ? Do you work in a red light district ?
No I don't lol. But after 18 years of practice, there will be numerous occasions."
In all seriousness, after 18 years of practice why are you asking us? |
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?
You've been faced with this 'dilemma' on NUMEROUS occassions ? Do you work in a red light district ?
No I don't lol. But after 18 years of practice, there will be numerous occasions.
In all seriousness, after 18 years of practice why are you asking us?"
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?
You've been faced with this 'dilemma' on NUMEROUS occassions ? Do you work in a red light district ?
No I don't lol. But after 18 years of practice, there will be numerous occasions.
In all seriousness, after 18 years of practice why are you asking us?"
Because he's on a sex site and hoping for some wanking fodder in replies? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've asked my osteopath before about being 'hit on' and he replied he doesn't see women patients that way, it's a body that he's treating & nothing more.
Which is reassuring considering your laying there in underwear completely exposed
If he was a pervert do you think he'd tell you just because you asked
I've worked with a couple of people who have been struck off for inappropriate behaviour, it does happen "
I'm a pretty good judge of character, known him for years & he's well loved up.
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"I hate reading things like these. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I have to go to the doctor or xray and it's a man. I know it happens that people have sexual thoughts at inappropriate times but I don't like hearing about it. Although a doctor I was seeing said when he's at work he's in professional mode and concentrating on the patient. "
I hate reading that someone finds it a dilemma. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are providing any kind of legitimate treatment it's not ethically questionable, it's ethically wrong.
but then, if you were offering any kind of legitimate treatment, you would know this.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are providing any kind of legitimate treatment it's not ethically questionable, it's ethically wrong.
but then, if you were offering any kind of legitimate treatment, you would know this.
This "
All regulatory bodies advise against this! You would not have a leg to stand on.
There is no grey area....you'd be finished! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been faced with this dilemma on numerous occasions. I'm treating a very sexy woman for a bad back and there clearly is chemistry, and some light flirting by her initiative. I know it's ethically questionable, to get involved, and I've never done so. But it's always been very tempting. Has anyone here had the same dilemma? And did you resist or take the plunge?"
You should chat and confirm the feeling is mutual and if you have this chat in an environment unconnected with work I.e meal or phone,then you are not compromising ethics. Suggestively massaging without 100% consent is dodgy though so clear the air. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I hate reading things like these. It makes me feel uncomfortable when I have to go to the doctor or xray and it's a man. I know it happens that people have sexual thoughts at inappropriate times but I don't like hearing about it. Although a doctor I was seeing said when he's at work he's in professional mode and concentrating on the patient.
I hate reading that someone finds it a dilemma. "
Perhaps I used incorrect wording. Dilemma would imply indecision on how to proceed, which is not the case. It's never happened and its something I would not do. I've been asked to go to social venues and out for drinks by patients that clearly had an interest for more than just chatting. I always declined precisely for the reasons that have been correctly pointed out in the thread. However, I'd be lying if with a couple of them that were very attractive, temptation didn't briefly enter my mind. We're all human in the end, even if we are professionals. What really matters in the end is the choice we make. |
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Yeah someone like a doctor or in any sort of position of trust shouldn't mess with patients. However if you worked in a shop or a gym for example then there's nothing stopping you from trying it on with a customer. |
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"Yeah someone like a doctor or in any sort of position of trust shouldn't mess with patients. However if you worked in a shop or a gym for example then there's nothing stopping you from trying it on with a customer. "
I'd have been sacked for trying it on with a customer when I worked in a gym. |
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Like people are going to say..
"As a member of a rock n roll band I fucked many groupies etc
"As a teacher,I fucked a student etc
"As a doctor/nurse,I had consenting sex with a patient etc
Perhaps it should never happen,but I think on occasions it's bound to...Recent case of footballer and fan.. (albeit 15 yr old).
I also have mixed _iews about it and do not go along with the hung drawn and quatered brigade.
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"Yeah someone like a doctor or in any sort of position of trust shouldn't mess with patients. However if you worked in a shop or a gym for example then there's nothing stopping you from trying it on with a customer.
I'd have been sacked for trying it on with a customer when I worked in a gym."
I'd find it creepy and unsettling if someone who worked in my gym or regular shops hit on customers, especially if they made a habit of it! |
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"Career suicide if it goes tits up.
Depends what his job is, if he's a physiotherapist its a massive no no, if he's a self employed massage therapist who's going to sack him? "
Having been registered as a sex offender won't look good though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nothing medical here....but I have had sex with two "customers". One of which I was full on fb with for a while...to the extent of having a couples profile on here (though we were never an actual couple). I introduced her to the site. She is still here and in a couple...married to a guy I introduced her to at a party of mine a few years back! |
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"What I'd like to know is how are you sure that the person is actually attracted or flirting with you and not just being polite?"
I think there's a level of flirting that its difficult to mistake. However my friendliness has often been misinterpreted as sexual interest when it really isn't so I tend to go the other way nowadays. |
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By *hillout OP Man
over a year ago
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"What I'd like to know is how are you sure that the person is actually attracted or flirting with you and not just being polite?
I think there's a level of flirting that its difficult to mistake. However my friendliness has often been misinterpreted as sexual interest when it really isn't so I tend to go the other way nowadays."
I can clearly discern when a woman is interested, and this is the case. The flirtation has always been initiated by her. I haven't given her much banter for her to build on. In any case, I'll discharge her soon, and no more temptation |
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"I've asked my osteopath before about being 'hit on' and he replied he doesn't see women patients that way, it's a body that he's treating & nothing more.
Which is reassuring considering your laying there in underwear completely exposed "
I don't think I could trust myself if it was me in that position   |
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