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Could you easily leave this lifestyle
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just a little question, we see so many people leave here, then come back.
Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?
We are not sure to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a way of supplementing my sex life, so I swing in, or swing out, when the mood suits. I don't consider it a 'lifestyle', with little interest in clubs, or group scenarios. |
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Could I leave fab then yes. Could I stop being a swinger then know. If you are classing swimging as being your way of thinking and ideas on sex and relationships ass apposed to must the acts of having sex.
I've thought this way all my life. It's not something I could just switch off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not a lifestyle choice for me it's a means to an end. If I couldn't walk away at anytime then it would be an addiction, which for me wouldn't be good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it is the forum banter that keeps folk coming back..... and of course the delectable sex treats  "
Exactly!
The forums csn be fun, I spend most of my free time during the day reading and laughing at comments, also have some discussions with friends old and new. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am part of the furniture here lol.. You most certainly are shag, and if you left we would have haribo withdrawal  "
That is right and haribos is our favourite sweet as well, so would need extra supply  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're not part of any "lifestyle".
 Same. Did not mean to offend anyone, maybe should of worded it better  "
I'm not offended. Just answering the question.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I could, meets aren't happening for me at the moment,not for want of trying! So it's just the forums that keep me here. Although, saying that I would miss the craziness that is the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think I could, meets aren't happening for me at the moment,not for want of trying! So it's just the forums that keep me here. Although, saying that I would miss the craziness that is the forums. "
I think this is the answer we would give too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're not part of any "lifestyle".
Same. Did not mean to offend anyone, maybe should of worded it better
I'm not offended. Just answering the question. "
Same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We took a break trying to save money for our house purchase and whilst it was quite easy to take a break we did miss it. Hence we are back! I don't think we could ever fully leave the lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I'm not currently meeting and having only met two people on here I do think I'm more of a wannabe swinger than an actual swinger so on the meeting side I probably could.
But.. I love talking to people and the forums way to much to leave fab.. I've made a few friends on here that I like to keep in touch with and my life wouldn't be the same without face pic Friday |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I'm not currently meeting and having only met two people on here I do think I'm more of a wannabe swinger than an actual swinger so on the meeting side I probably could.
But.. I love talking to people and the forums way to much to leave fab.. I've made a few friends on here that I like to keep in touch with and my life wouldn't be the same without face pic Friday "
Face pic friday is the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For the time being it works and fits with my life away from fab.....when that changes...one adapts.
Depends on if it becomes your everyday reality.
I see it as an add on and when I need to deattach I do.
My attitude towards women, morals, respect and all that is still the same. I'm no different on here than one is in real life....just certain things are best kept with people who understand each other.
Each to there own....live and let live! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I'm not currently meeting and having only met two people on here I do think I'm more of a wannabe swinger than an actual swinger so on the meeting side I probably could.
But.. I love talking to people and the forums way to much to leave fab.. I've made a few friends on here that I like to keep in touch with and my life wouldn't be the same without face pic Friday
Face pic friday is the best "
It is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums
The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes 
Are you answering a different thread? "
No the forums have been mentioned in this thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are we talking about the forums or meeting people from the internet for sex? I can give up both but I enjoy both so I'm here and other places getting my end away and chatting |
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I don't see this as a " lifestyle";
But in many people's definition I am not a " swinger";
I just have several sexual partners , and some casual ones;
Fab is amusing; and a source of occasional additional sex partners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums
The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes
Are you answering a different thread?
No the forums have been mentioned in this thread "
Oh right,I got confused |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep I'd have no trouble giving it all up and pretty much have. Hubby and i were struggling to find something that suited us both so now I'm only here to dip into the forums now and then. |
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"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums
The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes "
I used to be on another site that had forums and was at a very small social and was talking to one of the guys and he said you surprise me I thought you where going to be completly stupid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums
The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes I used to be on another site that had forums and was at a very small social and was talking to one of the guys and he said you surprise me I thought you where going to be completly stupid "
He had you down to a T then
Don't laugh. ....it will hurt your ribs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums
The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes "
Only sometimes?
I find the swinging world outside the forums is very very different.
In a good way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?"
I'm not a swinger, but:
Could I easily stop having sex? No.
Could I stop using Fab for sex? Yes.
Could I stop using Fab forums? With difficulty |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
NW London |
Obviously it would be nice to share this side of things but it is a bit niche and quite a few girls wouldn't be interested I reckon. So I would give Fab and clubs if I met someone special.
But whilst I'm single, Its nice to get out, meet people and have some fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?
I'm not a swinger, but:
Could I easily stop having sex? No.
Could I stop using Fab for sex? Yes.
Could I stop using Fab forums? With difficulty "
This would be for me also. Well said TT! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.
Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could you just stop being a swinger anytime you liked or would you find it hard?
I'm not a swinger, but:
Could I easily stop having sex? No.
Could I stop using Fab for sex? Yes.
Could I stop using Fab forums? With difficulty "
This
I have thought about leaving a few times, I live alone and don't go out much so just using the forums to relieve the boredom, I have had a few things going on which has stopped me going the gym and once that is sorted I will take some time off the site and get on with my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.
Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx"
I would miss you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.
Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx
I would miss you."
Awww thanks clem means alot
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't feel swinging defines who I am.....it's nothing more than a means to and end for me...
It's simply a device that allows me to continue having a sex life which in other circumstances would not have been a necessary consideration.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.
Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx
I would miss you."
So would we |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather keep my friends out of the forums
The way people behave in here is embarrassing sometimes
Only sometimes?
I find the swinging world outside the forums is very very different.
In a good way."
Absolutely agree ....
Outside the forums people meet people and have fun .
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"I don't see this as a " lifestyle";
But in many people's definition I am not a " swinger";
I just have several sexual partners , and some casual ones;
Fab is amusing; and a source of occasional additional sex partners."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could. If Will and I split, I would walk away, without a backwards glance.
As a single fem I found it fun to start with. As a couple it is a lot more fun (for me anyway!). Although to be honest, considering it's how we met, we don't play with others that often.
I think the thing I would miss most would be the clubs
Can't speak for Will, but this has been part of his life longer than I have - so I doubt it.
Sara |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just sticking on the forums topic, If I didn't use the forums or they didn't have one I would of left by now, I cant remember the last time someone contacted me or replied to a message from outside the forums |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id miss the forums the most but i doubt i would have sex again if i left. Ive contemplated it though.
Not meeting atm and may leave in the next few weeks xx
I would miss you.
So would we "
Thankyou from you guys too . Real life keeps occuring lol. Atm theres no point cause i cant see myself staying away xx |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
For me it is not a life style as it does not affect any other parts of my life - would I like to leave it behind? Not at all. I just think there is a lot more to life than swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes very easily and we are. It was ok to begin with but like most things in life once you do it to much the excitement goes out of it. We also think it can spice up your relationship but if you do it to much we think it could also kill a relationship |
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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago
London / Herts |
I'd easily and happily leave it behind for someone I thought was worth it. Sex has as much or as little emotional meaning as you want, but that meaning can be subject to change throughout your life. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Yes very easily and we are. It was ok to begin with but like most things in life once you do it to much the excitement goes out of it. We also think it can spice up your relationship but if you do it to much we think it could also kill a relationship "
I think you are right - it can negatively affect a relationship, especially if one partner is more into it than the other. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd easily and happily leave it behind for someone I thought was worth it. Sex has as much or as little emotional meaning as you want, but that meaning can be subject to change throughout your life. "
Also very true. Just looked at your profile and was so surprised at your age as you sound so wise (Not meant in a patronising way!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The forums are a great distraction from normal life sometimes.
We have litte breaks but always come back! We are going to try having a big break from the Summer and if we don't miss it we wouldn't come back x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have a break yes. Leave forever,probably not. I like it and would miss the clubs and the people and enjoy playing with a variety of people likeminded. Leave Fab easily, yes we could as we don't really use it much for new meets anyway. Not sure what hubby thinks but probably same.
Doll x |
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I have done everything I wanted to do and at the moment I have a great friend who I trust and we push a few boundaries together, so yes I could leave and I nearly did a while ago but i enjoy the forum too much to press the delete button  |
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