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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I am a man of 26 and I've been lucky enough to be brought up being rich I like everything expensive but get told that I shouldn't live like that but why if I have it I only get one life why shouldn't I be able to live like I do also trying to find someone else like myself but proves very difficult and I think people find my honesty brutal that's why I find it difficult to connect with anyone !!!

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I like nice things....

my money, my choice.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

as for your honesty, being brutal is one thing and I am cool with that. Setting out to offend is another.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"as for your honesty, being brutal is one thing and I am cool with that. Setting out to offend is another."

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love the way you want to live. I've seen both sides of life, growing up comfortably and struggling as a single mum.

Your money, your choice but rubbing what you have, be that wealth, love, health etc, in people's faces does nothing to impress me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Awww bless you op, just proves then money cant get you someone to connect with. You may find more people are turned off than on by people going on about their wealth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Enjoy your money,you can't take it with you. You can,of course,use it to do some good in the world,but that's personal choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was brought up well off... I now live a very different life... I never appreciated when I had everything... Now I appreciate having what I so.

Being rich isn't about how much you have in the bank, but how rich your life is in experience and what you give back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am a man of 26 and I've been lucky enough to be brought up being rich I like everything expensive but get told that I shouldn't live like that but why if I have it I only get one life why shouldn't I be able to live like I do also trying to find someone else like myself but proves very difficult and I think people find my honesty brutal that's why I find it difficult to connect with anyone !!! "

Catch 22 bud. If that's all you've ever known having money and the people you associate with have money then that's your class if you like, your identity. Your not being rude just being yourself.

However flip the coin..

People could say you should humble and realise spending 20.00 on toilet roll is not viable. My mates tell me all the time. Just have to understand people without money will not see the same world that you do.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Is this a stealth brag described as an issue?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is this a stealth brag described as an issue?

Yep ... bless him lol

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Is this a stealth brag described as an issue?

Looks like it. Along with a not so subtle pulling strategy of trying to impress potential partners with claims of wealth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Your money, your choice but rubbing what you have, be that wealth, love, health etc, in people's faces does nothing to impress me."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is this a stealth brag described as an issue?

I do love how you say what most of us dodge saying x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You'd think with all that money you could treat us all to a few commas and full stops.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You'd think with all that money you could treat us all to a few commas and full stops."

And a better bathroom tiler

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Catch 22 bud. If that's all you've ever known having money and the people you associate with have money then that's your class if you like, your identity. Your not being rude just being yourself.

However flip the coin..

Is that £20 for 1000 rolls in Costco's?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Which watch do you have?

What car do you drive?

Where do you buy your shoes from?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had caviar once.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You'd think with all that money you could treat us all to a few commas and full stops."

I wont lie i was thinking it but i didnt feel fair saying it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry about it, really. With time and some concentration, you can learn to communicate with the peasants.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You'd think with all that money you could treat us all to a few commas and full stops.

And a better bathroom tiler

You'd think he'd at least have a jacuzzi bath

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had caviar once. "

Horrible stuff. Did you like it?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

You seem very self aware which is always a good thing in understanding why you have certain issues.

With regard to wealth we're inclined to count ours in terms other than monetary but that doesn't make you wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been privileged to spend time living amongst people who were clinging to the edge of existence and for who each day consisted of nothing more than the ordeal survival.....

Whenever I meet people lavishing themselves with opulent indulgence in a way that suggests they feel a genuine sense of entitlement I find myself unable to connect with them...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Do anyone on this forum actually say nice things or even positive stuff haha miserable lot all I see is negative messages on every post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do anyone on this forum actually say nice things or even positive stuff haha miserable lot all I see is negative messages on every post "

Yeah we do do but woah as me type posts dont bring out our nice sides. You got some nice posts there though op. You just chose to focus on the negative xx

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Do anyone on this forum actually say nice things or even positive stuff haha miserable lot all I see is negative messages on every post "

I am very happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've been told I'm not a nice person but why is it because my opinions don't go along with the majority of opinions on here I don't like to follow the crowd I like to have my own mind and don't mind if people have different _iews to mine doesn't make mine wrong

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Do anyone on this forum actually say nice things or even positive stuff haha miserable lot all I see is negative messages on every post "
why not stop thinking money is the everything of cause its nice to have nice things, be able to afford treats but putting things into perspective.lovely to go to a big fancy restaurant but equally as lovely to share a bag of chips on the sea front.

Walking in the countryside on a lovely spring day watching the lambs in the fields, all the best things don't have to cost money.

It must be nice to be rich and privileged but nicer to appreciate things in many forms.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I've been told I'm not a nice person but why is it because my opinions don't go along with the majority of opinions on here I don't like to follow the crowd I like to have my own mind and don't mind if people have different _iews to mine doesn't make mine wrong

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you don't have to follow the crowd to be a nice person, I prefer people with their own opinions whether I agree with them or not but you can still be nice and it depends if they are actually your own opinions or whether your just doing it to cause controversy.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

why worry...... I pride myself on the fact that I don't follow the crowd or need any validation from anyone on here.

just enjoy it in your way, maybe don't use the forum as a pick up joint and search profiles of people in your area. A very, very small percentage of people using the site frequent the forums so if people don't like your posts, who cares.......

just be you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have been that's why there's a lot of negativity ????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I appreciate a different _iewpoint op personally. And i dont think anyones said your not a nice person. On a public forum you have to accept not everyone will agree with you.

Your opening post came across as bragging to me though and im very non materialistic. If it makes you happy though its all good

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

why worry...... I pride myself on the fact that I don't follow the crowd or need any validation from anyone on here.

just be you

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and a well liked and respected forum user for being like that. Having your own opinions doesn't mean you have to be nasty

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Never said people was nasty I just observed there are a lot of negative people who like to be negative in all of there comments to get a few laughs

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By *eerobCouple over a year ago

solihull

Having read your original statement OP, it is clear that you haven't spent much money on punctuation! Xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Never said people was nasty I just observed there are a lot of negative people who like to be negative in all of there comments to get a few laughs "
and not everyone on this thread is being nasty some are giving you advice

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By *agan_PairCouple over a year ago

portchester

Omega 300,

Aston Martin vantage,

Crocket and jones.

"Which watch do you have?

What car do you drive?

Where do you buy your shoes from?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never said people was nasty I just observed there are a lot of negative people who like to be negative in all of there comments to get a few laughs "

Yeah some people do but if you let it bother you ypu wont have fun. We are just strangers on the internet we make no difference to your life. So shrug it off x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having read your original statement OP, it is clear that you haven't spent much money on punctuation! Xx

Wouldn't need to I don't need middle class jobs

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I also can't u derstand why if your so rich you wouldn't be out at the top swanky clubs mixing with like minded people.

At your age wouldn't you be going to all these rich private parties and out actually doing stuff with the money your eager to spend

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Never said people was nasty I just observed there are a lot of negative people who like to be negative in all of there comments to get a few laughs "

And some who like to brag and expect people to be in awe.

You pride yourself on your honesty and for speaking your mind? Congratulations, you've just met loads more honest people who say what they think.

Because they don't agree with you doesn't mean they are attacking you or are wrong.

Why do you think that your honesty is the only ok honesty?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I also can't u derstand why if your so rich you wouldn't be out at the top swanky clubs mixing with like minded people.

At your age wouldn't you be going to all these rich private parties and out actually doing stuff with the money your eager to spend"

And you would know I don't do this how ?? Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There's a lot of bitters today haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never said people was nasty I just observed there are a lot of negative people who like to be negative in all of there comments to get a few laughs

And some who like to brag and expect people to be in awe.

You pride yourself on your honesty and for speaking your mind? Congratulations, you've just met loads more honest people who say what they think.

Because they don't agree with you doesn't mean they are attacking you or are wrong.

Why do you think that your honesty is the only ok honesty?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Success to me is not what you have,but what you can do without,possibly ego boosting attempts to say 'im rich' could be one to begin with

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Success to me is not what you have,but what you can do without,possibly ego boosting attempts to say 'im rich' could be one to begin with"

Your poor I take it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im feeling negative today so im gonna post a negative comment

money can only buy you so much happiness and try as you might it never makes up for your other shortcomings

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"There's a lot of bitters today haha"

No, just lots of people not particularly impressed by wealth or claims of wealth.

Most of us have reached the stage of realising there is more to life than money.

Perhaps that's why you are struggling to connect with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Success to me is not what you have,but what you can do without,possibly ego boosting attempts to say 'im rich' could be one to begin with

Your poor I take it "

doing ypurself no favours now op....

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"im feeling negative today so im gonna post a negative comment

money can only buy you so much happiness and try as you might it never makes up for your other shortcomings

And sometimes it even magnifies and makes the shortcomings more obvious.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Success to me is not what you have,but what you can do without,possibly ego boosting attempts to say 'im rich' could be one to begin with

Your poor I take it

doing ypurself no favours now op...."

He's not trying to.

Attention seeking wind-up merchant.

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By *UNCHBOXMan over a year ago

folkestone

"Success to me is not what you have,but what you can do without,possibly ego boosting attempts to say 'im rich' could be one to begin with

Your poor I take it "

Does telling everyone how rich you are make up for your complete lack of any charisma?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id written a nice post... But a fluke meant I hit back instead of post.. And I'm glad.

To be honest I think the Op is just looking for bites. Must be very boring and lonely up in his ivory tower, or is it ivory bridge...

As someone who grew up privileged and has had money... Id say I have more now than I ever had growing up.... Experience taught me that I never appreciated all I had when I was younger. Being cut off from the money and having to struggle made me the person I am today.

Op your opinions are fine to have but its never okay to disrespect others or to be hateful

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Nibble nibble nibble

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I think with all the poverty in the world it's just not great to say 'hey look at me everyone I have lots of money,poor people stay away!'

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I also can't u derstand why if your so rich you wouldn't be out at the top swanky clubs mixing with like minded people.

At your age wouldn't you be going to all these rich private parties and out actually doing stuff with the money your eager to spend

And you would know I don't do this how ?? Haha"
because if you did those people wouldn't be telling you you shouldn't be living the life you do they would be sharing it and you also wouldn't be complaining you can't get meets or now much leg work it takes to pull certain women. Surely, if your young, rich, classy and have style yoiud be mixing with like minded people not moaning about it on a swingers website forum

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

"Success to me is not what you have,but what you can do without,possibly ego boosting attempts to say 'im rich' could be one to begin with

Your poor I take it

doing ypurself no favours now op....

He's not trying to.

Attention seeking wind-up merchant."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This site should be called plenty of fish haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would argue the finest things in life are people who understand the true value of self worth is not measured by what we accumulate.... it's measured by what we contribute as a human being .

But I guess for some people that concept might require too much selfless effort .

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

Can't stand religion to be fair, but maybe somebody should get the kid's version of the bible story of Dives and Lazarus out(you know, the one with the pictures to aid comprehension..)and plonk it in front of him(the OP seems to have a problem knowing where to demarcate his sentences with a full stop judging by his initial post. Who does he think he is, Cormac McCarthy?)for a bit of a read.

On second thoughts, he might need someone to read it to him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your life your choices. But judging from the tome of many of your posts it's proof that you can;t buy happines

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of bitters today haha"

You really are desperate for attention aren't you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nibble nibble nibble "

A mouse?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wealth doesn't make you better, superior, or entitled to anything.

In fact, showing off is vulgar.

There's a phrase.. Know the price of everything but the value of nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Money is the root of all evil

I think to want for nothing, would be very boring. P

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, you have no values and most likely youre a spoiled brat who thinks money means everything. You will eventually find out that there is more to life than money. Im sure this backfired on you, probably expecting panties to start flying your way. But as you can see, youre wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Reeling them in a lot of catches today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had caviar once.

Horrible stuff. Did you like it? "

Was a bit weird. I didn't like the texture

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reeling them in a lot of catches today

Do you go fishing then?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Isn't it a sad way of getting attention though. I've looked at your profile your a very good looking young man so it's not your looks that isn't getting you the meets

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

Yeah must be nice to get affirmation that yes,people do hate me.

Are you a nihilist?

"Reeling them in a lot of catches today

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reeling them in a lot of catches today

And what exactly have you caught, OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You sir have been caught many times today you big fish

"Yeah must be nice to get affirmation that yes,people do hate me.

Are you a nihilist?

Reeling them in a lot of catches today

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Reeling them in a lot of catches today

And what exactly have you caught, OP?"

A flea in his ear judging by many reactions

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

Guys, guys c'mon!

We were all prats to varying degrees at 26, age, experience and self awareness all helps to change that.

Fingers crossed eh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think its time to stop feeding the trolls... It gives them a sense of importance

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

So go and play with your 'rod' somewhere else then.

"You sir have been caught many times today you big fish

Yeah must be nice to get affirmation that yes,people do hate me.

Are you a nihilist?

Reeling them in a lot of catches today

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Geek alert !!!!

"So go and play with your 'rod' somewhere else then.

You sir have been caught many times today you big fish

Yeah must be nice to get affirmation that yes,people do hate me.

Are you a nihilist?

Reeling them in a lot of catches today

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"I would argue the finest things in life are people who understand the true value of self worth is not measured by what we accumulate.... it's measured by what we contribute as a human being .

But I guess for some people that concept might require too much selfless effort .

Well put

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like expensive stuff too, can't say I've ever got any grief off anyone for it though so it must be the way you go about telling people, OP.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Christ Nicko....... was it the maids day off ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Possibly

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple over a year ago

South East Wales

You're tactless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why thank you

You're tactless."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of the benefits of being a young person is you can't possibly be expected to possess wisdom beyond your years,,

Young people should be allowed to say daft stuff......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like how you acknowledge you've been lucky enough to have lived in wealth. That to me suggests you are aware of some things and probably not bragging.

You can live like that if you want to. Most people living in poverty or lesser wealth aren't jealous of peoples wealth and don't begrudge them it, just they're often a very neglected part of a system that doesn't work for them and they can find life hard.

I do think there is some awareness of the unfairness of the system and a lot of people don't want to encourage that any more because they have some awareness that poverty is wrong.

I also don't agree with people saying the wealthy should do this, that and the other for charities and that just because they have more wealth. I do think there's more fundamental problems with the monetary system, and everything to with that, and these need fixing. Should you feel guilty for being one of the lucky ones? I doubt it.

You can't connect to people? It is harder to connect to others when you don't need them, being independent can cause this and it is possible it's down to your money but it could be any number of other things also.

I also don't connect to people easily, it's a defeence system for myself though because i don't trust many people, and i don't trust many people because i don't trust myself because i do have things wrong with me that mean i can't be trusted quite yet and i'm also aware anyone can project a false image of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

he`ll have to buy himself a new identity to get any puzzy onhere now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honesty is the best policy..... I can't stand compulsive liars.

Good on ya for being honest. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It bothers you far more than you admit that people consider you nasty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He's not wealthy, he's a troll with a poor education.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any chance you'd buy me a nice car?

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By *enard ArgenteMan over a year ago

London and France

"You'd think with all that money you could treat us all to a few commas and full stops."

Or got an education that could have explained to you what they are, and how useful they can be.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd invest in some commas, full stops, semi colons and exclamation marks!

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

'Real rich' people don't normally brag about their wealth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the way you tell 'em

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is what I think.

You've been here before,many times,under many guises. You post inflammatory threads regarding subjects you know get a reaction on here. You want the attention because you're lonely and feel worthless. I'll be your friend.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're a good looking handsome young lad OP. This site could be your Oyster if you go about attracting the ladies the right way!

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By *eerobCouple over a year ago

solihull

I think you will find that should be 'you are' or you're but not 'your'. It maybe that you don't need a middle classed job... but a friendly suggestion that perhaps spend some of your (correct use of the word your) wealth would well be spent on some grammer lessons. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All the money in the world but can't afford a full-stop.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yet you only use ladies ted baker products....cmon Op if you have the cash splash it on some quality bath products

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By *enard ArgenteMan over a year ago

London and France

"All the money in the world but can't afford a full-stop.

Or a razor .

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