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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person  .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No of course not why try to pretend to be someone your not.
Just be yourself enjoy what you like and tell the moaners and people who say negative things to you to simply buffer off
Be yourself and enjoy what YOU want the number 1 person on your profile is you, gorgeous girl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No not at all, With some people that's exactly what they are looking,
Personally I'm looking for a mix of both, I like the sweet innocent personality but also the confident dominant personality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you already know what I think about you  .
Fab can be a broad church, we all are seeking and want many differing things.
It doesn't have to be full on sex all the time . I do enjoy a good social meet and have made some brilliant friends.
So OP what I am trying to say is , fab is what you make it .
If you ever feel the pull to bring you to North Wales I would happily be your tour guide xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's just shit guys say to get into your "cutsey" vagina.
Haha! Surely not! All guys are totally truthful here right?
In fairytale land maybe "
That's where I'm from
"Woman in In The Land Of Pixie Dust And Fairies"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying..."
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying..."
This. 
Absolutely this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
This.
Absolutely this. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that "
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
Not at all, just keep being you!
I see what others have said above about what men *might* be meaning about the other women on here but I honestly think they're just trying to compliment you without directly or indirectly (deliberately) meaning to knock others (even if that is the obvious implication of what they're actually saying!).
And as long as you're not too sweet for a coffee it's all good isn't it?   |
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Nah. It just makes you more attractive.
It's an ideal combination isn't it? - Sweet and nice yet sexually adventurous(by conventional standards)/open minded. Who doesn't love a twinkle in the eye of a nice girl?
Especially if they are curvy with pale skin and long dark hair.
But I digress..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'."
Good point I hadn't considered it that way if I'm honest.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Men will say anything for a shag. The trick is making it work for you. "
Yes but they don't want to (clears throat) hmmmm "shag" me cause I'm too sweet lol |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
I don't think being sweet/nice makes any difference.
One of the things I love most about swinging is you meet all different types of personalitys. There's room for everyone. The only thing that really matters when it comes to swinging is you admit you enjoy sex and you have decided to embrace that rather than hide it the way some vanilla people do.
Xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'.
Good point I hadn't considered it that way if I'm honest. "
And there's nothing wrong with being nice, it's a brilliant, admirable trait to have and more people should be nice (not me though lol), i never answered that bit sorry.
But i have realised that being nice attracts a lot of users and horrible people that think that being nice also means you are stupid, usable, and pliant to their needs.
If the nice people can stick to each other and the other asholes stick to themselves the world would be 100% great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've often been called a gentleman which is hardly conducive to wild rampant sex but that's just an aspect of my personality that people chose to pick up on.
To be honest OP I think you're hot as hell, sweet or not you're here because you want to be |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'.
Good point I hadn't considered it that way if I'm honest.
And there's nothing wrong with being nice, it's a brilliant, admirable trait to have and more people should be nice (not me though lol), i never answered that bit sorry.
But i have realised that being nice attracts a lot of users and horrible people that think that being nice also means you are stupid, usable, and pliant to their needs.
If the nice people can stick to each other and the other asholes stick to themselves the world would be 100% great. "
Well I've been very lucky to meet some very nice and respectful friends especially in the forums |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Men will say anything for a shag. The trick is making it work for you.
Yes but they don't want to (clears throat) hmmmm "shag" me cause I'm too sweet lol"
So are you saying they are not interested in you because you are too nice? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'.
Good point I hadn't considered it that way if I'm honest.
And there's nothing wrong with being nice, it's a brilliant, admirable trait to have and more people should be nice (not me though lol), i never answered that bit sorry.
But i have realised that being nice attracts a lot of users and horrible people that think that being nice also means you are stupid, usable, and pliant to their needs.
If the nice people can stick to each other and the other asholes stick to themselves the world would be 100% great.
Well I've been very lucky to meet some very nice and respectful friends especially in the forums "
Good. I'm pleased for you.
I am a bit more wary and hesitant because of personal issues but getting there myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men will say anything for a shag. The trick is making it work for you.
Yes but they don't want to (clears throat) hmmmm "shag" me cause I'm too sweet lol"
Make them think they charmed their way into your knickers. Even though you're such a good girl. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's just shit guys say to get into your "cutsey" vagina.
Haha! Surely not! All guys are totally truthful here right? "
Of course, we are all professionals with a large appendage that will last all night  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying... "
Sadly I have to concur!
There's also the supposition that only 'ugly' women who can't attract men in real life would be on a no strings sex site!
I like sex outside of a loving relationship - ergo I'm an ugly slag! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can safely say no one has ever said I was too sweet or nice 
On the flip side, and I'm not saying this applies you OP, there are a load of women who play on the "ooh I'm so cute and sweet, look bunny rabbits!" fake innocent ingenue crap because some men lap it up. So the men may well mean it as a compliment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
you're lovely but you don't meet not much point to this place if you don't but as you probably know the guys want you and will say what's needed to achieve it ,nothing wrong with being a nice person and enjoying sex ,you're married so opportunities must be difficult anyhow    |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Men will say anything for a shag. The trick is making it work for you.
Yes but they don't want to (clears throat) hmmmm "shag" me cause I'm too sweet lol
So are you saying they are not interested in you because you are too nice? "
Sorry that was a joke |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Sadly I have to concur!
There's also the supposition that only 'ugly' women who can't attract men in real life would be on a no strings sex site!
I like sex outside of a loving relationship - ergo I'm an ugly slag! "
Your lovely Peach you know I think that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'.
Good point I hadn't considered it that way if I'm honest.
And there's nothing wrong with being nice, it's a brilliant, admirable trait to have and more people should be nice (not me though lol), i never answered that bit sorry.
But i have realised that being nice attracts a lot of users and horrible people that think that being nice also means you are stupid, usable, and pliant to their needs.
If the nice people can stick to each other and the other asholes stick to themselves the world would be 100% great.
Well I've been very lucky to meet some very nice and respectful friends especially in the forums "
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In all the time I've been on sites and going to clubs, I've only genuinely been made to feel like shit by two guys.
One because he looked me up and down like I was a bit of shit on his shoe the other time because of something he did.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'.
Good point I hadn't considered it that way if I'm honest.
And there's nothing wrong with being nice, it's a brilliant, admirable trait to have and more people should be nice (not me though lol), i never answered that bit sorry.
But i have realised that being nice attracts a lot of users and horrible people that think that being nice also means you are stupid, usable, and pliant to their needs.
If the nice people can stick to each other and the other asholes stick to themselves the world would be 100% great.
Well I've been very lucky to meet some very nice and respectful friends especially in the forums
Did you fuck them?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'll admit OP when I read your posts I do it in a fluffy high pitched way in my head you are from pixie / fairyland after all!
I think, because you come across very sweet, innocent & inoffensive in the forums & on your profile that's probably why men say it to you. Can be genuine, can also be a *way in.
People used to say it to me a lot before I changed my name, being 'Roxi' attracts a rather different type of message, she's obviously not viewed that way at all |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I think there are two reasons guys say you're too sweet/nice to be on here (going on my limited experience anyway). One is that they're just trying to get into your knickers and think being sweet means being a pushover. The other is the whole Madonna/whore complex where they want someone innocent but don't necessarily like the idea of anyone else having her since it ruins it for them. I steer clear of guys who show any hints of either thought pattern. Saying someone is sweet/nice etc. isn't necessarily a red flag but when followed up by a comment that seems as if they're surprised by that or that you're unusual on here as a result it sends me running a mile. |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
This could have been written by me! Being on here had opened my eyes to a world I didn't know existed haha  but no; I don't think it's a bad thing at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying...
Then they look at the profile and puck out stuff you say you want or like and then say that
Yeah manipulative people do that, sick of guys doing this to me personally and they're easy enough to dismiss.
But there's a lot you can tell about what a person thinks off what they say.
Too nice for what? That doesn't even make sense until you realise they automatically look at people on here as not 'nice'."
I think I love you.... All of this! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'll admit OP when I read your posts I do it in a fluffy high pitched way in my head you are from pixie / fairyland after all!
I think, because you come across very sweet, innocent & inoffensive in the forums & on your profile that's probably why men say it to you. Can be genuine, can also be a *way in.
People used to say it to me a lot before I changed my name, being 'Roxi' attracts a rather different type of message, she's obviously not viewed that way at all "
Haha haha this has made me really chuckle I'm going for funny and flirty (note to self must try harder lol)
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"Serious answer though. Some guys will see women on here as slags, pieces of shit to be used, trash, and not really human, just objects. If they're saying you shouldn't be on here because you're nice then basically that's how they look at women on here, as shit.
Complimenting you for being nice and saying you shouldn't be on here is a nice thing to say directly but indirectly look at what else they're saying..."
I'm another who wholeheartedly agrees with this. There's a thread running at the moment which makes me realise that people think of themselves this way too and think they aren't entitled to expect the same level of respect during sex as non swingers. |
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I have been told a few times that I'm too nice and should be married and settled down aren't people who swing nice and pleasant then? Aren't they chatty and fun? What sort of people do they think are on here ? |
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"I have been told a few times that I'm too nice and should be married and settled down aren't people who swing nice and pleasant then? Aren't they chatty and fun? What sort of people do they think are on here ?"
Lol. We had a social once with a couple and the man basically said he wouldn't want to be friends with people who swing, that's why it remained a social |
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"I have been told a few times that I'm too nice and should be married and settled down aren't people who swing nice and pleasant then? Aren't they chatty and fun? What sort of people do they think are on here ?
Lol. We had a social once with a couple and the man basically said he wouldn't want to be friends with people who swing, that's why it remained a social "
How weird is that? I don't understand that at all |
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"I'll admit OP when I read your posts I do it in a fluffy high pitched way in my head you are from pixie / fairyland after all!
I think, because you come across very sweet, innocent & inoffensive in the forums & on your profile that's probably why men say it to you. Can be genuine, can also be a *way in.
People used to say it to me a lot before I changed my name, being 'Roxi' attracts a rather different type of message, she's obviously not viewed that way at all
Haha haha this has made me really chuckle I'm going for funny and flirty (note to self must try harder lol)
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I don't think you need to try any harder, I'm pretty sure your fun 'n' flirty side comes across to the people you're trying to attract
You know what though, I'd wet myself laughing if we ever met and you sounded like a female version of Brian Blessed |
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The dichotomy lies somewhere between sex and sex.
Most men are looking for do anything for anyone sluts that they can mistreat and forget about.
Society still believes that nice girls don't.
If you are 'nice' they may feel a tinge of guilt about ramming something down your throat till your mascara runs and they'd probably think twice about asking you to be centre attraction at a gang bang.
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I view someone who's self-described as sweet, as holding essential human traits such as respect and honesty, which everyone I deal with I expect to have.
Sexual needs and interests are different though. If someone is naive, then some would probably view that as sweet but I'd view it as open to learning more, if their interests were inclined that way.
Anyone who's not got enough ability to withstand some abuse etc or be able to take tough decisions and possibly be direct with others, these are skills that can be developed. Sensitivity can be protected, with some behaviours that are learnable too.
If sex with less restrictions to a commonplace monogamous 121 is interesting then Fab or swinging may be right for you. Learn how others approach it and see how you could modify your approach.
But don't lose your sweetness. It's priceless. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I view someone who's self-described as sweet, as holding essential human traits such as respect and honesty, which everyone I deal with I expect to have.
Sexual needs and interests are different though. If someone is naive, then some would probably view that as sweet but I'd view it as open to learning more, if their interests were inclined that way.
Anyone who's not got enough ability to withstand some abuse etc or be able to take tough decisions and possibly be direct with others, these are skills that can be developed. Sensitivity can be protected, with some behaviours that are learnable too.
If sex with less restrictions to a commonplace monogamous 121 is interesting then Fab or swinging may be right for you. Learn how others approach it and see how you could modify your approach.
But don't lose your sweetness. It's priceless."
Your responses are always balanced and we'll considered |
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"I view someone who's self-described as sweet, as holding essential human traits such as respect and honesty, which everyone I deal with I expect to have.
Sexual needs and interests are different though. If someone is naive, then some would probably view that as sweet but I'd view it as open to learning more, if their interests were inclined that way.
Anyone who's not got enough ability to withstand some abuse etc or be able to take tough decisions and possibly be direct with others, these are skills that can be developed. Sensitivity can be protected, with some behaviours that are learnable too.
If sex with less restrictions to a commonplace monogamous 121 is interesting then Fab or swinging may be right for you. Learn how others approach it and see how you could modify your approach.
But don't lose your sweetness. It's priceless."
I know you weren't writing this about me, but I can relate so much to near enough all that you have said. It makes so much sense to me. Although I am toughening up here in the forums! I felt I just had to comment on your spit in words and observations. |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
Ignore the morons its thier loss if they are gonna criticise anything about you, i have just looked at ur profile and your absolutely stunning and beautiful, ur pics are amazingly sexy and u have an amazing figure, u could easily have any guy or girl on here u wanted, plus being nice is a good thing shows u were brought up properly to be polite and well mannered x x |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
I have no idea how sweet you are - can I have a taste please? |
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over a year ago
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"I view someone who's self-described as sweet, as holding essential human traits such as respect and honesty, which everyone I deal with I expect to have.
Sexual needs and interests are different though. If someone is naive, then some would probably view that as sweet but I'd view it as open to learning more, if their interests were inclined that way.
Anyone who's not got enough ability to withstand some abuse etc or be able to take tough decisions and possibly be direct with others, these are skills that can be developed. Sensitivity can be protected, with some behaviours that are learnable too.
If sex with less restrictions to a commonplace monogamous 121 is interesting then Fab or swinging may be right for you. Learn how others approach it and see how you could modify your approach.
But don't lose your sweetness. It's priceless.
I know you weren't writing this about me, but I can relate so much to near enough all that you have said. It makes so much sense to me. Although I am toughening up here in the forums! I felt I just had to comment on your spit in words and observations. "
Bloody auto carrot. Spot on words. Lol |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"It's just shit guys say to get into your "cutsey" vagina."
"You are too attractive / fit / intelligent [fill in other rubbish here] to be in this kind of a club"
"You are normal in every way"
Blah, blah, blah. Took me years before I figured out that they say this to everybody, just like to the OP too. Guess I wasn't all that 'intelligent' |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
Nope, if they're too obtuse or blinkered to understand / recognise your unique set of qualities, they're best left to it.
Can't imagine anything less enjoyable than assuming a role unbeffiting to ones character for throw away sexual attention from unsuitable persons, stick to your guns(so to speak).
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Nope, if they're too obtuse or blinkered to understand / recognise your unique set of qualities, they're best left to it.
Can't imagine anything less enjoyable than assuming a role unbeffiting to ones character for throw away sexual attention from unsuitable persons, stick to your guns(so to speak).
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Thank you and I will I don't intend to change. |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter "
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv. "
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv.
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I don't know who she was. But i dont think she was having a good mother's day.. |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv.
I don't know who she was. But i dont think she was having a good mother's day.."
I think you maybe right! |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv.
I don't know who she was. But i dont think she was having a good mother's day..
I think you maybe right! "
Feral fawning. Maybe she'll return as "littlemisssweetandinnocent" as that seems to be the way to go. |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv.
I don't know who she was. But i dont think she was having a good mother's day..
I think you maybe right!
Feral fawning. Maybe she'll return as "littlemisssweetandinnocent" as that seems to be the way to go. "
Ah I did wonder
She's in and out all the time, or so it seems.
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv.
I don't know who she was. But i dont think she was having a good mother's day..
I think you maybe right!
Feral fawning. Maybe she'll return as "littlemisssweetandinnocent" as that seems to be the way to go. "
Who was it? I thought you meant Ms innocent but it wasnt her xx |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv.
I don't know who she was. But i dont think she was having a good mother's day..
I think you maybe right!
Feral fawning. Maybe she'll return as "littlemisssweetandinnocent" as that seems to be the way to go.
Who was it? I thought you meant Ms innocent but it wasnt her xx"
Feral Fawning... |
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"Good Afternoon All,
Ive been hanging around in the forums for a while and would love to know your thoughts.
So I'm the first to admit that I'm more Disney than Porn Star but I enjoy (whispers) Sex as much as the next person .
I do however get alot of comments "too sweet, too nice etc to be on here, which I find strange as I don't think I'm very different to most of my friends on site.
So is being too sweet / nice a bad thing on a swinging site?
Thanks Knitter
Only hard faced ould wans enjoy the swinging scene luv.
I don't know who she was. But i dont think she was having a good mother's day..
I think you maybe right!
Feral fawning. Maybe she'll return as "littlemisssweetandinnocent" as that seems to be the way to go.
Who was it? I thought you meant Ms innocent but it wasnt her xx
Feral Fawning..."
oh havent noticed her before tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sweet or not, we are all to perv on prospective meets.
If they've messaged, I assume you have a certain quality that appeals to them.
Surely a sweet person is the kind of people you would want to meet? |
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