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Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!! |
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!! "
It's Political correctness gone sane!
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!! "
First catch of the day.
When and where did I advocate anything you are arguing against?
If someone says something you don't like, challenge them.
But for goodness sake, if it takes a three volume thesis to describe why you are offended by something or someone it may be better for all if you just don't bother and be not offended instead.
Offence is useless, you can challenge someone you disagree with, without resorting to the pathetic moralism which almost always emanates from "offence". |
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Rang the radio station and asked if they could put a message out to my neibough and ask them to put my gate back! The radio dj said" why don't you tell him"? I replied I don't want to in case he takes a afence  |
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"Rang the radio station and asked if they could put a message out to my neibough and ask them to put my gate back! The radio dj said" why don't you tell him"? I replied I don't want to in case he takes a afence "
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"Rang the radio station and asked if they could put a message out to my neibough and ask them to put my gate back! The radio dj said" why don't you tell him"? I replied I don't want to in case he takes a afence
Apologies for the gramma!! Before the police start moaning "
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"Rang the radio station and asked if they could put a message out to my neibough and ask them to put my gate back! The radio dj said" why don't you tell him"? I replied I don't want to in case he takes a afence
Apologies for the gramma!! Before the police start moaning
Grammar "
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By *onyneMan
over a year ago
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"Rang the radio station and asked if they could put a message out to my neibough and ask them to put my gate back! The radio dj said" why don't you tell him"? I replied I don't want to in case he takes a afence
Apologies for the gramma!! Before the police start moaning
I worry more about the Grandma police...They are very powerful and hold the keys to the cake tin
Grammar
Dam you!! "
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!!
First catch of the day.
When and where did I advocate anything you are arguing against?
If someone says something you don't like, challenge them.
But for goodness sake, if it takes a three volume thesis to describe why you are offended by something or someone it may be better for all if you just don't bother and be not offended instead.
Offence is useless, you can challenge someone you disagree with, without resorting to the pathetic moralism which almost always emanates from "offence"."
Um. I'm not arguing against anything? Lol.
And who's writing a three volume thesis? Lol.
Why do you get to decide what people are and aren't offended by? 
And I "choose" to get offended by everything I get offended by. Sure. Of course I do. |
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!!
First catch of the day.
When and where did I advocate anything you are arguing against?
If someone says something you don't like, challenge them.
But for goodness sake, if it takes a three volume thesis to describe why you are offended by something or someone it may be better for all if you just don't bother and be not offended instead.
Offence is useless, you can challenge someone you disagree with, without resorting to the pathetic moralism which almost always emanates from "offence".
Um. I'm not arguing against anything? Lol.
And who's writing a three volume thesis? Lol.
Why do you get to decide what people are and aren't offended by?
And I "choose" to get offended by everything I get offended by. Sure. Of course I do. "
I don't. Where did I say I do?
You are making up non existent bits of post and telling me I am wrong because of apparently saying them.
If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life. |
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Or maybe everyone should just stop being horrible to other people. Then if someone is offended, it's for no reason. At the moment, people are often offended for good reason because other people are total arseholes. Even this thread seems to be a bit patronising to me. That's not offensive, but it's fairly annoying. |
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"Or maybe everyone should just stop being horrible to other people. Then if someone is offended, it's for no reason. At the moment, people are often offended for good reason because other people are total arseholes. Even this thread seems to be a bit patronising to me. That's not offensive, but it's fairly annoying. "
A fair point. However there is a real issue around people having their freedom to speak eroded by the knee jerk offence culture we have invented recently.
Some people need to be insulted because they are awful and doing awful things. But what actually happens to them? Nothing. Nothing whatsoever so why is it so wrong.
I am often offended, but I have yet to die from it. |
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"Or maybe everyone should just stop being horrible to other people. Then if someone is offended, it's for no reason. At the moment, people are often offended for good reason because other people are total arseholes. Even this thread seems to be a bit patronising to me. That's not offensive, but it's fairly annoying.
A fair point. However there is a real issue around people having their freedom to speak eroded by the knee jerk offence culture we have invented recently.
Some people need to be insulted because they are awful and doing awful things. But what actually happens to them? Nothing. Nothing whatsoever so why is it so wrong.
I am often offended, but I have yet to die from it. "
Often insulted. Sorry. Freudian slip. |
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"Or maybe everyone should just stop being horrible to other people. Then if someone is offended, it's for no reason. At the moment, people are often offended for good reason because other people are total arseholes. Even this thread seems to be a bit patronising to me. That's not offensive, but it's fairly annoying.
A fair point. However there is a real issue around people having their freedom to speak eroded by the knee jerk offence culture we have invented recently.
Some people need to be insulted because they are awful and doing awful things. But what actually happens to them? Nothing. Nothing whatsoever so why is it so wrong.
I am often offended, but I have yet to die from it.
Often insulted. Sorry. Freudian slip."
But just because you think someone getting called a fattie, for example, isn't really offensive that doesn't mean it's not hurtful to them. Someone else might think homophobic remarks are funny and that no one should be offended by them. You don't get to decide what people can or can't feel offended by. |
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"If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life."
The irony of this post is glaring.
It's like you are telling everyone they shouldn't be offended, while trying your best to offend those who disagree. I mean, is it really necessary to equate a young woman who disagrees with your opinion with someone "reacting like a teenager?" I actually think this comment was the most immature I've seen on the thread so far.
And for the record, I'm not offended in the slightest. I am, however, laughing a bit.
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!!
First catch of the day.
When and where did I advocate anything you are arguing against?
If someone says something you don't like, challenge them.
But for goodness sake, if it takes a three volume thesis to describe why you are offended by something or someone it may be better for all if you just don't bother and be not offended instead.
Offence is useless, you can challenge someone you disagree with, without resorting to the pathetic moralism which almost always emanates from "offence".
Um. I'm not arguing against anything? Lol.
And who's writing a three volume thesis? Lol.
Why do you get to decide what people are and aren't offended by?
And I "choose" to get offended by everything I get offended by. Sure. Of course I do.
I don't. Where did I say I do?
You are making up non existent bits of post and telling me I am wrong because of apparently saying them.
If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life."
Ah ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
You are literally telling people to not be offended at the things they are being offended at. Right there. There is where you're doing it. Lol.
And no one is saying you're wrong! Lol. Who's making up nonexistent bits of post now?
And my life is totally happy, actually.
Mainly because I don't get the hump when other people get offended. |
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"If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life.
The irony of this post is glaring.
It's like you are telling everyone they shouldn't be offended, while trying your best to offend those who disagree. I mean, is it really necessary to equate a young woman who disagrees with your opinion with someone "reacting like a teenager?" I actually think this comment was the most immature I've seen on the thread so far.
And for the record, I'm not offended in the slightest. I am, however, laughing a bit.
-Courtney "
Fucking love irony. |
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"Or maybe everyone should just stop being horrible to other people. Then if someone is offended, it's for no reason. At the moment, people are often offended for good reason because other people are total arseholes. Even this thread seems to be a bit patronising to me. That's not offensive, but it's fairly annoying.
A fair point. However there is a real issue around people having their freedom to speak eroded by the knee jerk offence culture we have invented recently.
Some people need to be insulted because they are awful and doing awful things. But what actually happens to them? Nothing. Nothing whatsoever so why is it so wrong.
I am often offended, but I have yet to die from it.
Often insulted. Sorry. Freudian slip.
But just because you think someone getting called a fattie, for example, isn't really offensive that doesn't mean it's not hurtful to them. Someone else might think homophobic remarks are funny and that no one should be offended by them. You don't get to decide what people can or can't feel offended by. "
No one is deciding.
I am suggesting we stop bothering with offence as it limits debate and limits people's common sense.
There is enough to argue against racism in a racist comment, offence just turns an objective debate into an emotional and often irrational one where nothing useful is concluded. |
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"If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life.
The irony of this post is glaring.
It's like you are telling everyone they shouldn't be offended, while trying your best to offend those who disagree. I mean, is it really necessary to equate a young woman who disagrees with your opinion with someone "reacting like a teenager?" I actually think this comment was the most immature I've seen on the thread so far.
And for the record, I'm not offended in the slightest. I am, however, laughing a bit.
-Courtney "
I am trying to offend no one, you are adding meaning to the post without any justification.
I am pointing out things. If that is offensive... Well... |
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"If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life.
The irony of this post is glaring.
It's like you are telling everyone they shouldn't be offended, while trying your best to offend those who disagree. I mean, is it really necessary to equate a young woman who disagrees with your opinion with someone "reacting like a teenager?" I actually think this comment was the most immature I've seen on the thread so far.
And for the record, I'm not offended in the slightest. I am, however, laughing a bit.
-Courtney
I am trying to offend no one, you are adding meaning to the post without any justification.
I am pointing out things. If that is offensive... Well... "
Perfect! Lol.
"I'm allowed to be as offensive as I want, but if you take offense, that's all on you."
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"If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life.
The irony of this post is glaring.
It's like you are telling everyone they shouldn't be offended, while trying your best to offend those who disagree. I mean, is it really necessary to equate a young woman who disagrees with your opinion with someone "reacting like a teenager?" I actually think this comment was the most immature I've seen on the thread so far.
And for the record, I'm not offended in the slightest. I am, however, laughing a bit.
-Courtney
I am trying to offend no one, you are adding meaning to the post without any justification.
I am pointing out things. If that is offensive... Well... "
I feel like that's your go-to argument, this idea that others are added meaning without justification. Perhaps it's not us adding meaning, but you arguing your point poorly?
For example, you wrote earlier that people getting offended limits debate. Well, I think meanly-written argument does the same. I'm sure we could get our points across without personal insults, like telling someone they react like a teenager. So why go there unless you're trying to offend? Or is that really the best debate you can come up with? |
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Being offended is a basic human trait, developed in your basic psychology in much the same way as other underlying emotions, such as guilt or shame.
As such, it's a completely immeasurable quantity - because one persons experience of the emotional situation will be completely different to another's, dependent on their psychological make up. It's known as a narcisicistic injury, and is a phenomena in all beings.
Basically, you cannot tell someone else not to be offended you can only work on your own reactions to other people or events which stimulate this emotion...oh, and perhaps try not to be a complete areshole, especially on a platform of limited communication like an internet forum
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"If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life.
The irony of this post is glaring.
It's like you are telling everyone they shouldn't be offended, while trying your best to offend those who disagree. I mean, is it really necessary to equate a young woman who disagrees with your opinion with someone "reacting like a teenager?" I actually think this comment was the most immature I've seen on the thread so far.
And for the record, I'm not offended in the slightest. I am, however, laughing a bit.
-Courtney
I am trying to offend no one, you are adding meaning to the post without any justification.
I am pointing out things. If that is offensive... Well...
I feel like that's your go-to argument, this idea that others are added meaning without justification. Perhaps it's not us adding meaning, but you arguing your point poorly?
For example, you wrote earlier that people getting offended limits debate. Well, I think meanly-written argument does the same. I'm sure we could get our points across without personal insults, like telling someone they react like a teenager. So why go there unless you're trying to offend? Or is that really the best debate you can come up with?"
Yes you probably could. But who has died?
That was exactly my point and this thread has proven it.
Even the most obviously fatuous and light comment will prompt someone to react in an aggressive or unhappy way.
QED |
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"If you stop being offended and stop reacting like a teenager to everything then you may have a happier life.
The irony of this post is glaring.
It's like you are telling everyone they shouldn't be offended, while trying your best to offend those who disagree. I mean, is it really necessary to equate a young woman who disagrees with your opinion with someone "reacting like a teenager?" I actually think this comment was the most immature I've seen on the thread so far.
And for the record, I'm not offended in the slightest. I am, however, laughing a bit.
-Courtney
I am trying to offend no one, you are adding meaning to the post without any justification.
I am pointing out things. If that is offensive... Well...
I feel like that's your go-to argument, this idea that others are added meaning without justification. Perhaps it's not us adding meaning, but you arguing your point poorly?
For example, you wrote earlier that people getting offended limits debate. Well, I think meanly-written argument does the same. I'm sure we could get our points across without personal insults, like telling someone they react like a teenager. So why go there unless you're trying to offend? Or is that really the best debate you can come up with?
Yes you probably could. But who has died?
That was exactly my point and this thread has proven it.
Even the most obviously fatuous and light comment will prompt someone to react in an aggressive or unhappy way.
QED"
See I think you've proven the point of those who disagree with you. You can do your best to be offensive but it's those who are being offended who are at fault.
This encapsulates the cause of the problem in your OP.
Well done. |
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"Even the most obviously fatuous and light comment will prompt someone to react in an aggressive or unhappy way."
Are you talking about your reaction to my fatuous and light comment?
Cos it sure reads like you are. Lol. |
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If no one ever got offended no would would have strong values and beliefs.
Annoying for you in a debate if your on the opposite side maybe. But to be differing opiniions however strongly communicated are what makes a public forum an interesting social dynamic.
In other words without it id be bored |
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!! "
I think I love you a little bit |
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!!
First catch of the day.
When and where did I advocate anything you are arguing against?
If someone says something you don't like, challenge them.
But for goodness sake, if it takes a three volume thesis to describe why you are offended by something or someone it may be better for all if you just don't bother and be not offended instead.
Offence is useless, you can challenge someone you disagree with, without resorting to the pathetic moralism which almost always emanates from "offence"."
look whilst I agree in principle with what you are saying it is actually very difficult when someone levels an insult at you not to take offense ,people become personal on here because that is the nature of this place ,up close and personal eg I was in a thread the other day about dyed red hair I made a joke about it and somebody with ginger hair took offense blocked me and called me a nob I took it on the chin but it doesn't mean I wasn't offended ,it just means I have broader shoulders ,you can't ask somebody not to be offended for the sake of debate although having said that I've tried       |
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Some people here or in real life - make it their hobby to take offence! The chip on their shoulder weighs them down.
Much easier to live and let live.
Sarah |
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"Rang the radio station and asked if they could put a message out to my neibough and ask them to put my gate back! The radio dj said" why don't you tell him"? I replied I don't want to in case he takes a afence
Apologies for the gramma!! Before the police start moaning
Grammar
Dam you!! "
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It's funny how these offence threads fill up pretty quick with people who are offended about people posting about offence!.
It's a fundermental right to offend (providing you don't break laws), not only is it a right but society progresses from it, it's just not going to progress in a direction that everybody will like but hey that's life! |
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"Some people here or in real life - make it their hobby to take offence! The chip on their shoulder weighs them down.
Much easier to live and let live.
Sarah "
That goes both ways though, someone posting should also weigh if its going to offend |
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"It's funny how these offence threads fill up pretty quick with people who are offended about people posting about offence!.
It's a fundermental right to offend (providing you don't break laws), not only is it a right but society progresses from it, it's just not going to progress in a direction that everybody will like but hey that's life!"
"There's always going to be someone who gets sand in their vagina about something."
Yeah, why can't they just let cunts be cunts? What's wrong with people being offensive? Everyone should have the right to be shits to other people. It's definitely the people who don't want to be offended that's the problem. Fuck those guys. Lol. |
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"Yes, why doesn't everyone just allow people to be bigots and arseholes without question?! It's their right, stop reacting in a reasonable manner to offensive shit, and just pipe the fucking down already!!!
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I'm not easily offended but not everybody is thick skinned some people will take advantage of a persons sensitive nature.
That's when becoming offensive actually means you're a bit of a twat. |
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"Some people here or in real life - make it their hobby to take offence! The chip on their shoulder weighs them down.
Much easier to live and let live.
Sarah
That goes both ways though, someone posting should also weigh if its going to offend"
True - but , you don't always know do you ? Text can so easily be taken out of context . Body language and a smile - it would be taken differently ?
And some posters just court controversy - because it's their aim here.
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"I'm not easily offended but not everybody is thick skinned some people will take advantage of a persons sensitive nature.
That's when becoming offensive actually means you're a bit of a twat."
^This.
I'm actually never offended myself, but that doesn't mean I don't recognise when something is offensive, or that I try to tell other people when to (and not to) get offended.
Personal liberties folks.
If you want the freedom to say whatever the fuck you want, then go at it! You do! But freedom of speech ? freedom from consequence. |
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"And some posters just court controversy - because it's their aim here.
Sarah "
How do you know what someone's aim is?
For example, I'd say the OP's aim in this thread is to "court controversy". But who am I to say? I'm not in their brain. |
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"It's funny how these offence threads fill up pretty quick with people who are offended about people posting about offence!.
It's a fundermental right to offend (providing you don't break laws), not only is it a right but society progresses from it, it's just not going to progress in a direction that everybody will like but hey that's life!"
I completely agree with this, but in order to offend there has to be someone who is offended. Quid Pro Quo |
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"There's always going to be someone who gets sand in their vagina about something."
So I shouldn't suggest that's a sexist/misogynist comment I suppose. Because I might sound like I'm offended, and we can't have that now can we? |
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You may have the right to offend, but people also have the right to BE offended, especially when the intention was to offend or otherwise court controversy. Ooh look, I'm so cutting edge because I think other people get offended too easy. Fuck off. |
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"I'm not easily offended but not everybody is thick skinned some people will take advantage of a persons sensitive nature.
That's when becoming offensive actually means you're a bit of a twat.
^This.
I'm actually never offended myself, but that doesn't mean I don't recognise when something is offensive, or that I try to tell other people when to (and not to) get offended.
Personal liberties folks.
If you want the freedom to say whatever the fuck you want, then go at it! You do! But freedom of speech ? freedom from consequence. "
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So you've never been offended, but your offended by something you think has offended somebody else?.
That's OK I think you deserve the right to be offended for others, I just reserve the right to offend anyhow!.
I will you use that right as and when I feel necessary! |
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"It's funny how these offence threads fill up pretty quick with people who are offended about people posting about offence!.
It's a fundermental right to offend (providing you don't break laws), not only is it a right but society progresses from it, it's just not going to progress in a direction that everybody will like but hey that's life!
I completely agree with this, but in order to offend there has to be someone who is offended. Quid Pro Quo "
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That's my point, I wish to hold the right to offend people I think are ridiculous with crazy beliefs.
Like neo Nazis. |
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"It's funny how these offence threads fill up pretty quick with people who are offended about people posting about offence!.
It's a fundermental right to offend (providing you don't break laws), not only is it a right but society progresses from it, it's just not going to progress in a direction that everybody will like but hey that's life!
I completely agree with this, but in order to offend there has to be someone who is offended. Quid Pro Quo "
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"And some posters just court controversy - because it's their aim here.
Sarah
How do you know what someone's aim is?
For example, I'd say the OP's aim in this thread is to "court controversy". But who am I to say? I'm not in their brain. "
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"Even the most obviously fatuous and light comment will prompt someone to react in an aggressive or unhappy way.
Are you talking about your reaction to my fatuous and light comment?
Cos it sure reads like you are. Lol. "
Yes, that is what I am doing.
Not at all talking about my own fatuous comment. |
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"And some posters just court controversy - because it's their aim here.
Sarah
How do you know what someone's aim is?
For example, I'd say the OP's aim in this thread is to "court controversy". But who am I to say? I'm not in their brain. "
No my aim was to start people thinking about whether they are gaining by being offended about something which is doing them no harm. |
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"You may have the right to offend, but people also have the right to BE offended, especially when the intention was to offend or otherwise court controversy. Ooh look, I'm so cutting edge because I think other people get offended too easy. Fuck off."
Yes you have the right to be offended. Obviously. But if being offended means you end up in a worse situation, is it worth it? Could you take a deep breath and realise that nothing bad happened and either move on or deal with it in a balanced and non reactionary way? |
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"I'm not easily offended but not everybody is thick skinned some people will take advantage of a persons sensitive nature.
That's when becoming offensive actually means you're a bit of a twat.
^This.
I'm actually never offended myself, but that doesn't mean I don't recognise when something is offensive, or that I try to tell other people when to (and not to) get offended.
Personal liberties folks.
If you want the freedom to say whatever the fuck you want, then go at it! You do! But freedom of speech ? freedom from consequence. .
So you've never been offended, but your offended by something you think has offended somebody else?.
That's OK I think you deserve the right to be offended for others, I just reserve the right to offend anyhow!.
I will you use that right as and when I feel necessary!"
OK, you see that bit about how I'm never offended myself? Read that again. Lol.
It's like saying "I'm not scared of needles, but I can tell when people are scared of needles"
And you saying, "You're not scared of needles, but you're scared of needles that scare other people?"
That's how much sense your comment makes. Lol.
And no one says you can't exercise that right! You exercise it good!! But you should also be prepared for people to exercise their right to respond to your offence. 
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"Even the most obviously fatuous and light comment will prompt someone to react in an aggressive or unhappy way.
Are you talking about your reaction to my fatuous and light comment?
Cos it sure reads like you are. Lol.
Yes, that is what I am doing.
Not at all talking about my own fatuous comment."
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"I may have mentioned this before.
If we reintroduced duelling to the death, a lot more people would be a lot less offended at a lot more stuff......"
Or more people would be more hesitant about offending, and more offensive people might be impaled.
I'm all for this!! I'm a brilliant duellist! |
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"I'm not easily offended but not everybody is thick skinned some people will take advantage of a persons sensitive nature.
That's when becoming offensive actually means you're a bit of a twat.
^This.
I'm actually never offended myself, but that doesn't mean I don't recognise when something is offensive, or that I try to tell other people when to (and not to) get offended.
Personal liberties folks.
If you want the freedom to say whatever the fuck you want, then go at it! You do! But freedom of speech ? freedom from consequence. .
So you've never been offended, but your offended by something you think has offended somebody else?.
That's OK I think you deserve the right to be offended for others, I just reserve the right to offend anyhow!.
I will you use that right as and when I feel necessary!
OK, you see that bit about how I'm never offended myself? Read that again. Lol.
It's like saying "I'm not scared of needles, but I can tell when people are scared of needles"
And you saying, "You're not scared of needles, but you're scared of needles that scare other people?"
That's how much sense your comment makes. Lol.
And no one says you can't exercise that right! You exercise it good!! But you should also be prepared for people to exercise their right to respond to your offence.
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"I may have mentioned this before.
If we reintroduced duelling to the death, a lot more people would be a lot less offended at a lot more stuff......"
I don't know - there's a few on my hit list that I might deliberately offend. Only problem is there's no way I'm getting up at dawn !
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"I love being offended, it makes me re-examine my _iew point, often I find I'm still offended but occasionally it changes my stance"
Yup! This is how I stopped being offended at stuff and started thinking other stuff is offensive instead. Lol. |
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"I love being offended, it makes me re-examine my _iew point, often I find I'm still offended but occasionally it changes my stance
Yup! This is how I stopped being offended at stuff and started thinking other stuff is offensive instead. Lol. "
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My starting argument is never "it's offensive" or "I'm offended".
Something's usually offended me because it's just a dammed stupid idea or belief, so my opening statement is your wrong for this and that reason... And then lastly apply the your an offensive twat ...
If your whole argument hinges on you just being offended, that's when it's good to re-examine why? |
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"I love being offended, it makes me re-examine my _iew point, often I find I'm still offended but occasionally it changes my stance
Yup! This is how I stopped being offended at stuff and started thinking other stuff is offensive instead. Lol. .
My starting argument is never "it's offensive" or "I'm offended".
Something's usually offended me because it's just a dammed stupid idea or belief, so my opening statement is your wrong for this and that reason... And then lastly apply the your an offensive twat ...
If your whole argument hinges on you just being offended, that's when it's good to re-examine why?"
*nodnod*
Although, I don't even ever say "You're wrong". But "You think this. Why?" and the answer is often revealing. lol
It's funny how often "people getting offended" is put on them by others. People rarely say "I'm offended", but the phrase "stop being offended" is used so much more... |
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"Takes quite a massive thing to offend me. It's happened only once here. You'd have to be pretty fucking offensive to poke me. "
Everyone is now trying really hard to think of whether they were the person who offended you once 
Same goes for me, though. I've only been offended on here once. People often think others are offended when they aren't, I've noticed that quite a bit.
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"Takes quite a massive thing to offend me. It's happened only once here. You'd have to be pretty fucking offensive to poke me.
Everyone is now trying really hard to think of whether they were the person who offended you once
Same goes for me, though. I've only been offended on here once. People often think others are offended when they aren't, I've noticed that quite a bit.
-Courtney "
It was a long time ago now and I'm over it.
I can understand people picking up racist or other 'isms' or 'ists' because it's only right that we all find those abhorrent. |
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"I may have mentioned this before.
If we reintroduced duelling to the death, a lot more people would be a lot less offended at a lot more stuff......
Or more people would be more hesitant about offending, and more offensive people might be impaled.
I'm all for this!! I'm a brilliant duellist! I have an epee  "
I have a katana.
Well, when I say "a" katana, 20 at the last count..... Cannot wait for the zombie apocalypse. |
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"People often think others are offended when they aren't, I've noticed that quite a bit.
-Courtney
^This. "
agreed. "You're too easily offended" or "it's censorship" seems to be a common retort to a challenge of any kind of insulting statement made on here.
Freedom of speech comes with responsibility to accept being challenged on the statements you make and generally responsibility to not be a cunt. |
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"People often think others are offended when they aren't, I've noticed that quite a bit.
-Courtney
^This.
agreed. "You're too easily offended" or "it's censorship" seems to be a common retort to a challenge of any kind of insulting statement made on here.
Freedom of speech comes with responsibility to accept being challenged on the statements you make and generally responsibility to not be a cunt. "
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