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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've noticed or maybe it's just me. That many a thread, there seems to be those ready and waiting to rip apart a thread in a negative way xxx if this is you why do it??? , it's meant to be fun and relaxing

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some peoples idea of 'ripping apart' a thread is a person merely disagreeing with the OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some peoples idea of 'ripping apart' a thread is a person merely disagreeing with the OP.

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yes maybe, though it seems they look for an error or wrong wording phrase used and zone in on that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people bring it on themselves, let's be fair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I OBJECT

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

"Some people bring it on themselves, let's be fair

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And to be fair some dont , they get pounced on when they make a coment

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Wherever there are keyboards, there will be warriors.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wherever there are keyboards, there will be warriors. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Join slamber-city

Only then will you truly realise what ripped apart is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Boobs

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS over a year ago

Belfast

Nothing wrong with friendly constructive debate, problems arise when boorish , blinkered types : despite mounting evidence to the contrary insist on labouring a particular questionable a ne argument or view out of misguided pride or arrogance.

Even then, people can concede a difference and agree to disagree.. Welcome to democracy.. Toots..as the saying goes.

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

Mostly 'cos it's dumb males who do it?

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By *ecretgamesMan over a year ago

the moon

"I OBJECT"

I bloody well object to you looking so damn hot and living so bloody far away

sux !!!

*wonders if my objection will become invalid*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I last said what I thought some people can be like on here at times I got a 48 hour ban. So I'm not going to repeat it or endorse that again here, other than to say... "They can, they really can!"

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Pertaining to my earlier post, if you can grow a thick skin on here then it certainly helps

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

Some people have strong views against what the OP is saying, sometimes it can come across as ripping apart the OP.

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

DAKADAKADAKADAKA

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

DAKADAKADAKADAKA

dakakakakakakaka

Let's get it on

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By *enard ArgenteMan over a year ago

London and France

1.It's an Internet forum; that's what happens.

2. Sometimes someone says something you disagree with and you feel you must respond; that's just " lively debate"

3. Sometimes people say things that are so fucking stupid, you can't help but take the piss.

4. Many times, on the other hand, they get a lot of support

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not just on here. Had to abandon Facebook for the same thing. Got very tired of arguing with dumb over opinionated stoners, and arseholes in general. Here is actually not too bad it's quite refreshing.

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

Yes very true the just sit and wait for you see it every day the same one,s being nasty there just Sad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There will always be a couple of smart asses who like to rib take the p etc

just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They find it easier to tear strips of the OP (which makes them feel big) and lack the imagination to start a thread of their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're starting a thread on a topic for discussion, then you'll always get replies contrary to your beliefs. Assuming they're not just abusive unfounded trolling comments then you have to accept that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

...sometimes its positive feedback...sometimes it does come across as follow the leader...

So i get where the OP is coming from.

I suppose all the 'usual' formites are all used to one another and bounce off each others comments.

Easy to be ignored in forums anywhere...but also very easy to jump on the bandwagon...

Just take it for what it is...a public forum!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I last said what I thought some people can be like on here at times I got a 48 hour ban. So I'm not going to repeat it or endorse that again here, other than to say... "They can, they really can!"

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

The ones that shoot the op down always block the op so the op can not get back to them privately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes i agree op there are some who will jump on one word used by an op especially if they arent a regular poster. There are the ones who do it time and again and i doubt its purposeful. Just the way they perceive posts, maybe they meed things to add up completely with their views first.

However id say if you think thats the case dont be afraid to say.

Theres been times where 95% of the thread is op bashing for something they havent even posted about. Green arrow is not always a good thing imho.

But sometimes its just disagreeing and thats all good variety is the spice of life right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some peoples idea of 'ripping apart' a thread is a person merely disagreeing with the OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The interesting thing about threads like this is that the highlight how little self awareness some people have as some posters are invariably guilty of what they are criticising others for. I guess a lot of is down to perception

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have "jumped" on an op before, a few times actually, but its just because I have felt so strongly against what the op has posted, I've probably jumped in letting emotion lead my gob, it don't happen often, but when it does, its because I'm a passionate person, and the op has posted something that I consider to be really stupid, that of course is just my opinion, but the "breeding" post springs to mind, and on the other side of the coin, my single parent thread, I caught a lot if flack for that one, but its swings and roundabouts, and its what you get when you have a lit if passionate people in one place, its only being a keyboard warrior if you aren't the same face to face

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the op was a regular on here a well liked person,the response would be different ,there is a forum clique dont you know.

Wait for it!!

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By *-angel-XWoman over a year ago

hell

One person seems to know something about everything and seems to think they are amazing and knowledgable .

Used to wind me up now I just look for their comments

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One person seems to know something about everything and seems to think they are amazing and knowledgable .

Used to wind me up now I just look for their comments "

I know someone like that on here whats the odds its the same person?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If the op was a regular on here a well liked person,the response would be different ,there is a forum clique dont you know.

Wait for it!!"

Shhhh didnt you get the memo about platinum membership and not mentioning cliques?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You guys should take a look at the Ireland room sometime. It's a disaster of late. A newbies nightmare even when asking a simple honest question or even posting a really interesting topic you will be ripped apart. Pity to see so many at it but hopefully it's just a bad patch. Like you guys said, some have little else to be doing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my observations after posting for a fair few years now is it all comes generally down to who the OP is, their interaction with posters & the topic, if it's emotive it will inevitably 'kick off' at some point.

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

it's the ones that nit pick whether it's spelling / grammar or a light hearted story in an attempt to discredit others that really piss me off.

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

"my observations after posting for a fair few years now is it all comes generally down to who the OP is, their interaction with posters & the topic, if it's emotive it will inevitably 'kick off' at some point.

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

it's the ones that nit pick whether it's spelling / grammar or a light hearted story in an attempt to discredit others that really piss me off."
very true good comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I OBJECT"
hehe yes they're talking about you

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By *-angel-XWoman over a year ago

hell

"One person seems to know something about everything and seems to think they are amazing and knowledgable .

Used to wind me up now I just look for their comments

I know someone like that on here whats the odds its the same person?"

Probably is lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

it's the ones that nit pick whether it's spelling / grammar or a light hearted story in an attempt to discredit others that really piss me off.very true good comment "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

it's the ones that nit pick whether it's spelling / grammar or a light hearted story in an attempt to discredit others that really piss me off."
some posts do to be fair have great comedy value and others are so terribly honest you can't believe they admit to these things eg the guy who had a fantasy but turned it into reality " who loves to fuck their best friends pregnant wife "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The ones that shoot the op down always block the op so the op can not get back to them privately "

Why would there be a need to contact them privately? The forum is for open discussion?

I have blocked people for their opinions,purely because I may believe they are distasteful and certainly not to avoid them countering any perspective,which they can do on the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I OBJECT hehe yes they're talking about you

Ohhh

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

When you start a thread it's naive to assume everyone is going to share your point of view. Just because someone has a differing opinion it doesn't mean they're "ripping the op apart!"

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Some peoples idea of 'ripping apart' a thread is a person merely disagreeing with the OP.

Exactly!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

it's the ones that nit pick whether it's spelling / grammar or a light hearted story in an attempt to discredit others that really piss me off. some posts do to be fair have great comedy value and others are so terribly honest you can't believe they admit to these things eg the guy who had a fantasy but turned it into reality " who loves to fuck their best friends pregnant wife "

Yes some do have great comedy value but there's a fine line between laughing together & laughing at one person. Can make for uncomfortable reading at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've noticed or maybe it's just me. That many a thread, there seems to be those ready and waiting to rip apart a thread in a negative way xxx if this is you why do it??? , it's meant to be fun and relaxing "
we all have things to say opinions or just random shit like every person some might not mean to come across the way they do but it also depends on who reads it and how they interpret what they have read its just like anything you read the mind perceives it a certain way but you are right

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"The interesting thing about threads like this is that the highlight how little self awareness some people have as some posters are invariably guilty of what they are criticising others for. I guess a lot of is down to perception "

Not just me then!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The ones that shoot the op down always block the op so the op can not get back to them privately

Why would there be a need to contact them privately? The forum is for open discussion?

Because abusive PMs don't get you a time out on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The ones that shoot the op down always block the op so the op can not get back to them privately

Why would there be a need to contact them privately? The forum is for open discussion?

I have blocked people for their opinions,purely because I may believe they are distasteful and certainly not to avoid them countering any perspective,which they can do on the thread.

Whats the point of blocking them if they live at the other end of the country?its not like your going to meet them plus you can still chat in the forum?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not just me then!"

Had a little chuckle at the irony too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The ones that shoot the op down always block the op so the op can not get back to them privately

Why would there be a need to contact them privately? The forum is for open discussion?

I have blocked people for their opinions,purely because I may believe they are distasteful and certainly not to avoid them countering any perspective,which they can do on the thread.

Whats the point of blocking them if they live at the other end of the country?its not like your going to meet them plus you can still chat in the forum?"

Because the site is for everyone to use as they see fit? If I think someone is distasteful I block...no contact from them...simply forgotten. Doesn't affect anyone else, it's simply a form of managing my use of the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The ones that shoot the op down always block the op so the op can not get back to them privately

Why would there be a need to contact them privately? The forum is for open discussion?

I have blocked people for their opinions,purely because I may believe they are distasteful and certainly not to avoid them countering any perspective,which they can do on the thread.

Whats the point of blocking them if they live at the other end of the country?its not like your going to meet them plus you can still chat in the forum?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

Yes some do have great comedy value but there's a fine line between laughing together & laughing at one person. Can make for uncomfortable reading at times.

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yes but if we all agreed with eachother their would be no point to a forum ,no debate,no fun,no fuck ,kiss or avoid,no fab the person above ,no who's got the best arse and the best tits and the best cock,variety even negativity has a place ,one just has to be philosophical and see it for what it is an opinion and we are allowed to have it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They find it easier to tear strips of the OP (which makes them feel big) and lack the imagination to start a thread of their own"

Have you ever started a thread ?

You'd be amazed the fuckwits on here , just not worth it. Dumb and angry is a dreadful combination

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

Yes some do have great comedy value but there's a fine line between laughing together & laughing at one person. Can make for uncomfortable reading at times.

yes but if we all agreed with eachother their would be no point to a forum ,no debate,no fun,no fuck ,kiss or avoid,no fab the person above ,no who's got the best arse and the best tits and the best cock,variety even negativity has a place ,one just has to be philosophical and see it for what it is an opinion and we are allowed to have it

That's not what I'm saying though.

There's a massive difference between having a differing opinion & being a complete arse.

Having said that if you're easily offended / upset then a public forum probably isn't the place for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I suspect some OP's intentionally bait traps .......and I suspect they are not particularly precious about the reaction or response they provoke....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect some OP's intentionally bait traps .......and I suspect they are not particularly precious about the reaction or response they provoke....

You think?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect some OP's intentionally bait traps .......and I suspect they are not particularly precious about the reaction or response they provoke....

You think?

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By *olgateMan over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"I suspect some OP's intentionally bait traps .......and I suspect they are not particularly precious about the reaction or response they provoke....

You think?

It Soxy! Are you still jail bait ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some peoples idea of 'ripping apart' a thread is a person merely disagreeing with the OP.

A lot of people on here don't know how to word their responses correctly so it often comes across as OP bashing when in reality it was probably the opposite

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Some peoples idea of 'ripping apart' a thread is a person merely disagreeing with the OP.

i know... imagine having the sheer audacity to have a different opinion to another and expressing it....

i didn't realise i have to be fluffy with everyone.......

oh shit... i ripped apart the OP in a negaitve way.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have noticed that some people can't voice a difference of opinion without being sarcastic or condescending.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have noticed that some people can't voice a difference of opinion without being sarcastic or condescending. "

and they probably think they are being dead clever

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In forums you need a thick skin, sort of oh well ignore move on or reply, but there is that element of keyboard warriors and in my post the question was if you are one of those that only likes to destroy a thread always in a negative way, why do it?? Yes we can all agree to disagree xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are people that have strong opinions & that's fine it's when they bang on about it, it can be perceived in another way. others it seem will say black is white just for the sake of it.

Yes some do have great comedy value but there's a fine line between laughing together & laughing at one person. Can make for uncomfortable reading at times.

That's not what I'm saying though.

There's a massive difference between having a differing opinion & being a complete arse.

Having said that if you're easily offended / upset then a public forum probably isn't the place for you."
exactly people who are easily offended shouldn't come here really its a place where ridicule comes in shed loads when the clique jumps on it

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

you noticed that as well......... glad its not just me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to agree with OP, its good to see a difference of opionion but there's been a few threads where comments become personal and hurtful and its not always aimed just at the OP. Its a shame that things escalate a lot in here.

There was a time when I had cross words with someone else because I let my emotions get the better of me. I apologised to the person privately because I felt awful though

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I suspect some OP's intentionally bait traps .......and I suspect they are not particularly precious about the reaction or response they provoke....

You think?

you mean the "firebombers".....

chuck in a post....

watch for the carnage that ensures with whistling innocently from the sidelines.....

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I am not sure the OP is talking about a difference of opinion , more the ripping into posters for their own fun and not stopping when it isn't welcomed by an OP...then complaining when the OP answers back.

Of course it is all dressed up as banter, but unless the OP is in on the banter than it comes across as jumping on/ trying to humiliate.

It does happen even if people deny it does.

To the OP....sometimes it is meant as fun, but if you think it is going pear shaped always report incase a mod hasn't read it and it will be looked at.

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