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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Think its time to spread of awareness for people who have Asperger's Syndrome including myself.
For those who don't understand what it is, Asperger's is a form of autism where the person has difficulty with social skills and unable to read non-verbal communication.
I have Asperger's and not afraid to say it. There have been moments in the past where I felt like I'm "cursed" because of my condition which did make me feel down but I do try not to let it get to me.
It is hard for me to socialize with people (especially on here), even if it was just to say hi, out of fear of being ignored, rejected or unnoticed. There have been a few times when I would go on a night out with work and end up dancing one minute, sat in the corner the next and then just disappearing without saying bye to everyone. I have had relationships in the past which have lasted on a range of months and years which were nice while they lasted. Would I be ready to settle down with someone in the near future? I'm not sure as like I said, it is difficult for me to socialize.
Stress can be a pain sometimes especially when it comes to multitasking. I worked at McDonald's 13 years ago and hated every minute. The amount of stress working there led to me having meltdowns and walkouts. I now work at Vue cinemas which is more relaxed and less stressful and have been working there for over 10 years. I also have to be shown what certain tasks to do so I can learn to do them myself otherwise I would get stressed out if I was left to my own devices not know how to use them.
Thought I'd share what Asperger's is like for me. Please don't judge me because of my condition.
The reason why I want to spread awareness of Asperger's is so people can understand this condition and the effect is has on people including myself.
For all those out there with Asperger's or understand the condition, please feel free to help spread this awareness |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well done for sharing.
There are people with far more debilitating conditions but lets not disallow you the chance to make others aware.
Well done x x x "
Thank you. I thought it would be a good idea to spread the awareness and help people understand what its like. |
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"Well done for sharing.
There are people with far more debilitating conditions but lets not disallow you the chance to make others aware.
Well done x x x
Thank you. I thought it would be a good idea to spread the awareness and help people understand what its like."
I think so. We are often so wrapped up in our own daily grind. Does us good to think of others. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well done for sharing.
There are people with far more debilitating conditions but lets not disallow you the chance to make others aware.
Well done x x x
Thank you. I thought it would be a good idea to spread the awareness and help people understand what its like.
I think so. We are often so wrapped up in our own daily grind. Does us good to think of others. "
Yeah it definitely is good to think of others |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm probably somewhere on the spectrum, as many are. It's good though to hear and understand how someone is personally affected, as everyone is unique - thanks op. And good luck with Fab.  "
Thanks and you're welcome  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a family member with it and think that slowly there is a general awareness of the condition improving.
Television programmes such as, 'The Undateables' and even, 'Big Bang Theory' feature people with the condition, or portraying it, so it is getting exposure. Also, many famous and successful people have the condition so it doesn't have to hold anyone back in life.
I think awareness will improve more and I wish you the OP, and anyone else with it the best. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a family member with it and think that slowly there is a general awareness of the condition improving.
Television programmes such as, 'The Undateables' and even, 'Big Bang Theory' feature people with the condition, or portraying it, so it is getting exposure. Also, many famous and successful people have the condition so it doesn't have to hold anyone back in life.
I think awareness will improve more and I wish you the OP, and anyone else with it the best. "
I agree with you that the awareness is improving and I'm sure it will improve more in the future |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good for you for posting this.
What you said about social situations is true to alot more people than those diagnosed with aspergers. I can relate to everything you said about difficulty with social skills and non-verbal communication. I've also struggled to maintain jobs that I found stressful and so forth, often wondering why others seemingly find it ok.
So I guess you're not alone. Although your symptoms are more severe I guess, plenty of us have similar struggles. So you can probably look around and think that you're not the only one finding it difficult - we're probably all about as weird as each other. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I thought I'd mention something else as well on how my condition affects me. When it comes to confrontation or being told off, I end up freezing and stutter as it is difficult for me to think and respond. It does make me feel ashamed that I can't speak up and stand up for myself when confronted  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me it's like having a very thin sheet of glass in between me and others.
Almost invisible but alters the stimulus I get from others with regards to smells and spunds especially.
Uni was hell for me as I got depression and began to loose track of who I was - one girl once smiled at me when i said hello. Nearly burst into tears as was nearly the straw that broke the camel's back because I didn't know how to reply.
All the best fellow Aspie
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"I thought I'd mention something else as well on how my condition affects me. When it comes to confrontation or being told off, I end up freezing and stutter as it is difficult for me to think and respond. It does make me feel ashamed that I can't speak up and stand up for myself when confronted "
I think that this is an entirely natural and normal part of the freeze, flight or fight response. The 'freeze' option is usually unmentioned, and people talk of fight or flight, by those who know less.
How you deal and potentially recover from freezing is another thing. It's totally fine to stay stuck this way, at freeze. Possibly having some phrases or behavior to hand may be some help.
My first step is to ensure I'm breathing deeply and slowly. I'm also fine with silence in conversation etc. And I will shut people up or instil barriers, if I don't like how others behave towards me, though that's aside from freezing. I guess the focus is on building your resources, as much as possible, in your freeze state, so that you're possibly able to move on, in good ways for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I thought I'd mention something else as well on how my condition affects me. When it comes to confrontation or being told off, I end up freezing and stutter as it is difficult for me to think and respond. It does make me feel ashamed that I can't speak up and stand up for myself when confronted
I think that this is an entirely natural and normal part of the freeze, flight or fight response. The 'freeze' option is usually unmentioned, and people talk of fight or flight, by those who know less.
How you deal and potentially recover from freezing is another thing. It's totally fine to stay stuck this way, at freeze. Possibly having some phrases or behavior to hand may be some help.
My first step is to ensure I'm breathing deeply and slowly. I'm also fine with silence in conversation etc. And I will shut people up or instil barriers, if I don't like how others behave towards me, though that's aside from freezing. I guess the focus is on building your resources, as much as possible, in your freeze state, so that you're possibly able to move on, in good ways for you."
That is an interesting point on freezing. People need to mention that more often |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My daughter is 19 and has aspergers and I'd having a particularly bad time at the moment she is dropping out of uni but hopefully she will restart in Sep! I'm glad to see this thread as autism and aspergers are not a disability that you can see! So many people think she is rude or ignorant or standoffish but she is generally just trying to assess the situation and get her anxieties under control! She has done amazing and come so far but it's a daily struggle for her! my son is also autistic he is 6 and I have been offered a lot more help for him when he was diagnosed! Me and my daughter had none and we had to just struggle through until we both understood what was needed from both of us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me it's like having a very thin sheet of glass in between me and others.
Almost invisible but alters the stimulus I get from others with regards to smells and spunds especially.
Uni was hell for me as I got depression and began to loose track of who I was - one girl once smiled at me when i said hello. Nearly burst into tears as was nearly the straw that broke the camel's back because I didn't know how to reply.
All the best fellow Aspie
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My daughter is finding uni very stressful although she still lives at home as she couldn't move out but I'm hoping that she will restart in Sep now she is seeing a therapist to help with her anxieties x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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my son has aspergers ..seeing the frustration and stress etched on his face is heart breaking for me ...he isolates himself and prefers to be with adults as he feels he can relate to them ....he's an old soul I think ...but for all the heart ache aspergers can bring it has brought me the most perfect kind hearted polite gentleman I have ever met ...he lives his life through rose tinted glasses never sees the bad in people and would never ever hurt anyone..he's also incapable of telling lies...i know in this day and age it's quite a dangerous way to view the world but I for one wish more people viewed the world like he does ..it would def make for a brighter place xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me it's like having a very thin sheet of glass in between me and others.
Almost invisible but alters the stimulus I get from others with regards to smells and spunds especially.
Uni was hell for me as I got depression and began to loose track of who I was - one girl once smiled at me when i said hello. Nearly burst into tears as was nearly the straw that broke the camel's back because I didn't know how to reply.
All the best fellow Aspie
My daughter is finding uni very stressful although she still lives at home as she couldn't move out but I'm hoping that she will restart in Sep now she is seeing a therapist to help with her anxieties x "
Good luck for her. There have been times in the last three years that I've not been able to force myself to go to university, because I couldn't stand to be around that many people (on the train, in the town centre, in the university, in class, etc.) And it never gets easier. But she will do it, if it's something she wants to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me it's like having a very thin sheet of glass in between me and others.
Almost invisible but alters the stimulus I get from others with regards to smells and spunds especially.
Uni was hell for me as I got depression and began to loose track of who I was - one girl once smiled at me when i said hello. Nearly burst into tears as was nearly the straw that broke the camel's back because I didn't know how to reply.
All the best fellow Aspie
My daughter is finding uni very stressful although she still lives at home as she couldn't move out but I'm hoping that she will restart in Sep now she is seeing a therapist to help with her anxieties x
Good luck for her. There have been times in the last three years that I've not been able to force myself to go to university, because I couldn't stand to be around that many people (on the train, in the town centre, in the university, in class, etc.) And it never gets easier. But she will do it, if it's something she wants to do. "
Thanks I'm hoping she will feel better she seemed to be doing ok. But the past few months a lot has gone on such as bereavement and other things and I think it's affected her ability to cope. But she is seeing a private therapist and she has an app with the wellbeing team...oh and she has me! X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had to bump this back up to help spread the awareness of Asperger's Syndrome.
If there is anyone else that wants to share their view on Asperger's, please feel free to help spread the awareness |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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While I'm here, I want to say something that I've not said on here about myself.
Back in 2001 during my first year in college, I was 17 back then and I found it hard to fit in and socialize. I was in a state of mind where I felt that I was ugly and would never fit in and find someone.
I then started having suicidal thoughts when feeling depressed. Fellow classmates did try to help cheer me up but it was difficult for me to snap out of feeling suicidal. One day after college, I actually ended up sat on the ledge of a bridge looking down. As I sat there, I here a voice behind me and it was a police officer and was quickly pulled away from the ledge. He asked why I was sat there and I tried to reply but couldn't get my words out. The police took me straight home and told my parents where they found me. I broke down as I realized that going through with it would have hurt and upset people that really cared about me including my family. I felt ashamed and regretted nearly committing suicide ever since.
Over the years since then with the help from the friends I made at college and at work, I have grown wiser and became a much better person than I was all those years ago.
I thought I'd get this out in the open as I wanted to get this off my chest. |
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"While I'm here, I want to say something that I've not said on here about myself.
Back in 2001 during my first year in college, I was 17 back then and I found it hard to fit in and socialize. I was in a state of mind where I felt that I was ugly and would never fit in and find someone.
I then started having suicidal thoughts when feeling depressed. Fellow classmates did try to help cheer me up but it was difficult for me to snap out of feeling suicidal. One day after college, I actually ended up sat on the ledge of a bridge looking down. As I sat there, I here a voice behind me and it was a police officer and was quickly pulled away from the ledge. He asked why I was sat there and I tried to reply but couldn't get my words out. The police took me straight home and told my parents where they found me. I broke down as I realized that going through with it would have hurt and upset people that really cared about me including my family. I felt ashamed and regretted nearly committing suicide ever since.
Over the years since then with the help from the friends I made at college and at work, I have grown wiser and became a much better person than I was all those years ago.
I thought I'd get this out in the open as I wanted to get this off my chest."
you always post as a friendly upbeat guy, im so glad youve come this far and hope your progression continues |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"While I'm here, I want to say something that I've not said on here about myself.
Back in 2001 during my first year in college, I was 17 back then and I found it hard to fit in and socialize. I was in a state of mind where I felt that I was ugly and would never fit in and find someone.
I then started having suicidal thoughts when feeling depressed. Fellow classmates did try to help cheer me up but it was difficult for me to snap out of feeling suicidal. One day after college, I actually ended up sat on the ledge of a bridge looking down. As I sat there, I here a voice behind me and it was a police officer and was quickly pulled away from the ledge. He asked why I was sat there and I tried to reply but couldn't get my words out. The police took me straight home and told my parents where they found me. I broke down as I realized that going through with it would have hurt and upset people that really cared about me including my family. I felt ashamed and regretted nearly committing suicide ever since.
Over the years since then with the help from the friends I made at college and at work, I have grown wiser and became a much better person than I was all those years ago.
I thought I'd get this out in the open as I wanted to get this off my chest.you always post as a friendly upbeat guy, im so glad youve come this far and hope your progression continues"
Thank you. Yeah I'm sure my progression will continue |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My daughter suffers from this too. She got a place at a good university but only managed to last a few weeks.
She struggles to keep friends, as she takes the slightest criticism massively to heart and cuts them off. She moved out recently and I worry about her constantly. She's intelligent, but fixates on things others wouldn't bother about and can get very stressed. It's not a good thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is there support for people with aspies, to help them deal with situations bettet and understand themselves ive never seen anyone mention them on here. What happens when your diagnosed?"
I'm not really sure. I know that I was diagnosed when I was in secondary school and that's all I can remember |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"Is there support for people with aspies, to help them deal with situations bettet and understand themselves ive never seen anyone mention them on here. What happens when your diagnosed?"
There are support groups if you contact your gp they can refer you or check google for local groups |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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my daughter was diagnosed at great ormond street at aged 10 and put on prozac she is now 29 and currently sectioned under the mental health act
its been hell as she self harmed tried to kill herself and was violent
now we are seeing a light at the end of the tunnel she will soon be moving into her own place with a live in carer not too far from us on a community treatment order
when she was younger it was not too bad but as an adult people dont understand
drs do use pills a bit too much for my liking and i dont think they help that much in fact probably caused a lot of her problems
Aspergers is a complicated thing she has never made friends easily good luck op |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"my daughter was diagnosed at great ormond street at aged 10 and put on prozac she is now 29 and currently sectioned under the mental health act
its been hell as she self harmed tried to kill herself and was violent
now we are seeing a light at the end of the tunnel she will soon be moving into her own place with a live in carer not too far from us on a community treatment order
when she was younger it was not too bad but as an adult people dont understand
drs do use pills a bit too much for my liking and i dont think they help that much in fact probably caused a lot of her problems
Aspergers is a complicated thing she has never made friends easily good luck op"
So sorry to hear what happened with your daughter in the past. It is good to hear that she is getting her own place with a carer.
Asperger's definitely is a complicated thing |
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