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Fab alter egos vs the real you
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you meet someone from Fab are you the same person as you are on here?
I think I'm pretty much the same on here as in real life. I just wear more clothes 
When I meet someone though, even if I know their real name I still think of them and talk about them with their Fab name! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty much the same, probably come across better in reality than I do on here 
And I think of people by their fab name too!"
It's something pretty unique to fab, where you're having a conversation about a mutual fab acquaintance who's changed their name a couple of times and you know them by different names! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was talking about this with some fab friends the other day. I'm me but just a different side, and I refer to other fabbers as their fab names, its like being part of a spy network! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see how being different in person could benefit anybody, but i guess people have too remember that we all have more too our personalities than we show on line, we can all take our time too send considered responses in messages and forums, sometimes that allows people too build up a false perception of who we are.
I certainly do my best to not hide anything, or make out i am something when i am not, that can only lead too disappointment |
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I can be quite quiet sometimes in real life with people I don't know. And if I'm not taken with someone then I'm likely to shutdown a little.
If people take the time to get to know me then I'm just like I am on here. Probably even kinder, more open and more loving actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh yeah, I don't have an ego at all, in fact if anything I play myself down, I think that way things can only get better "
I have always loved that approach, politeness and humility cost nothing, i doubt i could maintain an over confidence or arrogance in person, its too much hard work and i would feel false. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm way more confident on here than in person. I'm more mumsie and frumpy in real life. That's not to say my fab persona isn't me. I just keep it well hidden. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On fab I only pretend to be an American woman living in the UK. In reality I'm a man who has never left Yorkshire 
-Courtney "
Oooh, how very disappointing, you pull off the female form amazingly well in your photos courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm pretty much the same (with the obvious addition of clothing). A happy, daft, slightly scatterbrained, smiley geek with a slightly posh voice either way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not great with names (use the notes feature for this) and so yeah tend to use the woman's Fab name or variations thereof or in special circumstances nicknames I create for them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On fab I only pretend to be an American woman living in the UK. In reality I'm a man who has never left Yorkshire
-Courtney "
I can vouch for that
He even brought his whippet with him when I met him and Marc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I come across more confident on fab. The day of a meet I'm a nervous wreck. I can't eat, my legs are like jelly and I feel sick. However after 15 or so minutes I tend to calm down and enjoy myself.
Nervous excitement is great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I come across more confident on fab. The day of a meet I'm a nervous wreck. I can't eat, my legs are like jelly and I feel sick. However after 15 or so minutes I tend to calm down and enjoy myself.
Nervous excitement is great. "
Would stop swinging if I stopped being nervous before a club / meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I come across more confident on fab. The day of a meet I'm a nervous wreck. I can't eat, my legs are like jelly and I feel sick. However after 15 or so minutes I tend to calm down and enjoy myself.
Nervous excitement is great.
Would stop swinging if I stopped being nervous before a club / meet"
I'm pretty sure a lot of people feel nervous beforehand. There'd be no one left on here if we all stopped because of a few nerves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lack confidence in real life - always have a bit of a terror moment before meeting anyone even for a social
I also can't benefit from camera angles and choosing the best pic from about 100 I've taken in real life so I'm sure I'm a crushing disappointment in the flesh.
On the whole though I try to be true to myself when I'm on the forums and not paint an 'alter ego' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you meet someone from Fab are you the same person as you are on here?
I think I'm pretty much the same on here as in real life. I just wear more clothes
When I meet someone though, even if I know their real name I still think of them and talk about them with their Fab name! "
Brilliant thread
I'm just as gobby in real life as i come across on fab apparently |
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I somehow have the ability to ramble like mad on here, yet face to face I struggle to find a word to say, even to people I know well sometimes.
And 'Kelly' as an alter ego allows me to be someone else in a way - most people who know the real me think of me as very reserved about sex, with low-ish self esteem but as Kelly it's so easy to become someone else and what I'd rather be like (confident, talkative, open about sex).
Which in turn helps out 'real me' in those things, win-win :] |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dunno really. My pics are a pretty accurate portrayal of my body, but face-wise I'm prettier in person as I'm not very photogenic. Personality wise I'm the same as in the real world. A bit shy, but warm and smiley once I get chatting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have a fab persona and a real life persona but the way I come across in written form highlights a different side of my personality to face to face interaction. Basically I'm not as grumpy in reality! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty much the same as I am in private - authenticity is important to me, but I am guarded on the forums for a number of reasons.  "
Authentic 100% The Real Deal
I'm pretty much the same chilled and relaxed
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I'm nicer and shyer in real life. Although saying that there's a few things I say in stroppy messages in response to idiotic messages that I'd say worse in real life if they'd said to my face what they'd said in messages! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
I've been told (a few times now) I come across quite blunt at times in the written form and that I'm nicer in person.
I'm quite shy/reserved at times, yet I'm more chatty and find conversation easier face to face than on here.
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"I'm pretty much the same as I am in private - authenticity is important to me, but I am guarded on the forums for a number of reasons.
Authentic 100% The Real Deal
I'm pretty much the same chilled and relaxed
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Awwww! 
And you are indeed!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a little more quiet to begin with in real person than on fab, but usually that goes within a couple of minutes of meeting someone, but personality wise, I'm exactly the same.
Unfortunately, I'm definitely more clumsy in person, as a table covered in got chocolate will attest to 
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I've been told I look taller in my pictures.
I rarely use my real name with Fab people now. There is one Fabster I've had the pleasure of several times and I still only know his Fab name. |
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"I've been told I look taller in my pictures.
I rarely use my real name with Fab people now. There is one Fabster I've had the pleasure of several times and I still only know his Fab name. "
But who is the real me?.... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I've been told I look taller in my pictures.
I rarely use my real name with Fab people now. There is one Fabster I've had the pleasure of several times and I still only know his Fab name.
But who is the real me?...."
I don't know who the real you is but I know and accept all the realities of my 'me'.
Perhaps the title thread should have been taken literally and I should consider the pitting the Fab 'me' against the non-Fab 'me'? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I think I look different to my profile pic but that's about it really."
I can vouch for the fact that you definitely don't look like a silhouette. You're a very scrummy gorgeous young man.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I look different to my profile pic but that's about it really.
I can vouch for the fact that you definitely don't look like a silhouette. You're a very scrummy gorgeous young man.
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Oi you, The word scrummy is copyrighted
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I think I look different to my profile pic but that's about it really.
I can vouch for the fact that you definitely don't look like a silhouette. You're a very scrummy gorgeous young man.
Oi you, The word scrummy is copyrighted
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If you look at the Google ngram for it, it first appears in books around 1839 as a portmanteau of scrumptious and yummy. So unless you've lied about your age and coined the phrase back then anyone can be scrummy these days.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you meet someone from Fab are you the same person as you are on here?
I think I'm pretty much the same on here as in real life. I just wear more clothes
When I meet someone though, even if I know their real name I still think of them and talk about them with their Fab name! "
Anything I say on fab I would happily say in person,the difference is on fab you are have a chance to chat more intimately with strangers than would be acceptable in real life with strangers. The concept is good but fails when the alter ego is the physical and mentally polar opposite of the real self. Fantasy yes,but not laaa laaa land |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm absolutely the same person here. Or I think I am.
That said, I'm possibly a little more shy and reserved in real life.
I'm not particularly great at breaking the ice with women that I'm attracted to in day to day life.
And I probably write a little differently to how I speak. But the sentiment is the same.
I think, why bother to be different? With the mask of anonymity in place, I may as well just be myself. There's nothing to loose, and when we meet, you will see me anyway, hopefully much more intimatly. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I look different to my profile pic but that's about it really.
I can vouch for the fact that you definitely don't look like a silhouette. You're a very scrummy gorgeous young man.
Oi you, The word scrummy is copyrighted
If you look at the Google ngram for it, it first appears in books around 1839 as a portmanteau of scrumptious and yummy. So unless you've lied about your age and coined the phrase back then anyone can be scrummy these days. "
I fucking love entomology! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I think I look different to my profile pic but that's about it really.
I can vouch for the fact that you definitely don't look like a silhouette. You're a very scrummy gorgeous young man.
Oi you, The word scrummy is copyrighted
If you look at the Google ngram for it, it first appears in books around 1839 as a portmanteau of scrumptious and yummy. So unless you've lied about your age and coined the phrase back then anyone can be scrummy these days.
I fucking love entomology! "
Are you calling Ligeia an insect?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I look different to my profile pic but that's about it really.
I can vouch for the fact that you definitely don't look like a silhouette. You're a very scrummy gorgeous young man.
Oi you, The word scrummy is copyrighted
If you look at the Google ngram for it, it first appears in books around 1839 as a portmanteau of scrumptious and yummy. So unless you've lied about your age and coined the phrase back then anyone can be scrummy these days.
I fucking love entomology!
Are you calling Ligeia an insect? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you meet someone from Fab are you the same person as you are on here?
I think I'm pretty much the same on here as in real life. I just wear more clothes
When I meet someone though, even if I know their real name I still think of them and talk about them with their Fab name! "
Been told I am x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you meet someone from Fab are you the same person as you are on here?
I think I'm pretty much the same on here as in real life. I just wear more clothes
When I meet someone though, even if I know their real name I still think of them and talk about them with their Fab name!
Been told I am x"
Would love to find out.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you meet someone from Fab are you the same person as you are on here?
I think I'm pretty much the same on here as in real life. I just wear more clothes
When I meet someone though, even if I know their real name I still think of them and talk about them with their Fab name!
Been told I am x
Would love to find out...."
Go to Xtasia tmrw night then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well, I'm at a loose end tomorrow night, so that sounds like a great idea "
Oh actually I don't think single men are allowed on a Saturday night, sorry x
Genuine mistake- will be my first visit x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I'm sure most of my meets will attest, I'm very much the same in person
I liked talking to you even more in person. 
-Courtney"
I did you too Courtney, both of you are very intelligent, but also very humble, and I found that charming |
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"I think I am quite shy either way .. dont have a great deal to say.. sit in corner and watch here or at socials.
What about the dancing? "
Ok I like to dance stick on labels and hand out fizz..Just better when I have things to do. Not very confident in a crowd. |
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