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I really dislike being called a girl, I'm a woman. Of course it depends on context my friend refers to a girls night out when we go out for the evening and I feel ok about that but in a sexual situation it turns me cold. |
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"I really dislike being called a girl, I'm a woman. Of course it depends on context my friend refers to a girls night out when we go out for the evening and I feel ok about that but in a sexual situation it turns me cold."
I've never really thought about it like that. I often say thinks like 'morning boys and girls' and it's really just a figure of speech. I'd hate to think I'd offended anyone. 
But I'm gonna be a girl forever. DirtyWoman just makes me sound like some old perve. I'd much rather be a young perve!  |
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Not that it would bother a frock wearing blokey-bloke like me...
But those who call themselves T-Girls must cease this practice once they reach a certain age and become a T-lady.....
Rules is rules .....and we can't have loopholes......  |
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"But I'm gonna be a girl forever. DirtyWoman just makes me sound like some old perve. I'd much rather be a young perve! "
Too late, you have fed the imagination, you are now a naked old perv  |
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"Rules is rules .....and we can't have loopholes...... "
Are you campaigning to ban spaghetti hoops? cos the holes in those loops is the tastiest bit 
Also please clarify the rule that makes a t-lady into a t-woman and can you go direct from t-girl... Damn these rules are hard |
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"I really dislike being called a girl, I'm a woman. Of course it depends on context my friend refers to a girls night out when we go out for the evening and I feel ok about that but in a sexual situation it turns me cold.
I've never really thought about it like that. I often say thinks like 'morning boys and girls' and it's really just a figure of speech. I'd hate to think I'd offended anyone.
But I'm gonna be a girl forever. DirtyWoman just makes me sound like some old perve. I'd much rather be a young perve! "
Oh it's just me DG I know people don't mean anything by it. The man of a couple messaged us once saying "the girls will be chatting with their new friend" or something like that and I was a bit sick in my mouth
it just conjures up a giggling, simpering picture in my head that turns me right off. I know I'm strange  I also hate being referred to as "The Mrs" |
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"Rules is rules .....and we can't have loopholes......
Are you campaigning to ban spaghetti hoops? cos the holes in those loops is the tastiest bit
Also please clarify the rule that makes a t-lady into a t-woman and can you go direct from t-girl... Damn these rules are hard "
Are you seriously suggesting you are unfamiliar with the protocol that defines who is entitled to call their an Apron a Pinny...
Sheeesh-man,,,, no Spaghetti hoops for you...... |
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"I really dislike being called a girl, I'm a woman. Of course it depends on context my friend refers to a girls night out when we go out for the evening and I feel ok about that but in a sexual situation it turns me cold."
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"I really dislike being called a girl, I'm a woman. Of course it depends on context my friend refers to a girls night out when we go out for the evening and I feel ok about that but in a sexual situation it turns me cold.
I've never really thought about it like that. I often say thinks like 'morning boys and girls' and it's really just a figure of speech. I'd hate to think I'd offended anyone.
But I'm gonna be a girl forever. DirtyWoman just makes me sound like some old perve. I'd much rather be a young perve!
Oh it's just me DG I know people don't mean anything by it. The man of a couple messaged us once saying "the girls will be chatting with their new friend" or something like that and I was a bit sick in my mouth
it just conjures up a giggling, simpering picture in my head that turns me right off. I know I'm strange I also hate being referred to as "The Mrs" "
What do you say when you're off out on a night out with your lady friends then? It's always been 'I'm going out with the girls from work' or 'we're having a girls weekend away' or it's a girls night' etc.
Women's night sounds like something out of the WI! |
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"I really dislike being called a girl, I'm a woman. Of course it depends on context my friend refers to a girls night out when we go out for the evening and I feel ok about that but in a sexual situation it turns me cold.
I've never really thought about it like that. I often say thinks like 'morning boys and girls' and it's really just a figure of speech. I'd hate to think I'd offended anyone.
But I'm gonna be a girl forever. DirtyWoman just makes me sound like some old perve. I'd much rather be a young perve!
Oh it's just me DG I know people don't mean anything by it. The man of a couple messaged us once saying "the girls will be chatting with their new friend" or something like that and I was a bit sick in my mouth
it just conjures up a giggling, simpering picture in my head that turns me right off. I know I'm strange I also hate being referred to as "The Mrs"
What do you say when you're off out on a night out with your lady friends then? It's always been 'I'm going out with the girls from work' or 'we're having a girls weekend away' or it's a girls night' etc.
Women's night sounds like something out of the WI! "
Yeah I know,  I never claimed to be rational or normal. I just say I'm going out with my friends. I don't go round demanding to be called a woman though I try to keep my oddness to myself |
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I don't like being called girl when it comes to sex things - baby girl, little girl, hot girl, all of that leaves me cold. I'm not bothered he rest of the time though. |
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I hate it with a passion. If you have to refer to me with a female descriptor then I'm an adult, not a child. Woman, not girl.
I've never said 'I'm going out with the girls' just because I'd never think to describe my friends that way. 'I'm going out with my friends' seems just fine, even if they are an all female group. Seems weird to me to identify a group of people by their gender when that's not the most interesting thing about them. |
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"I hate it with a passion. If you have to refer to me with a female descriptor then I'm an adult, not a child. Woman, not girl.
I've never said 'I'm going out with the girls' just because I'd never think to describe my friends that way. 'I'm going out with my friends' seems just fine, even if they are an all female group. Seems weird to me to identify a group of people by their gender when that's not the most interesting thing about them."
Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl 
If a lady does not wish to be called a girl that's fine and understandable
However it's rather judgmental for that adult to shower disdain in fact condescension upon some equally lovely adult and easy going ladies or men who enjoy going out and being silly with the girls /boys
I currently refer to myself as a boy, as I'm feeling particularly Peter pan but I will change my usage upon mood and company
Me think you gals are perhaps making a fuss for no great reason
I'd say it's the intention behind the language that determines the sexism
I also hope that none of you ladies ever loose the girl in your personalities
I haven't lost the boy or the girl in mine it's what makes us complex xx |
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I really dislike it in relation to sex "mmm, good girl" etc. or in a work setting. For the "night out with the girls" example, I don't really care either way but it's not really something I say; it reminds me of adverts for online bingo. |
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"Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl
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Actually I think you'll find I sound like someone who has been studying feminism and queer studies for a number of years now, rather than a teenage girl who has just discovered it.
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"Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl
Actually I think you'll find I sound like someone who has been studying feminism and queer studies for a number of years now, rather than a teenage girl who has just discovered it.
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No Hunny that's what you are , you sounded like the petulant adolescent xx
I have to politely ask what queer studies are ? |
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"Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl
Actually I think you'll find I sound like someone who has been studying feminism and queer studies for a number of years now, rather than a teenage girl who has just discovered it.
No Hunny that's what you are , you sounded like the petulant adolescent xx
I have to politely ask what queer studies are ?"
Not to my ear she didn't.
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"Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl
Actually I think you'll find I sound like someone who has been studying feminism and queer studies for a number of years now, rather than a teenage girl who has just discovered it.
No Hunny that's what you are , you sounded like the petulant adolescent xx
I have to politely ask what queer studies are ?
Not to my ear she didn't.
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Nor mine. |
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"Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl
Actually I think you'll find I sound like someone who has been studying feminism and queer studies for a number of years now, rather than a teenage girl who has just discovered it.
No Hunny that's what you are , you sounded like the petulant adolescent xx
I have to politely ask what queer studies are ?"
Could you get any more patronising? Hunny? |
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I hate it when people get hung up on stuff like this. I still get referred to as one of the boys, 'young man', a lad.
I'm more freaked out by the increasing amount of people that refer to me as 'sir'  |
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"I really dislike being called a girl, I'm a woman. Of course it depends on context my friend refers to a girls night out when we go out for the evening and I feel ok about that but in a sexual situation it turns me cold.
I've never really thought about it like that. I often say thinks like 'morning boys and girls' and it's really just a figure of speech. I'd hate to think I'd offended anyone.
But I'm gonna be a girl forever. DirtyWoman just makes me sound like some old perve. I'd much rather be a young perve!
Oh it's just me DG I know people don't mean anything by it. The man of a couple messaged us once saying "the girls will be chatting with their new friend" or something like that and I was a bit sick in my mouth
it just conjures up a giggling, simpering picture in my head that turns me right off. I know I'm strange I also hate being referred to as "The Mrs" "
I know exactly what you mean by the giggling, simpering picture. I don't think you're strange at all! |
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"I hate it when people get hung up on stuff like this. I still get referred to as one of the boys, 'young man', a lad.
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The problem is that you aren't regularly treated like a child just because of your gender. As a woman, I am treated like a child by many men. I am assumed to not be knowledgeable, or to have the ability of a teenage girl.
Calling someone a girl (when you don't know they're ok with it) is either patronising or sexually suggestive. Men don't suffer from this. You don't call a man a 'boy' as a matter of course. You wouldn't say 'you're a good boy' to someone at work, but plenty of times I've been told I'm a 'good girl' in a formal environment.
And I understand that you proberbly think it's no big deal. But if you had spent your whole life being either patronised or objectified by people as a matter of course, then you might feel differently.
So please don't be dismissive and say you hate it when people get hung up on 'stuff' like this. Because for many of us, this 'stuff' is very important to us. Because all we want is the same treatment as men - to be regarded as a competent and capable adult by default. |
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"Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl
Actually I think you'll find I sound like someone who has been studying feminism and queer studies for a number of years now, rather than a teenage girl who has just discovered it.
No Hunny that's what you are , you sounded like the petulant adolescent xx
I have to politely ask what queer studies are ?
Not to my ear she didn't.
Nor mine. "
My first gf was an amazing woman vastly more intelligent than I ever will be
Age 17 she was a teenager and seductively petulant at times
She repeatedly uttered the same words as above and I mainly agreed with her
Now we have both grown up , understand a little more give and is required in the fight for equality that hard line androgynous upbringing is not the single solution and that language and arbitrary offense on the behalf of all on single word usage is futile and in itself condescending and offencive
See the n word and the c word for complex parallels
To condemn a word on strong personal views and project that they as one that should be adopted by all is an adolescent one
We grow up xxx |
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"To condemn a word on strong personal views and project that they as one that should be adopted by all is an adolescent one
We grow up xxx"
You are reading things that I didn't wrote. Or you are reading someone elses post.
I merely expressed my personal preference, and did not try to dictate how adults should treat other adults. |
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"Objecting to something isn't being 'hung up' on it.
In your world not. In my world it is.
You're so hung up about it. Stop it. Chill...... "
You're just being objectionable. |
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"Objecting to something isn't being 'hung up' on it.
In your world not. In my world it is.
You're so hung up about it. Stop it. Chill......
You're just being objectionable."
Do you object to that ? |
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"I hate it when people get hung up on stuff like this. I still get referred to as one of the boys, 'young man', a lad.
The problem is that you aren't regularly treated like a child just because of your gender. As a woman, I am treated like a child by many men. I am assumed to not be knowledgeable, or to have the ability of a teenage girl.
Calling someone a girl (when you don't know they're ok with it) is either patronising or sexually suggestive. Men don't suffer from this. You don't call a man a 'boy' as a matter of course. You wouldn't say 'you're a good boy' to someone at work, but plenty of times I've been told I'm a 'good girl' in a formal environment.
And I understand that you proberbly think it's no big deal. But if you had spent your whole life being either patronised or objectified by people as a matter of course, then you might feel differently.
So please don't be dismissive and say you hate it when people get hung up on 'stuff' like this. Because for many of us, this 'stuff' is very important to us. Because all we want is the same treatment as men - to be regarded as a competent and capable adult by default."
Would equal treatment include not treating blokes like patronising, sexist ignoramuses?
Get yourself to a men's rugby/cricket/football match and then reassess your opinion of how blokes speak to each other.
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"Objecting to something isn't being 'hung up' on it.
In your world not. In my world it is.
You're so hung up about it. Stop it. Chill......
You're just being objectionable.
Do you object to that ?"
You're still hung up on this?!
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"Oh shush you sound like a petulant , just discovering feminism teenage girl
Actually I think you'll find I sound like someone who has been studying feminism and queer studies for a number of years now, rather than a teenage girl who has just discovered it.
No Hunny that's what you are , you sounded like the petulant adolescent xx
I have to politely ask what queer studies are ?
Not to my ear she didn't.
Nor mine.
My first gf was an amazing woman vastly more intelligent than I ever will be
Age 17 she was a teenager and seductively petulant at times
She repeatedly uttered the same words as above and I mainly agreed with her
Now we have both grown up , understand a little more give and is required in the fight for equality that hard line androgynous upbringing is not the single solution and that language and arbitrary offense on the behalf of all on single word usage is futile and in itself condescending and offencive
See the n word and the c word for complex parallels
To condemn a word on strong personal views and project that they as one that should be adopted by all is an adolescent one
We grow up xxx"
No one condemned the word or those that don't mind it.
What some have said is that they themselves don't wish to be referred to as a child.
I grew up long ago. I still don't want to be referred to as a girl. |
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"Objecting to something isn't being 'hung up' on it.
In your world not. In my world it is.
You're so hung up about it. Stop it. Chill......
You're just being objectionable.
Do you object to that ?
You're still hung up on this?!
jeez "
Look lad..... calm down , calm down. |
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"Objecting to something isn't being 'hung up' on it.
In your world not. In my world it is.
You're so hung up about it. Stop it. Chill......
You're just being objectionable.
Do you object to that ?
You're still hung up on this?!
jeez
Look lad..... calm down , calm down."
I can't compete with that |
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"I hate it when people get hung up on stuff like this. I still get referred to as one of the boys, 'young man', a lad.
The problem is that you aren't regularly treated like a child just because of your gender. As a woman, I am treated like a child by many men. I am assumed to not be knowledgeable, or to have the ability of a teenage girl.
Calling someone a girl (when you don't know they're ok with it) is either patronising or sexually suggestive. Men don't suffer from this. You don't call a man a 'boy' as a matter of course. You wouldn't say 'you're a good boy' to someone at work, but plenty of times I've been told I'm a 'good girl' in a formal environment.
And I understand that you proberbly think it's no big deal. But if you had spent your whole life being either patronised or objectified by people as a matter of course, then you might feel differently.
So please don't be dismissive and say you hate it when people get hung up on 'stuff' like this. Because for many of us, this 'stuff' is very important to us. Because all we want is the same treatment as men - to be regarded as a competent and capable adult by default.
Would equal treatment include not treating blokes like patronising, sexist ignoramuses?
Get yourself to a men's rugby/cricket/football match and then reassess your opinion of how blokes speak to each other.
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I don't believe it has the same significance. (Also arseholes are just arseholes).
But, for example, could you imagine a group of senior executives at a company, or a bunch of male politicians being called 'boys'? I would imagine people would find it weird at best, but totally disrespectful at worst. Whereas people would still gladly refer to a group of women as 'girls', in that patronising and infantalising way that diminishes any achievement.
Men don't routinely sexually objectify each other with language at football matches - as far as I'm aware. And they don't treat each other like children. Not last time I went to a sports match (and I've been a regular at rugby, cricket, and football myself). There simply isn't a comparison there. Grown men calling each other cunts because they support a different team is an entirely different ballgame to an adult woman being constantly treated as a child and assumed to be incapable just because people think she might have a vagina. |
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"Objecting to something isn't being 'hung up' on it.
In your world not. In my world it is.
You're so hung up about it. Stop it. Chill......
You're just being objectionable.
Do you object to that ?
You're still hung up on this?!
jeez
Look lad..... calm down , calm down.
I can't compete with that "
I won't object x |
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"I hate it when people get hung up on stuff like this. I still get referred to as one of the boys, 'young man', a lad.
The problem is that you aren't regularly treated like a child just because of your gender. As a woman, I am treated like a child by many men. I am assumed to not be knowledgeable, or to have the ability of a teenage girl.
Calling someone a girl (when you don't know they're ok with it) is either patronising or sexually suggestive. Men don't suffer from this. You don't call a man a 'boy' as a matter of course. You wouldn't say 'you're a good boy' to someone at work, but plenty of times I've been told I'm a 'good girl' in a formal environment.
And I understand that you proberbly think it's no big deal. But if you had spent your whole life being either patronised or objectified by people as a matter of course, then you might feel differently.
So please don't be dismissive and say you hate it when people get hung up on 'stuff' like this. Because for many of us, this 'stuff' is very important to us. Because all we want is the same treatment as men - to be regarded as a competent and capable adult by default."
Allow me to be firm in total agreement
In a professional environment it is unacceptable for either sex to be patronised or "patted"
I'm sad you live in an environment where this is rife
My experience is that has reduced markedly
But I will reiterate my point which I preempted this post form you
Words are not sexist intention and delivery are
Identities are important
You are proud and wish to protect yours that it not just admirable but should be respected but so indeed should the identity of "the girls " not childish thick men play things , just simply not quite ready to be grown up fully ladies who like being girls
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"I don't believe it has the same significance. (Also arseholes are just arseholes).
But, for example, could you imagine a group of senior executives at a company, or a bunch of male politicians being called 'boys'? I would imagine people would find it weird at best, but totally disrespectful at worst. Whereas people would still gladly refer to a group of women as 'girls', in that patronising and infantalising way that diminishes any achievement.
Men don't routinely sexually objectify each other with language at football matches - as far as I'm aware. And they don't treat each other like children. Not last time I went to a sports match (and I've been a regular at rugby, cricket, and football myself). There simply isn't a comparison there. Grown men calling each other cunts because they support a different team is an entirely different ballgame to an adult woman being constantly treated as a child and assumed to be incapable just because people think she might have a vagina."
There is a comparison. It just doesn't suit your argument.
I don't think you've sat in a boardroom. I've certainly never heard that type of reference in any meeting of that type. On the shop floor I've heard references to both 'boy's and 'girls' by both mean and women. I understood it to be intended for camaraderie, not to patronise.
Men 'sexually objectify' each other constantly in sport, calling each other wankers, knobs, dickheads..
I don't know who or what your referencing as an arsehole? |
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"To condemn a word on strong personal views and project that they as one that should be adopted by all is an adolescent one
We grow up xxx
You are reading things that I didn't wrote. Or you are reading someone elses post.
I merely expressed my personal preference, and did not try to dictate how adults should treat other adults."
Sorry It was the refering to those that do as being weird that caught my attention , we are all strange I did not think it entirely objective calling those you disagreed with as weird ?
I will re iterate
It should not be acceptable for either sex using any words or gestures to demean another
I also think personal boundaries should usually be approached and very carefully
You must have realised I was being tongue in cheek , naughty almost ironic with my select use of Hunny? It was actually aknowledging the sort of behaviour that is bad for us all ? |
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Only time it bothers me.. And it's only slightly... Is when I'm with my daughter in a shop or something and someone says.. Hi/thanks/bye girls..... But we do look very alike
Or a young scouse lad shouts *scouse accent * 'oi girl get ye tits out' from a boy racer car .
I don't particularly like being called girl by anyone on here or in relation to sex... But I never get offended...
The only time I'd get offended is if it was used in such a way that the person was intentionally being patronising.... Especially if they where younger than me.
I genuinely don't understand why some take such great offence to it in any other context... |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?"
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys'  |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys' "
Now you seem like a naughty girl xxx |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys' "
And
Because I feel naughty girls often have complex personalities
An intriguing woman xx
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys' "
Adult things |
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"Only time it bothers me.. And it's only slightly... Is when I'm with my daughter in a shop or something and someone says.. Hi/thanks/bye girls..... But we do look very alike
Or a young scouse lad shouts *scouse accent * 'oi girl get ye tits out' from a boy racer car .
I don't particularly like being called girl by anyone on here or in relation to sex... But I never get offended...
The only time I'd get offended is if it was used in such a way that the person was intentionally being patronising.... Especially if they where younger than me.
I genuinely don't understand why some take such great offence to it in any other context... "
I'm not offended by it, I just dislike it. It reminds me of dolled up middle aged women going to dance round their handbags in Flares, or similar.
I genuinely don't understand why some on here think stating that you dislike being called something means you're offended by it. |
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"Only time it bothers me.. And it's only slightly... Is when I'm with my daughter in a shop or something and someone says.. Hi/thanks/bye girls..... But we do look very alike
Or a young scouse lad shouts *scouse accent * 'oi girl get ye tits out' from a boy racer car .
I don't particularly like being called girl by anyone on here or in relation to sex... But I never get offended...
The only time I'd get offended is if it was used in such a way that the person was intentionally being patronising.... Especially if they where younger than me.
I genuinely don't understand why some take such great offence to it in any other context...
I'm not offended by it, I just dislike it. It reminds me of dolled up middle aged women going to dance round their handbags in Flares, or similar.
I genuinely don't understand why some on here think stating that you dislike being called something means you're offended by it. "
I've argued that above. Fell on stony ground.
I believe that saying someone is 'offended' is almost like an accusation. It enables the 'sayer' to label again ... as in ... I made a joke but she saw her own arse....... i.e. it's not my unnaceptable behaviour it's her moody. |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys'
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Because I feel naughty girls often have complex personalities
An intriguing woman xx
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Yes.. Yes I am |
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"Only time it bothers me.. And it's only slightly... Is when I'm with my daughter in a shop or something and someone says.. Hi/thanks/bye girls..... But we do look very alike
Or a young scouse lad shouts *scouse accent * 'oi girl get ye tits out' from a boy racer car .
I don't particularly like being called girl by anyone on here or in relation to sex... But I never get offended...
The only time I'd get offended is if it was used in such a way that the person was intentionally being patronising.... Especially if they where younger than me.
I genuinely don't understand why some take such great offence to it in any other context...
I'm not offended by it, I just dislike it. It reminds me of dolled up middle aged women going to dance round their handbags in Flares, or similar.
I genuinely don't understand why some on here think stating that you dislike being called something means you're offended by it.
I've argued that above. Fell on stony ground.
I believe that saying someone is 'offended' is almost like an accusation. It enables the 'sayer' to label again ... as in ... I made a joke but she saw her own arse....... i.e. it's not my unnaceptable behaviour it's her moody."
I've had this argument on here before and got accused of trying to enforce censorship so I'm not sure why I bother. |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys'
Adult things "
And bunnies |
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"Only time it bothers me.. And it's only slightly... Is when I'm with my daughter in a shop or something and someone says.. Hi/thanks/bye girls..... But we do look very alike
Or a young scouse lad shouts *scouse accent * 'oi girl get ye tits out' from a boy racer car .
I don't particularly like being called girl by anyone on here or in relation to sex... But I never get offended...
The only time I'd get offended is if it was used in such a way that the person was intentionally being patronising.... Especially if they where younger than me.
I genuinely don't understand why some take such great offence to it in any other context...
I'm not offended by it, I just dislike it. It reminds me of dolled up middle aged women going to dance round their handbags in Flares, or similar.
I genuinely don't understand why some on here think stating that you dislike being called something means you're offended by it. "
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I wasn't singling anyone out.
I'd of quoted If I was |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys'
Adult things
And bunnies "
Chocolate or rampant ? |
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"Only time it bothers me.. And it's only slightly... Is when I'm with my daughter in a shop or something and someone says.. Hi/thanks/bye girls..... But we do look very alike
Or a young scouse lad shouts *scouse accent * 'oi girl get ye tits out' from a boy racer car .
I don't particularly like being called girl by anyone on here or in relation to sex... But I never get offended...
The only time I'd get offended is if it was used in such a way that the person was intentionally being patronising.... Especially if they where younger than me.
I genuinely don't understand why some take such great offence to it in any other context...
I'm not offended by it, I just dislike it. It reminds me of dolled up middle aged women going to dance round their handbags in Flares, or similar.
I genuinely don't understand why some on here think stating that you dislike being called something means you're offended by it.
I've argued that above. Fell on stony ground.
I believe that saying someone is 'offended' is almost like an accusation. It enables the 'sayer' to label again ... as in ... I made a joke but she saw her own arse....... i.e. it's not my unnaceptable behaviour it's her moody."
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Im not arguing anything with anyone... I was sharing my take on it..... With humour injected.. |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys'
Adult things
And bunnies
Chocolate or rampant ?"
I can multi task |
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"Only time it bothers me.. And it's only slightly... Is when I'm with my daughter in a shop or something and someone says.. Hi/thanks/bye girls..... But we do look very alike
Or a young scouse lad shouts *scouse accent * 'oi girl get ye tits out' from a boy racer car .
I don't particularly like being called girl by anyone on here or in relation to sex... But I never get offended...
The only time I'd get offended is if it was used in such a way that the person was intentionally being patronising.... Especially if they where younger than me.
I genuinely don't understand why some take such great offence to it in any other context...
I'm not offended by it, I just dislike it. It reminds me of dolled up middle aged women going to dance round their handbags in Flares, or similar.
I genuinely don't understand why some on here think stating that you dislike being called something means you're offended by it.
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I wasn't singling anyone out.
I'd of quoted If I was "
I know, I didn't think you were - it was just an observation. I don't think anyone on the thread has actually said they're offended anyway. |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
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I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys'
Adult things
And bunnies
Chocolate or rampant ?
I can multi task "
One slip and it's cocoa faj........ |
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"These 'girls' , do they take their dollies with them when they go out ? Or do they do adult things ?
..
I go out with the girls and drink alcohol.. In pubs.. Sometimes even have sex... Or just go home and play on my own with my 'toys'
Adult things
And bunnies
Chocolate or rampant ?
I can multi task
One slip and it's cocoa faj........ "
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"What about men being called boys in an office or in a sexual context? Undermined somewhat? "
I'm off on a work trip in April... 40 boys and me.
It's a boys weekend... that's what they call it. It's totally sexist but I'm not offended by it.
I don't really feel offended by very much though and I've not had to deal with any gender issues throughout my life so before this thread, it would never have crossed my mind.
I have a mate who's got a PhD in feminism... she goes on about me being a feminist but I don't really feel the urge to give myself that label. I'm just me and I guess I have other shit to worry about. |
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Men 'sexually objectify' each other constantly in sport, calling each other wankers, knobs, dickheads..
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You do not understand what sexual objectification is. What you have just cited is not sexual objectification, it is just called insulting each other. Sexual objectification is when you treat someone as an object just for your sexual pleasure - I would suggest that most men at football grounds are not treating other men as objects for their sexual pleasure by calling them a wanker. |
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Men 'sexually objectify' each other constantly in sport, calling each other wankers, knobs, dickheads..
You do not understand what sexual objectification is. What you have just cited is not sexual objectification, it is just called insulting each other. Sexual objectification is when you treat someone as an object just for your sexual pleasure - I would suggest that most men at football grounds are not treating other men as objects for their sexual pleasure by calling them a wanker."
I would suggest that most men in life are not treating women as objects for their sexual pleasure by calling them girls. |
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