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It's definately made me more confident although it has also inspired me to get off my arse and exercise again and start watching what I eat so maybe that's a good thing or could it be I am not as confident as I think, who knows but I am super horny all the time thanks to fab and that can only be good  Mrs cmy  |
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over a year ago
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I have always been a faurly confident person and Fab hasn't really made a differene to that either way.
It has affected my ability to have "normal" relationships, vanilla dating etc. |
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over a year ago
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Lol I'm quite small at 5ft6ins went a meet and the bruiser said we don't play with small ugly gnomes and slammed door in my face. Considering its on my profile and they had face pic I was quite offended still we all can't be stallions fuck knows what would have happened when they saw my small cock lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am confident and probably arrogant but if my confidence dipped, I would look around and think ' thank fuck it not bad enough I need strangers to boost me'
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am confident and probably arrogant but if my confidence dipped, I would look around and think ' thank fuck it not bad enough I need strangers to boost me'
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over a year ago
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It's all a bit crazy for me - all a bit Jekyll and Hyde.
Like you OP I question everything about myself compared to the others on here, confidence, looks, cock, six packs - I can't even begin to compare to the handsome, hung, gym fit and charming hunks and the majority on here (I'm so bang average in comparison) and it can be properly intimidating when you see the ladies falling over themselves in the forums with the mega hotties.
On the other hand I've incredibly fortunate to meet some ridiculously hot women (batting WAY above my average) and I (honestly) can't get my head around that - in that respect its like 'whoah what's happening, this *cannot* be right'.
So it's a bit of an enigma - on one hand it's a real confidence booster but on the other it can really hammer you down being on here... It varies from day to day.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's all a bit crazy for me - all a bit Jekyll and Hyde.
Like you OP I question everything about myself compared to the others on here, confidence, looks, cock, six packs - I can't even begin to compare to the handsome, hung, gym fit and charming hunks and the majority on here (I'm so bang average in comparison) and it can be properly intimidating when you see the ladies falling over themselves in the forums with the mega hotties.
On the other hand I've incredibly fortunate to meet some ridiculously hot women (batting WAY above my average) and I (honestly) can't get my head around that - in that respect its like 'whoah what's happening, this *cannot* be right'.
So it's a bit of an enigma - on one hand it's a real confidence booster but on the other it can really hammer you down being on here... It varies from day to day.
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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In general it has only increased my self confidence. It's a competitive place for single men. So while I would like to meet more frequently, I've had some fantastic experience's that I won't forget.
And there are more possibilities ahead. |
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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago
London / Herts |
Fab, and swinging in general, is a rollercoaster ride. Ups and downs. Sometimes, you feel brilliant. At other times, you genuinely believe there's something wrong with you. When that happens, just take a step back, and gain some perspective |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Fab, and swinging in general, is a rollercoaster ride. Ups and downs. Sometimes, you feel brilliant. At other times, you genuinely believe there's something wrong with you. When that happens, just take a step back, and gain some perspective "
This, pretty much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't question anything because of fab. If Marc finds me attractive, interesting, intelligent, etc. then that's all that matters to me because he is who matters to me. Everything else is simply a subplot.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could probably be doing something slightly more productive than browsing the forum but the reality is I'd just find something equally unproductive to waste my time doing. |
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"It has too many really needy people who need constant validation
Apart from that it's fun for sex "
You may be right;
Probably many people here who are not confident in real life, hide behind their keyboards, then lose even more confidence when they are " unsuccessful"
If you are an overconfident, arrogant fucker like me, then you don't care...
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"It's all a bit crazy for me - all a bit Jekyll and Hyde.
Like you OP I question everything about myself compared to the others on here, confidence, looks, cock, six packs - I can't even begin to compare to the handsome, hung, gym fit and charming hunks and the majority on here (I'm so bang average in comparison) and it can be properly intimidating when you see the ladies falling over themselves in the forums with the mega hotties.
On the other hand I've incredibly fortunate to meet some ridiculously hot women (batting WAY above my average) and I (honestly) can't get my head around that - in that respect its like 'whoah what's happening, this *cannot* be right'.
So it's a bit of an enigma - on one hand it's a real confidence booster but on the other it can really hammer you down being on here... It varies from day to day.
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing "
. Fab is cyberworld so does it matter what people say or think ..? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to hate my arse so much so I wouldn't do doggy position  but now realise guys like big butts lol
It has helped my confidence although I don't believe any compliments still x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I could probably be doing something slightly more productive than browsing the forum but the reality is I'd just find something equally unproductive to waste my time doing."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's been positive in that it's been a door into a world of new experiences. But the downside is that I'm now quite cynical when someone says 'wow you're stunning/beautiful/other word to get in my knickers'.
I'm pretty confident day to day, and that's not been affected. Sexually I'm quite shy, and this place has been an eye opener! That's for sure haha. I've had some amazing experiences and lots more to come. So mostly I'm happy to be here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to hate my arse so much so I wouldn't do doggy position but now realise guys like big butts lol
It has helped my confidence although I don't believe any compliments still x"
I have a similar issue.... My ex told me my ass was not very nice (to put it nicely) and well I am still very self-conscious about it but have gotten better with doggy style since first joining lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a very self conscious person. I thought fab would help me get over that in a way. It took alot for me to take and post my pics!! I'm still extremely self conscious and find the fact that I receive negative comments doesn't help. I've taken time outs from Fab and come back. Stronger, so I thought!! I'm really not sure!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing . Fab is cyberworld so does it matter what people say or think ..?"
I meet people off fab so yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing "
I think this site can sometimes be exhausting to be honest but it has actually made me grow in confidence and had some really nice comments on my pictures, sometimes I feel I should take a break but can't it's to addictive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol I'm quite small at 5ft6ins went a meet and the bruiser said we don't play with small ugly gnomes and slammed door in my face. Considering its on my profile and they had face pic I was quite offended still we all can't be stallions fuck knows what would have happened when they saw my small cock lol"
How rude!!! That's just horrible!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I now have an over-inflated ego and expect every man in the street to fall at my feet,telling me how beautiful I am. "
This is exactly why I counter balance Fabs with a huge dose of reality to keep me in check
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab makes me less confident too.
When it gets too bad I take some time away from the site."
When I'm feeling low in general I just don't login. Fabs doesn't make me feel better about myself at these times. I find it just makes me feel petty & shitty with everyone / everything. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing "
Most of the time it's water off a ducks back,my skin is pretty thick.
Occasionally something will give me a knock but it's usually when I'm feeling a bit out of sorts in general. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fab makes me less confident too.
When it gets too bad I take some time away from the site.
When I'm feeling low in general I just don't login. Fabs doesn't make me feel better about myself at these times. I find it just makes me feel petty & shitty with everyone / everything."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing
Most of the time it's water off a ducks back,my skin is pretty thick.
Occasionally something will give me a knock but it's usually when I'm feeling a bit out of sorts in general. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some days it makes me feel more confident, others it makes me feel awful about myself, be that looks or whatever.
But if I'm really feeling that way because of a website, the problem is already present within myself and would probably have been triggered off by something else instead anyway.
I know when it's time to log off.
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing "
well done on the look at me / feel sad for me ..post//connie x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing
well done on the look at me / feel sad for me ..post//connie x "
Ty for your input. How ever wrong your are |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just gotta accept that not everyone will like you. There are particular things that will make you popular or unpopular.
And none of these things are anything to do with you but the other person(s). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be a confident person. Then i joinned fab. Now i question my height. Cock size. Looks etc....
Im not sure its a good thing "
Ny experience has been just the opposite , my confidence has grown. I have q great confidence in my looks and body |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol I'm quite small at 5ft6ins went a meet and the bruiser said we don't play with small ugly gnomes and slammed door in my face. Considering its on my profile and they had face pic I was quite offended still we all can't be stallions fuck knows what would have happened when they saw my small cock lol"
Not knowing the context but from what you said it sounds like a pre-planned event. As in, they either never fancied you and are just vile people or they wanted to attack anyone regardless of what they looked like.
Even if a couple turned up with dog shit smeared down their left cheek I'd still let them in, I'd just immediately offer them the bathroom to freshen up. It's just not normal behaviour to attack someone that way... |
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"It's all a bit crazy for me - all a bit Jekyll and Hyde.
Like you OP I question everything about myself compared to the others on here, confidence, looks, cock, six packs - I can't even begin to compare to the handsome, hung, gym fit and charming hunks and the majority on here (I'm so bang average in comparison) and it can be properly intimidating when you see the ladies falling over themselves in the forums with the mega hotties.
On the other hand I've incredibly fortunate to meet some ridiculously hot women (batting WAY above my average) and I (honestly) can't get my head around that - in that respect its like 'whoah what's happening, this *cannot* be right'.
So it's a bit of an enigma - on one hand it's a real confidence booster but on the other it can really hammer you down being on here... It varies from day to day.
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There is nothing ordinary about you - you are an awesome friend, even if you do enjoy fence sitting xxx |
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"Fab, and swinging in general, is a rollercoaster ride. Ups and downs. Sometimes, you feel brilliant. At other times, you genuinely believe there's something wrong with you. When that happens, just take a step back, and gain some perspective "
Ditto xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The trick to a place like this is simple. Just be yourself! Live in your own skin, who gives a monkeys fuck about who doesn't fancy you. Love yourself, be happy and enjoy who you are. The people who do like you will see that and that's all good. Bottom line "don't worry, be happy". X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The trick to a place like this is simple. Just be yourself! Live in your own skin, who gives a monkeys fuck about who doesn't fancy you. Love yourself, be happy and enjoy who you are. The people who do like you will see that and that's all good. Bottom line "don't worry, be happy". X"
Singing the bob marley song to myself now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm pretty laid back about fab in general but recently I do feel that my confidence has been knocked and honestly feel like I'm going back to the beginning if that makes sense? Maybe a break would be a good thing. |
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"Some days it makes me feel more confident, others it makes me feel awful about myself, be that looks or whatever.
But if I'm really feeling that way because of a website, the problem is already present within myself and would probably have been triggered off by something else instead anyway.
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Very good point. I could easily be used as a catalyst to personal growth if people decide to recognise and address the issues it throws up!! |
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"The trick to a place like this is simple. Just be yourself! Live in your own skin, who gives a monkeys fuck about who doesn't fancy you. Love yourself, be happy and enjoy who you are. The people who do like you will see that and that's all good. Bottom line "don't worry, be happy". X"
Yes, very good advice. There's always going to be someone younger, fitter, hotter that all of us, but to think you have to compete is the road to torment. The only people that count are the ones that adore you just as you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be honest it's one of those occasions where perhaps they had argued who knows but as long a sim not physically abused. Just walk away if someone said sorry not our type even though it was planned that's fine it happens |
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"The trick to a place like this is simple. Just be yourself! Live in your own skin, who gives a monkeys fuck about who doesn't fancy you. Love yourself, be happy and enjoy who you are. The people who do like you will see that and that's all good. Bottom line "don't worry, be happy". X
Yes, very good advice. There's always going to be someone younger, fitter, hotter that all of us, but to think you have to compete is the road to torment. The only people that count are the ones that adore you just as you are. "
I can't compete with the women on here so I just don't. I'm happy. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Bizarrely, it's not lack of attention or being turned down that makes me less confident. I can cope with that without difficulty.
The attention, I know, is mostly down to having a pulse, boobs and the requisite holes. Therefore I never take any of it at face value so it's not an ego boost. In fact I probably dismiss genuine interest a lot more than I should. I tend to assume, rather unfairly, that every guy just wants to get his dick wet and they contact me because they think I might say yes, not because they particularly want to meet *me*.
Knowing I'm just a piece of meat to some guys, and my appearance being more important than any other aspect of me, can knock my confidence sometimes.
I should also say that it only affects my confidence in how I look. In every other respect my confidence and self esteem are just fine. |
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"I have always been a faurly confident person and Fab hasn't really made a differene to that either way.
It has affected my ability to have "normal" relationships, vanilla dating etc. "
That's what I'm worried about. My time at university is coming to an end so has my time on fab. I've been happily single for two years now. After university completely ends, I plan on seeking a real relationship. My issue is this...
After being on here for as long as i have, seen and read things by people i wish i hadn't. It's left me thinking how can I trust a vanilla relationship when so many are on here and so many are cheating? |
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"The trick to a place like this is simple. Just be yourself! Live in your own skin, who gives a monkeys fuck about who doesn't fancy you. Love yourself, be happy and enjoy who you are. The people who do like you will see that and that's all good. Bottom line "don't worry, be happy". X
Yes, very good advice. There's always going to be someone younger, fitter, hotter that all of us, but to think you have to compete is the road to torment. The only people that count are the ones that adore you just as you are.
I can't compete with the women on here so I just don't. I'm happy. "
The point in competition on here is a simple... its pointless! I refer you to the statement I made earlier x |
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"Bizarrely, it's not lack of attention or being turned down that makes me less confident. I can cope with that without difficulty.
The attention, I know, is mostly down to having a pulse, boobs and the requisite holes. Therefore I never take any of it at face value so it's not an ego boost. In fact I probably dismiss genuine interest a lot more than I should. I tend to assume, rather unfairly, that every guy just wants to get his dick wet and they contact me because they think I might say yes, not because they particularly want to meet *me*.
Knowing I'm just a piece of meat to some guys, and my appearance being more important than any other aspect of me, can knock my confidence sometimes.
I should also say that it only affects my confidence in how I look. In every other respect my confidence and self esteem are just fine."
I/we can't be doing with that piece of meat crap either. But it goes hand in hand with online contacts... many guys do act that way but then so do some ladies & couples.. woods through the trees but the wood is there |
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"I have always been a faurly confident person and Fab hasn't really made a differene to that either way.
It has affected my ability to have "normal" relationships, vanilla dating etc.
That's what I'm worried about. My time at university is coming to an end so has my time on fab. I've been happily single for two years now. After university completely ends, I plan on seeking a real relationship. My issue is this...
After being on here for as long as i have, seen and read things by people i wish i hadn't. It's left me thinking how can I trust a vanilla relationship when so many are on here and so many are cheating? "
Now that's a damn good question! My answer woukd be that there are far more nice people in the world than horrible ones. And you just have to hope you find a good one. Good luck to ya hun x |
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"there are far more nice people in the world than horrible ones. And you just have to hope you find a good one. "
It's all luck of the draw, innit? I am far from daft/naive, but believed for a full two years that I had an exclusive relationship, as that was agreed. No reason to suspect things were different. Until one day a picture was erroneously shown...
Does the world go up in flames? Na. But it will take a while before I will fully trust again. |
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The attention, I know, is mostly down to having a pulse, boobs and the requisite holes. Therefore I never take any of it at face value so it's not an ego boost. In fact I probably dismiss genuine interest a lot more than I should. I tend to assume, rather unfairly, that every guy just wants to get his dick wet and they contact me because they think I might say yes, not because they particularly want to meet *me*.
I totally agree with this. I think this is what's knocked my confidence. I find it hard to believe guys could actually want to meet "me" and not my "holes and boobs" I'll get there though. |
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"I have always been a faurly confident person and Fab hasn't really made a differene to that either way.
It has affected my ability to have "normal" relationships, vanilla dating etc.
That's what I'm worried about. My time at university is coming to an end so has my time on fab. I've been happily single for two years now. After university completely ends, I plan on seeking a real relationship. My issue is this...
After being on here for as long as i have, seen and read things by people i wish i hadn't. It's left me thinking how can I trust a vanilla relationship when so many are on here and so many are cheating?
Now that's a damn good question! My answer woukd be that there are far more nice people in the world than horrible ones. And you just have to hope you find a good one. Good luck to ya hun x"
Thank you. You're very kind. Good job I don't think everyone is the same. So many local guys are on this site and I know a few of them are in relationships because I know their wives and or girlfriends! Just difficult to sort the good from the bad. X |
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