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would you fuck someone knowing that they are in a relationship?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Question: you've pages and pages of text on your profile. If you're in a relationship is there any reason why you thought all that other stuff was more important? |
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"Yea, it's there problem
Nsa remember?"
I've watched a couple of telly programmes recently where that's not the case. One ended up dead,good job it's just a tv programme  . Makes you think though... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yea, it's there problem
Nsa remember?
I've watched a couple of telly programmes recently where that's not the case. One ended up dead,good job it's just a tv programme . Makes you think though..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably, yes.
I think who I have sex with is between me and them.
It's their choice to behave how ever they wish in their own relationship.
Though I wouldn't get involved in a relationship with someone who was already taken. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would depend on the relationship.
If it was breaking the rules of their relationship to have sex with other people, then no I wouldn't.
If their relationship was such that they could have sex with other people, then sure thing. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I will say No but then again, I meet in clubs and saunas so I have absolutely no clue their situation.....
and if they had a very big cock, I wouldn't fucking care 
my hypocrisy knows no bounds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who are we to judge. People make their own choices "
You didn't mention judging. You were talking about choice. And you should give people the information clearly so thst they can make that choice.
You shouldn't withhold that information because you believe they shouldn't judge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isn't that 90% of the site? "
I like the sarcasm but I think you're wrong perhaps 60 % ?
Yes I would in answer to the question but not if I knew her OH personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would guess half of the single guys we have met are in relationships .
To be honest , we have no idea whether they are or not , but it's not our problem or conscience so it's a yes from us . |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
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Not if their other half didn't know or consent, it Wouldn't Be compatible with my personal morality.
I Don't make any judgements about those who are on here or meet without their partners consent, everyone has their own reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question: you've pages and pages of text on your profile. If you're in a relationship is there any reason why you thought all that other stuff was more important?"
There's no rule that says it must be stated on a profile, lots of people choose not too for a variety of reasons.
As long as they inform on messaging I don't see it as a problem.
And to answer the OP ~ Yes, but it's on an individual basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, we won't knowingly meet someone in a relationship (behind their partners back) morally it doesn't sit right with us, but we don't want to get involved in someone else's relationship drama if their other half found out.
Sasha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think we all have at some point
I do hope some people mind that first step from their high horses "
I have.
And then decided I wouldn't do that again.
This whole taking the piss out of people thing who choose not to have sex with those in relationships really wears thin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We struggled with this one when we started swinging together, and to begin with we wouldn't knowingly play with people that we knew were 'cheating'. Nowadays, our attitude is 'Fuck it. Other people's moral issues aren't our problem.' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It surprises me how many couples are ok with it...
I wonder how they'd feel if they found out their partner was having sex with others behind their back? Would they feel any resentment towards the people who knowingly fucked their partner behind their back without a care, or would they only be angry at their other half? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This whole taking the piss out of people thing who choose not to have sex with those in relationships really wears thin.
I agree!
so do i "
Me three. I just don't find attached people attractive.
Certainly don't find the idea of sneaking about behind someones back fun or sexy either (if they're cheating). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I will say No but then again, I meet in clubs and saunas so I have absolutely no clue their situation.....
and if they had a very big cock, I wouldn't fucking care
my hypocrisy knows no bounds"
This is what I would say! When we are at a club we don't ask! I often don't speak to the guy at all or know what they look like   I'm blind as a bat without my glasses on and they have to come off for shagging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has "
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This whole taking the piss out of people thing who choose not to have sex with those in relationships really wears thin.
I agree!
so do i "
As does the other side of the coin, the 'piss' I believe is taken evenly.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship."
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would guess half of the single guys we have met are in relationships .
To be honest , we have no idea whether they are or not , but it's not our problem or conscience so it's a yes from us ."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It surprises me how many couples are ok with it...
I wonder how they'd feel if they found out their partner was having sex with others behind their back? Would they feel any resentment towards the people who knowingly fucked their partner behind their back without a care, or would they only be angry at their other half?"
Why would they be angry at the other people in that scenario? It's their partner that cheated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure "
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes not our problem we not cheating as long as we don't know the people why should we worry...
If I found out I was getting cheated on in this way would only be resentful towards my cheating partner they the ones sneaking about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not as a rule. But have met the guy from a couple we have played with his partner. We also spoke to her before hand to make sure it was ok with her... well infact it was her idea x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem"
I came to the conclusion that if they have no respect for their partner - as evidenced by the fact that they will happily lie to them and break the covenants of their relationship - then they will have even less respect for me.
My body is not a free for all. I don't want to have sex with people who don't respect me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It surprises me how many couples are ok with it...
I wonder how they'd feel if they found out their partner was having sex with others behind their back? Would they feel any resentment towards the people who knowingly fucked their partner behind their back without a care, or would they only be angry at their other half?
Why would they be angry at the other people in that scenario? It's their partner that cheated."
I assume some would find it easier to direct their anger & lay the blame at an unknown 3rd party as opposed to their partner.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem
I came to the conclusion that if they have no respect for their partner - as evidenced by the fact that they will happily lie to them and break the covenants of their relationship - then they will have even less respect for me.
My body is not a free for all. I don't want to have sex with people who don't respect me."
You think cheats will see your body as a free for all? And will lack respect for you? I'm a cheat and I have a lot of respect for the people I talk to and meet with on here. We all have different reasons.. yes cheating is wrong but we're not all evil sex obsessed beings out to hurt everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It surprises me how many couples are ok with it...
I wonder how they'd feel if they found out their partner was having sex with others behind their back? Would they feel any resentment towards the people who knowingly fucked their partner behind their back without a care, or would they only be angry at their other half?
Why would they be angry at the other people in that scenario? It's their partner that cheated.
I assume some would find it easier to direct their anger & lay the blame at an unknown 3rd party as opposed to their partner...."
It's a funny world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My body is not a free for all. I don't want to have sex with people who don't respect me.
You think cheats will see your body as a free for all? And will lack respect for you? I'm a cheat and I have a lot of respect for the people I talk to and meet with on here. We all have different reasons.. yes cheating is wrong but we're not all evil sex obsessed beings out to hurt everyone. "
I just feel like if they don't respect their partner, why would they respect someone they're fucking outside of their relationship?
And if someone has more respect for people they fuck outside their relationship than the people they're in a relationship with - then they're not somebody I personally want to be having sex with either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My body is not a free for all. I don't want to have sex with people who don't respect me.
You think cheats will see your body as a free for all? And will lack respect for you? I'm a cheat and I have a lot of respect for the people I talk to and meet with on here. We all have different reasons.. yes cheating is wrong but we're not all evil sex obsessed beings out to hurt everyone.
I just feel like if they don't respect their partner, why would they respect someone they're fucking outside of their relationship?
And if someone has more respect for people they fuck outside their relationship than the people they're in a relationship with - then they're not somebody I personally want to be having sex with either."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My body is not a free for all. I don't want to have sex with people who don't respect me.
You think cheats will see your body as a free for all? And will lack respect for you? I'm a cheat and I have a lot of respect for the people I talk to and meet with on here. We all have different reasons.. yes cheating is wrong but we're not all evil sex obsessed beings out to hurt everyone.
I just feel like if they don't respect their partner, why would they respect someone they're fucking outside of their relationship?
And if someone has more respect for people they fuck outside their relationship than the people they're in a relationship with - then they're not somebody I personally want to be having sex with either."
You've articulated my exact feelings on the matter. C |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem"
Wow. That's shitty. So much for sisterhood.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem
Wow. That's shitty. So much for sisterhood. "
Sisterhood? Lol I just think it's a site for nsa fun I don't tend to get involved I'm not saying I go looking for taken guys but it wouldn't put me off. Besides, we're not going to agree and I can't be bothered arguing with someone I don't know either so I'll leave it there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If the other half spoke to me and I knew they were okay with it I may consider it but I'd rather not ....
However if it's a case of they are cheating then avoid like a plague .... I have unknowingly been that person before and it wasn't nice when his gf came and confided in me asking for relationship advice and there's my face just dropped cos I had been fucking him for two years ...
So wrong!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem
Wow. That's shitty. So much for sisterhood. "
What exactly is this 'sisterhood' that people keep bringing up on here?
Is this why so many women love to gang up on men? What utter bollocks. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Um, at the moment I won't meet people I know, or strongly suspect are cheating on a partner.
But I've been wavering on that stance for a while. I'm sticking with it whilst I'm not sure though. It's a thorny issue for me.
If the attached person is meeting with the knowledge and agreement of their other half, I'm fine with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem
Wow. That's shitty. So much for sisterhood.
What exactly is this 'sisterhood' that people keep bringing up on here?
Is this why so many women love to gang up on men? What utter bollocks. "
I was thinking along the same lines.
'sisterhood' ~ reminiscent of being a teenager. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Would. Have. Do.
I still make my own judgements on what my conscience allows, same as everyone else, the difference is don't I apply a blanket approach to everyone.
I won't be crying into my weetabix that someone from the internet doesn't want to meet me because I'm married, and I wouldn't imagine many others are either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're entitled to your opinions. I'd like to think I'm better than to do that to another woman though...  "
The great thing about opinions ~ we can all be right |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would. Have. Do.
I still make my own judgements on what my conscience allows, same as everyone else, the difference is don't I apply a blanket approach to everyone.
I won't be crying into my weetabix that someone from the internet doesn't want to meet me because I'm married, and I wouldn't imagine many others are either. "
Succinctly put. I have done and will continue to do so - they can deal with their conscience and I'll manage mine. |
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OP people on here don't give a flying toss if the person is in a "monogamous" relationship or not so if I were you I wouldn't either, unless you have morals of course then it's a totally different ball game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would
I can't help wonder how would you know for sure that they're partner had given consent or that people truly are single? It happens, it always will and it always has
That is totally different. The title is self explanatory....*KNOWING* that they are in a relationship.
Yes I know I read it if you'd read my post properly you'd see I asked how would you KNOW for sure
My point was if people are good enough to tell me before we meet that theyre in a relationship and their partner doesn't know about it, then I don't see the problem
Wow. That's shitty. So much for sisterhood. "
I get what you mean, looking out for others that you don't even know and not hurting them behind their back. You just extended mutual consent to ignorant parties, which is fair enough.
I think it's a good set of personal morals so i do work the same way. Not worth falling out over, some other people won't agree with you and they won't force you to change your mind about how you do things either. We're all consenting adults on this site doing legal things, you can't really force people to change their mind about stuff and have to let others do their thing, no matter how much it annoys you or upsets you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get what you mean, looking out for others that you don't even know and not hurting them behind their back. You just extended mutual consent to ignorant parties, which is fair enough."
You hit the nail on the head for me there.
It's fundamentally down to consent. I don't get involved with anyone who isn't consenting. If someone is in a 'monogamous' relationship but their partner isn't consenting to them having sex with me, then one party isn't consenting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get what you mean, looking out for others that you don't even know and not hurting them behind their back. You just extended mutual consent to ignorant parties, which is fair enough.
You hit the nail on the head for me there.
It's fundamentally down to consent. I don't get involved with anyone who isn't consenting. If someone is in a 'monogamous' relationship but their partner isn't consenting to them having sex with me, then one party isn't consenting."
I also don't see why i should give someone something they want when they're so easy to not give a shit about what their partner wants either.
For a swinging 'community' i don't see anything communal or social about fucking people who are not actually available for fucking with.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, we won't knowingly meet someone in a relationship (behind their partners back) morally it doesn't sit right with us, but we don't want to get involved in someone else's relationship drama if their other half found out.
Sasha x"
...totally agree xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Never, if it were without the knowledge and against the desires of the third party.
I once found myself on a support forum for single parents whose partners had cheated on them. It was really horrible stuff to read. Cheating does a number on you as a person when you've trusted someone like that.
I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. |
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