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Is it Possible to be Completely Without any Prejudices?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi - I (male) consider myself to be pretty well balanced and have always taken people as I find them, regardless of age, creed, colour, sexuality etc. I got into a little 'debating' on another thread today and questioned myself as to whether I did, indeed, have any prejudices. If I honestly look myself in the mirror - I have - and it's probably due to a large variety of background factors (mostly around being human). Indeed, a very learned friend of mine will assert that it is impossible for any human being to have no prejudices - due to socio-economic factors, parenting, class, heritage and own life experience etc.
I want people to be completely HONEST here and not play political games for popularity or points scoring. Is it possible for any human being to have no prejudices whatsoever? (i.e. against any other particular type of human being. |
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I don't believe it's possible.
For much the same reasons as your friend.
I believe the important thing to do though is to acknowledge that, and adjust your behavior as much as you can, and accept it when people you might be being prejudiced against tells you you are being that.
Which is tough as fuck, obvs.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't believe it's possible.
For much the same reasons as your friend.
I believe the important thing to do though is to acknowledge that, and adjust your behavior as much as you can, and accept it when people you might be being prejudiced against tells you you are being that.
Which is tough as fuck, obvs. "
Yes - certainly my learning point from today ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We all have our prejudices due to, as your friend says, our upbringing, our environment and our life experiences. It all depends how you use those prejudices. If you use them to judge people straight away then you're very blinkard. I believe that sometimes we use prejudices unconsciously as a safety net, but like you, I prefer to judge people on how they are and not who they are. It's a basic fact that we all make presumptions of different people in society rather than just judge them as a person and how they treat you. I always say, treat everyone how you would like to be treated. Unfortunately not everyone is like that which is why we still have racism based on ridiculous stereotypes. Unfortunately some people will never change. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi - I (male) consider myself to be pretty well balanced and have always taken people as I find them, regardless of age, creed, colour, sexuality etc. I got into a little 'debating' on another thread today and questioned myself as to whether I did, indeed, have any prejudices. If I honestly look myself in the mirror - I have - and it's probably due to a large variety of background factors (mostly around being human). Indeed, a very learned friend of mine will assert that it is impossible for any human being to have no prejudices - due to socio-economic factors, parenting, class, heritage and own life experience
I want people to be completely HONEST here and not play political games for popularity or points scoring. Is it possible for any human being to have no prejudices whatsoever? (i.e. against any other particular type of human being."
Only if you are a nun, or a monk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think it's human nature to pick faults with other people, things that don't fit in with the social accepted template for what's normal ,but the whole idea of what is social acceptable is constantly changing ,what was once taboo and off limits in the 40's and 50's is now regarded as the norm ,stereotypes change and people's mind sets shift ,so for me each to there own I guess ,everybody is different and everybody likes what they like regardless of what society dictates what we should like etc etc |
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I think a certain amount if pre -judging is inevitable if you don't have much experience of the group in question.
But having prejudice initially is one thing. Treating someone badly or unfairly because of it is another. Take each individual as you find them..... regardless of how you may perceive the "group". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think everybody has prejudices. The knack is not to act according to them but find out the facts and make up your own mind. Don't follow the herd. The key is education. That never stops, no matter how old you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi - I (male) consider myself to be pretty well balanced and have always taken people as I find them, regardless of age, creed, colour, sexuality etc. I got into a little 'debating' on another thread today and questioned myself as to whether I did, indeed, have any prejudices. If I honestly look myself in the mirror - I have - and it's probably due to a large variety of background factors (mostly around being human). Indeed, a very learned friend of mine will assert that it is impossible for any human being to have no prejudices - due to socio-economic factors, parenting, class, heritage and own life experience etc.
I want people to be completely HONEST here and not play political games for popularity or points scoring. Is it possible for any human being to have no prejudices whatsoever? (i.e. against any other particular type of human being."
if you are talking about meeting a person and on face value I take everyone as I find them across the board so in terms of that no but if you are talking sexually then many things get in the way of that  |
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"No I don't think it's possible. But I think you can be aware of your prejudices, know they are wrong, and act accordingly. "
This!
Society has so many stereotypes about different kinds of people, it is impossible not to absorb them and unconsciously reach for them sometimes. Just have to be as aware to it as possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think prejudices prob stem back from when we first walked the earth ,its inherent in our nature ,because when man first walked the earth ,you'd regard somebody you didn't know as a threat ,so it's ingrained in us to judge ,friend or foe ,fight or flight |
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"Hi - I (male) consider myself to be pretty well balanced and have always taken people as I find them, regardless of age, creed, colour, sexuality etc. I got into a little 'debating' on another thread today and questioned myself as to whether I did, indeed, have any prejudices. If I honestly look myself in the mirror - I have - and it's probably due to a large variety of background factors (mostly around being human). Indeed, a very learned friend of mine will assert that it is impossible for any human being to have no prejudices - due to socio-economic factors, parenting, class, heritage and own life experience etc.
I want people to be completely HONEST here and not play political games for popularity or points scoring. Is it possible for any human being to have no prejudices whatsoever? (i.e. against any other particular type of human being."
No, but it is possible to be tolerant and not to waste your time with affairs that do not concern you...
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't believe it's possible for someone to have no prejudices at all.
I do believe it's possible to refrain from letting others know about those prejudices. |
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I agree with Scarlet earlier, we all have prejudices whether it is men in white sox, taxi drivers, students etc. The challenge is how to be non judgemental,or in my case less judgemental with your prejudices.
Good luck to you all. .J |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think everyone has some prejudice. Or strong opinions. I know I do. "
 same here.
I passionately believe in equality but am aware of the hypocrisy I display in my intolerance of those who judge people by gender, race, sexual it etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I believe our upbringing is a major factor and prejudiced behaviour we are all guilty off.
Fortunately for me my work meant that I've mixed with just about every kind of group, nationality, etc and now as a fully grown mature adult I judge just about nobody on this planet.
I got it very wrong in the past but now believe I can say I never judge a book by it's cover. Cliché I know but I would be very disappointed in myself if I ever did now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be very very naive, I didn't judge what so ever and honestly believed there was good in everyone and people who hurt others were themselves hurting and were misunderstood. It turned into a very painful life lesson and has taken me years to heal from. We have to judge to a certain level as self preservation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would say its pretty impossible without some kind of neurological or behavioural condition.
As humans we constantly judge everything. Its part of our reptilian brain which filters through...safe/danger at its basest level. Added to that is our prediliction for pattern recognition, memory, and processing and we automatically base every decision on past experiences. These 'memories' dont even have to be our own (our brains dont know the difference between a real and imagined memory)
It can take real effort to overcome and unlearn these prejudices and usually have to be tackled one at a time.
As previously said though the main thing is recognising them in yourself and dealing with them appropriately |
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" Everyone has prejudices..that's human. It's how you act on them. You can't help what you feel but you can help how you behave."
Not sure about it been human..I don't believe we are born with prejudices,it is something we aquire through all kinds of inputs and our experiences |
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"Although I'm laid back and generally non prejudicial, I find its the individual o dislike rather than the group - does that make sense? Xx"
. It makes lots of sense to me( Mrs cmy) and I am totally with you, glad you found the words to describe me as I would have struggled to put how I am as a person as well as this |
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By *xelciscoMan
over a year ago
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@tootyfruity,
I see this as unavoidable since the notion of prejudice is linked to the notion of perceptions and hence culture and thereby society.. so in a multicultural environment you are bound to encounter misalignment. They key is a to ask oneself what one has a bias for or against (without subconscious censorship), and exert "cultural awareness" (ie curiosity towards others). Together they are a step towards tolerance. But then we all have a threshold for each situation.. which can be perceived differently... I think your friend is right.
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"Oh the black folks hate the white folks
And the white folks hate the black folks
To hate all but the right folk is and old established rule...!
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Tom Lehrer - National Brotherhood Week
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aIlJ8ZCs4jY |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've learnt that lesson the hard way myself by trusting somebody to much ,is the question though are people prejudice or should the question be have people lost good manners and forgotten communicate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got no Prejudice's at all... expect maybe fascists err no fascists and fools.. And leftist regressive types
And maybe rappers can't stand no rap..
Politicans there cunts
Billionaires, bricklayers, chavs, aggressive old people, people who spit for no reason, people who only like hot sunny weather..WTF were humans not lizards, people that unload there shopping onto the conveyer belt really slowly.. Come on come on, it's not a fucking hobby, royalty, foreigners, foreign royalty.. There splitters oh and Romans, although technically there foreigners they fall into exceptional foreigners... Like south Africans... I've never meet a nice south African.
Apart from that I'm prejudice free! |
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""Oh the black folks hate the white folks
And the white folks hate the black folks
To hate all but the right folk is and old established rule...!
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Tom Lehrer - National Brotherhood Week
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aIlJ8ZCs4jY"
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"Also I wonder sometimes is it really prejudice or just lack of understanding"
This!!
I think it can be both, the latter leading to the former. No one can realise their prejudice until they've been told. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think everybody has prejudices. The knack is not to act according to them but find out the facts and make up your own mind. Don't follow the herd. The key is education. That never stops, no matter how old you are. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lack of understand ,me for example im married and being a very naughty man ,my choice my reasons ,but for the few women on here that have messaged me called me scum etc etc ,not a single one has cared to get to know me first ,it's he's married cheating must be a cunt msg abuse lol |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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No. Prejudice helps us cope with things we do not know or understand. Without prejudice we would not be able to form judgement and be able to operate safely. Simple day to day motor skills like judging height and distance - we are prejudicial about about walking down too many steps, or braking too hard in the car. Without becoming involved we would be prejudicial to them. Similarly; avoiding or maybe facing off more complex social events - like a hundred people staring at you for no reason. Prejudice keeps us safe as we have formed judgements based on previous experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi - I (male) consider myself to be pretty well balanced and have always taken people as I find them, regardless of age, creed, colour, sexuality etc. I got into a little 'debating' on another thread today and questioned myself as to whether I did, indeed, have any prejudices. If I honestly look myself in the mirror - I have - and it's probably due to a large variety of background factors (mostly around being human). Indeed, a very learned friend of mine will assert that it is impossible for any human being to have no prejudices - due to socio-economic factors, parenting, class, heritage and own life experience etc.
I want people to be completely HONEST here and not play political games for popularity or points scoring. Is it possible for any human being to have no prejudices whatsoever? (i.e. against any other particular type of human being."
sometimes my mind is still in the dark ages and i forget that my words can cause offence i'm ashamed to say, and probably because i don't understand stuff |
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