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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Oh god ok firstly I would like to apologise for offending people yesterday and for then being childish when responding to other peoples comments towards me. Ok for people that didn't see my thread I made a point how seeing someone that has been verified (SEX MEETS) twenty times+ is a bit of a turn off for me. Yes extremely hypocritical and contradictory of the site and swinging. I wasn't saying errr look at her or anything of the such. Simply wondering why my brain took dislike to seeing that but accepting of my own sexual encounters. After how the thread when down yesterday the answers I was looking are not needed. This thread is too simply apologise and explain my actions yesterday. Thank you and sorry C

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By *empting Devil.Woman  over a year ago

Sheffield

I have around a hundred and fifty veris and they're pretty much all meet for drinks meets - what's your stance on that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I have around a hundred and fifty veris and they're pretty much all meet for drinks meets - what's your stance on that? "
not a problem what so ever I'm simply talking sex meets hence the brackets around the words sex meets

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Good on you, OP.

And it is an interesting question in any case. It has come up before so it clearly effects more than just you. It would be interesting to hear people's opinions.

-Courtney

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By *empting Devil.Woman  over a year ago

Sheffield


"I have around a hundred and fifty veris and they're pretty much all meet for drinks meets - what's your stance on that? not a problem what so ever I'm simply talking sex meets hence the brackets around the words sex meets "

I don't show my summary or all my veris as so many make judgements about the quantity.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have around a hundred and fifty veris and they're pretty much all meet for drinks meets - what's your stance on that? "
are you an alcoholic hehe

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

A verification just shows that person meets.

How many and who, doesn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Good on you, OP.

And it is an interesting question in any case. It has come up before so it clearly effects more than just you. It would be interesting to hear people's opinions.

-Courtney "

thanks Courtney. I think my stance is better explained this time round

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By *abulouswingersCouple  over a year ago

nr lichfield staffs

Maybe you should Join a social media site instead!!!!!

This is a sex site!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Hey it takes a man to admit they are wrong ,think what you want from this site and how difficult it is if you make rash decisions about things ,the forums form a small section of this site so don't really reflect the success you can have here so don't worry too much what we think

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster


"I have around a hundred and fifty veris and they're pretty much all meet for drinks meets - what's your stance on that? not a problem what so ever I'm simply talking sex meets hence the brackets around the words sex meets "

But would you see 150 veris as the number and pre judge her or would you open them up to read if they were sex or social meets?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Veris mean nothing op theyre easily faked/made up

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"A verification just shows that person meets.

How many and who, doesn't matter. "

know I'm not talking social meets, drinks, or anything of the kind. I'm only talking about published sexual verifications when you've repeated guys talking about how dirty or what not she is. I think people misunderstood what u mean yesterday like you are now

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster


"A verification just shows that person meets.

How many and who, doesn't matter. know I'm not talking social meets, drinks, or anything of the kind. I'm only talking about published sexual verifications when you've repeated guys talking about how dirty or what not she is. I think people misunderstood what u mean yesterday like you are now "

What if those veris are from repeat meets so they have lots of veris but from a few select people, would they still be undesirable to you?

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By *oxy_minxWoman  over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

You also need to take into consideration of how long they been on site as well.Ive been here for over 6 years but you would never know that

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too...

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"A verification just shows that person meets.

How many and who, doesn't matter. know I'm not talking social meets, drinks, or anything of the kind. I'm only talking about published sexual verifications when you've repeated guys talking about how dirty or what not she is. I think people misunderstood what u mean yesterday like you are now

What if those veris are from repeat meets so they have lots of veris but from a few select people, would they still be undesirable to you? "

hey who am I too judge. I appreciate your questions but without being drawn into row I only but this thread up because I upset a few people yesterday. I didn't explain myself fully and was childish when questioned. So with all due respect just read the thread it speak for it self C

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster

Also factor int that this site has been running since befor you were even if a legal age to have sex once you e been on here over a year that is all the profile says of when they joined, if they been on for say 10 years, had 3 meets per year that still 30 veris in all the time they've been on fab, on those scales it's hardly an excessive number but it's over the desired figure you seem to pre-judging people a upon

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster


"A verification just shows that person meets.

How many and who, doesn't matter. know I'm not talking social meets, drinks, or anything of the kind. I'm only talking about published sexual verifications when you've repeated guys talking about how dirty or what not she is. I think people misunderstood what u mean yesterday like you are now

What if those veris are from repeat meets so they have lots of veris but from a few select people, would they still be undesirable to you? hey who am I too judge. I appreciate your questions but without being drawn into row I only but this thread up because I upset a few people yesterday. I didn't explain myself fully and was childish when questioned. So with all due respect just read the thread it speak for it self C"

I didn't see the thread yesterday and as we've previously chatted privately I would hope you don't think I'm being funny I'm just curious

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have around a hundred and fifty veris and they're pretty much all meet for drinks meets - what's your stance on that? "

If you're paying that's fine

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We have been on with this account for just over a year with over 400 sexual verified meets , and plenty more which aren't verified .

Would I be correct in thinking that may be too many for the op ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Op most women nower days have fukd multiple blokes and they aint even on fab . If its a virgin your after your probably looking in the wrong place.

I hope thats of assistance

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too... "

But then it's playing into the old sexist stereotype that it's ok for men to have loose sex and they are a stud for it but a woman that does it is a slag. I have a personal distaste for that kind of sterotype on a site that aimed at sexual freedom and expression, where people are consenting adults

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We have been on with this account for just over a year with over 400 sexual verified meets , and plenty more which aren't verified .

Would I be correct in thinking that may be too many for the op ?

"

Hes maybe worried it be like throwing a banana into a bus stop lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too... "

exactly!! No not making it up it's a plausible theory surly shared by other people. People just won't admit it because of feeling hypocritical. My inbox went crazy with people agreeing with me yesterday. So it must be that fab swingers is full of half hearted swingers. Or at least slightly jealous characters who will sleep with women in abundance but turn their noses up at women who do.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too... "

That is all plausible.

But if he met a girl on a night out, he wouldn't know her history. She may have had sex with dozens before him, he may just be the next one. So is it the publication of how many she/they have played with and the knowledge that goes with that?

Regardless of whether it is him collecting the verifications or someone else he still has that choice of who he plays, with as do they. For many men the more verifications someone has the better. Obviously not the op.

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By *tillup4funMan  over a year ago

Wakefield


"A verification just shows that person meets.

How many and who, doesn't matter. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It is not acceptable to call anyone a slut a slag or a whore be it male or female . Thats sexist . And in my opinion wrong

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster


"It is not acceptable to call anyone a slut a slag or a whore be it male or female . Thats sexist . And in my opinion wrong "

As would be implying it but many do

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too...

But then it's playing into the old sexist stereotype that it's ok for men to have loose sex and they are a stud for it but a woman that does it is a slag. I have a personal distaste for that kind of sterotype on a site that aimed at sexual freedom and expression, where people are consenting adults "

But I'm not playing into any stereotype. I'm saying there might be a biological reason for these feelings. Labels like stud and slag are societal, not biological. That's why I said we have to reason with ourselves and for those who feel this way but still want to swing perhaps they need to consider the difference in their automatic response and their reasoned one.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too... "

hehe chipperoo that did make me laugh but weirdly it has a ring of plausibility to it ,jealousy is in us all I think that's the main problem also desiring a woman / man for yourself and so much so that that person is all you really need but fab offers the opportunity to avoid wanking to achieve the orgasm you can have it with a promiscuous partner with 700 verifications hehe and as in the words of that famous bar " cheers" everybody doesn't know your name

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We all judge each other for a myriad of reasons. It's fine, in my view, to be either attracted or put off someone because of the number of verifications - be that too many or too few. It's probably best to keep that in your head though, and not to extrapolate out into suggesting everyone with loads of verifications is a slut and everyone with few is a timewaster or needy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living."
listen stop being agist. Now I got a bit aggy with you yesterday so il do my best to keep my words pleasant. Ok first question are you the founder of this site?? Did you create the age limit to swing?? Also because I use this site are you saying I've no life?? Clem I have a life off this site. My own business a daughter. I use this for a bit if fun and sex. Yes this is a swingers site but people like me out number the real swingers. I don't class my self as a certified swinger I just like sex. This sites name is misleading.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Well done OP for apologising and clarifying your point. I'm assuming this is more how you wanted the thread to go down

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

At the end of the day theres a fukin great big rock coming our way ?

Get as much fuking done as possible . Fuk me hang ya arse oot tge window if you gotta ladies :p

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Everyone likes to fuk, get over it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living. listen stop being agist. Now I got a bit aggy with you yesterday so il do my best to keep my words pleasant. Ok first question are you the founder of this site?? Did you create the age limit to swing?? Also because I use this site are you saying I've no life?? Clem I have a life off this site. My own business a daughter. I use this for a bit if fun and sex. Yes this is a swingers site but people like me out number the real swingers. I don't class my self as a certified swinger I just like sex. This sites name is misleading. "
hey don't get drawn in people love to stir and you are easy pickings

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living. listen stop being agist. Now I got a bit aggy with you yesterday so il do my best to keep my words pleasant. Ok first question are you the founder of this site?? Did you create the age limit to swing?? Also because I use this site are you saying I've no life?? Clem I have a life off this site. My own business a daughter. I use this for a bit if fun and sex. Yes this is a swingers site but people like me out number the real swingers. I don't class my self as a certified swinger I just like sex. This sites name is misleading. hey don't get drawn in people love to stir and you are easy pickings "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We have hardly any verifications in person but we've met a lot more people outside of fab or who just haven't verified. Can't judge based on what's online. Sweet of you to own up and apologise xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Well done OP for apologising and clarifying your point. I'm assuming this is more how you wanted the thread to go down"
cheers buddy and yeah I just didn't explain myself fully yesterday

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"We have hardly any verifications in person but we've met a lot more people outside of fab or who just haven't verified. Can't judge based on what's online. Sweet of you to own up and apologise xx"
understood and thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living. listen stop being agist. Now I got a bit aggy with you yesterday so il do my best to keep my words pleasant. Ok first question are you the founder of this site?? Did you create the age limit to swing?? Also because I use this site are you saying I've no life?? Clem I have a life off this site. My own business a daughter. I use this for a bit if fun and sex. Yes this is a swingers site but people like me out number the real swingers. I don't class my self as a certified swinger I just like sex. This sites name is misleading. hey don't get drawn in people love to stir and you are easy pickings "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ruby iv lost my bteath looking at yr pic, coukd you please come fart down my throat and bring me back to life

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We have been on with this account for just over a year with over 400 sexual verified meets , and plenty more which aren't verified .

Would I be correct in thinking that may be too many for the op ?

"

yes you would be right but you don't care either way ,its your life live it the way you want to and give little thought to how others perceive you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ruby iv lost my bteath looking at yr pic, coukd you please come fart down my throat and bring me back to life "

Best chat up line ever!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living. listen stop being agist. Now I got a bit aggy with you yesterday so il do my best to keep my words pleasant. Ok first question are you the founder of this site?? Did you create the age limit to swing?? Also because I use this site are you saying I've no life?? Clem I have a life off this site. My own business a daughter. I use this for a bit if fun and sex. Yes this is a swingers site but people like me out number the real swingers. I don't class my self as a certified swinger I just like sex. This sites name is misleading. "

This illustrates your immaturity perfectly. And by your own admission this website and how it works isn't for you. There's an obvious solution.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living. listen stop being agist. Now I got a bit aggy with you yesterday so il do my best to keep my words pleasant. Ok first question are you the founder of this site?? Did you create the age limit to swing?? Also because I use this site are you saying I've no life?? Clem I have a life off this site. My own business a daughter. I use this for a bit if fun and sex. Yes this is a swingers site but people like me out number the real swingers. I don't class my self as a certified swinger I just like sex. This sites name is misleading.

This illustrates your immaturity perfectly. And by your own admission this website and how it works isn't for you. There's an obvious solution. "

I thank you for your time and well thought out comments. Also I'd like to thank you for highlighting the youthfulness of my life and just to let you know you've added an extra bit of spring to my step so once again thank you so much clem

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"You're to young, stop trying to swing, and start living. listen stop being agist. Now I got a bit aggy with you yesterday so il do my best to keep my words pleasant. Ok first question are you the founder of this site?? Did you create the age limit to swing?? Also because I use this site are you saying I've no life?? Clem I have a life off this site. My own business a daughter. I use this for a bit if fun and sex. Yes this is a swingers site but people like me out number the real swingers. I don't class my self as a certified swinger I just like sex. This sites name is misleading.

This illustrates your immaturity perfectly. And by your own admission this website and how it works isn't for you. There's an obvious solution. I thank you for your time and well thought out comments. Also I'd like to thank you for highlighting the youthfulness of my life and just to let you know you've added an extra bit of spring to my step so once again thank you so much clem "

My pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Meanwhile back at the ranch

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ruby iv lost my bteath looking at yr pic, coukd you please come fart down my throat and bring me back to life

Best chat up line ever!! "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ruby iv lost my bteath looking at yr pic, coukd you please come fart down my throat and bring me back to life

Best chat up line ever!!

"

You know you want to

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Ruby iv lost my bteath looking at yr pic, coukd you please come fart down my throat and bring me back to life

Best chat up line ever!!

"

ha ha ha think you've pulled

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ruby iv lost my bteath looking at yr pic, coukd you please come fart down my throat and bring me back to life

Best chat up line ever!!

ha ha ha think you've pulled "

Did the sarcasm not come through?? maybe I need coaching and more practice lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Good on you for apologising op

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Good on you for apologising op "
thank you vara

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By *VineMan  over a year ago

The right place


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too...

But then it's playing into the old sexist stereotype that it's ok for men to have loose sex and they are a stud for it but a woman that does it is a slag. I have a personal distaste for that kind of sterotype on a site that aimed at sexual freedom and expression, where people are consenting adults

But I'm not playing into any stereotype. I'm saying there might be a biological reason for these feelings. Labels like stud and slag are societal, not biological. That's why I said we have to reason with ourselves and for those who feel this way but still want to swing perhaps they need to consider the difference in their automatic response and their reasoned one. "

Courtney, I think I'm a little bit in love with you.

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By *ty31Man  over a year ago

NW London

It's am interesting question and it's got me thinking. I think a fair few blokes are a bit insecure about some things (cock size, sexual performance etc) and as such would be too concerned with comparing themselves to her other sexual partners.

Also society is still generally skewed towards monogamy and exclusive relationships, I think that because of this girls who have more than an average number of sexual partners are (misogynistically) viewed as being "damaged goods."

Also society tends to place the male as being in a "hunters" role and this results in promiscuous girls being seen to have given in too easily and therefore not as desirable. Conversely a male who is "successful" increases their desirability.

I also think that a Males perceived attractivness To women is often influenced by the women he has slept with.

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too...

But then it's playing into the old sexist stereotype that it's ok for men to have loose sex and they are a stud for it but a woman that does it is a slag. I have a personal distaste for that kind of sterotype on a site that aimed at sexual freedom and expression, where people are consenting adults

But I'm not playing into any stereotype. I'm saying there might be a biological reason for these feelings. Labels like stud and slag are societal, not biological. That's why I said we have to reason with ourselves and for those who feel this way but still want to swing perhaps they need to consider the difference in their automatic response and their reasoned one.

Courtney, I think I'm a little bit in love with you. "

Missed your response Courtney aand that's all good by me as long as the stereotyping isn't implied

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"It's am interesting question and it's got me thinking. I think a fair few blokes are a bit insecure about some things (cock size, sexual performance etc) and as such would be too concerned with comparing themselves to her other sexual partners.

Also society is still generally skewed towards monogamy and exclusive relationships, I think that because of this girls who have more than an average number of sexual partners are (misogynistically) viewed as being "damaged goods."

Also society tends to place the male as being in a "hunters" role and this results in promiscuous girls being seen to have given in too easily and therefore not as desirable. Conversely a male who is "successful" increases their desirability.

I also think that a Males perceived attractivness To women is often influenced by the women he has slept with."

Excellent answer sir!!! Cracking points made. I think it all applies, it's a power thing. I consciously mean to think like that's just do. And also I'm not the only one

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"His question is why he (and presumably others) is ok with having sex with multiple people but has a negative reaction when he sees the same in others. It's an interesting question. Science can probably explain it if any of us were keen enough to look it up.

Maybe biologically speaking you are supposed to want to have sex with as many people as possible but are also programmed to not want women to do the same because that means they could be impregnated by other men's sperm? Seems plausible to me.

Even if you consciously try to avoid feeling that way there might just be an inherent negative reaction in your brain.

If we try to be open minded and reason with ourselves then I think we can overcome this biological drive, though.

I could have just made that all up too...

But then it's playing into the old sexist stereotype that it's ok for men to have loose sex and they are a stud for it but a woman that does it is a slag. I have a personal distaste for that kind of sterotype on a site that aimed at sexual freedom and expression, where people are consenting adults

But I'm not playing into any stereotype. I'm saying there might be a biological reason for these feelings. Labels like stud and slag are societal, not biological. That's why I said we have to reason with ourselves and for those who feel this way but still want to swing perhaps they need to consider the difference in their automatic response and their reasoned one.

Courtney, I think I'm a little bit in love with you. "

I'll let Marc know

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I don't consciously mean to think like that lol. Bad typo

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By *ancs MinxWoman  over a year ago

Burnley


"I have around a hundred and fifty veris and they're pretty much all meet for drinks meets - what's your stance on that? not a problem what so ever I'm simply talking sex meets hence the brackets around the words sex meets

I don't show my summary or all my veris as so many make judgements about the quantity."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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Courtney, I think I'm a little bit in love with you. "

Ermm, there's a queue here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

You're not alone in your way of thinking. When I first joined I was inundated with messages from men who wanted to meet Fab virgin. Some went as far as saying they didn't want to meet a woman who has had lots of partners. I left and rejoined a few months later and was messaged by a lot of the same men,all assuming that,because I was new and had no verifications I hadn't had many partners. I could have lied but I let them know that,previous to being on here,I had a very active sex life. Look at my verifications,how many people do you think I have had sex with in my life?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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Courtney, I think I'm a little bit in love with you.

Ermm, there's a queue here."

He said Courtney not Marc

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By *urvymamaWoman  over a year ago

Doncaster


"You're not alone in your way of thinking. When I first joined I was inundated with messages from men who wanted to meet Fab virgin. Some went as far as saying they didn't want to meet a woman who has had lots of partners. I left and rejoined a few months later and was messaged by a lot of the same men,all assuming that,because I was new and had no verifications I hadn't had many partners. I could have lied but I let them know that,previous to being on here,I had a very active sex life. Look at my verifications,how many people do you think I have had sex with in my life? "

I had it too as a newbie even to the degree that I was called "untainted" in one message. I didn't realise sexual promiscuity only exsist end on fab

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

seams you got sum old Victorian values. where it's probly wouldn't notice if a guy had 150 meets but because it was a woman you seam to have a issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"You're not alone in your way of thinking. When I first joined I was inundated with messages from men who wanted to meet Fab virgin. Some went as far as saying they didn't want to meet a woman who has had lots of partners. I left and rejoined a few months later and was messaged by a lot of the same men,all assuming that,because I was new and had no verifications I hadn't had many partners. I could have lied but I let them know that,previous to being on here,I had a very active sex life. Look at my verifications,how many people do you think I have had sex with in my life? "
your verifications gives no indications as to how many partners you've had. But your honesty and the way you've answered my thread does.

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