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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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18 months ago I walked out on my ex and having no where to go I left my kids with him knowin they will be looked after and it was best for them to stay at home then move from settee to settee and not guaranteed a bed for the night. I was having regular contact with them and spoke to them every day. things were going great with contact until a few weeks ago when I got a letter from his solicitor saying he wants full custody of them so he can take them to Spain to live with his new wife.
Well today's is the day where I fight in court. Only problem is he has 2 barristers and his solicitor. All I have is me. X
If u can't say anything nice I would rather you keep your opinion to your self x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You must be a bag of nerves!
I hope that the day goes well for you and the court finds a solution which allows your children to have both parents in their lives - I can only imagine how you must be feeling.
Try not to be intimidated my his legal representation and focus on what is truly best for your children x |
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By *abphilMan
over a year ago
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"18 months ago I walked out on my ex and having no where to go I left my kids with him knowin they will be looked after and it was best for them to stay at home then move from settee to settee and not guaranteed a bed for the night. I was having regular contact with them and spoke to them every day. things were going great with contact until a few weeks ago when I got a letter from his solicitor saying he wants full custody of them so he can take them to Spain to live with his new wife.
Well today's is the day where I fight in court. Only problem is he has 2 barristers and his solicitor. All I have is me. X
If u can't say anything nice I would rather you keep your opinion to your self x"
Been there done that but as a man obviously. If you are treat as badly as i was its going to be a hard day. Dont give up though keep fighting and i hope your god smiles on you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"18 months ago I walked out on my ex and having no where to go I left my kids with him knowin they will be looked after and it was best for them to stay at home then move from settee to settee and not guaranteed a bed for the night. I was having regular contact with them and spoke to them every day. things were going great with contact until a few weeks ago when I got a letter from his solicitor saying he wants full custody of them so he can take them to Spain to live with his new wife.
Well today's is the day where I fight in court. Only problem is he has 2 barristers and his solicitor. All I have is me. X
If u can't say anything nice I would rather you keep your opinion to your self x"
good luck huni i carnt even imagine how you must be feeling
hold your head up high and just tell them that your a mother who wants her children home x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm pretty sure under parental responsibility you have joint custody, as far as I know he can not take them out the uk without your permission, good luck Hun make sure you know your rights  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty sure under parental responsibility you have joint custody, as far as I know he can not take them out the uk without your permission, good luck Hun make sure you know your rights "
That's why he taking me court time get full pr and custody x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What are you hoping for from today? Do you have a place that can hold yourself and the kids? Can you adequately provide for your kids? These are all things that the court will look at. Usually the court will look to allow joint custody in normal circumstances. Be prepared for some mud slinging from the ex though as he will probably look to discredit you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm pretty sure under parental responsibility you have joint custody, as far as I know he can not take them out the uk without your permission, good luck Hun make sure you know your rights
Its a shame you didnt post sooner i you can have free legal aid xx"
I went to several solicitors and under the new legal aid cuts I couldn't get it because I'm working and there wasn't any violence or social services involved x and on min wage there is no way I can afford to pay x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, I wish you the best of luck. What a horrible situation.
Did you seek free legal advice? This sounds serious and I really hope the outcome is the best it can be for everyone involved.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, I wish you the best of luck. What a horrible situation.
Did you seek free legal advice? This sounds serious and I really hope the outcome is the best it can be for everyone involved.
-Courtney "
Went to several solicitors and all told me same thing xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, I wish you the best of luck. What a horrible situation.
Did you seek free legal advice? This sounds serious and I really hope the outcome is the best it can be for everyone involved.
-Courtney
Went to several solicitors and all told me same thing xx "
It's realy sad you're in this position. I hope it turns out well. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"OP, I wish you the best of luck. What a horrible situation.
Did you seek free legal advice? This sounds serious and I really hope the outcome is the best it can be for everyone involved.
-Courtney
Went to several solicitors and all told me same thing xx "
The legal aid cuts are beyond evil.
Justice is too often only available to the wealthy in this country now, which is shameful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, I wish you the best of luck. What a horrible situation.
Did you seek free legal advice? This sounds serious and I really hope the outcome is the best it can be for everyone involved.
-Courtney
Went to several solicitors and all told me same thing xx
It's realy sad you're in this position. I hope it turns out well. "
Now if I wasn't working I would have got legal aid... it takes piss. I've always worked even when I was with ex and juggling 5 kids school runs ect I still did it. But now I need something in return I can't. I can see why people stay on benefits all their life's x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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UPDATE... thank you everyone for the good luck xxx
Court has been ajorned. I need to get a full statement sorted and he needs to get evidence of all shit he told in court x |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"UPDATE... thank you everyone for the good luck xxx
Court has been ajorned. I need to get a full statement sorted and he needs to get evidence of all shit he told in court x"
That sounds promising  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"UPDATE... thank you everyone for the good luck xxx
Court has been ajorned. I need to get a full statement sorted and he needs to get evidence of all shit he told in court x
That sounds promising "
Seeing as all the shit he said was lies he won't be able to get any evidence xx |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"UPDATE... thank you everyone for the good luck xxx
Court has been ajorned. I need to get a full statement sorted and he needs to get evidence of all shit he told in court x
That sounds promising
Seeing as all the shit he said was lies he won't be able to get any evidence xx"
Is it stuff you can get evidence to prove it's not true? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"UPDATE... thank you everyone for the good luck xxx
Court has been ajorned. I need to get a full statement sorted and he needs to get evidence of all shit he told in court x
That sounds promising
Seeing as all the shit he said was lies he won't be able to get any evidence xx
Is it stuff you can get evidence to prove it's not true?"
Yeah x apprently I'm a dirty smack head... let um do drug test, apparently I'm mentally unstable... let um do assessments on me...apparently I'm lieing bout my job paying child care... letter from work.... my house is a shit hole... photos and visits x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When speaking to overcome the nerves, just think of everyone in their underwear, oops Sorry that is for interviews.
Stick to the facts, speak from the heart and don't stoop low to Skaggs him off. Good luck. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"UPDATE... thank you everyone for the good luck xxx
Court has been ajorned. I need to get a full statement sorted and he needs to get evidence of all shit he told in court x
That sounds promising
Seeing as all the shit he said was lies he won't be able to get any evidence xx
Is it stuff you can get evidence to prove it's not true?
Yeah x apprently I'm a dirty smack head... let um do drug test, apparently I'm mentally unstable... let um do assessments on me...apparently I'm lieing bout my job paying child care... letter from work.... my house is a shit hole... photos and visits x"
Proving he's lying should strengthen your case and weaken his. Courts tend not to like being lied to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't have face pics showing on a swingers site whilst going through a custody battle.
Good luck "
My sex life has nothing to do with how i care for kids xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been through something similar and all I can say is gather loads of statements from friends family the school your Dr anyone who knows u and if he has lied! My ex did they will be caught out! We ended up sorting it through mediation as he didn't have a leg to stand on! X |
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