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over a year ago
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Ive not had sex for 7 months (ish), Im not even desperate for it.. infact it doesnt even bother me that ive not had it... any tips on getting my 'mojo' back?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on you but i find myself a bit randy after some naughty porn before i go out, some drinks and then flirting in public..then normally can't wait to get home and go nuts!  |
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over a year ago
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i watch porn, i get myself off, just cant bring myself to sleep with someone. i know its pretty pathetic.
had a baby just over a year ago and my ex cheated on me and left.. just feel pretty crumby about the situation i guess. Being a single parent means i get little time to myself. i need therapy i think lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i watch porn, i get myself off, just cant bring myself to sleep with someone. i know its pretty pathetic.
had a baby just over a year ago and my ex cheated on me and left.. just feel pretty crumby about the situation i guess. Being a single parent means i get little time to myself. i need therapy i think lol"
It's not easy being a single parent as babies take up so much of your time.
What about getting some time just to be you, have a pamper time and just chill to music and have a glass of wine.
Your ex may have knocked your self confidence a bit, compounded with being a parent 24/7 takes it out of you.
You need time to be you for you, then your mojo may come back when you least expect it. xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i watch porn, i get myself off, just cant bring myself to sleep with someone. i know its pretty pathetic.
had a baby just over a year ago and my ex cheated on me and left.. just feel pretty crumby about the situation i guess. Being a single parent means i get little time to myself. i need therapy i think lol"
No way do you need therapy, just a self confidence boost and some good people around u, the loving will follow. If you can't get out because of your baby get your mates round, no1 can afford to go out anyway! Few bottles of wine, girly chats. Me and my bezzie always enjoy pissed trivial pursuit. Sounds like it's been a shit time for you, just remember not to let it break you, otherwise you're letting your ex and the other haters win.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive not had sex for 7 months (ish), Im not even desperate for it.. infact it doesnt even bother me that ive not had it... any tips on getting my 'mojo' back?
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Your verification says you had a "bit of do" a couple of weeks ago  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ive not had sex for 7 months (ish), Im not even desperate for it.. infact it doesnt even bother me that ive not had it... any tips on getting my 'mojo' back?
Your verification says you had a "bit of do" a couple of weeks ago "
he was someone id been with before i joined the site and he found me on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i watch porn, i get myself off, just cant bring myself to sleep with someone. i know its pretty pathetic.
had a baby just over a year ago and my ex cheated on me and left.. just feel pretty crumby about the situation i guess. Being a single parent means i get little time to myself. i need therapy i think lol"
I would suggest you give yourself a break, and don't judge yourself so harshly. (I am usually my own harshest critic!)
Also with very little time for yourself and your bodys natural rythms being changed after having a baby, it isn't surprising really.
My suggestion would be to get yourself along to a social.
This is because my personal experience is that it boosts your confidence, and nothing is sexier than a confident woman!
It also puts faces to the names you interact with on the forums, and subsequently friends and meets too!
Its also an inexpensive but guaranteed fun night out!
Good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have the same here as what with xmas and my ex partner dying, havent really wanted to, lost my motivation, and i think you have hit the nail on the head with mojo 
Perhaps our mojo's have made friends and are having a whale of a time shagging the world  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps our mojo's have made friends and are having a whale of a time shagging the world "
Tis also to do with the time of year, methinks, been missing mine since Xmas, but hoping to find it tomorrow- did i mention the social lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its like im purposely making excuses not to have sex.. just do it naturally and afterward im like 'wtf did i say that for?!'
Im not short of offers (as i doubt any female on here is) but i find that i wont even meet up with guys ive been with before.. incase im crap and lost my touch.
Still im not the type just to sleep with anyone, i frustrate myself.
On one note i think perhaps i should sleep with someone i know cos then id feel within a comfort zone to a certain degree, but then its like 'sod it kim,, fuck a stranger and if it was crap id never have to see them again' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its like im purposely making excuses not to have sex.. just do it naturally and afterward im like 'wtf did i say that for?!'
Im not short of offers (as i doubt any female on here is) but i find that i wont even meet up with guys ive been with before.. incase im crap and lost my touch.
Still im not the type just to sleep with anyone, i frustrate myself.
On one note i think perhaps i should sleep with someone i know cos then id feel within a comfort zone to a certain degree, but then its like 'sod it kim,, fuck a stranger and if it was crap id never have to see them again'"
why do you feel this pressure to perform. it is for fun and pleasure that you do it. I see no reason why from time to time you should not take a bit of a laid-back role/roll. Look for a meet with someone who seems genuinely to seek the pleasure of the female and then just enjoy. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps our mojo's have made friends and are having a whale of a time shagging the world
my mojo (when i had it) was a dirty filthy minded thing... god help your mojo if my mojo has got hold of it lol "
Cue server failure due to hailstorm of messages lol
Will only be crap if you worry, so chillout and picksomeone who you know, that way you will relax into it xx |
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over a year ago
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its been 7 months!!! i used to be a right lil minx, if i dont have sex,, when will i get round to it?? lol
its like im a virgin all over again haha
id suck cock all day long and it wouldnt bother me,, but i just dont like being touched by a man. Having the map of the uk stretch marked out on my stomach doesnt help either lol
Im smiling, else id be crying lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its been 7 months!!! i used to be a right lil minx, if i dont have sex,, when will i get round to it?? lol
its like im a virgin all over again haha
id suck cock all day long and it wouldnt bother me,, but i just dont like being touched by a man. Having the map of the uk stretch marked out on my stomach doesnt help either lol
Im smiling, else id be crying lol "
Sounds like you need the services of a nice man who will treat you like a goddess for the night, restore your confidence, if you ask me! |
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"Sounds like you need the services of a nice man who will treat you like a goddess for the night, restore your confidence, if you ask me!"
just finding the right one. deffo after a man (not a boy) experienced, a gentleman who will become a bit dominant if i begin to wimp out lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive not had sex for 7 months (ish), Im not even desperate for it.. infact it doesnt even bother me that ive not had it... any tips on getting my 'mojo' back?
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Not read the full thread, but just had a look at your profile and I must say the picture of you in that red top is very nice. If it's representative of you now, your a very attractive women. (We will never meet because we are in different parts of the country, so be assured I'm not saying this to chat you up or for some bulls**t motive. It's the truth. Great pic). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its been 7 months!!! i used to be a right lil minx, if i dont have sex,, when will i get round to it?? lol
its like im a virgin all over again haha
id suck cock all day long and it wouldnt bother me,, but i just dont like being touched by a man. Having the map of the uk stretch marked out on my stomach doesnt help either lol
Im smiling, else id be crying lol "
I have had 6 kids.. . I have been cheated on, left, abused,hurt... yet when the RIGHT man touches me it feels amazing.. No one cares about strech marks... no one is expecting perfect.. LOVE yourself, and the rest will follow...
You know when my Master lays as much as a finger along the inside of my wrist my body shivers in a good way. Its all about believing in yourself..
Stop putting so much negative thoughts about.
Katie.x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not read the full thread, but just had a look at your profile and I must say the picture of you in that red top is very nice. If it's representative of you now, your a very attractive women. (We will never meet because we are in different parts of the country, so be assured I'm not saying this to chat you up or for some bulls**t motive. It's the truth. Great pic). "
thank you for saying those kind words, im relatively happy with my appearence, its just the mental attitude towards sex. i need to get over it, living in fear of pregnancy doesnt help either lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Start slow. If you want to ease yourself back into sex, then don't have sex the first time. There are plenty of things you can do outside of penetration. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I sort of know what you mean. I do get horny time to time(I'm still a guy ) but after sorting myself out I'm like, *meh* watch a bit of tv/film/read a book.
But in general I just can't be bothered. Perhaps it's the cold dark days? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sometimes I just need hugs. "
I feel that way, you know someone to wake up snuggled up with... hot sex too mind, but you need a cup of tea to dunk your digestive in!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sometimes I just need hugs.
I feel that way, you know someone to wake up snuggled up with... hot sex too mind, but you need a cup of tea to dunk your digestive in! "
he he and with a bit of luck drop off while it's still in there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Start slow. If you want to ease yourself back into sex, then don't have sex the first time. There are plenty of things you can do outside of penetration. "
its just finding a man who is understanding. a lot on here are 'wham bam thank you ma'am' types - cant blame them really its what the site is about |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Start slow. If you want to ease yourself back into sex, then don't have sex the first time. There are plenty of things you can do outside of penetration.
its just finding a man who is understanding. a lot on here are 'wham bam thank you ma'am' types - cant blame them really its what the site is about "
There are guys on here who are understanding, but I guess the trick is working out which ones are truly genuine and not pretending to be, just so they can mark their card. I don't envy you ladies at all with that situation.
Maybe the fact that you are concerned so much by the fact that you've lost your 'mojo' that it's scared to show itself for fear of disappointing you. This type of thing happens with a lot of people, try not to stress about it, it will come back with time, it's just taking a little sabbatical. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like you need the services of a nice man who will treat you like a goddess for the night, restore your confidence, if you ask me!
just finding the right one. deffo after a man (not a boy) experienced, a gentleman who will become a bit dominant if i begin to wimp out lol"
Come up to ours for the weekend, me and u can do the girly shopping and dancing and you can have Alex
Take your time though - doing it with the wrong person could make you feel worse. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are guys on here who are understanding, but I guess the trick is working out which ones are truly genuine and not pretending to be, just so they can mark their card. I don't envy you ladies at all with that situation.
Maybe the fact that you are concerned so much by the fact that you've lost your 'mojo' that it's scared to show itself for fear of disappointing you. This type of thing happens with a lot of people, try not to stress about it, it will come back with time, it's just taking a little sabbatical. xxx"
thanks.. just dont wanna sleep with someone and have them think 'that was shit' Im all about pleasing the man, thats how i get my pleasure.. kinda selfish really lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sounds like you need the services of a nice man who will treat you like a goddess for the night, restore your confidence, if you ask me!
just finding the right one. deffo after a man (not a boy) experienced, a gentleman who will become a bit dominant if i begin to wimp out lol
Come up to ours for the weekend, me and u can do the girly shopping and dancing and you can have Alex
Take your time though - doing it with the wrong person could make you feel worse. Xx"
haha very flattered but you are stunningly beautiful and doubt very much that your other half would appriciate being lumbard with me when he has you
did make me smile though |
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"There are guys on here who are understanding, but I guess the trick is working out which ones are truly genuine and not pretending to be, just so they can mark their card. I don't envy you ladies at all with that situation.
Maybe the fact that you are concerned so much by the fact that you've lost your 'mojo' that it's scared to show itself for fear of disappointing you. This type of thing happens with a lot of people, try not to stress about it, it will come back with time, it's just taking a little sabbatical. xxx
thanks.. just dont wanna sleep with someone and have them think 'that was shit' Im all about pleasing the man, thats how i get my pleasure.. kinda selfish really lol"
Pleasing the man is in no way selfish, whether it pleasures you or not!! Maybe you can find (or already know) somebody who understands your situation and is prepared to be patient and just hang out with you, have hugs, enjoy your company, have a laugh with no sexual activity at all, then it may tease that mojo out! I know that's not exactly sound advice for a swingers site, but it might be what you need to get you back to where you want to be...swinging the the rest of 'em! xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like you need the services of a nice man who will treat you like a goddess for the night, restore your confidence, if you ask me!
just finding the right one. deffo after a man (not a boy) experienced, a gentleman who will become a bit dominant if i begin to wimp out lol
Come up to ours for the weekend, me and u can do the girly shopping and dancing and you can have Alex
Take your time though - doing it with the wrong person could make you feel worse. Xx
haha very flattered but you are stunningly beautiful and doubt very much that your other half would appriciate being lumbard with me when he has you
did make me smile though "
Alex is with me. Says whoever cheated and left you if a right numpty! Wouldn't be lumbered either!
Regardless of whether you're a swinger or vanilla my advice would be the same (have a gf going through similar now) friends, wine, gossip, new things, booking days away and spending lots of time with your kid. Throw yourself into work and yourself and watch yourself flourish. As soon as that happens, everything else will, on here or "the real world".
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Darlington as took the words out of my mouth,be with friends enjoy there company and your mojo will come back,everyones a bit flat this time of year sweets x |
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"Sounds like you need the services of a nice man who will treat you like a goddess for the night, restore your confidence, if you ask me!
just finding the right one. deffo after a man (not a boy) experienced, a gentleman who will become a bit dominant if i begin to wimp out lol
Come up to ours for the weekend, me and u can do the girly shopping and dancing and you can have Alex
Take your time though - doing it with the wrong person could make you feel worse. Xx
haha very flattered but you are stunningly beautiful and doubt very much that your other half would appriciate being lumbard with me when he has you
did make me smile though
Alex is with me. Says whoever cheated and left you if a right numpty! Wouldn't be lumbered either!
Regardless of whether you're a swinger or vanilla my advice would be the same (have a gf going through similar now) friends, wine, gossip, new things, booking days away and spending lots of time with your kid. Throw yourself into work and yourself and watch yourself flourish. As soon as that happens, everything else will, on here or "the real world".
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That's very sound advice. |
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"Ive not had sex for 7 months (ish), Im not even desperate for it.. infact it doesnt even bother me that ive not had it... any tips on getting my 'mojo' back?
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I know just how ya feel.
I have a famine here at the mo |
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"There are guys on here who are understanding, but I guess the trick is working out which ones are truly genuine and not pretending to be, just so they can mark their card. I don't envy you ladies at all with that situation.
Maybe the fact that you are concerned so much by the fact that you've lost your 'mojo' that it's scared to show itself for fear of disappointing you. This type of thing happens with a lot of people, try not to stress about it, it will come back with time, it's just taking a little sabbatical. xxx
thanks.. just dont wanna sleep with someone and have them think 'that was shit' Im all about pleasing the man, thats how i get my pleasure.. kinda selfish really lol"
I'm amazed. On a post this morning I was enjoying some fun banter with you and had no idea you were feeling so low. It really didn't come across. Most guys enjoy pleasing the woman too - we are 'task oriented' and just like to know we've done a good job - we're relatively simple creatures in that regard. I think it depends on you whether a stranger or 'friend' would be best. As you point out one offers a limited impact if things don't go right, the other offers a familiarity that may make you more comfortable/confident.
Is it worth checking out you don't have a mild form of post natal depression too? As a Dad of two I promise I don't say that lightly, it can be a really shitty time generally. You're not likely to feel glam when tired and putting your baby's needs before your own but it might be worth checking out. I hope you find your mojo soon and some lucky person better watch out when you do I reckon!!! Good luck. |
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"Darlington as took the words out of my mouth,be with friends enjoy there company and your mojo will come back,everyones a bit flat this time of year sweets x "
Ts peeps just glad I could offer advice. Never like to see people unhappy. |
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