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Stuck up people !

By *nlyThaBest OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

Manners cost nothing, fed up the way stuck up couples and singles don't take 2 seconds to even type thanks but no thanks. Wouldn't even mind a copy and paste rather than the rudeness off nothing. And as for that nonsense of they get so many mails it's impossible to reply to all, bollocks. Do you not think it takes literally hours and hours to read profiles, then write a respectful and relavent message to you out. Stuck up and ruder what I call it, rant over. Thanks to the respectful, friendly, cool people who make it worth while

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By *inzi LTV/TS over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

I've been stuck up a few people!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No Valentine?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been stuck up a few people!

That made me giggle. ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Manners cost nothing, fed up the way stuck up couples and singles don't take 2 seconds to even type thanks but no thanks. Wouldn't even mind a copy and paste rather than the rudeness off nothing. And as for that nonsense of they get so many mails it's impossible to reply to all, bollocks. Do you not think it takes literally hours and hours to read profiles, then write a respectful and relavent message to you out. Stuck up and ruder what I call it, rant over. Thanks to the respectful, friendly, cool people who make it worth while

I replied a no thanks about half an hour ago and was told "eff off then you old trout" so forgive me if am a stuck up bitch but replying to most guys gets you grief its just not worth my time

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By *rincesscaracoupleCouple over a year ago

Saltburn

If you actually take time to read profiles and only message if appropriate you are one of the few, we never reply to the wankers who think a message is "hi I wanna fuck your pussy". But we always say thanks to a well written message.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Sorry but nope I wont change.

Most of my messages either haven't read my profile or do not meet my preference....so why should I bother with them? When they clearly haven't bothered to respect me.

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By *nlyThaBest OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do."

It's not an assumption is it ? Surely if they don't reply, and my statement is that they don't reply, and they don't, that's then a fact ?

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By *nlyThaBest OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

"I've been stuck up a few people!

Hahaha

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

Uuurgh.

I hate it when people pull out the old "manners cost nothing" line.

In this case yes, they do. They cost time and effort.

And there are women on here who actually *do* get a hundred messages every day. Why should they spend their time saying "no thanks" to every single person who has contacted them.

And that bs about time spent reading profiles and crafting messages?! No one is forcing you to do that. If you spend all that time on it that's your choice. And yet women who receive messages aren't allowed to choose how they spend their time?!

Do you reply to every piece of junk mail addressed to you? Why not? Do you know how much time and money went into designing that piece of marketing??!?!

This is an equivalency.

No reply = no interest. If you, as an adult, still need to be explicitly told that, then..... well....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

No thankyou op

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By *rincesscaracoupleCouple over a year ago

Saltburn

Sorry but nope I wont change.

Most of my messages either haven't read my profile or do not meet my preference....so why should I bother with them? When they clearly haven't bothered to respect me. "

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By *nlyThaBest OP Man over a year ago

Liverpool

But surely the ones that do, or have, deserve 30 seconds of your time to at least say thanks but no thanks if there maybe just not your type ?

Sorry but nope I wont change.

Most of my messages either haven't read my profile or do not meet my preference....so why should I bother with them? When they clearly haven't bothered to respect me. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No reply = no thank you.. It really is that simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it Thursday already? lol.

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By *rincesscaracoupleCouple over a year ago

Saltburn

"Uuurgh.

I hate it when people pull out the old "manners cost nothing" line.

In this case yes, they do. They cost time and effort.

And there are women on here who actually *do* get a hundred messages every day. Why should they spend their time saying "no thanks" to every single person who has contacted them.

Do you reply to every piece of junk mail addressed to you? Why not? Do you know how much time and money went into designing that piece of marketing??!?!

This is an equivalency.

No reply = no interest. If you, as an adult, still need to be explicitly told that, then..... well.... "

Fucking well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just use a copy + paste message and you won't have lost too much time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Christ here we go again, no one is obliged to reply to anyone so get the fook over yourself with the hours you put in and your respectful messages, just deal with it or leave the site, also its not just the downtrodden poor single guys that this happens to...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People have said that I'm rude from time to time, but I just tell them bollocks!

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

why is it people are always classed as stuck up when they reject someone or show no interest? People are allowed to have preferences FFS.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are people mate.. Rude, nice, indifferent. One persons disrespect is another persons norm... We can only be who we are, and hope people see through the B/S and in some cases meet in the middle... Life's a bitch, then you get cussed out by one in the forums... Hahaha

I'm gonna get in so much trouble for that... But who cares... I'm a nice person (if not a plonker at times)... Don't need affirmation from others... Though it is nice to receive... Haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So...? If someone I never plan to reply to because I'm not interested in thinks I'm stuck up, then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just use a copy + paste message and you won't have lost too much time.

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I replied a no thanks about half an hour ago and was told "eff off then you old trout" so forgive me if am a stuck up bitch but replying to most guys gets you grief its just not worth my time

Oh wow what an awful thing to say to someone. Agreed there are some weird people on here. We had a couple yesterday saying ooh yes please let's meet after they'd seen our pictures and we'd seen theres, then agreed to a time for meeting and signed off saying catch you later.

We got back home to check we were still on for the meet and we were blocked. Not so much as a sorry but we've decided to do something else or mrs has found she needs to wash her hair or whatever I've found I've got crabs. Some people on here are just so rude.

Glad we didn't meet them really. They were probably crap in bed and we met a much nicer couple anyone.

So big fat raspberry to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

It's not an assumption is it ? Surely if they don't reply, and my statement is that they don't reply, and they don't, that's then a fact ? "

in your ignorance you're presuming they're stuck up. you're also presuming people have time for you.

wait and see.

loads of people will tell you exactly why they don't reply and why they don't have to. i don't care to explain any more why i don't but am gonna point out the faults in what people say themselves when they start these topics.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Send your messages without any expectations, that's what I do, if they don't get replied, it's a no, don't stress over it.

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By *ub_liminalTVTV/TS over a year ago

Belfast

This is a common gripe on fab, perhaps having an automated "no thanks but good luck" button would solve it?

Even that would become grating though.. I'd guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do."

sorry I do agree with the op a little bit here is downright rude not to reply to a message no matter how many emails you get even if it's a no thanks

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

I politely said no thanks yesterday and was called a time waster

That was one of the few times I've bothered and not just deleting.

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By *ohnjones3210Man over a year ago

Chester

I share your pain. I also find it rude. At the end of the day though, women are not obliged to reply.

There are some ladies who do reply to every message. I know one of them. She spends 30 minutes a day reading through messages and sending a copy and paste, polite 'no thanks' message. How respectable.

Men can spend 5-10 minutes sending a message to each woman, I know.

Basically, I know in the real world, ignorance is offensive, but this isn't the real world. Just let it go.

If a woman doesn't bother to reply, give her a day then block her if it offends you. That saves her wasting your time again. If all men did this, she'd soon start replying!

John...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 .......... and breath

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

sorry I do agree with the op a little bit here is downright rude not to reply to a message no matter how many emails you get even if it's a no thanks "

Do you reply to all the junk mail you get through the post?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If getting no reply makes you that angry you should probably reconsider if this is the right site fot you. Your sense of entitlemet will never be met

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By *rincesscaracoupleCouple over a year ago

Saltburn

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

sorry I do agree with the op a little bit here is downright rude not to reply to a message no matter how many emails you get even if it's a no thanks "

ABSOLUTE BOLLOCKS

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Just use a copy + paste message and you won't have lost too much time.

This is what I do. I have a standard "thanks but no thanks" message.

But I fucking hate it when women who don't have the same time and resources as me are slammed as being "rude".

No. Just learn that you don't get to dictate how strangers respond to you.

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By *inzi LTV/TS over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

"I've been stuck up a few people!

That made me giggle. ??"

Then my work is done, I was put on this earth to make people smile and laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, I personally don't see a problem with replying with a no thank you. That is what we do.

But the site rules say that no reply is a no thanks. So people can do it. You shouldn't let these things bother you because they aren't going to change.

-Courtney

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

sorry I do agree with the op a little bit here is downright rude not to reply to a message no matter how many emails you get even if it's a no thanks

ABSOLUTE BOLLOCKS "

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

sorry I do agree with the op a little bit here is downright rude not to reply to a message no matter how many emails you get even if it's a no thanks

Do you reply to all the junk mail you get through the post? "

I'm also interested in the answer to this.

Why is the action of taking no action "rude"? Why do you get to dictate what women do with your message?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually thought I was a pretty nice person - but by your analogy I'm obviously stuck up too! Must be as you've blocked me - and many others I imagine - presumably because I didn't respond to a message you sent?

I've never asked anyone to message me op. I've never demanded that anyone read all my profile or insert a silly code-word. I've never asked anyone to fab my pictures!

I meet very few people from fab - I'm here primarily for the social side and the forum banter! If I don't respond it's either because I never saw the message or I've decided the guy isn't for me - if that makes me stuck up then so be it! X

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By *inzi LTV/TS over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

"I've been stuck up a few people!

Hahaha"

Wow, with a body like that I bet you've been stuck up a few yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I share your pain. I also find it rude. At the end of the day though, women are not obliged to reply.

Men can spend 5-10 minutes sending a message to each woman, I know.

Basically, I know in the real world, ignorance is offensive, but this isn't the real world. Just let it go.

If a woman doesn't bother to reply, give her a day then block her if it offends you. That saves her wasting your time again. If all men did this, she'd soon start replying!

John..."

agreed somewhat with that policy if they don't reply after a day block them saves your own time chasing a lost cause

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"OP, I personally don't see a problem with replying with a no thank you. That is what we do.

But the site rules say that no reply is a no thanks. So people can do it. You shouldn't let these things bother you because they aren't going to change.

-Courtney "

^this. It's literally even in the site rules.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

sorry I do agree with the op a little bit here is downright rude not to reply to a message no matter how many emails you get even if it's a no thanks "

NO IT ISN'T

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just use a copy + paste message and you won't have lost too much time.

This is what I do. I have a standard "thanks but no thanks" message.

But I fucking hate it when women who don't have the same time and resources as me are slammed as being "rude".

No. Just learn that you don't get to dictate how strangers respond to you."

I meant his message in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Single fems will get loads of mail if no filters are on - they'd need a PA to reply to every single one if they're under 30 and hot! So I can see why they wouldn't. Same for couples I imagine too.

Sometimes you get messages that show the messenger hasn't read your profile at all. Again why reply ?

I think the rules say - no reply means not interested rather than being rude or a personal slight. Just move on and don't take it personally. It's not meant that way.

We try to reply to the majority but sometimes you just can't as you don't have the time etc.

Sarah

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By *ohnjones3210Man over a year ago

Chester

I replied a no thanks about half an hour ago and was told "eff off then you old trout" so forgive me if am a stuck up bitch but replying to most guys gets you grief its just not worth my time

Glad we didn't meet them really. They were probably crap in bed and we met a much nicer couple anyone.

So big fat raspberry to them"

If anyone says that, he's nothing other than a dick head.

Some of my friends get some vicious and very personal messages back.

Some men are like this unfortunately, as some women genuinely are stuck up. I don't have time for either.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Just use a copy + paste message and you won't have lost too much time.

This is what I do. I have a standard "thanks but no thanks" message.

But I fucking hate it when women who don't have the same time and resources as me are slammed as being "rude".

No. Just learn that you don't get to dictate how strangers respond to you.

I meant his message in the first place.

Oh. Ha ha ha ha!

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

Anyone with any sense can imagine the level of emails that couples & females get.

With that in mind no one can expect them to reply to the fleet of emails from profiles they simply aint interested in.

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By *urreyloverMan over a year ago

Guildford

I replied a no thanks about half an hour ago and was told "eff off then you old trout" so forgive me if am a stuck up bitch but replying to most guys gets you grief its just not worth my time "

Their reply validated your decision not to meet them. But please do not consider that justification for not replying.

If you excuse the analogy, when I hold doors open for someone (M or F) it is because it is the right thing to do (I'm a gentleman). I don't stop doing it because someone was impolite and ignored me or didn't say thank you!

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"if you've never had any contact from these people how do you know anything about them?

this is a problem with you. you are presuming things about people you don't even know or know why they act they way they do.

sorry I do agree with the op a little bit here is downright rude not to reply to a message no matter how many emails you get even if it's a no thanks

Do you reply to all the junk mail you get through the post? "

I'm sorry that this analogy is getting ignored by the OP and others on the thread, and I know it is wheeled out as often as the tedious whining messages that invoke it, but it is so apt.

Junk mail targets are well researched, and a lot of care may go into the message, but would you honestly, do you honestly reply to each one, or any one?

Well do you?.......

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Some people reply some people don't. If you accept this your time on the site will be more enjoyable

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