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Why do people cheat???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you suggesting that loving, caring, affectionate, stable and happy long-term relationships all have sex? "
no I'm stating if there is good sex and all the above you said in the relationship why do people still cheat
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you suggesting that loving, caring, affectionate, stable and happy long-term relationships all have sex? I think he's saying the ones with good sex do."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Regardless if the sex is good or bad......there's no excuse for cheating. If someone can cheat on their partner then the don't really love them as much as they think they do "
agree with you there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahh, the daily cheating thread...  my bad miss new to the forums didn't know it was a daily thing haha "
Sorry OP, not getting at you personally, it's just this gets trotted out. A lot. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ahh, the daily cheating thread... my bad miss new to the forums didn't know it was a daily thing haha
Sorry OP, not getting at you personally, it's just this gets trotted out. A lot. x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view "
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx |
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx"
but his question was if the sex is good |
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people want more. More sex,more attention,more reassurance they are desirable. it's rather sad I think "
...more variety too.
Each to their own etc. Some people just live for today - there's a lot to be said for that, as long as you're prepared for the consequences.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view "
Probably for the same reasons that people swing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx"
What peach says |
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx
What peach says "
but that doesn't make sense to what the op is asking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx"
thank you my love but I have my own business and a little daughter lol I was simply looking for answers to an old problem x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xxbut his question was if the sex is good"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Probably for the same reasons that people swing. "
This
I imagine anyone who has good sex at home and still cheats does it for the same reasons Marc and I swing. The only difference is honesty.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Probably for the same reasons that people swing. "
Not comparable at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are that far up their own arses they truly believe they can do as they please.
Some will do anything to satisfy their own needs and basically just use people who are willing to massage their over inflated ego's.
Some believe they're special and for that reason deserve the VIP treatment when it comes to playing away and deserve a free pass.
An old friend of mine was exactly the same his partner got wise and eventually divorced him. Cheating often doesn't end well but it's their choice they have to accept the possible consequences.
This of course doesn't apply to everyone many cheat for different reasons, it's just my view and experience.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view "
Some people get off on the excitement OP. For a certain type of person, something that isn't allowed is inherently more exciting than something that is.
Not saying that's how I feel but just answering the question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx thank you my love but I have my own business and a little daughter lol I was simply looking for answers to an old problem x"
Ok lovely - then I have to say I can't answer in every case!
In some cases it will be because the cheater fells that, deep down, they're not 'good enough' for all that happiness so they screw around and fuck it up - thus proving to themselves, when they're caught out and they lose it all - that they weren't good enough after all!!
And for others it will be simply selfishness! 'This is wonderful - but I want more - I want it all! It's called 'having your cake and eating it!' Silly bloody saying imo - why would you buy a cake and not eat it?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx thank you my love but I have my own business and a little daughter lol I was simply looking for answers to an old problem x
Ok lovely - then I have to say I can't answer in every case!
In some cases it will be because the cheater fells that, deep down, they're not 'good enough' for all that happiness so they screw around and fuck it up - thus proving to themselves, when they're caught out and they lose it all - that they weren't good enough after all!!
And for others it will be simply selfishness! 'This is wonderful - but I want more - I want it all! It's called 'having your cake and eating it!' Silly bloody saying imo - why would you buy a cake and not eat it?? "
haha I know x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view "
Some do it in revenge for the other half being an ass hole
Some do it because they are really unhappy
Some because the fact of getting caught makes the sex better because they shouldn't be doing it in the first place
Some are selfish cunts and full on greedy. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view "
No love or sex in my relationship for years. These are not the only reasons. As others have said, you are young but when you have been married or in a relationship for over 30 years, ask the question then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Some do it in revenge for the other half being an ass hole
Some do it because they are really unhappy
Some because the fact of getting caught makes the sex better because they shouldn't be doing it in the first place
Some are selfish cunts and full on greedy."
the latter made me smile cheers bro |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
No love or sex in my relationship for years. These are not the only reasons. As others have said, you are young but when you have been married or in a relationship for over 30 years, ask the question then "
heard of Viagra and Valium mix haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Probably for the same reasons that people swing.
Not comparable at all. "
I didn't say it's the same as clearly it isn't.
But for the same reasons people swing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if its "loving and caring" and the sex is good theres no way you'd cheat,,,simple still happens
then its not love"
agreed but to sit infront of a person and tell them to they are blue in the face they love them surly they are evil |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if its "loving and caring" and the sex is good theres no way you'd cheat,,,simple still happens
then its not love agreed but to sit infront of a person and tell them to they are blue in the face they love them surly they are evil"
yea their arseholes,,,get rid of em |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if its "loving and caring" and the sex is good theres no way you'd cheat,,,simple still happens
then its not love agreed but to sit infront of a person and tell them to they are blue in the face they love them surly they are evil
yea their arseholes,,,get rid of em"
already gone Hun |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
No love or sex in my relationship for years. These are not the only reasons. As others have said, you are young but when you have been married or in a relationship for over 30 years, ask the question then heard of Viagra and Valium mix haha "
My husband cheated on me at a time when I thought things were ok and no I am not doing payback on him. He never met needed viagra. I guess some here do need the assistance of drugs to get it up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if its "loving and caring" and the sex is good theres no way you'd cheat,,,simple still happens
then its not love agreed but to sit infront of a person and tell them to they are blue in the face they love them surly they are evil"
Been there bud, they are out for self gain that's all don't believe the lies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but his question was if the sex is good"
But then the OP said he agreed there was "never an excuse" and that "it was sad".
So, no, I don't think the OP is just limiting his thoughts and responses to "if the sex is good". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx"
You beat me to it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question "
it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child |
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view "
difficult question to why, the cheating person can only answer that one if they are honest, but that is what makes them cheaters,the fact that they are not honest and get a personal kick out of making you believe they are not cheating and you believe them, they get caught and you forgive, then they do it again & again and cause you forgive them they take advantage of that.
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view "
Cheating is a complexed thing. And it often gas verry luttke to do with sex. Most of tge time its to do with reginubg controll in tge persons life, they maybe depressed for instance. Feel like they hace missed out sexually, sex life unfurfiled. Or using therelationship to get out of something or usibg it as a medium for helping the off addiction to drugs forinstance. |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child "
feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question "
Read what mortgage means in Latin that's where the word comes from |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way"
shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your deacribing a perfect relationship. If it was perfect they wouldnt cheat.
I asked permission but i consoder myself a cheat because i know he doesnt want me to sleep with others. Also i have to sneak around because he asked me not to tell him. Why do i do it? Because years of rejection left me feeling down ugly and unattractive. Also i love sex and affection and he doesnt. Doesnt mean i dont love him xx life is never black and white x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if its "loving and caring" and the sex is good theres no way you'd cheat,,,simple still happens
then its not love agreed but to sit infront of a person and tell them to they are blue in the face they love them surly they are evil"
Confuse maybe, an emotional wreck possibly, but evil ?
I've know people who have cheated on their partners, none of them did it with the intention of causing hurt on their spouses ( not saying those that found out weren't hurt) but none of them are evil people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Here's a new take on the reason.
Scientists from Oxford Uni found that (looking at the right hand) the shorter the index finger in relation to the ring finger, the higher the levels of testosterone that person (male and female) is likely to have been exposed to in the womb – making them more promiscuous.
Looking at my own right hand, the index finger is noticeably shorter than the ring finger - I'll be checking the wife's tonight!
In case you think I'm making this up, here's the article:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/are-you-faithful-or-promiscuous-the-answer-could-lie-in-your-index-finger-10026723.html |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Probably for the same reasons that people swing.
Not comparable at all.
I didn't say it's the same as clearly it isn't.
But for the same reasons people swing."
I can only sspeak for myself but I wouldn't swing without my wife present. For me, swinging is something that enhances our marriage and cheating would be something that would destroy it. Therefore, the motivations could never be the same. At least in terms of how I see it anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Haven't done it myself... but saying that people
cheat within their own lifestyle, so could take
that into account, why do people cheat reality?
I'm more intrigued about that answer.. |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child "
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs "
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"if its "loving and caring" and the sex is good theres no way you'd cheat,,,simple still happens
then its not love agreed but to sit infront of a person and tell them to they are blue in the face they love them surly they are evil
Confuse maybe, an emotional wreck possibly, but evil ?
I've know people who have cheated on their partners, none of them did it with the intention of causing hurt on their spouses ( not saying those that found out weren't hurt) but none of them are evil people."
just had a little girl three months prior FFs that's evil |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs it's always the way Total knock back on your ego "
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"Your deacribing a perfect relationship. If it was perfect they wouldnt cheat.
I asked permission but i consoder myself a cheat because i know he doesnt want me to sleep with others. Also i have to sneak around because he asked me not to tell him. Why do i do it? Because years of rejection left me feeling down ugly and unattractive. Also i love sex and affection and he doesnt. Doesnt mean i dont love him xx life is never black and white x"
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"Your deacribing a perfect relationship. If it was perfect they wouldnt cheat.
I asked permission but i consoder myself a cheat because i know he doesnt want me to sleep with others. Also i have to sneak around because he asked me not to tell him. Why do i do it? Because years of rejection left me feeling down ugly and unattractive. Also i love sex and affection and he doesnt. Doesnt mean i dont love him xx life is never black and white x"
Personally I don't consider this as cheating, there is no deceit and although he may not be 100% happy about it he knows you are doing it and you are as open as he wants you to be.
If he wanted to know all the gory details would you share them with him? |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs "
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know. |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say "
no I'm not at all I get your point but speaking of the sexual side you can't fake gushing you know if a lass fakes it it was always passionate as fuck. She got d*unk and fucked someone else says she will regret it for the rest of her life bla bla bla once a cheat always a cheat |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know."
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs "
Looks don't always come into attraction there's personality too |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know."
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"Here's a new take on the reason.
Scientists from Oxford Uni found that (looking at the right hand) the shorter the index finger in relation to the ring finger, the higher the levels of testosterone that person (male and female) is likely to have been exposed to in the womb – making them more promiscuous.
Looking at my own right hand, the index finger is noticeably shorter than the ring finger - I'll be checking the wife's tonight!
In case you think I'm making this up, here's the article:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/are-you-faithful-or-promiscuous-the-answer-could-lie-in-your-index-finger-10026723.html"
OK so all that kind of stuff just says that some people are more inclined towards an activity than others. At the end of the day, we're not bloody animals and we make conscious choices. The OP explicitly said that the domestic sex was good in their question so I think genetic arguements are an excuse for lack of self control. |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know."
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say no I'm not at all I get your point but speaking of the sexual side you can't fake gushing you know if a lass fakes it it was always passionate as fuck. She got d*unk and fucked someone else says she will regret it for the rest of her life bla bla bla once a cheat always a cheat "
Yes but gushing for a lot of women isn't an orgasm it's certainly not for me. The two are both pleasurable but orgasm is the better experience and the one to strive for when satisfying a lady |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say no I'm not at all I get your point but speaking of the sexual side you can't fake gushing you know if a lass fakes it it was always passionate as fuck. She got d*unk and fucked someone else says she will regret it for the rest of her life bla bla bla once a cheat always a cheat
Yes but gushing for a lot of women isn't an orgasm it's certainly not for me. The two are both pleasurable but orgasm is the better experience and the one to strive for when satisfying a lady "
look mama the sex was good that was not the issue there was no issues we planned a baby together marriage and what not she got d*unk and cheated it wasn't an affair she was d*unk wow now I sound like I'm justifying her actions |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say no I'm not at all I get your point but speaking of the sexual side you can't fake gushing you know if a lass fakes it it was always passionate as fuck. She got d*unk and fucked someone else says she will regret it for the rest of her life bla bla bla once a cheat always a cheat
Yes but gushing for a lot of women isn't an orgasm it's certainly not for me. The two are both pleasurable but orgasm is the better experience and the one to strive for when satisfying a lady look mama the sex was good that was not the issue there was no issues we planned a baby together marriage and what not she got d*unk and cheated it wasn't an affair she was d*unk wow now I sound like I'm justifying her actions "
Again we've only got your word the sex was good and claiming gushing meant it was shows you to be quite naive sexually. |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know.
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts"
don't be so emotional dude it's my ex lol |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know.
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts"
I can say what the Fuck i like freedom of speach, giving the information provided she's a cunt, all cheaters are, touching a nerv am I??  |
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I'm a cheater I'm not proud of it and the reasons for it are not for the public forum, I'd gladly discuss it via pm if anybody I'd that interested, which I doubt, and I respect that.
I am slightly perplexed though.
OP, you seem decent enough, but this thread does have the unpleasant taste of a pissing contest about it, which is a bit of a theme that you've run with this morning, however, in my humble opinion, it's gone from the humorous to the belittling/have a dig.
Just my opinion folks and if some of you are now looking at me in a different light, so be it.
Ironically for a cheater, I tend to be honest when discussing things of importance and values. |
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There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say no I'm not at all I get your point but speaking of the sexual side you can't fake gushing you know if a lass fakes it it was always passionate as fuck. She got d*unk and fucked someone else says she will regret it for the rest of her life bla bla bla once a cheat always a cheat
Yes but gushing for a lot of women isn't an orgasm it's certainly not for me. The two are both pleasurable but orgasm is the better experience and the one to strive for when satisfying a lady look mama the sex was good that was not the issue there was no issues we planned a baby together marriage and what not she got d*unk and cheated it wasn't an affair she was d*unk wow now I sound like I'm justifying her actions
Again we've only got your word the sex was good and claiming gushing meant it was shows you to be quite naive sexually. "
are you for fucking real???look I don't need to express me and her sexually sex was not our issueFULLSTOP. Gushing in my eyes is squirting at orgasm as to being naive sexually I'm not here to measure my balls and bang my chest simply looking for answers |
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Everyone has their own backstory to why they're here or cheat. Some reasons are more understandable / justifiable than others (some will say it's NEVER justified). But without knowing the backstory in full it's a very sweeping generalisation that people can't be in an otherwise loving relationship.
It's always a very divisive subject. |
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"Here's a new take on the reason.
Scientists from Oxford Uni found that (looking at the right hand) the shorter the index finger in relation to the ring finger, the higher the levels of testosterone that person (male and female) is likely to have been exposed to in the womb – making them more promiscuous.
Looking at my own right hand, the index finger is noticeably shorter than the ring finger - I'll be checking the wife's tonight!
In case you think I'm making this up, here's the article:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/are-you-faithful-or-promiscuous-the-answer-could-lie-in-your-index-finger-10026723.html
OK so all that kind of stuff just says that some people are more inclined towards an activity than others. At the end of the day, we're not bloody animals and we make conscious choices. The OP explicitly said that the domestic sex was good in their question so I think genetic arguements are an excuse for lack of self control."
It was a post in jest, not an attempt to prove that promiscuity is beyond our personal control.
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say no I'm not at all I get your point but speaking of the sexual side you can't fake gushing you know if a lass fakes it it was always passionate as fuck. She got d*unk and fucked someone else says she will regret it for the rest of her life bla bla bla once a cheat always a cheat
Yes but gushing for a lot of women isn't an orgasm it's certainly not for me. The two are both pleasurable but orgasm is the better experience and the one to strive for when satisfying a lady look mama the sex was good that was not the issue there was no issues we planned a baby together marriage and what not she got d*unk and cheated it wasn't an affair she was d*unk wow now I sound like I'm justifying her actions
Again we've only got your word the sex was good and claiming gushing meant it was shows you to be quite naive sexually. are you for fucking real???look I don't need to express me and her sexually sex was not our issueFULLSTOP. Gushing in my eyes is squirting at orgasm as to being naive sexually I'm not here to measure my balls and bang my chest simply looking for answers "
You asked for answers I gave you one, you've got on your high horse because that answer in turn questioned your possible sexual prowess. Don't ask questions if you're not prepared to deal with the answers you may not like |
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"There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken "
Cheating is a choice not a mistake |
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A long long time ago I cheated.
It felt wonderful to be wanted,desired,to feel the rush of being in love and to enjoy exploring sexually.
Then guess what. Yup,as always in life the bill arrived and I had to pay the consequences.
Guilt forced me to confess. It was horrendous and dark and affected my chances of holding down a deep meaningful relationship.
Me saying this won't change anyone's mind. But people probably cheat because they can and think they'll never get found out.
Take the happier route. Be totally honest about what you want in life..with yourself and others. Then if they don't want to share the ride,make your choices openly. |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know.
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts
I can say what the Fuck i like freedom of speach, giving the information provided she's a cunt, all cheaters are, touching a nerv am I?? "
Yes you can, but it doesn't mean I have to agree with it, same freedom of speech applies to me as well.
As to touching a nerve, you have no idea of my own personal situation, but no it's not.
I just refuse to jump on the bandwagon of saying the OP is completely in the right without knowing the full facts of the matter |
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"There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken
Cheating is a choice not a mistake"
And all choices you make in life can't turn out to be mistakes then? |
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" A long long time ago I cheated.
It felt wonderful to be wanted,desired,to feel the rush of being in love and to enjoy exploring sexually.
Then guess what. Yup,as always in life the bill arrived and I had to pay the consequences.
Guilt forced me to confess. It was horrendous and dark and affected my chances of holding down a deep meaningful relationship.
Me saying this won't change anyone's mind. But people probably cheat because they can and think they'll never get found out.
Take the happier route. Be totally honest about what you want in life..with yourself and others. Then if they don't want to share the ride,make your choices openly."
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"I'm a cheater I'm not proud of it and the reasons for it are not for the public forum, I'd gladly discuss it via pm if anybody I'd that interested, which I doubt, and I respect that.
I am slightly perplexed though.
OP, you seem decent enough, but this thread does have the unpleasant taste of a pissing contest about it, which is a bit of a theme that you've run with this morning, however, in my humble opinion, it's gone from the humorous to the belittling/have a dig.
Just my opinion folks and if some of you are now looking at me in a different light, so be it.
Ironically for a cheater, I tend to be honest when discussing things of importance and values. "
pissing contest I've posted two threads Spartacus and this ??? |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know.
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts
I can say what the Fuck i like freedom of speach, giving the information provided she's a cunt, all cheaters are, touching a nerv am I??
Yes you can, but it doesn't mean I have to agree with it, same freedom of speech applies to me as well.
As to touching a nerve, you have no idea of my own personal situation, but no it's not.
I just refuse to jump on the bandwagon of saying the OP is completely in the right without knowing the full facts of the matter"
Very true you can , but the OP has thank me for my opinion and help so I don't see any issues in what I said, I agree there are two sides to a story and would gladly listen to bith, but there is no other side to speak to...so for now my option still stands |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child
You're speaking from your experience of your sexual relationship, it may not have been as good for her as you think it was. I'm not by any means saying that justifies her actions however. One of the biggest failings in most relationship is Mis/lack of communication, saying all that "right" things to keep them happy or not risk hurting them when you feel the opposite of what you say no I'm not at all I get your point but speaking of the sexual side you can't fake gushing you know if a lass fakes it it was always passionate as fuck. She got d*unk and fucked someone else says she will regret it for the rest of her life bla bla bla once a cheat always a cheat
Yes but gushing for a lot of women isn't an orgasm it's certainly not for me. The two are both pleasurable but orgasm is the better experience and the one to strive for when satisfying a lady look mama the sex was good that was not the issue there was no issues we planned a baby together marriage and what not she got d*unk and cheated it wasn't an affair she was d*unk wow now I sound like I'm justifying her actions
Again we've only got your word the sex was good and claiming gushing meant it was shows you to be quite naive sexually. are you for fucking real???look I don't need to express me and her sexually sex was not our issueFULLSTOP. Gushing in my eyes is squirting at orgasm as to being naive sexually I'm not here to measure my balls and bang my chest simply looking for answers
You asked for answers I gave you one, you've got on your high horse because that answer in turn questioned your possible sexual prowess. Don't ask questions if you're not prepared to deal with the answers you may not like "
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"The op is saying she cheated and if there were any problems she should of talked to him about it rather than cheat, there are no excuses unless she is a cunt "
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"There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken
Cheating is a choice not a mistake
And all choices you make in life can't turn out to be mistakes then? "
That's different, please tell me that that dick ardently fell in your pussy?? Cmon lol |
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx"
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"There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken
Cheating is a choice not a mistake
And all choices you make in life can't turn out to be mistakes then?
That's different, please tell me that that dick ardently fell in your pussy?? Cmon lol"
if I was black and gangster I'd say brap haha |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know.
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts
I can say what the Fuck i like freedom of speach, giving the information provided she's a cunt, all cheaters are, touching a nerv am I??
Yes you can, but it doesn't mean I have to agree with it, same freedom of speech applies to me as well.
As to touching a nerve, you have no idea of my own personal situation, but no it's not.
I just refuse to jump on the bandwagon of saying the OP is completely in the right without knowing the full facts of the matter
Very true you can , but the OP has thank me for my opinion and help so I don't see any issues in what I said, I agree there are two sides to a story and would gladly listen to bith, but there is no other side to speak to...so for now my option still stands"
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"I'm a cheater I'm not proud of it and the reasons for it are not for the public forum, I'd gladly discuss it via pm if anybody I'd that interested, which I doubt, and I respect that.
I am slightly perplexed though.
OP, you seem decent enough, but this thread does have the unpleasant taste of a pissing contest about it, which is a bit of a theme that you've run with this morning, however, in my humble opinion, it's gone from the humorous to the belittling/have a dig.
Just my opinion folks and if some of you are now looking at me in a different light, so be it.
Ironically for a cheater, I tend to be honest when discussing things of importance and values. pissing contest I've posted two threads Spartacus and this ???"
In retrospect I apologise as to the origin of this not being a pissing contest, although it's going a bit awry. |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know.
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts
I can say what the Fuck i like freedom of speach, giving the information provided she's a cunt, all cheaters are, touching a nerv am I??
Yes you can, but it doesn't mean I have to agree with it, same freedom of speech applies to me as well.
As to touching a nerve, you have no idea of my own personal situation, but no it's not.
I just refuse to jump on the bandwagon of saying the OP is completely in the right without knowing the full facts of the matter
Very true you can , but the OP has thank me for my opinion and help so I don't see any issues in what I said, I agree there are two sides to a story and would gladly listen to bith, but there is no other side to speak to...so for now my option still stands.
True no there's no other side to hear so that's why calling her a cunt may have been a strong term to use "
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"There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken
Cheating is a choice not a mistake
And all choices you make in life can't turn out to be mistakes then?
That's different, please tell me that that dick ardently fell in your pussy?? Cmon lol"
No it didn't because I've never cheated even though my marriage was sexless and I was constantly rejected by him for other women for 3.5 years. Regardless of the hurt I've felt at least I'm trying to be opened minded on the issue |
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"I'm a cheater I'm not proud of it and the reasons for it are not for the public forum, I'd gladly discuss it via pm if anybody I'd that interested, which I doubt, and I respect that.
I am slightly perplexed though.
OP, you seem decent enough, but this thread does have the unpleasant taste of a pissing contest about it, which is a bit of a theme that you've run with this morning, however, in my humble opinion, it's gone from the humorous to the belittling/have a dig.
Just my opinion folks and if some of you are now looking at me in a different light, so be it.
Ironically for a cheater, I tend to be honest when discussing things of importance and values. pissing contest I've posted two threads Spartacus and this ???
In retrospect I apologise as to the origin of this not being a pissing contest, although it's going a bit awry. "
I only wanted options that's all |
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"For all different reasons I'm on here because I'm tied to him with a mortgage there's no love or affection in our relationship anymore there was up until a few months back but I'm sick of being the only one trying to make it work. I do feel guilty obviously but I've put his feelings before my own for too long. I'm not trying to justify it, just answering your question it's different for me although u feel for you that sounds shit. I just had a little girl with her treated her like a princess the sex was amazing it was never dull yet went out got pissed and shagged some horrible ferrite looking tramp. One of her best mates told me broke my heart only for the sake of I did love her still do because she is the mother of my child feel sorry for you mate, must be hard to be betrayed in such a way shit happens I suppose still see my little girl so that's good but I wouldn't of mined as much but the lad looked like a white mo farah FFs
I can relate to this but sometimes its lot how the guy looks it could be a confident thing, epically if she was d*unk,
don't run it round your head so much for the answers because she's not worth your time and your only doing this to yourself,
she's a selfish cunt that only cares for her own needs that's all you need to know.
Sorry but your in no position to make that judgement and neither am I
There's always two sides to every story and whilst I may feel sorry for the OP I'm not going to name call and condemn someone I've never met without knowing all the facts
I can say what the Fuck i like freedom of speach, giving the information provided she's a cunt, all cheaters are, touching a nerv am I??
Yes you can, but it doesn't mean I have to agree with it, same freedom of speech applies to me as well.
As to touching a nerve, you have no idea of my own personal situation, but no it's not.
I just refuse to jump on the bandwagon of saying the OP is completely in the right without knowing the full facts of the matter
Very true you can , but the OP has thank me for my opinion and help so I don't see any issues in what I said, I agree there are two sides to a story and would gladly listen to bith, but there is no other side to speak to...so for now my option still stands.
True no there's no other side to hear so that's why calling her a cunt may have been a strong term to use "
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People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . |
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over a year ago
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To me, and I stress me, it is round the balance of the i.d and the super ego. If the super ego is too controlling and suppressing the i.d. all it takes is something like alcohol/drugs to suppress the super ego and the i.d. flares up.
Swinging allows the feeding of the super ego through permission, freeing the i.d. to play. So it creates an ecological balanced way to have fun. 
Suppression can be for all the right cognitive reasons, however, it can create a emotional nightmare. Remember "Don't marry her; fuck me."  |
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in ."
yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go |
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Is it cheating if your not meeting socially for drinks and sneaking around going on dates n shit?
I think if your just meeting to fulfil a need it's fine.
If my hubby was fucking someone else I wouldn't mind as long as it is just sex.
Unfortunantly for me he doesn't feel the same way haha 
We only have one life and I'm living it |
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"There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken
Cheating is a choice not a mistake
And all choices you make in life can't turn out to be mistakes then?
That's different, please tell me that that dick ardently fell in your pussy?? Cmon lol
No it didn't because I've never cheated even though my marriage was sexless and I was constantly rejected by him for other women for 3.5 years. Regardless of the hurt I've felt at least I'm trying to be opened minded on the issue "
Good on you it was a figure of speech though I wasn't saying you had, but a lot of people do get choice and mistake mixed up |
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"Is it cheating if your not meeting socially for drinks and sneaking around going on dates n shit?
I think if your just meeting to fulfil a need it's fine.
If my hubby was fucking someone else I wouldn't mind as long as it is just sex.
Unfortunantly for me he doesn't feel the same way haha
We only have one life and I'm living it "
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These "why do people" threads are starting to bore me as they always have the same outcome - divided opinions and long winded debates/ preaching and over justification as to who's opinion is better than others.
We all have a choice as to what we do in life, if you don't like that persons choice then don't engage with them and get on with your own life. It's really quite simple
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"Ahh, the daily cheating thread... I know what you mean once again intelligent input "
Why don't you say that to the others? Shows ur intelligence to loll. |
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"These "why do people" threads are starting to bore me as they always have the same outcome - divided opinions and long winded debates/ preaching and over justification as to who's opinion is better than others.
We all have a choice as to what we do in life, if you don't like that persons choice then don't engage with them and get on with your own life. It's really quite simple
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you've just described a perfect debate so your comment is flawed |
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"Ahh, the daily cheating thread... I know what you mean once again intelligent input Why don't you say that to the others? Shows ur intelligence to loll."
haha banta kid don't be emotional lol |
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go "
Try for your little girl .trust me I've done dumb stuff and talk to each other it's a lot to throw away. |
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"Ahh, the daily cheating thread... I know what you mean once again intelligent input Why don't you say that to the others? Shows ur intelligence to loll. haha banta kid don't be emotional lol "
I see and I don't there kid lol. |
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Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go "
right, what your describing is she went out on the piss and fucked up. Not premeditated or planned or an on going thing. Anyone in any relationship can fuck up like that. People who!have been married 50 years can have at some time strayed once. I thought your question was about people on a swingers site cheating.
IF my partner went out and had a one night stand I'd say TWAT make him suffer for a bit and that would be the end of it. If it was a continuous thing I'd end the relationship as he wouldn't be the person I thought he was
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"There are many reasons and once a cheat always a cheat is a naive statement too, some people can truely change afterwards and it be nothing more than a mistake, but sometimes that mistake can't be moved on from as the trust is too far broken
Cheating is a choice not a mistake
And all choices you make in life can't turn out to be mistakes then?
That's different, please tell me that that dick ardently fell in your pussy?? Cmon lol
No it didn't because I've never cheated even though my marriage was sexless and I was constantly rejected by him for other women for 3.5 years. Regardless of the hurt I've felt at least I'm trying to be opened minded on the issue
Good on you it was a figure of speech though I wasn't saying you had, but a lot of people do get choice and mistake mixed up "
but you make good choices and bad choices. my dad cheated on my mum in a moment of d*unken weakness while dealing with the grief of loosing his only brother, 10 years later and he still physically vomits talking about how disgusted he is by doing what he did and it's nothing he's done ever since, but that's the thing about bad choices and mistakes you need to learn from them, some cheats do and many don't |
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go right, what your describing is she went out on the piss and fucked up. Not premeditated or planned or an on going thing. Anyone in any relationship can fuck up like that. People who!have been married 50 years can have at some time strayed once. I thought your question was about people on a swingers site cheating.
IF my partner went out and had a one night stand I'd say TWAT make him suffer for a bit and that would be the end of it. If it was a continuous thing I'd end the relationship as he wouldn't be the person I thought he was
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I'm stubborn it's hard |
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go
Try for your little girl .trust me I've done dumb stuff and talk to each other it's a lot to throw away. "
I know but it would play with my head and create dramas around my little one |
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"These "why do people" threads are starting to bore me as they always have the same outcome - divided opinions and long winded debates/ preaching and over justification as to who's opinion is better than others.
We all have a choice as to what we do in life, if you don't like that persons choice then don't engage with them and get on with your own life. It's really quite simple
you've just described a perfect debate so your comment is flawed "
ha maybe but this thread is still boring and has been posted many times with the same result. |
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"These "why do people" threads are starting to bore me as they always have the same outcome - divided opinions and long winded debates/ preaching and over justification as to who's opinion is better than others.
We all have a choice as to what we do in life, if you don't like that persons choice then don't engage with them and get on with your own life. It's really quite simple
you've just described a perfect debate so your comment is flawed
ha maybe but this thread is still boring and has been posted many times with the same result. "
to you yes I don't usually do forums therefore never seen it was just looking for answers if you don't like swerve it init |
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go right, what your describing is she went out on the piss and fucked up. Not premeditated or planned or an on going thing. Anyone in any relationship can fuck up like that. People who!have been married 50 years can have at some time strayed once. I thought your question was about people on a swingers site cheating.
IF my partner went out and had a one night stand I'd say TWAT make him suffer for a bit and that would be the end of it. If it was a continuous thing I'd end the relationship as he wouldn't be the person I thought he was
I'm stubborn it's hard "
well you've got two choices, you can stay stubborn and let it eat away at you or you can put it behind you and move on.
Your a young lad. You still see your daughter.you might not be able to forgive her but don't let it ruin things for future relationships.
I'm a bit older than you and if I'd let things that happened in my first relationship dominate my life I would of ended up!a bitter and twisted old woman never having a relationship and not finding the person im with now.
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go right, what your describing is she went out on the piss and fucked up. Not premeditated or planned or an on going thing. Anyone in any relationship can fuck up like that. People who!have been married 50 years can have at some time strayed once. I thought your question was about people on a swingers site cheating.
IF my partner went out and had a one night stand I'd say TWAT make him suffer for a bit and that would be the end of it. If it was a continuous thing I'd end the relationship as he wouldn't be the person I thought he was
I'm stubborn it's hard well you've got two choices, you can stay stubborn and let it eat away at you or you can put it behind you and move on.
Your a young lad. You still see your daughter.you might not be able to forgive her but don't let it ruin things for future relationships.
I'm a bit older than you and if I'd let things that happened in my first relationship dominate my life I would of ended up!a bitter and twisted old woman never having a relationship and not finding the person im with now.
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nice one Hun take it on board what is it they say time is a healer ay |
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"These "why do people" threads are starting to bore me as they always have the same outcome - divided opinions and long winded debates/ preaching and over justification as to who's opinion is better than others.
We all have a choice as to what we do in life, if you don't like that persons choice then don't engage with them and get on with your own life. It's really quite simple
you've just described a perfect debate so your comment is flawed
ha maybe but this thread is still boring and has been posted many times with the same result. to you yes I don't usually do forums therefore never seen it was just looking for answers if you don't like swerve it init "
The only person that will give you the answer you're looking for is the girl that done it to you!
Over and out
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"These "why do people" threads are starting to bore me as they always have the same outcome - divided opinions and long winded debates/ preaching and over justification as to who's opinion is better than others.
We all have a choice as to what we do in life, if you don't like that persons choice then don't engage with them and get on with your own life. It's really quite simple
you've just described a perfect debate so your comment is flawed
ha maybe but this thread is still boring and has been posted many times with the same result. to you yes I don't usually do forums therefore never seen it was just looking for answers if you don't like swerve it init
The only person that will give you the answer you're looking for is the girl that done it to you!
Over and out
Good luck "
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"Ahh, the daily cheating thread... my bad miss new to the forums didn't know it was a daily thing haha "
I just did a search....you're ok its not daily, it just feels like it... |
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go right, what your describing is she went out on the piss and fucked up. Not premeditated or planned or an on going thing. Anyone in any relationship can fuck up like that. People who!have been married 50 years can have at some time strayed once. I thought your question was about people on a swingers site cheating.
IF my partner went out and had a one night stand I'd say TWAT make him suffer for a bit and that would be the end of it. If it was a continuous thing I'd end the relationship as he wouldn't be the person I thought he was
I'm stubborn it's hard well you've got two choices, you can stay stubborn and let it eat away at you or you can put it behind you and move on.
Your a young lad. You still see your daughter.you might not be able to forgive her but don't let it ruin things for future relationships.
I'm a bit older than you and if I'd let things that happened in my first relationship dominate my life I would of ended up!a bitter and twisted old woman never having a relationship and not finding the person im with now.
nice one Hun take it on board what is it they say time is a healer ay "
and remember where over emotionally, can't see the wood for the trees when something unpleasant happens your not alone.
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Some good advice op so listen to them .just remember when d*unk people will and can do stuff they never would sober .give her a chance as no one's perfect and we all make mistakes .I know I've made some shockers |
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"Are you suggesting that loving, caring, affectionate, stable and happy long-term relationships all have sex? no I'm stating if there is good sex and all the above you said in the relationship why do people still cheat "
Reasons will differ but for some its the thrill of the risk... The chase... So many reasons... There doesn't have to be anything wrong with a relationship , some just crave to them the buzz. I have met quite a few people like that over the years |
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"People cheat for many reasons .they not getting it at home ?other half not interested or no longer find them attractive. Their bored ,for some reason want to sabatarge their relationship, or just plan selfish and want it all with no thought to others feelings.
Known people at first sign of any problem in their relationship cheat .it's sad they won't put the effort in . yeah I get all that but we was perfect she just fucked up when d*unk but in a stubborn fool can't let it go right, what your describing is she went out on the piss and fucked up. Not premeditated or planned or an on going thing. Anyone in any relationship can fuck up like that. People who!have been married 50 years can have at some time strayed once. I thought your question was about people on a swingers site cheating.
IF my partner went out and had a one night stand I'd say TWAT make him suffer for a bit and that would be the end of it. If it was a continuous thing I'd end the relationship as he wouldn't be the person I thought he was
I'm stubborn it's hard well you've got two choices, you can stay stubborn and let it eat away at you or you can put it behind you and move on.
Your a young lad. You still see your daughter.you might not be able to forgive her but don't let it ruin things for future relationships.
I'm a bit older than you and if I'd let things that happened in my first relationship dominate my life I would of ended up!a bitter and twisted old woman never having a relationship and not finding the person im with now.
nice one Hun take it on board what is it they say time is a healer ay and remember where over emotionally, can't see the wood for the trees when something unpleasant happens your not alone.
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"Some good advice op so listen to them .just remember when d*unk people will and can do stuff they never would sober .give her a chance as no one's perfect and we all make mistakes .I know I've made some shockers "
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"I do find of late people are more concerned about what others do in their lives than their own... "
al due respect I think you've come to late and missed the point in talking about my own life no one else's |
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"Some good advice op so listen to them .just remember when d*unk people will and can do stuff they never would sober .give her a chance as no one's perfect and we all make mistakes .I know I've made some shockers "
Not just that it heightens emotions so any insecurities, concerns or upset she could have been feeling in regards to the OP and their relationship could have been brought to a climax and in the heat of the moment of weakness someone showed her some "kindness" and she slipped and fucked up. I said kindness in air quotes as in that kind of situation any half decent bloke seeing a women in a d*unken emotional state wouldn't take advantage of the situation but their are still some blokes that would |
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Maybe she had post natal depression, maybe she was d*unk and felt that her youth/freedom were over, who knows. There are 2 sides to every story and whatever the woman had done I would never describe the mother of my child as a cunt. And I dislike guys who say they treat their woman like a princess, smacks of controlling to me. Having said that, good luck op |
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"Maybe she had post natal depression, maybe she was d*unk and felt that her youth/freedom were over, who knows. There are 2 sides to every story and whatever the woman had done I would never describe the mother of my child as a cunt. And I dislike guys who say they treat their woman like a princess, smacks of controlling to me. Having said that, good luck op"
Was just about to suggest post natal depression too as it can completely change a person and make them do strange things that are out of character and out of control. Even without PND her body from having children will have dramatically changed, that could have changed how she feels about herself as in a total loss of confidence and attractiveness so feeling desired by any man could have very been faltering and may have been attention on a level that unbeknown to him she wasn't getting from the OP at the time because he was caught up in the love he as for his daughter at the time (again it doesn't justify her actions but it's a possible reason for them) |
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"Here's a new take on the reason.
Scientists from Oxford Uni found that (looking at the right hand) the shorter the index finger in relation to the ring finger, the higher the levels of testosterone that person (male and female) is likely to have been exposed to in the womb – making them more promiscuous.
Looking at my own right hand, the index finger is noticeably shorter than the ring finger - I'll be checking the wife's tonight!
In case you think I'm making this up, here's the article:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/are-you-faithful-or-promiscuous-the-answer-could-lie-in-your-index-finger-10026723.html
OK so all that kind of stuff just says that some people are more inclined towards an activity than others. At the end of the day, we're not bloody animals and we make conscious choices. The OP explicitly said that the domestic sex was good in their question so I think genetic arguements are an excuse for lack of self control.
It was a post in jest, not an attempt to prove that promiscuity is beyond our personal control.
That said, I like the notion that you could choose a faithful life partner by the length of their fingers "
They tested all that "science" in a programme called "married at first sight" - guess how it went... |
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"Here's a new take on the reason.
Scientists from Oxford Uni found that (looking at the right hand) the shorter the index finger in relation to the ring finger, the higher the levels of testosterone that person (male and female) is likely to have been exposed to in the womb – making them more promiscuous.
Looking at my own right hand, the index finger is noticeably shorter than the ring finger - I'll be checking the wife's tonight!
In case you think I'm making this up, here's the article:
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/are-you-faithful-or-promiscuous-the-answer-could-lie-in-your-index-finger-10026723.html
OK so all that kind of stuff just says that some people are more inclined towards an activity than others. At the end of the day, we're not bloody animals and we make conscious choices. The OP explicitly said that the domestic sex was good in their question so I think genetic arguements are an excuse for lack of self control.
It was a post in jest, not an attempt to prove that promiscuity is beyond our personal control.
That said, I like the notion that you could choose a faithful life partner by the length of their fingers
They tested all that "science" in a programme called "married at first sight" - guess how it went..."
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"Maybe she had post natal depression, maybe she was d*unk and felt that her youth/freedom were over, who knows. There are 2 sides to every story and whatever the woman had done I would never describe the mother of my child as a cunt. And I dislike guys who say they treat their woman like a princess, smacks of controlling to me. Having said that, good luck op"
totally agreed with your points until you said controlling I fucking hate that she was my princess I'm twenty five FFs if I was controlling she would of been on the night out init
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"Everyone has their own backstory to why they're here or cheat. Some reasons are more understandable / justifiable than others (some will say it's NEVER justified). But without knowing the backstory in full it's a very sweeping generalisation that people can't be in an otherwise loving relationship.
It's always a very divisive subject. "
ok ask yourself one question as you are married and I assume on here without your wife's knowledge, if she found out you were on here potentially having sex with others I don't have a clue if you have but if she found out would she be devastated or leave you ? |
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"I cheat because it's the only way I win at monopoly. Have to be the banker that helps too "
I can't believe you mentioned 'bankers' and 'cheat' in the same paragraph.
On the very day Jeremy Hunt, Cameron, Osborne's brother and Boris are all in the news.
Now the whole of Fab is going to explode in a Father Jack expletive-riddled brouhaha 
(Plus that was going to be my joke )
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"Ok so if your in a loving relationship good sex the love is there why do we still cheat try see this not from a swinging point of view
Ok! I've only been in monogamous relationships before fab! I never 'cheated'!
Op - you're 25 and at your age life is pretty black and white!
In twenty years time you could be married with 3+ kids! The hot young wife you fell in love with 15 years ago may have put 5 stone on and have zero interest in sex with you as her focus is on holding down a job, the house, the kids and, if she's lucky, a very occasional night out with you or her mates! You may still love her dearly - and never want to leave her or break up your family - but after five years of surreptitiously wanking to porn you may find yourself on a 'sexual gratification site!'
It's easy to be an idealist when you're 25 my love! Big hugs and I hope you find your happy ever after! Xx"
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