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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So (fem posting fantasy81), my wonderful better half is being posted away for work for a couple of months 
So I'm seeing what people think, there will be no playing when he's away but social meets, be it coffee, a drink, or a social evening in a club, for me is ok.
What do other people think about this, would you be put off or meet up anyways (not just us, but I'm taloing in general)? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I meet people for coffee or drinks all the time. Usually they are people I know from the forums, but its fun and enjoyable and there is no expectation of playing (in fact, an expectation that there will not be play). 
With people off the forums, I would say it really depends on the person and your end goal. If you are having a social with the expectation that, if all goes well, you will play when your partner comes back, then I think people may be up for them. If these are people you already know, then I would definitely have a coffee/drink/etc. if it were me. Just talk it out. The worst they could say is no.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I meet people for coffee or drinks all the time. Usually they are people I know from the forums, but its fun and enjoyable and there is no expectation of playing (in fact, an expectation that there will not be play).
With people off the forums, I would say it really depends on the person and your end goal. If you are having a social with the expectation that, if all goes well, you will play when your partner comes back, then I think people may be up for them. If these are people you already know, then I would definitely have a coffee/drink/etc. if it were me. Just talk it out. The worst they could say is no.
-Courtney"
Thanks Courtney, I have no idea what the end goal would be. Right now, its just meeting like minded people who I can have open and honest conversations with,with no need to hide ourselves and what we like in life.
Coffee is coffee after all, and I love coffee |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds cool to me, it's always good to increase your circle of friends. As Courtney says, who's to say that you may not arrange a play meet at a later date  "
Oh good, thanks Ace, and your right, you never know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to do what makes you feel comfortable and the people you meet socially will fully understand that.
There's nothing wrong with meeting just for coffee or drinks and its a great way to make new friends. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I meet socially too. There are some very nice genuine people here and,I enjoy their company.
My roast di
nners are always appreciated lol   "
Can't beat a good roast |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aw shucks- if you wanted an invite round for coffee and cake- you jus had to ask, lady! 
In answer to the question- go, socialise, enjoy!
I think its cool- do what makes you feel comfortable xx |
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"You have to do what makes you feel comfortable and the people you meet socially will fully understand that.
There's nothing wrong with meeting just for coffee or drinks and its a great way to make new friends. "
This is making me feel a lot better, don't want to just leave and come back, I love making friends especially with similar views on this lifestyle |
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"Aw shucks- if you wanted an invite round for coffee and cake- you jus had to ask, lady!
In answer to the question- go, socialise, enjoy!
I think its cool- do what makes you feel comfortable xx"
Aww I will be asking for coffee and cake, I've seen your cakes and they look amazing xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Aw shucks- if you wanted an invite round for coffee and cake- you jus had to ask, lady!
In answer to the question- go, socialise, enjoy!
I think its cool- do what makes you feel comfortable xx
Aww I will be asking for coffee and cake, I've seen your cakes and they look amazing xx"
Any time Lovely xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Aw shucks- if you wanted an invite round for coffee and cake- you jus had to ask, lady!
In answer to the question- go, socialise, enjoy!
I think its cool- do what makes you feel comfortable xx
Aww I will be asking for coffee and cake, I've seen your cakes and they look amazing xx
Any time Lovely xx"
Thanks you xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go for it OP, I have lots of socials and most don't end up as play.
But I've made some great friends from it.
You could come to our organised social on Friday "
Aww I wish I could, if you hold onr in March let me know lol. It's out last weekend together this weekend so hoping for a good one   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I asked a bloke about meeting for a social meet ( see if there was a connection or not ) he then replied with " you need a dating site for that sort of thing " needless to say he then blocked me  |
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"I asked a bloke about meeting for a social meet ( see if there was a connection or not ) he then replied with " you need a dating site for that sort of thing " needless to say he then blocked me "
Ah, not worth your time then obviously  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We both meet people together and on our own socially for, food and drinks, had many nights sat in maccies with a cuppa chatting for hours a few fab friends come over to watch tv, chill out, chat, eat etc, we love the social side of things |
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"I asked a bloke about meeting for a social meet ( see if there was a connection or not ) he then replied with " you need a dating site for that sort of thing " needless to say he then blocked me
Ah, not worth your time then obviously "
I'd not meet, even with my other half, without a social (unless in a club) |
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"I asked a bloke about meeting for a social meet ( see if there was a connection or not ) he then replied with " you need a dating site for that sort of thing " needless to say he then blocked me "
I've had the same thing, might even be the same guy. |
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"We both meet people together and on our own socially for, food and drinks, had many nights sat in maccies with a cuppa chatting for hours a few fab friends come over to watch tv, chill out, chat, eat etc, we love the social side of things "
Ahh that's actually really nice to hear, I'd love to.find people like that to meet whilst he's away |
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"Go for it OP, I have lots of socials and most don't end up as play.
But I've made some great friends from it.
You could come to our organised social on Friday
Aww I wish I could, if you hold onr in March let me know lol. It's out last weekend together this weekend so hoping for a good one "
Friend my other profile and you'll find out when the March one is |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Go for it OP, I have lots of socials and most don't end up as play.
But I've made some great friends from it.
You could come to our organised social on Friday
Aww I wish I could, if you hold onr in March let me know lol. It's out last weekend together this weekend so hoping for a good one
Friend my other profile and you'll find out when the March one is "
Thanks I shall |
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