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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was just talking to a friend of mine who still lives at home with her parents. She is my age, has a full-time job that pays better than mine, and is a very responsible person. But she still lives at home with her parents.
Part of the reason is because she lives in NYC, and I imagine that London has a similar problem here in the UK. But it just got me thinking....
How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house?
-Courtney |
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I've moved out twice and ended up back there. Second time after my marriage ended. Where I live it's rrally expensive to rent a flat let alone a house. It was a new car or a place to live. One would leave me with freedom to a life the other would be stick doing nothing  |
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over a year ago
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18 to go to Uni. Never lived back permanently since. Even if I stop over for a few days now I start to go stir crazy, it's great to see them but I like the freedom of my own space |
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over a year ago
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Moved out for Uni, then moved back after till I could support myself as a freelancer, then moved back to learn to drive. Now I'm moving back to Lindkn soon. |
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over a year ago
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I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go |
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"I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go "
My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it? |
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over a year ago
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I've never been back to live with my parents since moving out. I live with one of my 3 children,depending who needs me at the time. My son is still at my house. |
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"I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go
My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it?"
I paid rent of £15 per week until I got a full time job but even then it was only £25. I think it's important children know that it costs money to run a house. I make mine switch off all sockets when not in use, shut windows, curtains & doors to keep heat in etc... |
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"I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go
My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it?
I paid rent of £15 per week until I got a full time job but even then it was only £25. I think it's important children know that it costs money to run a house. I make mine switch off all sockets when not in use, shut windows, curtains & doors to keep heat in etc..."
That's fair enough. It is important that kids learn the responsibility that goes along with paying for your own place. I guess that can get lost a bit if you've only lived with your parents by the age of 27. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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I left home for my first job, with which I was supplied with free board and live in accommodation, which made the transition much easier.
When I did go home (90 minutes travel away) it was only for 2-3 days at a time, and we still got on, but within a couple of years, I was working in London, and trips home were few and far between. From then on, I'd become used to my own space and though it was great to see my parents, I was always glad to get back to my base in London! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go
My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it?
I paid rent of £15 per week until I got a full time job but even then it was only £25. I think it's important children know that it costs money to run a house. I make mine switch off all sockets when not in use, shut windows, curtains & doors to keep heat in etc...
That's fair enough. It is important that kids learn the responsibility that goes along with paying for your own place. I guess that can get lost a bit if you've only lived with your parents by the age of 27."
Mine always just charged me the extra that it cost for having me or me and my husband there - so a share of the bills, food etc.
If we'd been there longer term I think we'd have paid more, since we were both working and were just there for convenience between properties for periods of a few months. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go
My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it?"
I always told my kids so long as they were in education I'd keep them, because she's at uni full time she only works part time, if I took money from here she would have very little left so I don't
I buy all the essential like food, toiletries etc but she provides her luxury personal stuff |
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Ran away at 15 went back
Left at 18-22 went back
Left at 24 never been back.
My son left at 16 has been back once and yes i charged him board.
I do know a woman whose a year older than me who lives with her parents and has never left she even has to be in at a certain time and can't have people stay.. Here parents are both active and she has a job where she could easily rent somewhere she choices not to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone was so young 
It was easier to buy a house 20 years ago"
It's not that hard now if your willing to put some work in
My house was a mess when I first got it. 2 years down the line I've just finished it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was 27 when I moved out permanently but I used to housesitting for about 5 years previous to that so home was more of a base really, I didn't pay rent because basically I'm a bit spoilt but I'm an only child so I'll have to support my parents when they're old and even more badly behaved than they are now so I think it was a fair deal!! |
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My home ceased to exist when I was 18, though luckily the couple I was working for took me in until I sat my A-levels and went to uni.
Mrs ddc was 23.
I've told both of ours I'll be sending them to buy some milk, then changing all the locks, once they finish their A-levels
Mr ddc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone was so young
It was easier to buy a house 20 years ago
It's not that hard now if your willing to put some work in
My house was a mess when I first got it. 2 years down the line I've just finished it "
I didn't buy mine till 25, moved out before that though and rented. |
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"Everyone was so young "
when my mum was going there was nothing unusual being married 17/18 with kids but I have noticed more in recent years the old "everyone mucks intogether " kids staying at home cause they can't afford to move out, families with young children living with parents and of cause as they get older parents living with their kids. It's always happened but I am noticing it more than I was a few years ago |
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"I still live at home. And before anyone passes judgement on that, yes, I know it's sad. Just another chapter in my sad, pathetic life. "
as a home on this thread said its sad to be still living at home?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I still live at home. And before anyone passes judgement on that, yes, I know it's sad. Just another chapter in my sad, pathetic life. "
It's not sad. If I were single I'd probably still be living with my mother and taking care of her. I couldn't afford my own place in NYC. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"28-29
I had no reason to move out, Started looking when I had a decent deposit for a house, Bought one just when the house market was at it's peak  "
Ouch.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was 26 and left home on my wedding day! We didn't live together before we got married, folk said we were daft not to...been married 20 years in August  |
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"I still live at home. And before anyone passes judgement on that, yes, I know it's sad. Just another chapter in my sad, pathetic life. "
I could quite happily still live at home!! I love going back for sleepovers even though it's only 5 miles away |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I still live at home. And before anyone passes judgement on that, yes, I know it's sad. Just another chapter in my sad, pathetic life.
I could quite happily still live at home!! I love going back for sleepovers even though it's only 5 miles away"
Yep I do this too!! Although it might have something to do with my local being 2 doors away from my parents house!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I still live at home. And before anyone passes judgement on that, yes, I know it's sad. Just another chapter in my sad, pathetic life.
I could quite happily still live at home!! I love going back for sleepovers even though it's only 5 miles away
Yep I do this too!! Although it might have something to do with my local being 2 doors away from my parents house!! "
Any reason to see the parents is a good reason, right?  |
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"I still live at home. And before anyone passes judgement on that, yes, I know it's sad. Just another chapter in my sad, pathetic life. "
There's nothing sad about it. I loved living at home with my folks. I stayed till I was 30 because I could and I was happy. I had the upstairs to myself and my little dog there... there was no real reason to move out. They'd have kept me forever too... well my Mum would, I think my Dad was happy to see the back of my plug hole hair!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I still live at home. And before anyone passes judgement on that, yes, I know it's sad. Just another chapter in my sad, pathetic life.
I could quite happily still live at home!! I love going back for sleepovers even though it's only 5 miles away
Yep I do this too!! Although it might have something to do with my local being 2 doors away from my parents house!!
Any reason to see the parents is a good reason, right? "
They come with me!! If my dads in a particularly good mood (or very d*unk) my bar tab mysteriously disappears!! It's grand!! Haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first time I left I was 15. I went back after 4 months and stayed until I was 17, then left again. At 19 I went back for 10 months before leaving for good. |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I was just talking to a friend of mine who still lives at home with her parents. She is my age, has a full-time job that pays better than mine, and is a very responsible person. But she still lives at home with her parents.
Part of the reason is because she lives in NYC, and I imagine that London has a similar problem here in the UK. But it just got me thinking....
How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house?
-Courtney"
I still live with mine. They plan to retire this year and move back to the Philippines. I pay £300/month for rent and contribute to bills and groceries too. I've been wanting to move out for ages, but by living with them and helping shoulder rent, I'm helping them save money according to them.
But by living at home with them means I have responsibilities to do for the family and still get questioned as to my whereabouts and who I'm with.
I'm just gritting my teeth till November... |
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Moved out for uni at 18, then moved back after at 21. Couldn't stand the arguing and noise of being in a house with 3 younger siblings. Luckily my dad was very generous helping me buy me own place at 24 otherwise I would have gone bat shit crazy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once worked with a man (arsehole) who told his son to leave his house on his eighteenth birthday, which his son did. later, when his son got married he went to his mothers house to have sunday dinner with his mum, guess what, the arsehole father threw him out telling his son and his new wife to find his their own food.
there are some horrible fuckers about!
me, i left my home when i was twenty of my own free will lol |
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16 (just). And not so much moved out as thrown out. Spent 2 weeks on the streets, a year in the YMCA and several years in questionable shared accommodation before managing to claw my way back and get my own (rented) place.
What doesn't kill you and all that......
*Her* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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19 to go to Uni
Then back for 12 months 24-25
Then back for 6 months in my early 30's
Not been back since
The last time was enough.
I thought one of them was gonna end up under the patio |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Done it twice, first time i was 23 when i went too Uni and then had too return because of some health issues and an ex not being able too handle them at 27, i had no place else to go and left again when i was 30. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go
My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it?"
Moved out at 18. And altough I lived in some real dives, I'm proud to say I never had to go back! (The bad mouthing from my mother would have been worse than living on the streets!)
And yes Courtney I had to pay rent from the age of 16! I earned fuck all and had to give half of it every week! Don't know how I had money to go out back then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was just talking to a friend of mine who still lives at home with her parents. She is my age, has a full-time job that pays better than mine, and is a very responsible person. But she still lives at home with her parents.
Part of the reason is because she lives in NYC, and I imagine that London has a similar problem here in the UK. But it just got me thinking....
How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house?
-Courtney"
17. I don't find guys over 21 living at home with parents appealing. Over 21's are grown men and I find those who live as a grown independent man, appealing. Dated a mummy's boy before and my goodness what a nightmare... she didn't want to cut those apron strings lol. Never again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone was so young
It was easier to buy a house 20 years ago
It's not that hard now if your willing to put some work in
My house was a mess when I first got it. 2 years down the line I've just finished it "
Exactly. Amazing what can be achieved by giving up mad nights out, cigarettes, drugs (if used), expensive beauty and hair treatments, holidays etc etc. Save the cash and won't be terribly long until a person has a deposit to buy. Puzzles me hearing excuses but some people still spend out on bad habits and treats. London and most cities are expensive but not if you move to the outskirts or just over the border. Moving away from family isn't tragic. Just travel to see them! Having my own home provides so much and it's great. Wouldn't move back to my parents or anyone else not for anything lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Stayed with parents until I was 28.
Used that opportunity to Work my arse off knowing full well that it was my best opportunity to save. Contributed to bills, rent etc etc but nothing like what it would have cost me had I moved out into rented accommodation.
Had enough saved for a decent deposit on my house.
Best decision I ever done. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I moved out when I was 16, I have a 23 year old that still lives at home, she's at uni and works part time so at the moment she really couldn't afford to live alone and I see no point in here struggling to pay bill when she has a home here, of course if she wanted to move out that's her choice but I'm in no rush for her to go
My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it?
Moved out at 18. And altough I lived in some real dives, I'm proud to say I never had to go back! (The bad mouthing from my mother would have been worse than living on the streets!)
And yes Courtney I had to pay rent from the age of 16! I earned fuck all and had to give half of it every week! Don't know how I had money to go out back then! "
Rent at 16? Wow. That seems a bit harsh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a brilliant childhood with terrific parents but needing a job meant I left home at 16 to do my engineering apprenticeship miles away. Came home at odd weekends. |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
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In a slightly unusual sequence of events, I ended up being the last of my family (incl. parent) to leave the family home when I moved to the UK aged 28.
I was lucky enough to be able to live at home while at uni and the last 3 years I lived at home before moving to the UK, I was the only one there. |
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28. Paid board and lodge from 18 when I started work until I left.
It was older than most at the time by about 5 years on average. Now 28 is average such is the price of houses now.
What did I do with the money I saved while living at home? I partied A LOT!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm 24. I still live at home. I have no plans to move out until I either hit 30 or meet someone to move out with.
I don't pay any board money to my parents.
If I moved out I wouldn't be able to buy what I buy now and travel all over. I'm too selfish to give that up to live alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I moved out when I was 18 got my first flat lasted all of 1 weekend when I had my house warming and we trashed the place. Moved back with parents for another yr then bought my house I live in now and never looked back
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have lived away from parents for 20 years...the last 10 of which I didn't see or speak to 1 of them.. 19 months ago one moved in with me... It's difficult |
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I was 18 as I rushed off to Uni, fell in love and got married pretty quickly.
My eldest left when she was 19 as she wanted her independence and to combine Uni with a job. She doesnt stay here at all. Her 22 year old bf still lives at home with his parentd though as he can't afford to find anywhere. |
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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My twin sister moved back in with my parents a couple of years ago at age 38 but the circumstances are slightly different to most people's stories of moving back home.
Our mum has got MS and needs a full time carer, dad's health isn't upto it. My sister made the decision to move in with them to look after them both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Out at 18, back at 22, back again at 25 and back again at 31 ( the last 2 times were mercifully short lived though )"
I bet your parents moved lol! My son has moved out three times and even came back with a live in girlfriend one time. We call him boomerang.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was just talking to a friend of mine who still lives at home with her parents. She is my age, has a full-time job that pays better than mine, and is a very responsible person. But she still lives at home with her parents.
Part of the reason is because she lives in NYC, and I imagine that London has a similar problem here in the UK. But it just got me thinking....
How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house?
-Courtney"
first time i spread my wings was when i was bout 9 or 10 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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20 then moved back in at 23. Moved out again at 24. Then recently had to move back in at 35 after a divorce and selling the family home at a huge loss. But looking at a couple of places to rent this weekend so hopefully will be out again in a month or so. Woo! |
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Went into so called care at 12/13 had my 1st place at 16 and been totally independent ever since. Was the best thing to ever happen to me ok I had to grow up bloody fast but it made me the man I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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18 and a half... but it was either leave or stay & be in an increasingly dangerous situation.
I moved back in for a couple of months in early 2012 when I was 22.
Though, now I have little sleepovers at my parents' house, like this weekend. |
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"I was just talking to a friend of mine who still lives at home with her parents. She is my age, has a full-time job that pays better than mine, and is a very responsible person. But she still lives at home with her parents.
Part of the reason is because she lives in NYC, and I imagine that London has a similar problem here in the UK. But it just got me thinking....
How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house?
-Courtney"
On my wedding day aged 20. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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18 for a year out before Uni, returned for the odd weekend and a few weeks during holidays, but effectively lived away since. I love visiting my Mum and Dad so go there quite frequently to see them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My friend who lives at home pays rent to her parents. Its just cheaper rent than she would have to pay otherwise. I don't think I could charge my kid to stay at home. Would you ever consider it?"
When I moved back in with my Mum after splitting up with a partner in my mid-twenties she charged me about £350 a month in rent - AND I did all the food shopping (out of a household account mind you), made packed lunches, and cooked all the meals for us. That was the deal. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My Parents left home when I was 18 ,, spooky but true !
They left a note and a jolly hamper stuffed with delicious goodies and set forth on adventure "
Wow. That sounds like an interesting adventure. |
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