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By (user no longer on site) OP
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A fab friend of mine has had a few issues recently with people that she's talked to for a long time (over a year) turning out to be fakes and liars.
She's very reticent to post for fear of negativity and general nasty replies, so could people please offer support for her and tell of a time when you were taken in and how you didn't get taken in again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A fab friend of mine has had a few issues recently with people that she's talked to for a long time (over a year) turning out to be fakes and liars.
She's very reticent to post for fear of negativity and general nasty replies, so could people please offer support for her and tell of a time when you were taken in and how you didn't get taken in again"
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You can't change the fact that in real life and fab that people will claim to be single when they are not, it's fact of life and not everyone will tell the truth. Tell tell signs usually work for me such as can't talk at certain times no valid reason as why I can't pop over...female products in the car trust me I've found perfume and other stuff in the pocket by the passenger seat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I once met a female who, unbeknown to me, had a husband who was not aware of the situation.
It turned out I was her revenge shag as he had been cheating on fabs.
I grew concerned as she knew where I lived and she had told me he has been abusive. Nothing over come of it but I was concerned he would beat her and then come looking for me.
I haven't changed my approach specifically due to that incident, but on the whole I do take precautions |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can't change the fact that in real life and fab that people will claim to be single when they are not, it's fact of life and not everyone will tell the truth. Tell tell signs usually work for me such as can't talk at certain times no valid reason as why I can't pop over...female products in the car trust me I've found perfume and other stuff in the pocket by the passenger seat. "
You'd think they would find a better hiding place! |
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I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx |
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BTW op it's not just men it's women as well I've come across far more unstable women on here than men. I have felt at times that if I had rabbits they would not be safe and there is probably some voodoo doll with my picture on being stabbed  |
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"I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx"
You are not an idiot it's ok to trust and see the good in people it's not your fault but sometimes people use someone's kindness as their weakness I've learnt to only trust so much  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"BTW op it's not just men it's women as well I've come across far more unstable women on here than men. I have felt at times that if I had rabbits they would not be safe and there is probably some voodoo doll with my picture on being stabbed "
I know what you mean but that's not so much fakes as it is nutters, there are plenty of single nutters out there of all sexes |
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"I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx"
No it makes them the idiot, not you. Same for the OP's friend. x
Don't turn into a paranoid cynical old bag like me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx
No it makes them the idiot, not you. Same for the OP's friend. x
Don't turn into a paranoid cynical old bag like me. "
I think that's the key point, not to let the liars ruin the site for you. Being trusting and expecting others to be honest like yourself is not being an idiot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There has to be an element of trust given by both parties or else no one would ever talk or meet anyone else
You just have to bear in mind that some people will say anything to get what they want and that's not always going to be the whole truth on a site like this
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You just have to chalk it up to experience and not worry about it too much, it's probably happenend to most of us at some point, and always will, let's face the fact that we all have to believe what people tell us as we only have words on a screen to go by at first |
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"I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx
No it makes them the idiot, not you. Same for the OP's friend. x
Don't turn into a paranoid cynical old bag like me.
I think that's the key point, not to let the liars ruin the site for you. Being trusting and expecting others to be honest like yourself is not being an idiot"
Not being an idiot, but I am afraid it is being unwise. It is case of 'caveat emptor' - most people on here are NOT honest and sadly we have to check the facts for ourselves somehow.
Chatting in the evenings and hosting at home are two clear indications I look for, but some people on here are skillful deceivers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx
No it makes them the idiot, not you. Same for the OP's friend. x
Don't turn into a paranoid cynical old bag like me.
I think that's the key point, not to let the liars ruin the site for you. Being trusting and expecting others to be honest like yourself is not being an idiot
Not being an idiot, but I am afraid it is being unwise. It is case of 'caveat emptor' - most people on here are NOT honest and sadly we have to check the facts for ourselves somehow.
Chatting in the evenings and hosting at home are two clear indications I look for, but some people on here are skillful deceivers."
Well id fail that test! I have kids so am always busy in the evenings and wont accomodate for the same reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
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get them to go on webcam,,if they say no,then,,,,,, |
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I luckily have never had this problem, but have heard of many horror stories relating to this.
Afraid as everyone has said you will always get this from both sexes and not a lot you can do other than try to be a tad more wary.
Me personally, I have nothing to hide and always say to the female/couple I am talking to they are welcome to all my contact details etc and welcome to call facetime text anytime for me to prove that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A fab friend of mine has had a few issues recently with people that she's talked to for a long time (over a year) turning out to be fakes and liars.
She's very reticent to post for fear of negativity and general nasty replies, so could people please offer support for her and tell of a time when you were taken in and how you didn't get taken in again"
Bless her cotton socks think theres too many on here ive had it myself chat then day of meet get ignored would rather be told not intrested then build up any hopes i just feel sorry for genuine ppl on here like myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A big hug for her and tell her to keep her chin up. She is better than the 'liar'. Time will heal.
I have been very lucky as have met the right men and found my instincts could be trusted. After a year of chatting it must be very demoralising for her to find herself lied to. It's like something you liked and that became a part of your life (it sure does if you chat regularly) is suddenly gone. I'm always honest to people as every lie can come back and bite you in the arse. And you only don't tell the truth if you have no intentions to meet (and a LOT get off on that). |
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"I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx
No it makes them the idiot, not you. Same for the OP's friend. x
Don't turn into a paranoid cynical old bag like me.
I think that's the key point, not to let the liars ruin the site for you. Being trusting and expecting others to be honest like yourself is not being an idiot"
I don't usually but every so often one gets to you lol xx |
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"What about claiming to be single?"
What, you mean people lie to get laid?
Christ, who'da thunk it!
Unfortunately its going to happen, one sure-fire way for ladies to root out the married guys is to ask to visit his place, even if its just for a social meet, and always insist, no matter what the excuses. |
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Tell her to trust her instincts, if she's being forbed off constantly regarding cam /phone/ meets it's indicative of something untoward.
Lots of members with fake pics on fabs too, always ensure they're photoverified and reverse image search their pics.
Although, I was chatting to someone a while ago who was verified by pic / cam but they had padded their pics out with hacked pics of that American baseball player.. Tom Brady.
Be careful, lots of treachery on fabs.
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By (user no longer on site)
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How many men have on their profiles 'can accommodate' and it suddenly changes? Instant block for me. Don't need that and ain't here to suit anyone but myself and who I'm interested in. Make it clear on your profile - then there is no room for doubts. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What about claiming to be single?
What, you mean people lie to get laid?
Christ, who'da thunk it!
Unfortunately its going to happen, one sure-fire way for ladies to root out the married guys is to ask to visit his place, even if its just for a social meet, and always insist, no matter what the excuses."
Then just write me off right now, that's my house, my kids homes, I'm not getting some person over just to prove a point. Lets all get everyone to have a CRB check before attending a club too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about claiming to be single?
What, you mean people lie to get laid?
Christ, who'da thunk it!
Unfortunately its going to happen, one sure-fire way for ladies to root out the married guys is to ask to visit his place, even if its just for a social meet, and always insist, no matter what the excuses.
Then just write me off right now, that's my house, my kids homes, I'm not getting some person over just to prove a point. Lets all get everyone to have a CRB check before attending a club too"
 I would never insist on going to a man's house. Sounds a bit stalkerish to insist. 
Men are entitled to privacy just the same as women are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about claiming to be single?
What, you mean people lie to get laid?
Christ, who'da thunk it!
Unfortunately its going to happen, one sure-fire way for ladies to root out the married guys is to ask to visit his place, even if its just for a social meet, and always insist, no matter what the excuses.
Then just write me off right now, that's my house, my kids homes, I'm not getting some person over just to prove a point. Lets all get everyone to have a CRB check before attending a club too"
Exactly I'll happily accommodate but would never have a stranger in my house for a social when I've never met them and not sure who would  |
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"I still can't spot the fakes, liars and time wasters. Have turned up for meets and they've not. Had guys claiming their single when they're clearly attached - I wouldn't mind if they were honest. Its the lying I hate, but then I assume everybody is as honest as me - guess that makes me an idiot xx
No it makes them the idiot, not you. Same for the OP's friend. x
Don't turn into a paranoid cynical old bag like me.
I think that's the key point, not to let the liars ruin the site for you. Being trusting and expecting others to be honest like yourself is not being an idiot
Not being an idiot, but I am afraid it is being unwise. It is case of 'caveat emptor' - most people on here are NOT honest and sadly we have to check the facts for ourselves somehow.
Chatting in the evenings and hosting at home are two clear indications I look for, but some people on here are skillful deceivers.
Well id fail that test! I have kids so am always busy in the evenings and wont accomodate for the same reason"
I am a parent and don't accom... I don't like random calls and will not do demands for FaceTime.
Doesn't make me a cheating wife. I'm also 100% single.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What about claiming to be single?
What, you mean people lie to get laid?
Christ, who'da thunk it!
Unfortunately its going to happen, one sure-fire way for ladies to root out the married guys is to ask to visit his place, even if its just for a social meet, and always insist, no matter what the excuses.
Then just write me off right now, that's my house, my kids homes, I'm not getting some person over just to prove a point. Lets all get everyone to have a CRB check before attending a club too
Exactly I'll happily accommodate but would never have a stranger in my house for a social when I've never met them and not sure who would "
The whole point of this thread is to find ways of telling fakes, if you're unsure you dont go round their house!! |
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You can't spot 100% of fakes, all you can do it use your judgment and instinct, if you feel he or she is a wrong 'un decline to meet. If you get it wrong move on and don't look back.
I would say though that you need to realise that people lie and do it very well if you aren't genuinely prepared for one off no strings sex no matter what the person you're meeting tells you, you will get hurt.
Cynical! Moi? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Be a bit cynical about people and their intentions. Don't invest too much in someone who you don't really know.
But there are no sure fire ways to never be taken in by someone who is determined to deceive. It can happen to anyone and she shouldn't beat herself up about it. |
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