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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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Good song.....but tell me what does respect mean to you? From your family or your colleagues or partners? From friends or lovers or nsa meets??
How do you give it and how do you hope to receive it back??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is entitled to a basic level of respect unless they demonstrate otherwise. I don't believe in people having to "earn" it from me, for me it's just the most basic level of decency you should show to someone. |
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"Respect - it's one of the most frequently used words on this site - and one of the most misunderstood and misused words on this site.
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Very interesting -
"Truth is the cry of all and the game of few" |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Everyone is entitled to a basic level of respect unless they demonstrate otherwise. I don't believe in people having to "earn" it from me, for me it's just the most basic level of decency you should show to someone. "
I believe common courtesy and respect are different things.
Everyone is entitled to common courtesy, unless they prove otherwise, but actual respect is earned.
I usually respect someone for a reason. I don't know a stranger so I have no reason to respect them. I should be courteous though.
Being polite and respecting someone are different, to me. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Respect - it's one of the most frequently used words on this site - and one of the most misunderstood and misused words on this site.
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Tell us what it means to you, how you might express it or wish to receive it?  |
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over a year ago
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Basically I give base level respect freely to everyone on first meeting them. But it has to be kept, if lost it is hard to impossible to win back, higher levels of respect get earned where appropriate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone is entitled to a basic level of respect unless they demonstrate otherwise. I don't believe in people having to "earn" it from me, for me it's just the most basic level of decency you should show to someone.
I believe common courtesy and respect are different things.
Everyone is entitled to common courtesy, unless they prove otherwise, but actual respect is earned.
I usually respect someone for a reason. I don't know a stranger so I have no reason to respect them. I should be courteous though.
Being polite and respecting someone are different, to me."
That makes sense, just a different interpretation of the word to mine. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Everyone is entitled to a basic level of respect unless they demonstrate otherwise. I don't believe in people having to "earn" it from me, for me it's just the most basic level of decency you should show to someone.
I believe common courtesy and respect are different things.
Everyone is entitled to common courtesy, unless they prove otherwise, but actual respect is earned.
I usually respect someone for a reason. I don't know a stranger so I have no reason to respect them. I should be courteous though.
Being polite and respecting someone are different, to me.
That makes sense, just a different interpretation of the word to mine."
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Basically I give base level respect freely to everyone on first meeting them. But it has to be kept, if lost it is hard to impossible to win back, higher levels of respect get earned where appropriate. "
And what does your higher level of respect consist of?
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I give respect to everyone...i never draw a distinction between people whether it's race or what you work at etc.
I really hate it when people look down on other people.....it usually says a lot more about them than the person they look down on......
So ......respect to me means treating everyone equal x |
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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago
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"I give respect to everyone...i never draw a distinction between people whether it's race or what you work at etc.
I really hate it when people look down on other people.....it usually says a lot more about them than the person they look down on......
So ......respect to me means treating everyone equal x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Respect - it's one of the most frequently used words on this site - and one of the most misunderstood and misused words on this site.
Tell us what it means to you, how you might express it or wish to receive it? "
He that respects himself is safe from others. He wears a coat of mail that none can pierce.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.
I think he sums it up nicely.
I don't 'wish it' because that implies a longing or need - which is a gateway to the abyss that is believing that one is entitled to it. Rather, respect shown by others I meet with deference and humility. I try to hold myself to be worthy of that respect.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Basically I give base level respect freely to everyone on first meeting them. But it has to be kept, if lost it is hard to impossible to win back, higher levels of respect get earned where appropriate.
And what does your higher level of respect consist of?
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It has no upper limit, the highest levels are almost on a par with my kids. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Basically I give base level respect freely to everyone on first meeting them. But it has to be kept, if lost it is hard to impossible to win back, higher levels of respect get earned where appropriate.
And what does your higher level of respect consist of?
It has no upper limit, the highest levels are almost on a par with my kids."
But how would you express it? We are all agreed on the concept - but i was hoping to find out exactly what it means to people in effect.
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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago
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"Respect - it's one of the most frequently used words on this site - and one of the most misunderstood and misused words on this site.
Tell us what it means to you, how you might express it or wish to receive it?
He that respects himself is safe from others. He wears a coat of mail that none can pierce.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.
I think he sums it up nicely.
I don't 'wish it' because that implies a longing or need - which is a gateway to the abyss that is believing that one is entitled to it. Rather, respect shown by others I meet with deference and humility. I try to hold myself to be worthy of that respect.
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You beat me to it
Also if you do not respectful of others how do you expect to be respected? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone is entitled to a basic level of respect unless they demonstrate otherwise. I don't believe in people having to "earn" it from me, for me it's just the most basic level of decency you should show to someone. "
I agree with this, I think respect is something that should be given until lost, I will respect someone until they do something to lose that respect, and once lost you can never get it back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me if I say.. I respect someone.. It's because of certain qualities, achievements or I think highly of them.. So in a fashion yes it has to be earned
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Op must have a reason for such a post? It must be earned not given or taken xx"
Yeah, it was a family debate that inspired my pondering the subject. I agree it cannot be taken, and can easily be lost, but I do believe it ought be given. I think HappyGuy hit the nail on the head - it comes from an attitude of equality. If you are my equal, how can I not respect you? If you are my equal, I would treat you as I would want to be treated. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Respect - it's one of the most frequently used words on this site - and one of the most misunderstood and misused words on this site.
Tell us what it means to you, how you might express it or wish to receive it?
He that respects himself is safe from others. He wears a coat of mail that none can pierce.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.
I think he sums it up nicely.
I don't 'wish it' because that implies a longing or need - which is a gateway to the abyss that is believing that one is entitled to it. Rather, respect shown by others I meet with deference and humility. I try to hold myself to be worthy of that respect.
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Haha, a valid point - but I used the word wish to imply it was not demanded from a sense of egotistical entitlement. But now I think about it sometimes one does need to demand respect, eg from disrespectful people on a sex site who would otherwise take advantage. Boundaries need to be set. |
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 it's conversations like such between young and old in the home that people may have such a clear understanding of what RESPECT is and who better to learn from than the people you RESPECT most in life op you must wake with a smile every day xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It has no upper limit, the highest levels are almost on a par with my kids.
But how would you express it? We are all agreed on the concept - but i was hoping to find out exactly what it means to people in effect.
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Problem is that is a dissertation length question. Respect is at its base level is quite cold, it includes discretion, to a point, trust, to a point, honesty, to a point, it's the points that move up the scale.
those who lose respect drop to tolerance, I don't get angry ever, but I can block people out even when in the same room.
this answer is totally inadequate I know that, but like I said the question is too big for a forum response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Respect to me is being a loyal person,none of this bitching and being two faced. helping a friends out as much as you can. knowing when to step away and minding your own business.
But I think you have to show respect to get respect. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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Problem is that is a dissertation length question. Respect is at its base level is quite cold, it includes discretion, to a point, trust, to a point, honesty, to a point, it's the points that move up the scale.
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I understand, but thanks for contributing. 'Cold' respect is quite a good point - it doesn't have come from admiration or any kind of relationship. I actually think tolerance for the _iews of others is quite a good indicator of respect.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone is entitled to a basic level of respect unless they demonstrate otherwise. I don't believe in people having to "earn" it from me, for me it's just the most basic level of decency you should show to someone.
I believe common courtesy and respect are different things.
Everyone is entitled to common courtesy, unless they prove otherwise, but actual respect is earned.
I usually respect someone for a reason. I don't know a stranger so I have no reason to respect them. I should be courteous though.
Being polite and respecting someone are different, to me."
I like this explanation. Very well put.
That being said I always treat people with courtesy AND respect. Whilst the respect has not necessarily been 'earnt' I offer a level of respect due to the fact I do not know about their background, life experiences or problems they have faced that make them who they are.
I hope that makes sense? |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Everyone is entitled to a basic level of respect unless they demonstrate otherwise. I don't believe in people having to "earn" it from me, for me it's just the most basic level of decency you should show to someone.
I believe common courtesy and respect are different things.
Everyone is entitled to common courtesy, unless they prove otherwise, but actual respect is earned.
I usually respect someone for a reason. I don't know a stranger so I have no reason to respect them. I should be courteous though.
Being polite and respecting someone are different, to me.
I like this explanation. Very well put.
That being said I always treat people with courtesy AND respect. Whilst the respect has not necessarily been 'earnt' I offer a level of respect due to the fact I do not know about their background, life experiences or problems they have faced that make them who they are.
I hope that makes sense? "
Yes, I think basic respect should be a default position. Someone could lose my respect in an instant the first time I met them, but I would wish to be granted the same before anyone met me - things like respecting my personal space or my privacy or my safety. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think respecting someone and being respectful of someone are 2 different things."
Good clarification - the former would be the one that includes a measure of admiration, or recognition of achievement/status/whatever? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think respecting someone and being respectful of someone are 2 different things.
Good clarification - the former would be the one that includes a measure of admiration, or recognition of achievement/status/whatever? "
or a spunking over them hot tits |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think respecting someone and being respectful of someone are 2 different things.
Good clarification - the former would be the one that includes a measure of admiration, or recognition of achievement/status/whatever?
or a spunking over them hot tits"
Haha I would not _iew that as respectful! ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think respecting someone and being respectful of someone are 2 different things.
Good clarification - the former would be the one that includes a measure of admiration, or recognition of achievement/status/whatever?
or a spunking over them hot tits
Haha I would not _iew that as respectful! !"
yummm lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I believe respect is earned..
It's all about how you treat people and how you are treated in return, and that's true for anyone, from all walks of life "
I agree respect is earnt  |
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