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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've had a difficult day today and though not prone to being glum and having spent my adult life around patients today has been enough.
I would not normally post something private like this but I guess I just need to rant a little and get it out of my lacimals.
My once so strong nutty mum is slowly fading, discharged home today with nothing much to be done except a time to talk and for me to try and make as much time as I can for her.She is completely alert all lights on but its nearly her time as her body gives up.
This evening I also visited one of my very best friends, she is a lovely, warm , intelligent hardworking, salt of the earth kind of woman who I respect and care for deeply, one of those few true friends we find in life. Her brain tumour resected last year has rapidly regrown, chemo failed and Radiotherapy hasn't halted it. We chatted all evening until she was tired, she still bright and inspirational as always, still talking of the future even though she now knows its months at best.
I feel wretched |
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Big hugs xx
Nothing I can say will make you feel better now but soak up and treasure all your memories and every minute you get with loved ones ... no matter their age you never have them for long enough xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry OP. Try to remember that things will get better. It's futile to tell you to think positively when sad things are happening, but if you remember that they will get better then you can deal with the situations with strength. My thoughts are with you.
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its not a pleasant time - i deal with end of life in my job and we plan if we can with family etc how they want it to be-trying to fulfill wishes etc can be difficult - make the most of your time with these 2 beautiful people you have in your life xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't understand why I was compelled to write something but I do feel uncharacteristically upset... My friend would tell me to "get a grip man don't be such a lemon"
your kind words help thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't understand why I was compelled to write something but I do feel uncharacteristically upset... My friend would tell me to "get a grip man don't be such a lemon"
your kind words help thank you"
sometimes things just overwhelm us and we have to do something - even if nothing comes of it - xxxxx |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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My mum died of a sudden heart attack a few years ago. No chance for me to say things I would have wanted to say. Less than a year later my dad's condition deteriorated and he spent his final few weeks in a hospice.
Although watching him get weaker was horrendous, it meant family had time to talk about stuff. Special memories, houses we lived in and dad told us tales from his past we would never have known.
These ladies are blessed that they have been given a warning that the end is coming. You have the opportunity to make the time special, comforting, amusing.
It is very hard, but visit them knowing that this is an important period spent with them.
I am so sad that I didn't get this time with my mum. In the future, you will look back at this period knowing you did your best And spent the time wisely. |
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By *r ManxMan
over a year ago
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" "get a grip man don't be such a lemon"
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can be the cruellest thing to say at times of hardship and pain. Life can be cruel and kind and you can find kindness, compassion and help in the strangest of places.
try to live for now and things will get better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just easier sometimes to blurt things out to relative strangers than it is to talk to nearest and dearest, were s strange lot in here, but so many good listeners, do when you feel the need blurt away |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's just easier sometimes to blurt things out to relative strangers than it is to talk to nearest and dearest, were s strange lot in here, but so many good listeners, do when you feel the need blurt away "
Very true. Life is tough and death inevitable but it makes you value those you have an wish you still had others you miss.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Know all too well how it feels op,my father is in hospital at the moment,been in since the 23th Dec. He's 83,in and out of intensive care,but stable at the moment. All this as came about because he got on a bus and the driver set off before he had sat down,sending him flying.Life can be cruel at times but we have to bat on. All the best op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry dude. Sounds like your having a bit of a shit time of things at the mo. Stay strong though bro; I wish all the best for you and your mum. Take it easy and tried to keep positive, I know that must be hard at the moment but understand that so many people have read this and they are all your friends and want to help any way they can - ypu are not facing this alone bud. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had a difficult day today and though not prone to being glum and having spent my adult life around patients today has been enough.
I would not normally post something private like this but I guess I just need to rant a little and get it out of my lacimals.
My once so strong nutty mum is slowly fading, discharged home today with nothing much to be done except a time to talk and for me to try and make as much time as I can for her.She is completely alert all lights on but its nearly her time as her body gives up.
This evening I also visited one of my very best friends, she is a lovely, warm , intelligent hardworking, salt of the earth kind of woman who I respect and care for deeply, one of those few true friends we find in life. Her brain tumour resected last year has rapidly regrown, chemo failed and Radiotherapy hasn't halted it. We chatted all evening until she was tired, she still bright and inspirational as always, still talking of the future even though she now knows its months at best.
I feel wretched"
 so sad , cherish every second left |
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