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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I asked my friend for a meet at the start of the week knowing he was off on leave. Immediately he AGREED and said it would probably be Thurs. Each time I asked for confirmation, time meet place it was 'I'll confirm'. Rarely do I hear from this person unless I make contact. Last night still unaware as to what was happening I text again asking what craic was for Thurs. Msg still unable to confirm. This morn another msg apologising & still unable to confirm. I've asked 'do u not want to see me?' That msg has been ignored.

I've put alot of effort into our friendship of 4 yrs and tbh I have never felt so pushed away these past few mths as what I do now. Things never used to be like this & we had a fantastic friendship & chatted/text loads. Absolutely gutted at how I'm being treated & feel totally worthless.

How wld you be feeling now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I asked my friend for a meet at the start of the week knowing he was off on leave. Immediately he AGREED and said it would probably be Thurs. Each time I asked for confirmation, time meet place it was 'I'll confirm'. Rarely do I hear from this person unless I make contact. Last night still unaware as to what was happening I text again asking what craic was for Thurs. Msg still unable to confirm. This morn another msg apologising & still unable to confirm. I've asked 'do u not want to see me?' That msg has been ignored.

How wld you be feeling now?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How wld you be feeling now?

Abit gutted but that's this life we lead sound like either got afew things on or my be happening behind someone's back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I learned long ago that I don't have time for friends that don't have time for me.

It is completely dependant on your friendship, but personally I would be making other plans for Thursday and not initiate contact again.

-Courtney

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be a bit pissed off but not much you can do really.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"I learned long ago that I don't have time for friends that don't have time for me.

It is completely dependant on your friendship, but personally I would be making other plans for Thursday and not initiate contact again.

-Courtney "

^ This

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By *ommenhimCouple over a year ago

wigan

How wld you be feeling now

Would probably seek solace in my husband or wife if I was you ?

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you."

Then why not just say "I can't meet"? Why leave it hanging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you."

Why agree on a meet then just leave me hanging in limbo till last min? He's so distant & his msgs are so cold when he does finally text. I've asked him to be honest about not wanting to see me anymore & he never replies. 4 yrs is a long time to hve a friendship to just throw away with no explanation.

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By *ittleminxyoungWoman over a year ago

Hull

"I learned long ago that I don't have time for friends that don't have time for me.

It is completely dependant on your friendship, but personally I would be making other plans for Thursday and not initiate contact again.

-Courtney "

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By *r H and Good PetCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you.

Maybe it's time to do what we tell all the guys to do on here: take a no reply as a "no thanks"...

Obvs I do realise on a 4yr friendship it's very different. But maybe it's time to get rid of someone who treats you in a way you dislike this much?

*hugs*

xxx

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you.

Sounds like leaving it and getting on with other things is the way to go then.

Distant can mean under stress though. But you can hang around at his beck and call forever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Time to move on, no questions asked, just slip away and keep your dignity in tact. I'm in a similar situation and I'm worth a bit more respect... Even tho on this hedonistic journey self respect is upmost xx

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

Message them say you can't meet on Thursday, you are always there for them should they need you and you will wait for them to make contact with you when they feel ready. Then back off and leave them alone.

Sometimes people need space.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How wld you be feeling now?

I take it you are the female half....?

My thoughts would simply be..... don't dwell on a situation if your not comfortable with it.......

Don't make yourself unhappy ....

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

How wld you be feeling now?

Firstly did they say why they couldn't confirm ?? If a valid reason I don't see why they still wouldn't know till on the day if they would be free or not !

The vagueness of it would immediately raise alarm bells to me . Seems to me like he was just covering his options .If that wasn't the case why wouldnt he say a day or two before look there's no chance I'll make it,but instead he says nothing!! I'm sorry but what type if "friend" leaves you dangling like that? Clearly he has no regard for your spare time and maybe that's because you seem too available . You said yourself you hardly hear from him unless you make contact . If he really was a friend or that interested HE'D being making an effort too wouldn't he .

I personally would cut any contact .I can garentee he'll be sniffing about again when he's horny . I'd then be busy with the friends do respect my spare time and me .

If a so called friend makes you feel worthless then they are definitely NO friend . They can only make you feel that way if you allow it .So you need to decide if you are happy to continue chasing and getting little in return ,or are you going only accept to be treated with the respect you deserve

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I would be a hypocrite as I am not good keeping in contact with people, actually I am shit at it.

but, I don't mind if people end contact with me. I am cool with it.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

"Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you.

Shit happens and people change.

I'd been close friends with a girl since we were 5 years old and the last couple of years, I was the only one initiating contact.

If I didn't arrange anything, I'd never hear from her and we'd never see eachother, and then she began to get uppity when I didn't text her or go to see her.

If someone cares about you, they'll make time for you. Length of friendship guarantees you nothing and I learned a long time ago to cut people like that out of my life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you.

Perhaps he's trying to concentrate on finding a relationship of his own?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I learned long ago that I don't have time for friends that don't have time for me.

It is completely dependant on your friendship, but personally I would be making other plans for Thursday and not initiate contact again.

-Courtney "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hurt but I'd think he had something going on in his life.

It's not necessarily that he doesn't want to see you. That's your thought and it may not be true.

Maybe be concerned about him and what's tying his time up so badly?

He probably does have other important things in his life besides you.

Shit happens and people change.

I'd been close friends with a girl since we were 5 years old and the last couple of years, I was the only one initiating contact.

If I didn't arrange anything, I'd never hear from her and we'd never see eachother, and then she began to get uppity when I didn't text her or go to see her.

If someone cares about you, they'll make time for you. Length of friendship guarantees you nothing and I learned a long time ago to cut people like that out of my life."

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'd be a little hurt to if I were you. 4 yrs is a long time to be friends with someone who you clearly like. However, this is fab so I would shake myself down think to myself this guy should grow a set of balls and be honest with me and move on!!!!

As someone has suggested I'd send a text saying that you are there for him should he need to chat and leave it at that.

Someone said to me once when it's not fun anymore it's time to walk away. It's very true OP

(((((Hugs)))))

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