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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So having been on here a short while I have noticed a common theme of messaging people and them saying I'm to young (not stated in preferences always) I can't help my age, and women/couples nearer my age are either fake or clearly get lots of message so hard to get responces |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've only been here two weeks and already had a meet don't know what your moaning about.
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That was a bit of luck and more a skill I have that was needed, its arranging any future meets that's the issue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never issues with men haha
You're bi-curious
Go fill your boots 
Not enough experience to throw myself in with most of them"
Trust me. You pick it up quickly. 
Joking aside, as Goddess has said, you have only been here a short while.
It's not a race, it really isn't
Take it easy, get to know people, talk to them, meet people for coffee, network.
You will soon realise that for many, sex, especially immediate sex is either only available on the specials menu or isn't on the menu at all.
Trust me when I say that if you slow it down a bit, the rewards will be far more forthcoming (long term) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its not like I've been sending messages desperate for sex, generally just about there profile and how it would be good to chat but often get shot down rather quick. Think I need to go to a few social just always difficult for free times on those nights at the minute |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You been on two weeks and have one meet under your belt so what's the problem. Never gonna get meets everyday or week for that matter. Chill out whats the rush, you only make yourself look more desperate posting things like this, another way of meeting people is actually go out. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"So having been on here a short while I have noticed a common theme of messaging people and them saying I'm to young (not stated in preferences always) I can't help my age, and women/couples nearer my age are either fake or clearly get lots of message so hard to get responces"
No, you can't help your age but other people can't help their preferences.
A lot of people don't want to be shagging others as young as or younger than their children.
There's no point moaning about it. You just have to crack on and find those who are interested.
Most men get a lot of rejections on here. There are loads of men to relatively few women and couples. If you're feeling disheartened and complaining after such a short time on here, it really doesn't bode well. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
PS women and couples not near your age also, probably, get a lot of messages and you may struggle to get responses. Even if you do get responses, as you've found, they may be 'no thanks'.
I'm not sure I like the implication you're interested more in older women/couples because you think we get less interest and will be easier to get meets with! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So having been on here a short while I have noticed a common theme of messaging people and them saying I'm to young (not stated in preferences always) I can't help my age, and women/couples nearer my age are either fake or clearly get lots of message so hard to get responces
No, you can't help your age but other people can't help their preferences.
A lot of people don't want to be shagging others as young as or younger than their children.
There's no point moaning about it. You just have to crack on and find those who are interested.
Most men get a lot of rejections on here. There are loads of men to relatively few women and couples. If you're feeling disheartened and complaining after such a short time on here, it really doesn't bode well."
I think you need to take him under your wing   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its not like I'm trying to get meets, just after some nice chats half the time. I can see where you are all coming from and I am greatful for the advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
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Immaturity normally starts showing to me when I read a profile. It tells me straight away something about the person and I make my mind up straight away if I would meet him or not by the wording of the profile text.
Then I look at age. And the rest. Not everyone is shallow as you think - we just have our own tastes. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
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It's not just that. A lot of couples have kids older than some of the younger guys.
Why should anyone give you a chance? You're not entitled to anything.
Is it unfair you find it more difficult to get a meet because you are young? Possibly not but we all have aspects of our own situations that aren't ideal.
The tendency of younger men whining it's not fair that nobody gives them a chance because of their age is one of the things that puts me off younger men.
You earn your 'chances' on here. You don't have a god given right to meets. You think everyone should have to meet you and give you a chance to impress them before rejecting you? It doesn't work like that.
If you're not what they want, you aren't what they want.
Would you apply for a job you're not qualified for then moan they didn't give you a chance? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"So having been on here a short while I have noticed a common theme of messaging people and them saying I'm to young (not stated in preferences always) I can't help my age, and women/couples nearer my age are either fake or clearly get lots of message so hard to get responces
No, you can't help your age but other people can't help their preferences.
A lot of people don't want to be shagging others as young as or younger than their children.
There's no point moaning about it. You just have to crack on and find those who are interested.
Most men get a lot of rejections on here. There are loads of men to relatively few women and couples. If you're feeling disheartened and complaining after such a short time on here, it really doesn't bode well.
I think you need to take him under your wing "
I think you should [censored to avoid a ban]!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
It's not just that. A lot of couples have kids older than some of the younger guys.
Why should anyone give you a chance? You're not entitled to anything.
Is it unfair you find it more difficult to get a meet because you are young? Possibly not but we all have aspects of our own situations that aren't ideal.
The tendency of younger men whining it's not fair that nobody gives them a chance because of their age is one of the things that puts me off younger men.
You earn your 'chances' on here. You don't have a god given right to meets. You think everyone should have to meet you and give you a chance to impress them before rejecting you? It doesn't work like that.
If you're not what they want, you aren't what they want.
Would you apply for a job you're not qualified for then moan they didn't give you a chance?"
Perfect answer |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Blah blah blah most of the hot guys won't give me a chance because I'm fat wah wah wah. It's so unfair because I'm the most amazing, wonderful, fabulous person in the world and I deserve a chance to be able to prove that to them wah wah wah.
Nobody deserves anything.
It's up to me to find the people I appeal to. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
It's not just that. A lot of couples have kids older than some of the younger guys.
Why should anyone give you a chance? You're not entitled to anything.
Is it unfair you find it more difficult to get a meet because you are young? Possibly not but we all have aspects of our own situations that aren't ideal.
The tendency of younger men whining it's not fair that nobody gives them a chance because of their age is one of the things that puts me off younger men.
You earn your 'chances' on here. You don't have a god given right to meets. You think everyone should have to meet you and give you a chance to impress them before rejecting you? It doesn't work like that.
If you're not what they want, you aren't what they want.
Would you apply for a job you're not qualified for then moan they didn't give you a chance?
Perfect answer "
except I should have written "to whine" rather than "whining" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
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Weirdly i think my immaturity is one of my best selling points on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thing is its not about age, guys older find it just as hard, the problem is ratio of men to women and if you cant accept that your not the best fish in the sea and cant take alot of rejection then time to go as rejection is what most likely your gonna get. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
Weirdly i think my immaturity is one of my best selling points on here"
I wouldn't say you're immature.
Perhaps your behaviour or humour can be sometimes, as can mine for that matter, but overall, as a whole, your outlook isn't immature. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
Weirdly i think my immaturity is one of my best selling points on here
I wouldn't say you're immature.
Perhaps your behaviour or humour can be sometimes, as can mine for that matter, but overall, as a whole, your outlook isn't immature."
I tickle people, and laugh at my own farts
Maturity is not my steong suit
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
Weirdly i think my immaturity is one of my best selling points on here
I wouldn't say you're immature.
Perhaps your behaviour or humour can be sometimes, as can mine for that matter, but overall, as a whole, your outlook isn't immature.
I tickle people, and laugh at my own farts
Maturity is not my steong suit
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You mean not everyone laughs at their own farts? 
I accidentally expelled one under the duvet a few days ago. One of my cats was under the duvet, curled up behind my knees. I laughed. A lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
Weirdly i think my immaturity is one of my best selling points on here
I wouldn't say you're immature.
Perhaps your behaviour or humour can be sometimes, as can mine for that matter, but overall, as a whole, your outlook isn't immature.
I tickle people, and laugh at my own farts
Maturity is not my steong suit
You mean not everyone laughs at their own farts?
I accidentally expelled one under the duvet a few days ago. One of my cats was under the duvet, curled up behind my knees. I laughed. A lot."
I dutch ovened my last meet  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
Weirdly i think my immaturity is one of my best selling points on here
I wouldn't say you're immature.
Perhaps your behaviour or humour can be sometimes, as can mine for that matter, but overall, as a whole, your outlook isn't immature.
I tickle people, and laugh at my own farts
Maturity is not my steong suit
You mean not everyone laughs at their own farts?
I accidentally expelled one under the duvet a few days ago. One of my cats was under the duvet, curled up behind my knees. I laughed. A lot.
I dutch ovened my last meet "
Ok, that is a tad childish |
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"So having been on here a short while I have noticed a common theme of messaging people and them saying I'm to young (not stated in preferences always) I can't help my age, and women/couples nearer my age are either fake or clearly get lots of message so hard to get responces
No, you can't help your age but other people can't help their preferences.
A lot of people don't want to be shagging others as young as or younger than their children.
There's no point moaning about it. You just have to crack on and find those who are interested.
Most men get a lot of rejections on here. There are loads of men to relatively few women and couples. If you're feeling disheartened and complaining after such a short time on here, it really doesn't bode well."
My thoughts exactly! |
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
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This is not a charity event or job opportunity. "Giving you a chance" is not applicable! 
For some, sex is a social event with like minded people. Bumping uglies with people younger than your children is a turn off for *some* so respect other people's preferences and concentrate on those looking for you! |
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
Immaturity normally starts showing to me when I read a profile. It tells me straight away something about the person and I make my mind up straight away if I would meet him or not by the wording of the profile text.
Then I look at age. And the rest. Not everyone is shallow as you think - we just have our own tastes."
This I don't get: why are people's sexual preferences shallow? If an 18 year old stud muffin didn't want to shag my old bones I wouldn't dream of calling him shallow.
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"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
It's not just that. A lot of couples have kids older than some of the younger guys.
Why should anyone give you a chance? You're not entitled to anything.
Is it unfair you find it more difficult to get a meet because you are young? Possibly not but we all have aspects of our own situations that aren't ideal.
The tendency of younger men whining it's not fair that nobody gives them a chance because of their age is one of the things that puts me off younger men.
You earn your 'chances' on here. You don't have a god given right to meets. You think everyone should have to meet you and give you a chance to impress them before rejecting you? It doesn't work like that.
If you're not what they want, you aren't what they want.
Would you apply for a job you're not qualified for then moan they didn't give you a chance?"
Should have read to the end and save myself some typing: spot on! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Most people on here think us young guys will be immature, instead of giving us a chance, but they're are people looking for younger you just need to find them.
It's not just that. A lot of couples have kids older than some of the younger guys.
Why should anyone give you a chance? You're not entitled to anything.
Is it unfair you find it more difficult to get a meet because you are young? Possibly not but we all have aspects of our own situations that aren't ideal.
The tendency of younger men whining it's not fair that nobody gives them a chance because of their age is one of the things that puts me off younger men.
You earn your 'chances' on here. You don't have a god given right to meets. You think everyone should have to meet you and give you a chance to impress them before rejecting you? It doesn't work like that.
If you're not what they want, you aren't what they want.
Would you apply for a job you're not qualified for then moan they didn't give you a chance?
Should have read to the end and save myself some typing: spot on! "
Except for the mistakes in my English! |
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