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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
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Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes I would do something purely for somebody else, never because its expected of me but simply because I have no problem going out of my way for others, that is of course depending on who the person was |
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"Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me."
but that is being true to yourself if your happy doing it.
I think I worded it wrong, I ment things that are against your principles or beliefs, maybe I forgot to type the important bit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me."
I think, from business perspective, I do some things just so customers think better of me. I wouldn't do them if I didn't think the reputation that I gained wouldn't be helpful to the business |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me.but that is being true to yourself if your happy doing it.
I think I worded it wrong, I ment things that are against your principles or beliefs, maybe I forgot to type the important bit "
Sometimes it may be against one of my principles but serves a higher order principle in my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always used to do what was expected of me and generally put others before myself.......... But just recently following some changes in my life and I suppose getting older I have started to put myself first even if it raises a few eyebrows and annoys folk........ Tough! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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these days pretty true to myself. I wont do something that's 'expected' if I don't agree with it or think its right.
Depends on the situation though, as others have said.
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"Isn't doing things for other people a positive side of human nature? Putting others before yourself is rarely a bad thing?
#beinghuman"
but would you do it because it was nature instinct or just because people might feel better of you?
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
"Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me.but that is being true to yourself if your happy doing it.
I think I worded it wrong, I ment things that are against your principles or beliefs, maybe I forgot to type the important bit "
No I wouldn't just to please someone.I would listen to their request but ultimately I can only go with what I feel is right for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I lived most of my life that way till i was about 27. Always doing things to keep people happy or duty etc.
Then i had an ephihany and thought fuck it. Since then ive been alot more selfish and a lot happier xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me.but that is being true to yourself if your happy doing it.
I think I worded it wrong, I ment things that are against your principles or beliefs, maybe I forgot to type the important bit "
I don't think I do anything that goes against my principles or beliefs. |
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"I lived most of my life that way till i was about 27. Always doing things to keep people happy or duty etc.
Then i had an ephihany and thought fuck it. Since then ive been alot more selfish and a lot happier xx"
I'm wondering if selfish people are happier, I'm starting to see evidence that they are. |
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"Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me.but that is being true to yourself if your happy doing it.
I think I worded it wrong, I ment things that are against your principles or beliefs, maybe I forgot to type the important bit
I don't think I do anything that goes against my principles or beliefs. "
there you go then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I lived most of my life that way till i was about 27. Always doing things to keep people happy or duty etc.
Then i had an ephihany and thought fuck it. Since then ive been alot more selfish and a lot happier xxI'm wondering if selfish people are happier, I'm starting to see evidence that they are."
You don't have to be selfish....just truthful and firm about your own principles,beliefs and feelings. As a species we seem to struggle with that at times.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you ever do something just to please someone else, because its expected of you or worried about what others think.
I'm not must talking sexually but generally
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Is that no just life?? Thinking of others is an every day thing.....well unless ur in government  |
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"I lived most of my life that way till i was about 27. Always doing things to keep people happy or duty etc.
Then i had an ephihany and thought fuck it. Since then ive been alot more selfish and a lot happier xxI'm wondering if selfish people are happier, I'm starting to see evidence that they are.
You don't have to be selfish....just truthful and firm about your own principles,beliefs and feelings. As a species we seem to struggle with that at times.
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maybe not selfish but putting yourself first. Why are other people more important than doing what's best for you
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I would if it was expected of me. I don't believe it's not being true to myself. Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to but life doesn't always revolve around what we want.I wouldn't do something just so people think better of me.but that is being true to yourself if your happy doing it.
I think I worded it wrong, I ment things that are against your principles or beliefs, maybe I forgot to type the important bit "
then no if its against my principles be for you added this it would have been yes the same as most people do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have difficulties doing things that I regard as pointless or against my core beliefs.
I would, of course, help a friend, someone in need or do a favour."
Have you read "the power of the powerless" by Havel? Before you tell us the answer; my guess is you have |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I lived most of my life that way till i was about 27. Always doing things to keep people happy or duty etc.
Then i had an ephihany and thought fuck it. Since then ive been alot more selfish and a lot happier xxI'm wondering if selfish people are happier, I'm starting to see evidence that they are."
Its worked for me. Im not super selfish but im not going out of my way for someone who doesnt deserve it just because its the nice thing to do. Some people just take take take friends and family.
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"I have difficulties doing things that I regard as pointless or against my core beliefs.
I would, of course, help a friend, someone in need or do a favour.
Have you read "the power of the powerless" by Havel? Before you tell us the answer; my guess is you have"
Nope, sorry. Never heard of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have difficulties doing things that I regard as pointless or against my core beliefs.
I would, of course, help a friend, someone in need or do a favour.
Have you read "the power of the powerless" by Havel? Before you tell us the answer; my guess is you have
Nope, sorry. Never heard of it"
Seriously? You'd like it (seriously) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you ever do something just to please someone else, because its expected of you or worried about what others think.
I'm not must talking sexually but generally
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Yes it's called compromise.
If there's something that is important to another person, ie family dinner or going out with their friends, that i dont particuarly like or enjoy I'll do it.
It doesnt hurt me but it makes them haply so why not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you ever do something just to please someone else, because its expected of you or worried about what others think.
I'm not must talking sexually but generally
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Yeah almost the whole of last year was dedicated to my friends wedding and being a bridesmaid, pow wows about wedding, numerous fittings and bollocks, money, time, organising 2 uk hen parties, 1 hen weekend in Marbella then the actual wedding in August, raped my purse and my patience, finally got my life back in September only to have to have money for all new back to school stuff then my daughters birthday in October then Xmas. Done so much for other people last year that I forgot I had a birthday in June and turned 32! That's a massive thing for me to forget something. Last year was a cunt, this year I ain't doing fuck all for anyone (apart from my child!) |
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he also wrote "toward a civil society" where he criticises the mis-interpretation of "the power of the powerless" and the confining of the notion of dissidence as being solely anti-communist by modern ecomomists. he also sets out the ideas of dissent aimed at globalization and laissez faire capitalism in favour of demark democracy over the interests of business. |
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"I would not do anything that is against my principals just to please someone as that would make me a hypocrite.
If that's what your question means op "
it is, although I made a hash of putting it across |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have difficulties doing things that I regard as pointless or against my core beliefs.
I would, of course, help a friend, someone in need or do a favour."
Same as above
It's good to please but I would never do anything I wasn't happy to
I always trust my gut instinct |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"he also wrote "toward a civil society" where he criticises the mis-interpretation of "the power of the powerless" and the confining of the notion of dissidence as being solely anti-communist by modern ecomomists. he also sets out the ideas of dissent aimed at globalization and laissez faire capitalism in favour of demark democracy over the interests of business."
I like his notion of dissidence and being true to ones self, possibly the predecessor to 'keeping it real?'
We might chose to apply it to different things though! |
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"he also wrote "toward a civil society" where he criticises the mis-interpretation of "the power of the powerless" and the confining of the notion of dissidence as being solely anti-communist by modern ecomomists. he also sets out the ideas of dissent aimed at globalization and laissez faire capitalism in favour of demark democracy over the interests of business.
I like his notion of dissidence and being true to ones self, possibly the predecessor to 'keeping it real?'
We might chose to apply it to different things though! "
exactly what he speaks in towards a civil society ...... to make a choice of what bits to cherry pick is naive and self serving .... dissidence should however be applied to everything about the machinary of the cetralised political state and the parts of it that are run on the states behalf by for-profit business |
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"he also wrote "toward a civil society" where he criticises the mis-interpretation of "the power of the powerless" and the confining of the notion of dissidence as being solely anti-communist by modern ecomomists. he also sets out the ideas of dissent aimed at globalization and laissez faire capitalism in favour of demark democracy over the interests of business.
I like his notion of dissidence and being true to ones self, possibly the predecessor to 'keeping it real?'
We might chose to apply it to different things though!
exactly what he speaks in towards a civil society ...... to make a choice of what bits to cherry pick is naive and self serving .... dissidence should however be applied to everything about the machinary of the cetralised political state and the parts of it that are run on the states behalf by for-profit business"
OK well I said Joe would like it, not that I live by it. But thanks for bursting my bubble! |
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