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over a year ago
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?"
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?"
Maybe just get into a bit of a relationship with this person first ..aren't you jumping the gun a tad? |
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?"
Who has the date? The man or woman? Does the girl know you have a partner? |
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?
Who has the date? The man or woman? Does the girl know you have a partner?"
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If Craig or I (or both) have a date with someone, they know right from the beginning that we are poly as it's written on our dating profiles and we double check they've read it and are okay with it. I don't think it's fair to spring that on someone half way through a first date!
If she already knows what you are looking for and you mean you'd like to ask her for her views on it, I'd probably just ask how she feels about the concept but not mention anything about being part of your relationship just yet. If you like each other, see her a few more times and see where it goes. If it'll work as a poly triad, it'll happen naturally  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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if you have been communicating with the lady for months and have never mentioned the fact your poly and looking for a 3rd to join , then I would think there is no point mentioning it on the date ,seems odd to be flirting for months but yet not discussing what ye want at all from this ? |
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"Our interaction has been limited, it's a waitress at a coffee shop he goes to regularly, very difficult topic to bring up over the counter! "
I personally think most Women outside the swinging scene would tell you they are not interested, But if she has been giving you the right signals I think the best option is to be honest with her and say you have a partner who doesn't mind you dating other Women or maybe ask your partner to speak to her |
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"Our interaction has been limited, it's a waitress at a coffee shop he goes to regularly, very difficult topic to bring up over the counter! "
You can't go on a date with someone and just launch into this. Have a modicum of respect for the woman.
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"Our interaction has been limited, it's a waitress at a coffee shop he goes to regularly, very difficult topic to bring up over the counter! "
Can we assume, as you seem to be dodging the question the woman think he is single? |
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"Anyone who brought up having a relationship on the first date would have me backing away slowly. See how it goes first!"
Me too and that would be a monogamous relationship, bringing up the subject of polyamory with a third party I hadn't even met properly would have me running for the hills screaming. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Our interaction has been limited, it's a waitress at a coffee shop he goes to regularly, very difficult topic to bring up over the counter!
Can we assume, as you seem to be dodging the question the woman think he is single?"
Can you imagine how that conversation is going to go? 
"I really like you, and so does my partner. We want you to move in with us both. Tonight!" |
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"Anyone who brought up having a relationship on the first date would have me backing away slowly. See how it goes first!
Me too and that would be a monogamous relationship, bringing up the subject of polyamory with a third party I hadn't even met properly would have me running for the hills screaming. "
Maybe not screaming but with a look on my face,
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?"
Wait does she know you have a partner?
If not youve started the whole thing out on a lie and people dont react well to "so btw i have a partner" on the first date if they dont already know |
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?"
Wait does she know you have a partner?
If not youve started the whole thing out on a lie and people dont react well to "so btw i have a partner" on the first date if they dont already know |
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?
Wait does she know you have a partner?
If not youve started the whole thing out on a lie and people dont react well to "so btw i have a partner" on the first date if they dont already know"
All things considered the fact that they've assumed that she's bisexual and open to a poly relationship with someone she's flirted with while at work and someone she's never met will probably make her reaction to the 'oh I've got a partner' conversation compartitively calm! |
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?"
Do you not think that you might be jumping the gun a wee bit? |
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"So I have a first date with a girl who me and my partner are both attracted to who has been flirting with me for months, how to bring up the subject of a polyamorous relationship on a first date?
Wait does she know you have a partner?
If not youve started the whole thing out on a lie and people dont react well to "so btw i have a partner" on the first date if they dont already know"
I'm rather thinking the same , chatting for months you say ? Perhaps she is hoping for a bf ? She could end up most hurt ? |
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