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Hypocritical to like guys out of my league?
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I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite? 
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling. |
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over a year ago
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling. "
There is no reason to assume you would not be attractive to someone with a different shaped body.
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Why would you assume what someone you've never spoken to likes. Different people like different things.
I attract all different sorts of guys same as all different types of guys arnt attracted to me.
But if you had a preference for one particular thing and wasn't getting it I'd suggest casting your net wider
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling. "
Its all the same, we are approached by guys looking for ssbbw and the like....never been over 8 stone in my life but not for want of trying... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just because you are tall doesn't mean you will be attracted to tall people or small for that matter. In the simplest form it's what turns you on or attracts you so it in no way makes you a hypocrite x |
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"Not at all hypocritical. If you're attracted to a certain physique, that's fine. So long as they are interested in you, you're fine "
 you like what you like. And if you can find someone that fits the bill who likes you back jobs a good 'un!
There will be exceptions of course - but I think it's easier for the ladies to be more discerning / demanding on physical types than us fellas to be honest. As its a sex site with supply and demand imbalanced then the ladies can, in the whole, afford to be specific about 6 packs and physique (if that's what they want) as there will always be plenty of men out there to choose from. Not always the case the other way around.
It's your preference, you can achieve the standards you want, go fill your boots and enjoy |
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling. "
I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you! |
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"Not at all hypocritical. If you're attracted to a certain physique, that's fine. So long as they are interested in you, you're fine "
Exactly this, and bless you OP so many people do this on here without having a moral argument with themselves. If you like a certain look then go for it |
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Peach you look perfect. But getting back to the point, I think wanting a certain body type, is only natural, both in the person you want to meet and in yourself. If you are happy with your own body then never change it to try and chase after a certain type of person, that would lead to you feeling miserable about yourself, cos deep down its not who you are, however if its for health reasons get on with it lol!
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling. "
You are putting yourself across just fine.
Been in the same boat- also tall, also a bit squidgy  , but also not attracted to male squidgies, for sex.
I used to think that I permanently punch above my weight on here, but discovered that my increased confidence is extremely attractive out there in the real world to.
Ultimately I have learned to love my curves (and only ever diet for Me) and all men find confidence sexy! So enjoy and recognise your real worth sweetie- its your personality as well as your pretty face and curvy body xx |
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From what I can see from you're pics you're FAB 
Nothing wrong with you're body type at all in fact I think you're quite sexy
Never let anyone tell you otherwise and you go for what turns you on and bet you will get plenty of takers |
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The reality is that generally men are far less picky about the women they play with and with the imbalance of men versus women on this site, ladies can be very choosy.... |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"The reality is that generally men are far less picky about the women they play with and with the imbalance of men versus women on this site, ladies can be very choosy...."
Generally perhaps...but not always  |
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"The reality is that generally men are far less picky about the women they play with and with the imbalance of men versus women on this site, ladies can be very choosy...."
As a man he would not entertain this site vying for the attention of so few women ,some men are very popular with certain groups but to us the profiles just pander to plain women(no offence intended)
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling.
You are putting yourself across just fine.
Been in the same boat- also tall, also a bit squidgy , but also not attracted to male squidgies, for sex.
I used to think that I permanently punch above my weight on here, but discovered that my increased confidence is extremely attractive out there in the real world to.
Ultimately I have learned to love my curves (and only ever diet for Me) and all men find confidence sexy! So enjoy and recognise your real worth sweetie- its your personality as well as your pretty face and curvy body xx"
Well said x |
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It's slightly hypocritical, but frankly that's only as hypocritical as your laundry list of your ideal man's physique is! It's alright to have preferences, but quite clearly there is a line to be drawn between "fantasising about the ideal man but giving real life people a chance" and "if you don't meet 9/10 of my body criteria for you I won't meet or shag you".
After all nobody likes to be pre-judged for their bodies. Sure as hell ain't knocking your body because hey confidence means much more than looks. But then again there are those who frankly do not have much to offer themselves and yet they'd reject others in the rudest manner possible.
End of the day body preferences isn't the issue. The issue is how to say no without sounding like a self-officious prat. Diplomacy! |
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There are no rules , an image will not dictate whether two frequencies will resonate in the correct manner in the first place, sometimes this can far outweigh what you assume are the laws of attraction.
also said by others you can never know what a persons preference is unless you ask.
remember nothing ventured nothing gained .
It's a great question OP I think many have asked it to themselves one time or another try not to limit yourself for fear of a knock back for ever one that don't desire you I'm sure there are 100's that do . |
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"It's slightly hypocritical, but frankly that's only as hypocritical as your laundry list of your ideal man's physique is! It's alright to have preferences, but quite clearly there is a line to be drawn between "fantasising about the ideal man but giving real life people a chance" and "if you don't meet 9/10 of my body criteria for you I won't meet or shag you".
After all nobody likes to be pre-judged for their bodies. Sure as hell ain't knocking your body because hey confidence means much more than looks. But then again there are those who frankly do not have much to offer themselves and yet they'd reject others in the rudest manner possible.
End of the day body preferences isn't the issue. The issue is how to say no without sounding like a self-officious prat. Diplomacy! "
The word is prick, not prat. |
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I had a thing for Royal Marines last year, or so it seemed, and got through quite a few. (Boasting)
If you can get them, enjoy it while you can. How can it possibly be wrong? |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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Is there such as thing as out of your league? I thought that if people were attracted to each other then that was that.... No one is better than you so no one is out of your league.....if people wish to put limits for height, weight, size and shape that's up to them but it doesn't make the people they choose any better than those they don't choose |
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My personal preference is for tall men with a footballers physique BUT my last ex wasn't particularly tall and had more of rugby players build and we were together for 14 years so for me it is purely about personal attraction to someone regardless of how they look. I am a sucker for a younger man  |
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No your not. You dont have to fancy people who are a similar weight/ looks to you at all.
Some people here like to moan about equal oppourtunities and peoples tastes should be x y z. When they arent getting meets or when people they view as less attractive are getting more or whatever. Who cares though?
What your into is what your into. Never sleep with someone you think matches you on some spredsheet. Attraction cant be analysed like that. And you wont be happy. Always do what makes you happy lovely |
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling. "
Great question!
Would describe myself as athletic & before Fab wld never consider anyone opposite e.g. BBW. But then I meet this fantastic curvy lady (BBW) & sweet jesus! Had the most mind blowing intense sex I've ever had. Lesson learnt "don't judge a book by its cover".
I would say give different types a try see how it goes
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling.
I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you! "
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling.
I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you! "
this lady spot on |
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling.
I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you! "
Best comment I've read on here so far, honest & factual much respect for u lady |
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Oh and there's no such thing as leagues people can't help what they like simples  the league thing is just for vain people who think there better than others etc |
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling.
I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you!
Best comment I've read on here so far, honest & factual much respect for u lady"
Thanks Hun! Xx |
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I don't think it's hypocritical to have a preference and want to meet people who fit that. I think it would show hypocrisy if your profile was all slagging men off if they're not adonises or being rude about people's bodies, but what you've described doesn't seem hypocritical to me - and if you're getting what you want them keep at it! I know there are particular groups of men though who wouldn't look at me twice in the outside world and I won't go there, I don't find it empowering or sexy, it makes me feel like some kind of last resort. So I can't necessarily relate to your preference but I'll damn well defend your right to have it and act on it |
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling. "
Nah. Hypocrisy would be telling someone they are bad for having the same body type as you or thinking less of them for it.
You are attracted to whoever you are attracted to and you cannot be expected only to sleep with people similar to you.
That would mean slim athletic types who like the larger person would also be unacceptable. It works both ways and it clearly should not be an issue. Just be open minded and kind. |
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"I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you! "
Awesome reply, thanks! Yeah, I think this is generally how I feel, and yeah, don't ever really want to change my body, and hope that I don't look at Adonises (Adoni?) in the street and demand relationships. Heh.
Thank you so much for all your responses! I definitely feel less of a creep for just chasing the men that I do.
And thanks for the compliments, that definitely was not the objective of this thread. Heh. 
I also think that this is quite true, in general:
"The reality is that generally men are far less picky about the women they play with and with the imbalance of men versus women on this site, ladies can be very choosy...."
And I am 100% not too proud to fully take advantage of. Hee hee hee.  |
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"I don't think it's hypocritical to have a preference and want to meet people who fit that. I think it would show hypocrisy if your profile was all slagging men off if they're not adonises or being rude about people's bodies, but what you've described doesn't seem hypocritical to me - and if you're getting what you want them keep at it! I know there are particular groups of men though who wouldn't look at me twice in the outside world and I won't go there, I don't find it empowering or sexy, it makes me feel like some kind of last resort. So I can't necessarily relate to your preference but I'll damn well defend your right to have it and act on it "
That's cos you're a superhero, babe! |
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling.
I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you! "
This reply is the absolute truth men will drop their standards for a one off but for a relationship in the real world its very unlikely, take advantage on here of being able to pick and choose
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"I seem to attract gym fit guys on here and often ask what attracts them they say my personality and confidence it's a huge compliment "
Yeah, I'd definitely agree that your personality is supreme.
But you're also FUCKING gorgeous, Miss Cheeky. |
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This reply is the absolute truth men will drop their standards for a one off but for a relationship in the real world its very unlikely, take advantage on here of being able to pick and choose
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Yup! Definitely taking the most of this advantage!
And now with less added guilt!
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"I've been thinking about this for a while now, and wanted the Opinion of the [Forum] Masses.
So, I have a physical body type that I'm attracted to, obvs, and I often think that people with that kind of body wouldn't normally be attracted to someone with my body type.
Logic would dictate that if I wanted to meet more guys who are like that, my own assumptions about their tastes would lead me to strive for the body shape that I assume they are attracted to.
But, like, I love my body and won't ever really do anything to change it (mainly I'm talking about losing weight/ getting thinner).
But then I think - if I refuse to meet guys who have a physically similar body type to me, is that being a massive hypocrite?
Note: I would never advocate a guy changing his body to meet my (or anyone's) tastes, because I firmly believe body-positivity is one of the most important things in our image-obsessed society. But can I be body-positive and fat-positive, and still have a personal preference that isn't "fat"...?
Bah, don't think I'm putting myself across very well. Lol. Sorry for rambling.
I know what you mean Hun!
In the real world, male adonises tend to have relationships with female adonises!
I diet and work out and prefer to meet guys who do the same - but my last meet was 24! Would I have a relationship with him in the real world? - hell no!!
Fab, for women, is a fantasy land where we can pick and choose as we like (can't for the life of me see why the guys put up with it tbh!) and in that respect most of us 'punch above our weight ' whether we like to admit it or not - simply because we're a small minority on here!
However - it only becomes a problem when we become cocky and demanding, believing the bullshit compliments we're sent - or when we want a relationship in the real world again - and wonder why all the hot male model types aren't interested!
If we take fab for what it is - lighthearted sexual frolics - then it's fine! Enjoy your studs lovely - and I'm sure they enjoy meeting you! "
Bullseye!!
This all the way. Top comment Peach! |
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"I seem to attract gym fit guys on here and often ask what attracts them they say my personality and confidence it's a huge compliment "
I think faces play a bigger part than people think. People always talk attractiveness in terms of size. But a smile and a good personlaity/ confidence like cheeky said are most important for me and most people ive met. |
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Yes you are being a hypocrite.
It sounds like your concept of body positivity and fat acceptance is just an excuse which allows you to be overweight as you don't apply those concepts to the men you seek. |
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"Yes you are being a hypocrite.
It sounds like your concept of body positivity and fat acceptance is just an excuse which allows you to be overweight as you don't apply those concepts to the men you seek."
But I'm not policing anyone's weight and size? I'm not saying that they "should" be any size.... I believe everyone should be the size and shape that *they* want to be.... That's what body positivity means.
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"I seem to attract gym fit guys on here and often ask what attracts them they say my personality and confidence it's a huge compliment
I think faces play a bigger part than people think. People always talk attractiveness in terms of size. But a smile and a good personlaity/ confidence like cheeky said are most important for me and most people ive met. "
So wise, VaraD. |
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"I seem to attract gym fit guys on here and often ask what attracts them they say my personality and confidence it's a huge compliment
I think faces play a bigger part than people think. People always talk attractiveness in terms of size. But a smile and a good personlaity/ confidence like cheeky said are most important for me and most people ive met.
So wise, VaraD. "
Its just comes natural |
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If I didn't go for women far more attractive than me then I'd never get a date (without having to really scrape the barrel) - aim for the stars! And hope that they're pissed when they read your message! |
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Technically yes you could be classed as a hypocrite. If you think athletic is the perfect body but aren't athletic yourself (or at least working towards that body type) then that is hypocrisy, under the proper definition of it. That's the pedant explanation.
Thing is we're here to enjoy what we enjoy. If you like athletic and someone calls you out on that just tell them to fuck off. None of their business how you run your sex life or life on general. |
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Unfortunately yes you are a hypocrite, but panic Ye not, there is a cure, if you sleep with me everything will be ok.
(Ok your not a hypocrite at all, but hey, shoot me for trying lol) |
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"When i need a shag its always easier to drop down a couple of leagues. Nought wrong with some ladies aiming high "
Of course you do, Clem!! LMFAO.
"If I didn't go for women far more attractive than me then I'd never get a date (without having to really scrape the barrel) - aim for the stars! And hope that they're pissed when they read your message! "
Best advice, Dan. Lol. xx |
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By *anB451Man
over a year ago
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I don't think anyone on here would advocate changing who you are or which type of guys you go after. There's people of all shapes and sizes who are attracted to people of a whole different range of shapes and sizes. We all have our little kinks |
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My tin helmets going on...and i class myself as one...me i think a lot of people are lucky on here..as they probably wouldnt get a second view outside of fab and what..yet they want the perfect person !!! |
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not sure what out of his / her league means. but I do know that my bicep has never ever fancied any woman, so I suspect my abs if I had any would be equally uninterested.
Attraction is all in the mind, possibly the eyes have some filtering role, but bodies don't have much to do with it.
so if you are getting sufficient attention from guys who you find attractive, then you must be in their league. |
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"When i need a shag its always easier to drop down a couple of leagues. Nought wrong with some ladies aiming high
Of course you do, Clem!! LMFAO.
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Lol well it's purely hypothetical of course, i don't drop my standards on here. No need. But there are those that will gowd bless 'em! Each to their own. And i wish you the greatest of luck, you plucky thing! |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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Leagues are in your own head. What you consider gorgeous might be anathema to someone else. So go with who you fancy and do them the courtesy of assuming they've done the same by wanting to meet you. It makes life far easier. |
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"Leagues are in your own head. What you consider gorgeous might be anathema to someone else. So go with who you fancy and do them the courtesy of assuming they've done the same by wanting to meet you. It makes life far easier."
you talk a lot of sense! I still can't get my head around that concept at times mind  |
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Just by thinking in "leagues" your already pigeon holing people.Who's to say that everyone of a certain body type must only like a certain type?
It takes all kinds of folks&all kinds of strokes to get along.
Personally OP I think you look lush hun&if I lived closer ide definitely be messaging you. |
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Not hypocritical at all!!! I'm the same, I'm no stick thin toned model but I do like guys to be toned and athletic and good looking (in my eyes) you can't help who or what your attracted to |
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I generally only go for men who are the same height as me, or taller, because that's what turns me on...
if I'm getting a message off someone that says they fit my criteria apart from the height and would it help if they stood on a box/wore heels...then no it wouldn't so desist! lol |
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I find,fit,muscular men too easy. They know fat,old women don't say no,so they don't make much of an effort. I open my inbox and I'm like "Oh,another muscled Adonis wanting to meet me". It's becoming very boring. |
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Fab is a fantasy world for many so who knows what dictates the 'attractiveness' for people ~ could be looks, personality, similar needs / fantasies for example.
If you're happy with your approach & they are happy to reciprocate then that's all that really matters.
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"I find,fit,muscular men too easy. They know fat,old women don't say no,so they don't make much of an effort. I open my inbox and I'm like "Oh,another muscled Adonis wanting to meet me". It's becoming very boring."
It's the same for us fat, old men
The number of slim, busty, blondes in their 20's that keep contacting me is, quite frankly, becoming tiresome.
I've had to block some of them that just won't take 'no' for an answer  |
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"I find,fit,muscular men too easy. They know fat,old women don't say no,so they don't make much of an effort. I open my inbox and I'm like "Oh,another muscled Adonis wanting to meet me". It's becoming very boring.
It's the same for us fat, old men
The number of slim, busty, blondes in their 20's that keep contacting me is, quite frankly, becoming tiresome.
I've had to block some of them that just won't take 'no' for an answer "
you Sir just made my day pmsl |
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over a year ago
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We can't do anything about who we fancy - that's just natural desire and lust, however we can control how we behave or decide to display (or not) this attraction.
I've just had a friend invite, without so much as a short message of introduction first, from a 60 year old woman. It is hardly surprising that this kind of behaviour results in an immediate rejection.. |
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"I find,fit,muscular men too easy. They know fat,old women don't say no,so they don't make much of an effort. I open my inbox and I'm like "Oh,another muscled Adonis wanting to meet me". It's becoming very boring.
It's the same for us fat, old men
The number of slim, busty, blondes in their 20's that keep contacting me is, quite frankly, becoming tiresome.
I've had to block some of them that just won't take 'no' for an answer "
Isn't it a bind |
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"We can't do anything about who we fancy - that's just natural desire and lust, however we can control how we behave or decide to display (or not) this attraction.
I've just had a friend invite, without so much as a short message of introduction first, from a 60 year old woman. It is hardly surprising that this kind of behaviour results in an immediate rejection.. "
We all get those. Mine are from men of all ages,they are still sitting in my requests,unresponsed to. |
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"Just because you are tall doesn't mean you will be attracted to tall people or small for that matter. In the simplest form it's what turns you on or attracts you so it in no way makes you a hypocrite x"
Yep it's all about taste, we like what we like...
All I'd say is don't discount what you haven't experienced...can be just a good. Have fun |
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"We can't do anything about who we fancy - that's just natural desire and lust, however we can control how we behave or decide to display (or not) this attraction.
I've just had a friend invite, without so much as a short message of introduction first, from a 60 year old woman. It is hardly surprising that this kind of behaviour results in an immediate rejection..
We all get those. Mine are from men of all ages,they are still sitting in my requests,unresponsed to. "
Yea, got over 100 friend invites sat there, ignored, people don't even say hi!! I think they just do it because they think I've got interesting photos set to friends only....they would be sorely disappointed |
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