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"When you see this on a profile do you find it confusing, i do cos how the fuck do they meet, i am sure i will be enlightened by the forum users."
it means you get a hotel within walking distance of them simple  |
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over a year ago
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I wont accommodate and travel is difficult because I dont drive. I've put I can travel because I can with planning and being resourceful. If I don't then id never meet ever!
For some people all it means is that they're not very flexible with travel and that they cant rush off and meet at 11.00 at night |
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over a year ago
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"When you see this on a profile do you find it confusing, i do cos how the fuck do they meet, i am sure i will be enlightened by the forum users."
I sometimes struggle with the Countdown conundrum...... |
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I am one of the don't accom don't travel profiles.
The don't accom is easy, I do not have people to my family home. The don't travel bit means I won't go to Scotland for a shag but I will travel to my local swingers club.
Others may only use public transport of taxis so will go across town but not 50 miles away.
Pretty simple when you think about it really. |
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"I am one of the don't accom don't travel profiles.
The don't accom is easy, I do not have people to my family home. The don't travel bit means I won't go to Scotland for a shag but I will travel to my local swingers club.
Others may only use public transport of taxis so will go across town but not 50 miles away.
Pretty simple when you think about it really."
Not always. You clearly spell it out in your profile but some others don't. 100 yards or 100 miles is still travel so unless made clear in profiles it can be ambiguous. Of course it is always a talking point and may lead to a meet once the intent is clearly understood. |
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If meeting at a hotel, whether expecting to share costs or not, I'd state that I accommodate. If I couldn't leave my home, whether on foot, mobility scooter, cab, bus, train or any other option, then I'd state that I don't travel.
I think that people who state they wont travel or accommodate are largely closing their options and missing out on potential partners. |
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over a year ago
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Local hotel or their house locally. It doesn't mean I won't leave the house, it means I'm not going to travel to the other end of the country. I don't get why this is difficult to grasp, surely it's obvious? |
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"I am one of the don't accom don't travel profiles.
The don't accom is easy, I do not have people to my family home. The don't travel bit means I won't go to Scotland for a shag but I will travel to my local swingers club.
Others may only use public transport of taxis so will go across town but not 50 miles away.
Pretty simple when you think about it really.
Not always. You clearly spell it out in your profile but some others don't. 100 yards or 100 miles is still travel so unless made clear in profiles it can be ambiguous. Of course it is always a talking point and may lead to a meet once the intent is clearly understood."
Not really. That's like saying I travel to go over the corner shop or round the back to take out the bins.
Travelling implies a reasonable distance is covered not walking to the other end of the street. |
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Bloody obvious I would think:
Can't Accomodate is obvious: other people in house/ family / housemates. ( or doesn't want to: fair enough)
Can't travel = actually can't travel far:
Ie don't have a car; or don't want / can't be too far from home for lots of reasons.
You find out the limits of "can't travel" by messaging |
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"When you see this on a profile do you find it confusing, i do cos how the fuck do they meet, i am sure i will be enlightened by the forum users."
I just skip past their profile or if they message they get a no thanks. Just sounds like to much hastle xxxxx |
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet 
Why?"
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting.  |
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I take it as local meets only as dont drive or come pick them up and drop back. Ideal if going to a club. Id expect my trasport cost paid though  so if anyone going paradise spa dagenham and wants to pic me keith and a fem freind up on friday night, let us know ill pay fuel.  |
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet
Why?
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting. "
That's generally what happens in the " real" world, except that you usually have to buy dinner etc too: so if that's not required; you are quids in; and in Swinger mode, lots of ladies share their part of the hotel costs, and deal with their own transport costs.
Despite all that; I often have dinner with a meet ( before or after - or at " half time"!). And many ladies happen to offer to go halves on that too . |
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet
Why?
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting.
That's generally what happens in the " real" world, except that you usually have to buy dinner etc too: so if that's not required; you are quids in; and in Swinger mode, lots of ladies share their part of the hotel costs, and deal with their own transport costs.
Despite all that; I often have dinner with a meet ( before or after - or at " half time"!). And many ladies happen to offer to go halves on that too . "
If you can't accommodate or travel, then you have to be adaptable! |
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet
Why?
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting. "
If I thought for a minute that a meet was expecting to get a free night out I wouldn't be meeting them at all. |
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet
Why?
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting.
If I thought for a minute that a meet was expecting to get a free night out I wouldn't be meeting them at all. "
Though there are people like that on fabs... |
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over a year ago
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet
Why?
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting. "
It's a bit of an assumption to make and more reflective of the type of women they're choosing to message then. Nobody pays my way, and I wouldn't get in a car with anyone I didn't know well either! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't accommodate and don't travel mainly due to time limitations not because i can't travel. I also wouldn't want to rely on someone i don't know picking me up (I like being able to make a quick getaway!) and don't expect anyone else to foot the hotel bill. It's really hard fitting meets in when you have a family and workl. I don't like being so inflexible and I'm sure it loses me lots of potential meets, but that's the way it is.
I really do chuckle everytime someone asks this question though, op! It isn't really that confusing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet
Why?
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting. "
Exactly my thoughts... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see it as it's going to be an expensive meet
Why?
Because more often than not, guys are expected to foot the bill. For example: drive to meet's location, book a hotel and collect the meet from meet point. Sad but that's what some are expecting.
Exactly my thoughts... "
I wouldnt meet them then. Its split halfway here or in vanilla  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perhaps it would make sense to have more options on the profile?
Hotel meets only, local meets only perhaps?"
I don't see how that helps. It doesn't change that i can't travel or accommodate. If someone can't work out what that means then i really don't think we'll get on |
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Maybe we just need more options than yes or no, such as
Yes, no, not meeting, hotel or elsewhere only for accom
And no, yes and a few options for travel, like up to 5 miles, up to 30, up to 150, countrywide etc. |
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"Maybe we just need more options than yes or no, such as
Yes, no, not meeting, hotel or elsewhere only for accom
And no, yes and a few options for travel, like up to 5 miles, up to 30, up to 150, countrywide etc. "
A very sensible response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont accom and cant drive so not travelling about the country on buses or trains for a shag .. But i live in glasgow where there is plenty choice for local meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met people who don't drive....they have in the extreme, travelled over 100 miles by train! Others too have used train or buses etc..."
But some people don't want to. I'm quite aware of public transport. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you are looking at this through the wrong lens, so many guys post that they don't know what to put into a first message, and kind people have posed a conundrum on their profile that gives you an opening comment that requires an answer.
Thank you ladies and couples that put can't travel and cant accomodation, single men.... nah not interested, unless it's a beer in my local. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't drive so I'll travel for men I've got to know and trust.
I'm happy to go halves on a hotel in my city too but again until I trust you, you're not coming to my yard. |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
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"I don't drive so I'll travel for men I've got to know and trust.
I'm happy to go halves on a hotel in my city too but again until I trust you, you're not coming to my yard."
Its bery confusing makes me wonder if i am going to beamed on to a space ship   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't accommodate - I don't want you round my house/I have kids at home!
Can't travel - I'm too tight to pay to get to see you.
Both = I am more than happy for you to pay for a hotel room, and lunch, or dinner, or both .......but not breakfast, there will probably be no breakfast
Personally, I would hate that - a meet doesn't guarantee sex for me, and if someone had paid for a hotel room, I would feel pretty bad if the click fairy didn't visit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When you see this on a profile do you find it confusing, i do cos how the fuck do they meet, i am sure i will be enlightened by the forum users."
tramps...
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"Can't accommodate - I don't want you round my house/I have kids at home!
Can't travel - I'm too tight to pay to get to see you.
Both = I am more than happy for you to pay for a hotel room, and lunch, or dinner, or both .......but not breakfast, there will probably be no breakfast
Personally, I would hate that - a meet doesn't guarantee sex for me, and if someone had paid for a hotel room, I would feel pretty bad if the click fairy didn't visit "
That's not my understanding or experience, thankfully. |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
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"Can't accommodate - I don't want you round my house/I have kids at home!
Can't travel - I'm too tight to pay to get to see you.
Both = I am more than happy for you to pay for a hotel room, and lunch, or dinner, or both .......but not breakfast, there will probably be no breakfast
Personally, I would hate that - a meet doesn't guarantee sex for me, and if someone had paid for a hotel room, I would feel pretty bad if the click fairy didn't visit
That's not my understanding or experience, thankfully. "
Hey ho go with the flow |
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) for single males to meet under such logistics. Though not impossible as I can see.