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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok maybe stupid is a bit harsh, how about a mind that is less analytical and not much of a thinker. Are those types of people generally happier?
Like myself I'm known to self sabotage, always have, the idea of what you don't know can't hurt you has never applied to me because I've always known everything. Have an ability to know if someone's lying to me or hiding something from me. From a young age when my step father was violent towards my mother or me, I had a fine tuned sense of knowing when shit was gonna kick off way before it did and that skill has developed. Can read people, can catch people out, can trick people and manipulate people. I over analyse everything and sometimes it would be nice to just not think.
I have a friend/acquaintance that is dopey as fuck but she's so happy, always has a boyfriend and alright she has 4 kids by 4 different guys and she picks absolute wankers who treat her like shit but she's oblivious to it and is happy just plodding along, never gets jealous or shows any signs of paranoia which leads me to believe that the less you think the happier you are. Thoughts? |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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People that live in the moment tend to be happier. Those that spend time worrying about the past or wondering about the future tend not to be. But the greatest indicator of happiness is those that have healthy relationships / friendships. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People that live in the moment tend to be happier. Those that spend time worrying about the past or wondering about the future tend not to be. But the greatest indicator of happiness is those that have healthy relationships / friendships. "
Yeah but what if you can't turn it off, what if you can't stop your brain from thinking or over analysing something. If there was a switch that I could turn off I would do it. |
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"People that live in the moment tend to be happier. Those that spend time worrying about the past or wondering about the future tend not to be. But the greatest indicator of happiness is those that have healthy relationships / friendships. "
This is true, I am happy because of this I am sure  |
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Hmm.I think people tend to assume that if someone worries less than they do that they are happier but I'm not sure it's possible for anybody to know how happy or unhappy anybody else is.
As for the suggestion that happiness is an indicator of intelligence... |
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Well from my personal experience the day I stopped over thinking things over anaylizing stuff and just getting on with it and generally simplifying everything my mental health has improved vastly.
My mind used to be in constant over drive and now it's at peace
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"People that live in the moment tend to be happier. Those that spend time worrying about the past or wondering about the future tend not to be. But the greatest indicator of happiness is those that have healthy relationships / friendships.
Yeah but what if you can't turn it off, what if you can't stop your brain from thinking or over analysing something. If there was a switch that I could turn off I would do it. "
I think for some people it's natural. (Like your friend) for others (like me) it's something that can be learnt. Meditation, mindfulness, prayer etc are all ways of turning down the volume on the inner monologue. I'm not great at it but I'm better than I used to be. |
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"I'm happy to a point.
But a friend of mine says that Im not my usual happy self in a relationship so I've avoided them for so long. "
Maybe that says more about the relationship than you (in a relationship).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that intelligence and happiness are somewhat related, but not necessarily. A lot of it comes down to how you think, not how much you think. If you analyze because you're interested then you might be happy. If you analyze because you're looking for fault, you're likely to be unhappy.
Perhaps people that don't think as much are happier, the whole ignorance is bliss thing comes to mind. But I'm not convinced of this either because I've known people who I would say aren't quite thinkers, and yet they are unhappy because they find fault in everything.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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20 years of walking on eggshells with the ex have definitely made me aware of situations that could turn and now working with dementia and emi sufferers i can pick up on triggers and atmospheres and in turn sometimes avoid a kick off situation - would i prefer to not have that awareness - i think not - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think everybody is different when it comes to this. Some people feign happiness on the outside but are battling with themselves in their own mind.
I don't think it is anything to do with intelligence or intellectual capacity. Sometimes it is just waiting for the right moment when everything will change and make you see the world in a different light. |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
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Ok..I know I am Dippy.. Hubby sez I am like the female version of Mr mgoo... Aimlessly plod through life....and yes 99% of the time I am very happy in my Dippy world ...I luv my world haha xxxx  |
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Nahhhhh, it's not true.
There are a lot of stupid people and a lot of clever people. They are equally as sad.
I know someone who is not very clever at all, but she is one of the happiest people I know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting theory.
I tend to over analyse pretty much everything and don't turn off easily. What I have never done however is link it to issues I had with my upbringing where there was issues with alcoholism, drug abuse and domestic violence. I have never seen the causal link myself.
With that said, and slightly off topic, what I can link to my child hood and its issues is my work ethic and desire to better myself, for reasons I would hope are obvious.
Going back to your point, I am inclined to think your friend is something of an exception as without wishing to be too stereotypical, I am not sure people in her 'position' are happier per se. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happiness, I believe, comes from inner peace. However you do need some common sense to acknowledge that.
Yoga helps with finding that place
I hope that everyone eventually finds what they are searching for as you'll never want to look back.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If TOWIE or gordie shore etc is anything to go by yes its true."
Are you serious? Those TOWIE lot are always crying over someone cheating on them. And nanny Pat died which was really sad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happiness, I believe, comes from inner peace. However you do need some common sense to acknowledge that.
Yoga helps with finding that place
I hope that everyone eventually finds what they are searching for as you'll never want to look back.
x"
Yoga hurts. I'm not happy when I hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nahhhhh, it's not true.
There are a lot of stupid people and a lot of clever people. They are equally as sad.
I know someone who is not very clever at all, but she is one of the happiest people I know."
The funny thing is, taking a very simplistic view of things, you would think intelligent people would find a way of ensuring they are not sad, or that someone would come up with such a method. The reality is so many intelligent people work ridiculous hours for ridiculous amounts of money and remain sad. Or alternatively they ruin their health for wealth then spend their wealth trying to maintain their health.
Finding the 'formula' to happiness is not easy |
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"I think everybody is different when it comes to this. Some people feign happiness on the outside but are battling with themselves in their own mind.
I don't think it is anything to do with intelligence or intellectual capacity. Sometimes it is just waiting for the right moment when everything will change and make you see the world in a different light. "
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"I'm pretty fucking happy.
I wonder what that says about me, then 
-Courtney "
Anyone who knows what an Oxford comma is can't be that stupid (even if, as an American, you don't know when to use it properly  ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Stupid was totally the wrong word, intelligence isn't what I was trying to get at, was more the deep thinkers. The people that think less are generally happier.
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No I think you may find your friend may just have blinkers on to the big wide world and just looks for the next quick simple fix to keep them temporarily happy..think you may find that the perceived happiness is very much a front and behind closed doors is probably quite sad..?? |
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"Ok maybe stupid is a bit harsh, how about a mind that is less analytical and not much of a thinker. Are those types of people generally happier?
Like myself I'm known to self sabotage, always have, the idea of what you don't know can't hurt you has never applied to me because I've always known everything. Have an ability to know if someone's lying to me or hiding something from me. From a young age when my step father was violent towards my mother or me, I had a fine tuned sense of knowing when shit was gonna kick off way before it did and that skill has developed. Can read people, can catch people out, can trick people and manipulate people. I over analyse everything and sometimes it would be nice to just not think.
I have a friend/acquaintance that is dopey as fuck but she's so happy, always has a boyfriend and alright she has 4 kids by 4 different guys and she picks absolute wankers who treat her like shit but she's oblivious to it and is happy just plodding along, never gets jealous or shows any signs of paranoia which leads me to believe that the less you think the happier you are. Thoughts?"
. I analyse a lot of things and like to be in control of my life . I could only achieve this by both detailed analysis and planning for the future. Without planning / analysis I would probably achieve nothing in life . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nahhhhh, it's not true.
There are a lot of stupid people and a lot of clever people. They are equally as sad.
I know someone who is not very clever at all, but she is one of the happiest people I know.
The funny thing is, taking a very simplistic view of things, you would think intelligent people would find a way of ensuring they are not sad, or that someone would come up with such a method. The reality is so many intelligent people work ridiculous hours for ridiculous amounts of money and remain sad. Or alternatively they ruin their health for wealth then spend their wealth trying to maintain their health.
Finding the 'formula' to happiness is not easy"
It's a blow job. Dead easy. |
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"No I think you may find your friend may just have blinkers on to the big wide world and just looks for the next quick simple fix to keep them temporarily happy..think you may find that the perceived happiness is very much a front and behind closed doors is probably quite sad..??"
I think that's a little bit pessimistic. It's totally possible that her friend is generally happy.
I personally find that thing aren't what I think they are but what I think, they are.
If you want to be happy act like you've happy and you will become happy. Same for most things: success, intelligence, sex stud. Act the part and you become what you act. It's up to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nahhhhh, it's not true.
There are a lot of stupid people and a lot of clever people. They are equally as sad.
I know someone who is not very clever at all, but she is one of the happiest people I know.
The funny thing is, taking a very simplistic view of things, you would think intelligent people would find a way of ensuring they are not sad, or that someone would come up with such a method. The reality is so many intelligent people work ridiculous hours for ridiculous amounts of money and remain sad. Or alternatively they ruin their health for wealth then spend their wealth trying to maintain their health.
Finding the 'formula' to happiness is not easy
It's a blow job. Dead easy."
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By (user no longer on site)
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No, happy people are not stupid. there are unhappy fools and unhappy geniuses.
What marks out the happy people is optimism and trust. View your glass as half full, but know where the bottle is just in case |
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"Stupid was totally the wrong word, intelligence isn't what I was trying to get at, was more the deep thinkers. The people that think less are generally happier.
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I agree stupid wouldn't be the right word but I know what you were meaning to say.
I get myself so worked up about things, and all I think to myself is that I wish I didn't CARE so much.. About how people see me, or whether things will go right etc. I think too much about things and I wish I didn't, then I could just be in a cloud of ignorance and bliss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its a question of how much you chose to self sabotage. It has no relation to intelligence, I think that your comment about your early conflict play a key factor here. You feel that you have created an ability to see through people and manipulate them? That in itself is a very toxic behaviour.
I would say that you need to think about what you want and expect from people, but also part of that is trust.
I consider myself to be intelligent and articulate (mostly away from fab) but I never sabotage my relationships at the altar of that belief. Is there a reason why you cannot trust these people? |
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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago
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"People that live in the moment tend to be happier. Those that spend time worrying about the past or wondering about the future tend not to be. But the greatest indicator of happiness is those that have healthy relationships / friendships.
Yeah but what if you can't turn it off, what if you can't stop your brain from thinking or over analysing something. If there was a switch that I could turn off I would do it. "
I know what you mean. You just can't get away from the noise of other people and things around you. It's hard to comprehend why no one seems to see and hear the same stuff. Drink and other things help blot it out but that's no answer.
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It is mostly attitude. Luckily, I'm a pretty laid back gal, and that helps. I just don't get too worked up over stuff and try to have this "it could always be worse, and it will usually get better" philosophy about my life. Soo, I'm happy. Plus I like to think I'm pretty smart n clever n witty n shit, so... Yay me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier."
It is not just knowledge that brings you happiness, nor is it the lack of knowledge. Some people may get irritated because they know that somebody is doing something wrong, yet won't listen no matter how much advice they get. As a human, you are subjected to a lot of external forces that influence how you live on a daily basis. Everybody reacts to these external influences in very different manners. You can't simplify all problems to either become more knowledgable or get rid of those less able to contain knowledge. |
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier."
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
But quotes aside, knowledgeable of what?
I mean if i new the names and biographies of everyone on the only way is essex id be more knowledgeable but i dont think id be living better for it
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We don't really understand intelligence that well, to start with - and I think if you achieve and are comfortable with what you have got, then that could be deemed smarter than someone never being satisfied.
Is your pet happy? It gets shelter, food and care, whilst probably feeling secure. They are likely less intelligent than human capabilities go, but you could perhaps compare someone who doesn't think so much about things as being closer to living a life of bliss, like your cat/dog etc.
I think there's a lot to admire in being like the pig, happy in its muck. Or the contented cat, curled up in the warmth, living each moment as it comes.
I think it's a false dichotomy, stupid/smart and differing degrees of happiness. We can choose to alter our behaviour, when we realize that some habit or other is likely one to derail our contentment. All types of people can do this, whatever our thoughts on our own brightness.
If we'd like more of that blissful ignorance, or whatever it is that we see in others, try out some of their approach for a while. We all have our habits, some of them more useful and relevant now than others. We just don't have to stay in any one specific habitual rut. Do what's good for you, and don't care if others may perceive you as more stupid than they think that they are. I can quite easily be queen of stupid. |
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"Ok maybe stupid is a bit harsh, how about a mind that is less analytical and not much of a thinker. Are those types of people generally happier?
Like myself I'm known to self sabotage, always have, the idea of what you don't know can't hurt you has never applied to me because I've always known everything. Have an ability to know if someone's lying to me or hiding something from me. From a young age when my step father was violent towards my mother or me, I had a fine tuned sense of knowing when shit was gonna kick off way before it did and that skill has developed. Can read people, can catch people out, can trick people and manipulate people. I over analyse everything and sometimes it would be nice to just not think.
I have a friend/acquaintance that is dopey as fuck but she's so happy, always has a boyfriend and alright she has 4 kids by 4 different guys and she picks absolute wankers who treat her like shit but she's oblivious to it and is happy just plodding along, never gets jealous or shows any signs of paranoia which leads me to believe that the less you think the happier you are. Thoughts?"
I can't remember who said it first but a philosophical quote that has stuck with me.
You can have happiness or truth but not both.
I had lies told by parents, teachers, clergyman, politicians. All telling me to be good and tell the truth while they lie about everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier.
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
But quotes aside, knowledgeable of what?
I mean if i new the names and biographies of everyone on the only way is essex id be more knowledgeable but i dont think id be living better for it
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Knowledge of what's possible. |
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I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees) |
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier.
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
But quotes aside, knowledgeable of what?
I mean if i new the names and biographies of everyone on the only way is essex id be more knowledgeable but i dont think id be living better for it
Knowledge of what's possible. "
So knowledge of whats not knowledge?
Like i said a little knowledge....
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"People that live in the moment tend to be happier. Those that spend time worrying about the past or wondering about the future tend not to be. But the greatest indicator of happiness is those that have healthy relationships / friendships.
Yeah but what if you can't turn it off, what if you can't stop your brain from thinking or over analysing something. If there was a switch that I could turn off I would do it. "
Me too. I think this is what mindfulness is about and I'm going to look into it since my mind is an unrelenting turmoil. |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)"
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim? |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?"
not at all but for some its a coping mechanism |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?"
thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
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Really i thought it was somewhat less extreme than "i had a bad day at work, but at least im not a war refugee" |
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier.
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
But quotes aside, knowledgeable of what?
I mean if i new the names and biographies of everyone on the only way is essex id be more knowledgeable but i dont think id be living better for it
Knowledge of what's possible. "
What is possible? |
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier.
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
But quotes aside, knowledgeable of what?
I mean if i new the names and biographies of everyone on the only way is essex id be more knowledgeable but i dont think id be living better for it
Knowledge of what's possible.
What is possible? "
Young stoners to eventually learn that everything they read on the latest copy of high times isnt quite a real representation of real life.
Least he hasnt said big oil is suppressing cannabis yet
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"We don't really understand intelligence that well, to start with - and I think if you achieve and are comfortable with what you have got, then that could be deemed smarter than someone never being satisfied.
Is your pet happy? It gets shelter, food and care, whilst probably feeling secure. They are likely less intelligent than human capabilities go, but you could perhaps compare someone who doesn't think so much about things as being closer to living a life of bliss, like your cat/dog etc.
I think there's a lot to admire in being like the pig, happy in its muck. Or the contented cat, curled up in the warmth, living each moment as it comes.
I think it's a false dichotomy, stupid/smart and differing degrees of happiness. We can choose to alter our behaviour, when we realize that some habit or other is likely one to derail our contentment. All types of people can do this, whatever our thoughts on our own brightness.
If we'd like more of that blissful ignorance, or whatever it is that we see in others, try out some of their approach for a while. We all have our habits, some of them more useful and relevant now than others. We just don't have to stay in any one specific habitual rut. Do what's good for you, and don't care if others may perceive you as more stupid than they think that they are. I can quite easily be queen of stupid. "
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
Really i thought it was somewhat less extreme than "i had a bad day at work, but at least im not a war refugee""
as you should be aware different people have different coping mechanisms and if someone finds something that works for them its good. |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
Really i thought it was somewhat less extreme than "i had a bad day at work, but at least im not a war refugee""
That actually made me lol! |
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier.
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
But quotes aside, knowledgeable of what?
I mean if i new the names and biographies of everyone on the only way is essex id be more knowledgeable but i dont think id be living better for it
Knowledge of what's possible.
What is possible?
Young stoners to eventually learn that everything they read on the latest copy of high times isnt quite a real representation of real life.
Least he hasnt said big oil is suppressing cannabis yet
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You think you're gonna change the world by sitting there smoking mary jane?
We gotta fight sometimes, people!
Alabama 3 live at the Astoria "Mao Tse Tung says"
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
Really i thought it was somewhat less extreme than "i had a bad day at work, but at least im not a war refugee"as you should be aware different people have different coping mechanisms and if someone finds something that works for them its good."
Maybe my coping mechanism is being a sarcastic arse to people on the internet |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
Really i thought it was somewhat less extreme than "i had a bad day at work, but at least im not a war refugee"as you should be aware different people have different coping mechanisms and if someone finds something that works for them its good.
Maybe my coping mechanism is being a sarcastic arse to people on the internet "
well as long as its working for you. After being in turmoil all my life I found the things that work for me and when you finally get peace of mind it's the most amazing thing. |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
Really i thought it was somewhat less extreme than "i had a bad day at work, but at least im not a war refugee"as you should be aware different people have different coping mechanisms and if someone finds something that works for them its good.
Maybe my coping mechanism is being a sarcastic arse to people on the internet "
Yeah and talking. You'll always have a friend in me. |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?thats a bit extreme, it doesn't do any harm to look at the positives rather than the negatives. It certainly works for me.
Really i thought it was somewhat less extreme than "i had a bad day at work, but at least im not a war refugee"as you should be aware different people have different coping mechanisms and if someone finds something that works for them its good.
Maybe my coping mechanism is being a sarcastic arse to people on the internet
Yeah and talking. You'll always have a friend in me. "
...and now I've got the toy story song stuck in my head |
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I think it's easier to be optimistic when you know less...
Ignorance allows you to believe that politicians are looking out for your best interests, that the people regulating the banks will stop them crashing the economy and the athletes you admire in your leisure time aren't drug cheats. The people who rise to the top of businesses are the cleverest and the people with the most musical talent will find their way onto the radio.
Honestly, sometimes I think about going to live with the Amish. |
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"I am generally a happy person. Im quite analytical. I also think a lot.
And thats the reason i am happy. I always remund myself things could be a lot worse.
For example.. im not a refugee having to run thousands of miles from my home just to find peace and security.
(Not trying to start a debate about refugees)
I always find this argument odd.
Should a rape victim remind themselves that at least they weren't a gang rape victim?"
If it helps them come to terms with what they've been through then maybe yes. |
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"Humans are not particuarly relative beings.
I cannot reduce your suffering by increasing anothers in comparison to your."
But you can increase your appreciation of your own situation by realising that there maybe others in a far worse situation than yourself. |
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"Ignorance is bliss
That's just what they want you to think.
If we were all more knowledgeable we would be living better and happier.
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
But quotes aside, knowledgeable of what?
I mean if i new the names and biographies of everyone on the only way is essex id be more knowledgeable but i dont think id be living better for it
Knowledge of what's possible.
What is possible?
Young stoners to eventually learn that everything they read on the latest copy of high times isnt quite a real representation of real life.
Least he hasnt said big oil is suppressing cannabis yet
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I think the argument is that big oil is suppressing the growth of hemp (which can be used to produce fuel amongst many other things) and the cannabis plant is of the same family. ( or something along those lines) |
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What do you call stupid people.
We were in the pub trade many year,s ran busy Town and city center pubs all walks of life came in and to be honest the people with normal sort of jobs always seemed a lot happier than those high flyer,s wont have the same sort of pressure but would not call them stupid because they were happy |
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"Unfortunately stupid people are happier I think. Seems when you are critical thinker you see the worst in things"
So people who aren't critical thinkers are stupid?
And maybe there are critical thinkers that are capable of ignoring the "what ifs" and just go for something regardless. |
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"I'm just intelligent enough to know that happiness isn't found by over analysing everything. "
Over analysing everything is what makes me anxious and depressed |
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"Ok maybe stupid is a bit harsh, how about a mind that is less analytical and not much of a thinker. Are those types of people generally happier?
Like myself I'm known to self sabotage, always have, the idea of what you don't know can't hurt you has never applied to me because I've always known everything. Have an ability to know if someone's lying to me or hiding something from me. From a young age when my step father was violent towards my mother or me, I had a fine tuned sense of knowing when shit was gonna kick off way before it did and that skill has developed. Can read people, can catch people out, can trick people and manipulate people. I over analyse everything and sometimes it would be nice to just not think.
I have a friend/acquaintance that is dopey as fuck but she's so happy, always has a boyfriend and alright she has 4 kids by 4 different guys and she picks absolute wankers who treat her like shit but she's oblivious to it and is happy just plodding along, never gets jealous or shows any signs of paranoia which leads me to believe that the less you think the happier you are. Thoughts?"
Me no stooopid and i is appy... Me finks i is proof dis is not right yes?
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"Stupid was totally the wrong word, intelligence isn't what I was trying to get at, was more the deep thinkers. The people that think less are generally happier.
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In my experience no.
It depends where the deep thinking leads you. I would say that the Dalai Llama is a deep thinker and he seems to be full of love, compassion and happiness.
I also think that it's possible to look around and think "oh it's ok for them they're happy because they haven't thought about all the things that could go wrong and make them unhappy" when in fact they have but just decided that until they actually happen you might as well be happy. |
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Maybe the less intelligent you are ..The lesser of the expectations they hold ..Therefore less disappointed ...resulting in a happier outlook !! I always find the more selfish an individual is ..Also means they are happier ..that's my opinion |
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Op it's an interesting idea.
I wonder if the people with low intelligence just worry about different things compared to the highly intelligent?
I think living in the moment and mindfulness must help to quiet the mind. I need to try it, as I am bad for over thinking things and winding myself up! |
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Think the people that have been called dopey and stupid are far from that don't you !!..they're the ones happy and content and not stressed out with over analysing situations |
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What about the people who are never happy unless themselves and other people are miserable and depressed.
I know several people that are only truly happy when everything is going wrong for them and they can be depressed.
Scarey part is ,their considered brainy. |
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"Think the people that have been called dopey and stupid are far from that don't you !!..they're the ones happy and content and not stressed out with over analysing situations "
umm! I'll have to think about that. |
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"Think the people that have been called dopey and stupid are far from that don't you !!..they're the ones happy and content and not stressed out with over analysing situations "
I'm quite happy being called dopey and stupid my peace of mind is far more important than what someone who can't find true happiness can call me.
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I'm wondering who can truly define "stupid" (no good at maths? Not practical? Struggling with languages or driving or. .?) And next I am wondering who can define "happy" (content with one' lot? Happy to be healthy? Happy with job? Or partner? Or car? )
Nit being facetious here and I guess I know where the OP was going with this but just wondered because both words can mean such different things to different people.
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I also think there is a realisation that your not going to be constantly happy, that real life has its ups and downs, excepting that, finding your coping mechanisms, dealing with past issues.
Changing what you can excepting what you can't not caring what others think.
Mmmmmm maybe it takes a person with a bit of tanacity to do all this
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