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Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!! |
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over a year ago
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People are into the visual instead of the verbal maybe?
Who knows what makes others tick, it's better to find out at the pic swapping stage that you're not suited than further down the line. |
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I read your profile. According to it, you are not slim and you are not overly bbw. Sounds average to me, then, but to be honest I don't really have a visual in my head. I could see where a picture would be necessary for a guy to get the idea.
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I'm exactly the same, I've never had a guy reject me because I'm too big, but I'm always wary of couples or single guys if they've got published verifs by loads of tiny petite fems as then I know I'm not going to be their type. |
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The thing is that your avatar doesn't wholly suggest your a big girl and all your photos are friends only, and I skimmed your profile and I couldn't find where it said your size so how would anyone know? |
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"The thing is that your avatar doesn't wholly suggest your a big girl and all your photos are friends only, and I skimmed your profile and I couldn't find where it said your size so how would anyone know?"
Profile says curvy |
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"The thing is that your avatar doesn't wholly suggest your a big girl and all your photos are friends only, and I skimmed your profile and I couldn't find where it said your size so how would anyone know?
Profile says curvy"
Curvy can be slim too. I agree. The profile is very vague. |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!"
Your tiny profile picture doesn't show much, maybe try putting a full length body picture on oublic display (don't have to show your face) You say you're not a BBW but not exactly slim, you say curvy and have what's described as mummy tummy. That's exactly the same description as what I would give myself, I'm not fat but I'm not slim, I'm curvy cos I've got an arse, hips and 32D boobs and I've got a belly, we have exactly the same body type descriptions yet I've never ever had a guy turn me down saying I was too big. |
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Op, I'd just add pics of your areas of body concern, or a full length shot. You don't need to reveal your face, if that's what you'd prefer.
If you only have one photo, choose one that emphasizes your non-micro style.
You will be in great demand from people that recognize how attractive you are.
There's also a fair few people who are magnetically pulled towards wanting to see private pics. It's likely that most people just aren't right for us. A public pic or two could really save you time and effort dealing with the inappropriate types. |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!
thats why my name is what it is.. i was sick of the same thing...
oops need to add.. not saying you are fat... a different descriptor for you... this is what I chose for me.
their loss honestly..."
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"The thing is that your avatar doesn't wholly suggest your a big girl and all your photos are friends only, and I skimmed your profile and I couldn't find where it said your size so how would anyone know?
Profile says curvy"
Too vague though as I am a size 12 and would say curvy as I go in and out   |
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Plenty of pics hun. I have quite a few and still have guys who think im snaller than i am.
Im not brave enough to bare all so ive changed my description to large xx |
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"The thing is that your avatar doesn't wholly suggest your a big girl and all your photos are friends only?"
I agree with this, you cannot make out from your avatar (which is nice) what size you are.
To save yourself hassle in the future pop a couple of body pics that you would send in the message into public. |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!"
What's the issue? You send a pic, you're not their type.
Do you turn people down sometimes after seeing their pics? |
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I'm a size 18 for all you nice people on my thread but I don't hide the fact that I'm not small my rant is why don't men read the profile or at least know what a womans size is they have no idea at all |
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"I'm a size 18 for all you nice people on my thread but I don't hide the fact that I'm not small my rant is why don't men read the profile or at least know what a womans size is they have no idea at all"
I think you've had some good advice on this thread I genuinely wouldn't know what size you where just guessed from your description and I'm a woman.
Sometimes we think something is clear to others but isn't always. |
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"Plenty of pics hun. I have quite a few and still have guys who think im snaller than i am.
Im not brave enough to bare all so ive changed my description to large xx"
Even though you're not x |
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"I'm a size 18 for all you nice people on my thread but I don't hide the fact that I'm not small my rant is why don't men read the profile or at least know what a womans size is they have no idea at all"
It isn't clear on your profile.. Curvy can mean a range of shapes and sizes
And your description is a little confusing x |
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"Plenty of pics hun. I have quite a few and still have guys who think im snaller than i am.
Im not brave enough to bare all so ive changed my description to large xx
Even though you're not x"
But i am lol im a size 18 to me thats large xx thanks though for being sweet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got large as my description and men message to tell me I'm not.
I see myself as large. End of.
I think it is all bollocks in the end though, cause when you're naked and riding one another raw,you're not worried about that. |
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"I'm a size 18 for all you nice people on my thread but I don't hide the fact that I'm not small my rant is why don't men read the profile or at least know what a womans size is they have no idea at all"
Why don't you read this thread?
You're still ignoring that your profile isn't clear. Why have you not put a picture showing your size?
Why have you not said on your profile that you're a size 18?
The right type of honest picture may get you more interest from your target market. |
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"I'm a size 18 for all you nice people on my thread but I don't hide the fact that I'm not small my rant is why don't men read the profile or at least know what a womans size is they have no idea at all"
Get your particulars down.
It'll help. |
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"I'm a size 18 for all you nice people on my thread but I don't hide the fact that I'm not small my rant is why don't men read the profile or at least know what a womans size is they have no idea at all
Why don't you read this thread?
You're still ignoring that your profile isn't clear. Why have you not put a picture showing your size?
Why have you not said on your profile that you're a size 18?
The right type of honest picture may get you more interest from your target market."
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"I'm exactly the same, I've never had a guy reject me because I'm too big, but I'm always wary of couples or single guys if they've got published verifs by loads of tiny petite fems as then I know I'm not going to be their type."
I would hardly describe you as big, or anywhere near it. Curvy for sure, and very sexy with it. But not big. |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!"
As others have said your body description is vague and open to misinterpretation!
As far as I see it you have four options:
Display clear full body pics on your public pics so people can decide before they message.
Change your body type to large if the general consensus of men who contact you is that you're large - you can always change it if you lose more weight!
Tell people your clothes size on your profile. Most people can get a good idea of what you look like if they compare this plus your height!
Leave things as they are and prepare to be upset/miffed if people reject you because of your size!
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well this went well...  "
Other than one dick head it's been ok I think?
Lots of people have simply given the op advice on how to ensure it doesn't keep happening! All seems pretty reasonable to me. Xx |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!
As others have said your body description is vague and open to misinterpretation!
As far as I see it you have four options:
Display clear full body pics on your public pics so people can decide before they message.
Change your body type to large if the general consensus of men who contact you is that you're large - you can always change it if you lose more weight!
Tell people your clothes size on your profile. Most people can get a good idea of what you look like if they compare this plus your height!
Leave things as they are and prepare to be upset/miffed if people reject you because of your size!
Xx"
Was just about to say the same.
To be fair a guy needs to see photos of who he'll potentially be meeting to establish if there's an attraction - this isn't Blind Date! Or would you rather arrange a meet and deal with his possible disappointment face-to-face?
I'm sure you (along with every other single female) have turned down many many men based on your personal preferences...and it works the opposite way too.
I couldn't work out your shape or size from your profile description and I read it twice...without photos saying you're a size 18 is pretty meaningless to a male.
Sorry to seem harsh but men are allowed to say no too!  |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!
As others have said your body description is vague and open to misinterpretation!
As far as I see it you have four options:
Display clear full body pics on your public pics so people can decide before they message.
Change your body type to large if the general consensus of men who contact you is that you're large - you can always change it if you lose more weight!
Tell people your clothes size on your profile. Most people can get a good idea of what you look like if they compare this plus your height!
Leave things as they are and prepare to be upset/miffed if people reject you because of your size!
Xx
Was just about to say the same.
To be fair a guy needs to see photos of who he'll potentially be meeting to establish if there's an attraction - this isn't Blind Date! Or would you rather arrange a meet and deal with his possible disappointment face-to-face?
I'm sure you (along with every other single female) have turned down many many men based on your personal preferences...and it works the opposite way too.
I couldn't work out your shape or size from your profile description and I read it twice...without photos saying you're a size 18 is pretty meaningless to a male.
Sorry to seem harsh but men are allowed to say no too! "
I agree with you on men are allowed to say no on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The way I read your profile i would have guessed your a size 14.
Nothing wrong with asking for a full body pic. At least when they say sorry to big they are being honest. Why don't you put either a full body pic on. You don't need to show your face or put in your bio what size you actually are. That way guys will know and you won't get endless messages.
Curvey can mean a lot of different things. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being real is important and saying it like it is ..... So I put my size on my profile and describe my body too ....
People are attracted to a number of attributes just as I like strong shoulders and a smoothe voice and a particular face shape and intellect ....
Just shake off any shackles and be the fucking brilliant you - digest it all and shit out your own blend of you .....these are my business sayings I coach others with sweet ......just say who and what you are on your profile - there is freedom in that and you will attract the people who wish to be in your company X
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"As the saying goes, meat is for men, bones are for dogs lol
Pretty shitty way of describing slim ladies no? "
No not at all. I've just had a honest p.m. From someone with a similar opinion, no offence was intended. I follow a lot of groups that Reinforce and promote the self estime of the curvy woman. I do a lot with naturism. So accepting their body in all its natural beauty is something I can relate to. Society and the media are force feeding perfection in an unhealthy way.
The quote above was taken from that forum. There is nothing wrong with slim women, athletic bodies are nice as long as its healthy. slim to the point of malnutrition is not healthy. That's my point.
I like figures the slimmer side of cuddly or the cuddlier side of slim. Any woman who can eat a bacon butty and not count the carbs has a healthy lifestyle and the right mental disposition.
A slim body needs a lot of exercise and maintenance, which is admirable. Not my personal choice of woman I would speak to first in a crowded room. A unhealthy slim women with a mental issue would weigh there own feces and urine to determine how much they would be allowed you eat and drink that day in order to balance the equation. Social and media pressure made this person believe they are imperfect.
A picture on a naturist site pucturefies this situation, a young woman with some puppy fat is looking at a magazine (something like cosmopolitan), she has a pinch of belly skin in one hand and a pair of scissors in the other. I don't need to clarify the message further. This is what society has done to womanhood.
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"As the saying goes, meat is for men, bones are for dogs lol
Pretty shitty way of describing slim ladies no?
No not at all. I've just had a honest p.m. From someone with a similar opinion, no offence was intended. I follow a lot of groups that Reinforce and promote the self estime of the curvy woman. I do a lot with naturism. So accepting their body in all its natural beauty is something I can relate to. Society and the media are force feeding perfection in an unhealthy way.
The quote above was taken from that forum. There is nothing wrong with slim women, athletic bodies are nice as long as its healthy. slim to the point of malnutrition is not healthy. That's my point.
I like figures the slimmer side of cuddly or the cuddlier side of slim. Any woman who can eat a bacon butty and not count the carbs has a healthy lifestyle and the right mental disposition.
A slim body needs a lot of exercise and maintenance, which is admirable. Not my personal choice of woman I would speak to first in a crowded room. A unhealthy slim women with a mental issue would weigh there own feces and urine to determine how much they would be allowed you eat and drink that day in order to balance the equation. Social and media pressure made this person believe they are imperfect.
A picture on a naturist site pucturefies this situation, a young woman with some puppy fat is looking at a magazine (something like cosmopolitan), she has a pinch of belly skin in one hand and a pair of scissors in the other. I don't need to clarify the message further. This is what society has done to womanhood.
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I live on junk food can't remember last time I actually ate something healthy lol I can't seem to put weight on. My kind of healthy food is a kebab with salad lol. X |
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"As the saying goes, meat is for men, bones are for dogs lol
Pretty shitty way of describing slim ladies no?
No not at all. I've just had a honest p.m. From someone with a similar opinion, no offence was intended. I follow a lot of groups that Reinforce and promote the self estime of the curvy woman. I do a lot with naturism. So accepting their body in all its natural beauty is something I can relate to. Society and the media are force feeding perfection in an unhealthy way.
The quote above was taken from that forum. There is nothing wrong with slim women, athletic bodies are nice as long as its healthy. slim to the point of malnutrition is not healthy. That's my point.
I like figures the slimmer side of cuddly or the cuddlier side of slim. Any woman who can eat a bacon butty and not count the carbs has a healthy lifestyle and the right mental disposition.
A slim body needs a lot of exercise and maintenance, which is admirable. Not my personal choice of woman I would speak to first in a crowded room. A unhealthy slim women with a mental issue would weigh there own feces and urine to determine how much they would be allowed you eat and drink that day in order to balance the equation. Social and media pressure made this person believe they are imperfect.
A picture on a naturist site pucturefies this situation, a young woman with some puppy fat is looking at a magazine (something like cosmopolitan), she has a pinch of belly skin in one hand and a pair of scissors in the other. I don't need to clarify the message further. This is what society has done to womanhood.
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I personally think that this type of attitude sets up a false dichotomy. As if we are comparing healthy women to unhealthy skinny women and those are the only choices. The original post regarding bones being for dogs does exactly what you dislike about attitudes aimed at heavy women, but it aims it at skinnier women. Hypocrisy at its best.
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Just don't worry about the few ? Better that they say now than on a social ?
Pictures ? Well some guys don't care about them ? As long as you'll sleep with them ?
But yes be more accurate with your description ? This will hopefully mean that the guys getting in touch will have a better idea of you ?
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!"
That's ridiculas. I'm a curvy girl and I love my curves. but I've never had that response. Possibly add one or two more photos on public so you don't get those numpties!! But I'd say more fool them. Their loss not yours |
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I have huge hang ups with my body and always have done even when slimmer. Realistically me shedding 3 stone will make no difference to the world. I imagine it will still not make me feel any better about myself because I'd probably then start to focus my insecurities else where.
As one poster said society and particularly the media is making us all feel a little bit more insecure regardless of your size or build theres always a flaw that some magazine will find.
I think being on here has shown me that people want real people. Not an airbrushed picture of perfection. And really true sex appeal or beauty comes from those who are most comfortable with themselves.
I'm the first to admit my hang ups and I don't have a mass of photos on display for that reason. It's certainly not to mislead anyone.
So in response to the OP. . It takes all sorts. Be you as no one can do that better than you. Hope you find what you are looking for x |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!"
I get similar! It takes a few minutes to read a profile and yet a lot of people just don't bother. Its frustrating xx |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!
I get similar! It takes a few minutes to read a profile and yet a lot of people just don't bother. Its frustrating xx "
Looking at your pics you look slim to me. Funny how we see each other. Each to their own thank god |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!
I get similar! It takes a few minutes to read a profile and yet a lot of people just don't bother. Its frustrating xx
Looking at your pics you look slim to me. Funny how we see each other. Each to their own thank god "
I'm fairly chubby just a good angled pic, thankfully the positive attention I get outweighs the negative X |
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"I have huge hang ups with my body and always have done even when slimmer. Realistically me shedding 3 stone will make no difference to the world. I imagine it will still not make me feel any better about myself because I'd probably then start to focus my insecurities else where.
As one poster said society and particularly the media is making us all feel a little bit more insecure regardless of your size or build theres always a flaw that some magazine will find.
I think being on here has shown me that people want real people. Not an airbrushed picture of perfection. And really true sex appeal or beauty comes from those who are most comfortable with themselves.
I'm the first to admit my hang ups and I don't have a mass of photos on display for that reason. It's certainly not to mislead anyone.
So in response to the OP. . It takes all sorts. Be you as no one can do that better than you. Hope you find what you are looking for x"
That about sums it up. Society and opinions change all the time. Once it was 'gentlemen prefer blondes' and 'blondes have More fun', then there was the 'perfect 10', the '10' became a size '6', then it was body mass index of 18.
So what exactly is perfection? When it comes to body mass indexes the average rugby player is by medical charts 'clinically obese'. I wouldn't mind having that much in common with a rugby players body lol.
I personally like women to aren't skinny, but I don't like female body builder types either so I've already contradicted my own rule (hypocrite). I do find slim women a little boney around the hip department. A little padding around this area means less risk of bruising. But that's just personal choice. Some men prefer a woman they can pick up with one arm. I've heard the term 'pocket wife' used quite affectionately many times.
I've also heard the term when describing having sex with bbw, 'slap her ass and ride the wave'. You can either take that in jest or it can damage what is already a fragile self estime. I personally consider the 'ride the wave' comment as potentially more damaging than any 'bag of bones' type comment.
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!
I get similar! It takes a few minutes to read a profile and yet a lot of people just don't bother. Its frustrating xx
Looking at your pics you look slim to me. Funny how we see each other. Each to their own thank god
I'm fairly chubby just a good angled pic, thankfully the positive attention I get outweighs the negative X "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd put public body pics on. I've stated on my profile I have meat on my bones but have more than a few pics go show what my body is like. Easier that way. |
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"I've also heard the term when describing having sex with bbw, 'slap her ass and ride the wave'. You can either take that in jest or it can damage what is already a fragile self estime. I personally consider the 'ride the wave' comment as potentially more damaging than any 'bag of bones' type comment.
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But why? It seems you are predisposed to see the plight of some women and not others. Both comments are equally harmful, just to different groups of people. All women should feel comfortable with themselves and setting up this "healthy" vs "skinny" dichotomy hurts all women. As does the "healthy" vs "fat" dichotomy perpetuated by some.
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"I wouldn't send a pic.
Why on earth not? 
Do you want to meet people without having a clue what each other looks like? "
Because I don't show my body naked via photos. I have to someone I'm confident is going to meet me but what I do is make sure they have a good idea of what my body is like. Any intelligent man will have a clue and not run a mile when I undress. If I say I have a large,wobbly stomach,with stretch marks that hangs down a bit,he wouldn't expect a bit of a mummy tummy. It's usually the stomach that puts men off,most can cope with fat boobs and a huge bum. |
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I've been a bag of bones and a hippo. Neither of those kind of comments bother me. I'm a nice person and attract nice men,some never see anything but my face before we meet. |
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You could solve your problem OP very easily ...get photos on your profile. .mention size 18 on your profile ( most people would consider a bbw to be size 18 plus)...
Your profile is vague and it's leaving people to imagine your size. .reading it I would guess size 12/14 ..no wonder they're replying back saying too big, you've already planted something totally different in their imagination! !! |
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"The thing is that your avatar doesn't wholly suggest your a big girl and all your photos are friends only, and I skimmed your profile and I couldn't find where it said your size so how would anyone know?
Profile says curvy
Curvy can be slim too. I agree. The profile is very vague. "
Exactly. You can be slim AND curvy. Or, even, slim, curvy AND petite all at the same time.
Without clear photos for people to make up their own minds, there's always going to be a 'grey' area, no matter how descriptive you try to be. Additionally, it's all subjective on a man's part, too.
So, there really is no other option, but to display photos, especially considering the nature of the site. |
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To be honest I prefer a woman with a fuller figure my last gf was a size 22 and I loved them curves.
Didn't like the jealousy and insecurity hense being single again  |
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"I wouldn't send a pic.
Why on earth not?
Do you want to meet people without having a clue what each other looks like?
Because I don't show my body naked via photos. I have to someone I'm confident is going to meet me but what I do is make sure they have a good idea of what my body is like. Any intelligent man will have a clue and not run a mile when I undress. If I say I have a large,wobbly stomach,with stretch marks that hangs down a bit,he wouldn't expect a bit of a mummy tummy. It's usually the stomach that puts men off,most can cope with fat boobs and a huge bum. "
you just said you wouldn't send pictures, I've never sent a naked picture and have no intention of starting now i think they can see my body shape from my pictures. And i can honestly say in all the time I've been on this site not one person I've been arranging a meet with has asked to see naked pictures.
But I wouldn't arrange a meet with someone who hadn't got a general idea of what I look like |
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Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
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Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! "
No. I won't do it. I guess if it lead to that much disappointment no one would want to meet me again. |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! "
But would you really post photos where you didn't like the way you looked? Mine are flattering, creative angles, call it what you like. But I'm not going to publish anything that I don't think looks good, why on earth would I do that?
No one has run away screaming yet, most even try to come back for more, so I think maybe we should credit people with enough intelligence to realise that people will post flattering images. I expect that of other people's photos, and if they don't expect it of mine that's their problem. |
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"This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW."
I don't take photos to mislead. I take photos which are interesting and look good.
I have a pic with my tied to ceiling rafters... I wasn't actually tied: my hands were just wrapped around the rope
What about nice clothes? Hairdos and makeup? Making yourself look as nice as you can isn't always trying to deceive. |
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"This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW.
I don't take photos to mislead. I take photos which are interesting and look good.
I have a pic with my tied to ceiling rafters... I wasn't actually tied: my hands were just wrapped around the rope
What about nice clothes? Hairdos and makeup? Making yourself look as nice as you can isn't always trying to deceive. "
... But the bulge in my suit pic today was 100% real |
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I have a pic with my tied to ceiling rafters... I wasn't actually tied: my hands were just wrapped around the rope . "
Illusion shattered. I do like that picture |
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I have a pic with my tied to ceiling rafters... I wasn't actually tied: my hands were just wrapped around the rope .
Illusion shattered. I do like that picture "
I'm sorry to have deceived you... I promise to be properly tied should we ever meet.  |
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over a year ago
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! "
Publicly I will continue to show photos of me I like. Whether or not I look prettier, slimmer, less knackered etc. than I do day to day. And I'll show them in my friends gallery too, just include a little more candid shots. They are a reflection of me on a good day when I've made an effort. And that tends to be me on meets as well. Plus the artistry of them goes some way to showing some of my personality and that's the main thing I look for in a potential meet.
If someone makes it clear they only like me or want to meet me because they think I'm something I'm not then I am pretty quick to disabuse them of that notion. I'm not slim. I have an OK face. I have lumpy bits. I also meet people I get on with emotionally and mentally, so me not being a total stunner has never, ever been an issue. I filter the ones who just want a fit body and pretty face to help them shoot their muck out fairly quickly. |
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"This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW.
I don't take photos to mislead. I take photos which are interesting and look good.
I have a pic with my tied to ceiling rafters... I wasn't actually tied: my hands were just wrapped around the rope
What about nice clothes? Hairdos and makeup? Making yourself look as nice as you can isn't always trying to deceive.
... But the bulge in my suit pic today was 100% real "
This my current avatar is about as bare all as i can without being completely starkers and people have made comment that look smaller than i say. Its not eduted or anything.
But at the same time im gonna generally show me in my best light. Im trying to get meets not get rid of them afterall. X |
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!"
Judging by the 45 verifivations on show, you seem to have been doing alright!x |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet!
Publicly I will continue to show photos of me I like. Whether or not I look prettier, slimmer, less knackered etc. than I do day to day. And I'll show them in my friends gallery too, just include a little more candid shots. They are a reflection of me on a good day when I've made an effort. And that tends to be me on meets as well. Plus the artistry of them goes some way to showing some of my personality and that's the main thing I look for in a potential meet.
If someone makes it clear they only like me or want to meet me because they think I'm something I'm not then I am pretty quick to disabuse them of that notion. I'm not slim. I have an OK face. I have lumpy bits. I also meet people I get on with emotionally and mentally, so me not being a total stunner has never, ever been an issue. I filter the ones who just want a fit body and pretty face to help them shoot their muck out fairly quickly."
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! "
mine are how you would see me out in the street(apart from the cats head) and it must be a true representation as 4 guys in 6 weeks have messaged me wanting to meet saying they've seen me around town |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet!
Publicly I will continue to show photos of me I like. Whether or not I look prettier, slimmer, less knackered etc. than I do day to day. And I'll show them in my friends gallery too, just include a little more candid shots. They are a reflection of me on a good day when I've made an effort. And that tends to be me on meets as well. Plus the artistry of them goes some way to showing some of my personality and that's the main thing I look for in a potential meet.
If someone makes it clear they only like me or want to meet me because they think I'm something I'm not then I am pretty quick to disabuse them of that notion. I'm not slim. I have an OK face. I have lumpy bits. I also meet people I get on with emotionally and mentally, so me not being a total stunner has never, ever been an issue. I filter the ones who just want a fit body and pretty face to help them shoot their muck out fairly quickly."
Not suggesting that anyone should show pics that make them look awful Hun - though I posted a bloody awful pic last week of me with no make up on and a towel on my head! Generally my pics show me in lingerie/makeup etc and give people an idea of what I'll look like when we meet! I'm far from perfect and that's made clear in both my photos and my profile text!
Incidentally, none of the people who've responded to my original comment are people I'd ever accuse of using misleading photography. |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! mine are how you would see me out in the street(apart from the cats head) and it must be a true representation as 4 guys in 6 weeks have messaged me wanting to meet saying they've seen me around town "
There's another reason for me to stick with the flattering photos, I don't want people seeing me around town |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! mine are how you would see me out in the street(apart from the cats head) and it must be a true representation as 4 guys in 6 weeks have messaged me wanting to meet saying they've seen me around town
There's another reason for me to stick with the flattering photos, I don't want people seeing me around town "
I've got nothing to hide if I was bothered I'd have no photos on |
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"This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW.
I don't take photos to mislead. I take photos which are interesting and look good.
I have a pic with my tied to ceiling rafters... I wasn't actually tied: my hands were just wrapped around the rope
What about nice clothes? Hairdos and makeup? Making yourself look as nice as you can isn't always trying to deceive. "
Agreed
And friends see my mad pics too....
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! mine are how you would see me out in the street(apart from the cats head) and it must be a true representation as 4 guys in 6 weeks have messaged me wanting to meet saying they've seen me around town
There's another reason for me to stick with the flattering photos, I don't want people seeing me around town I've got nothing to hide if I was bothered I'd have no photos on"
Hence why I only have my boots pic. |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! mine are how you would see me out in the street(apart from the cats head) and it must be a true representation as 4 guys in 6 weeks have messaged me wanting to meet saying they've seen me around town
There's another reason for me to stick with the flattering photos, I don't want people seeing me around town I've got nothing to hide if I was bothered I'd have no photos on
Hence why I only have my boots pic. "
I'm sure I've seen those boots in town! |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! mine are how you would see me out in the street(apart from the cats head) and it must be a true representation as 4 guys in 6 weeks have messaged me wanting to meet saying they've seen me around town
There's another reason for me to stick with the flattering photos, I don't want people seeing me around town I've got nothing to hide if I was bothered I'd have no photos on
Hence why I only have my boots pic.
I'm sure I've seen those boots in town! "
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"Is it just my profile but why do.I bother to.write an honest one when all.I get are.men who don't read them...I tell them I'm not small and still they insist to send a photo of myself and then I get a.reply of sorry too big ffs that's what my profile says......!!!!"
I get that about my profile too, I'm honest about me and my situation and then when they realise I get blocked or no response all of a sudden.
It's the way it is here I'm afraid x |
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have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet!
But would you really post photos where you didn't like the way you looked? Mine are flattering, creative angles, call it what you like. But I'm not going to publish anything that I don't think looks good, why on earth would I do that?
No one has run away screaming yet, most even try to come back for more, so I think maybe we should credit people with enough intelligence to realise that people will post flattering images. I expect that of other people's photos, and if they don't expect it of mine that's their problem. "
This - its like inviting people round to dinner and not tidying the house up first. You just wouldn't do it.
I used to have a lot more photos on my profile and I would never have posted a photo that hasn't been filtered or flattered me. If that was false advertising then so be it. If someone has a problem then that's theirs. It's not deceiving. |
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I an beginning to think that us British are not really ready for the hole swinging thing. Too much ego too judgement. Most profiles are just a list of what they won't do and who they won't fuck.
Comments like explore new things (as long as they are familiar). We for one wish to taste every fruit on the tree. After all we're all gonna die some day so why not fuck everything. Love and compassion are so easy to give and yet so hard to find. |
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"Maybe try:-
have clearer body pics.
more descriptive profile text.
list your measurements / dress size.
tbh most people only display photos which show their body off from a good angle etc etc (I know I do) In previous threads I've been way out guessing people's sizes / weight going by a photo alone.
Precisely! This is why I personally think people should stop using 'creative photography/angles' and start showing photos of what they ACTUALLY look like NOW. Other than for ego, or to get fabbed, I really don't see the point of publishing pictures which make people look several dress sizes/stones lighter. I know men who've done this as well as women - but it's just misleading people and potentially leads to disappointment on both sides in a meet! "
I used that ap on my boobs they look 3/4 sizes smaller than they actually are.
What do you think? Hahaha |
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"I'm a size 18 for all you nice people on my thread but I don't hide the fact that I'm not small my rant is why don't men read the profile or at least know what a womans size is they have no idea at all"
They may be inexperienced as good long-term partners to women - and thus know less than many guys.
I'm guessing that less than 20% of guys who message us haven't read most of our profiles. We might like them to read but they often don't.
Based on their lack of grasping what you're communicating op I think the solution is to change tack.
Would you be willing to post any photo of you to your public profile op? Eg, of your legs, stomach, something from behind etc? A visual will give the clearest message about your body type. You have nothing to be embarrassed about - there are tons of men who'll love you. But they need to find you easily and you deserve to get less messages and hassle off guys who are not good enough or right for you. |
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