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When you're having personal problems or are having a difficult time of things, who's that one person you'll always turn to? The person you can rely on to help you out. And why is it that person particularly you'd go to?
I only ask because I've spent the last week or so going through all kinds of personal crap and all kinds of weirdness. Anyway it turns out the only people I could turn to were the friends I've made through Fab. Their advice, kindness and words of support helped me greatly. And come this morning I'm feeling like a new person. It got me thinking how screwed I would be if I didn't have those people, as I wouldn't really have anyone. I think we all need someone we can turn to. |
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"When you're having personal problems or are having a difficult time of things, who's that one person you'll always turn to? The person you can rely on to help you out. And why is it that person particularly you'd go to?
I only ask because I've spent the last week or so going through all kinds of personal crap and all kinds of weirdness. Anyway it turns out the only people I could turn to were the friends I've made through Fab. Their advice, kindness and words of support helped me greatly. And come this morning I'm feeling like a new person. It got me thinking how screwed I would be if I didn't have those people, as I wouldn't really have anyone. I think we all need someone we can turn to."
Sorry to hear you are having problems and also that you have no one in day to day life to turn to...sorry if I read this wrong. For me it is my husband and one of my best mates who I have known for years. They are my rocks and I would not like to live with out them. |
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"When you're having personal problems or are having a difficult time of things, who's that one person you'll always turn to? The person you can rely on to help you out. And why is it that person particularly you'd go to?
I only ask because I've spent the last week or so going through all kinds of personal crap and all kinds of weirdness. Anyway it turns out the only people I could turn to were the friends I've made through Fab. Their advice, kindness and words of support helped me greatly. And come this morning I'm feeling like a new person. It got me thinking how screwed I would be if I didn't have those people, as I wouldn't really have anyone. I think we all need someone we can turn to."
I don't have a person to go to, but I do have a place.
It gives me the peace and solitude to think, gather my thoughts, charge my batteries and face the world again.
Everyone should have a person or a place.
I'm glad you've found the help you needed op.  |
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"When you're having personal problems or are having a difficult time of things, who's that one person you'll always turn to? The person you can rely on to help you out. And why is it that person particularly you'd go to?
I only ask because I've spent the last week or so going through all kinds of personal crap and all kinds of weirdness. Anyway it turns out the only people I could turn to were the friends I've made through Fab. Their advice, kindness and words of support helped me greatly. And come this morning I'm feeling like a new person. It got me thinking how screwed I would be if I didn't have those people, as I wouldn't really have anyone. I think we all need someone we can turn to."
my brothers . And my brothers ex . No i wouldnt before any eyebrows raise . Shes a rock . Fights her own demons but is ever such a nice kind supportive lass . |
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"I tend to withdraw when I'm going through difficulties which isn't always helpful but it's force of habit."
I did this for a long time. I've now found that opening up is the only thing that really helps. The problem is it can sometimes make me come across as a bit odd  |
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Marc. It used to be my father, though.
I am a fan of helping myself, but sometimes what I need is someone who will support me and make me see things a bit differently - someone to be a bit harder on me than I tend to be when I'm feeling sorry for myself.
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"I tend to withdraw when I'm going through difficulties which isn't always helpful but it's force of habit.
I did this for a long time. I've now found that opening up is the only thing that really helps. The problem is it can sometimes make me come across as a bit odd "
I started opening up a few months ago and it sent everyone into a tizzy, they just weren't used to it. Fortunately I have someone now I can trust to keep their cool when I go to a dark place. |
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"I tend to withdraw when I'm going through difficulties which isn't always helpful but it's force of habit.
I did this for a long time. I've now found that opening up is the only thing that really helps. The problem is it can sometimes make me come across as a bit odd "
we are all a bit odd at times or have our own particular foibles, no harm in recognising it which some try to hide or are wary of others knowing..
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"Marc. It used to be my father, though.
I am a fan of helping myself, but sometimes what I need is someone who will support me and make me see things a bit differently - someone to be a bit harder on me than I tend to be when I'm feeling sorry for myself.
-Courtney "
Sometimes you just need someone to actually say the words to you. Sometimes to say the obvious. To give you a bit of a wake up call. That's what I find I need at times. |
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"I tend to withdraw when I'm going through difficulties which isn't always helpful but it's force of habit."
This. Since my sis was killed there's nobody I really turn to and don't really think I could anymore |
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I have a few different friends for different things.
But I think this past year I have more turned to a couple of friends I have made through fab and this would be around problems I have encountered in the real world. Without some of them I don't know what I would have done, obviously I would have had to get by some how, but having them to call on has made some situations a lot easier. I'm not one to always call on help it advice when I need it, but knowing they're there if I need it is what counts. |
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I remember when I hit my rock bottom I accused my mum of not being there for me. She highlighted that lots of people had always been there for me but I never asked for help.
I was always the one looking out for everyone else.
Now I talk to my 2 best friends & sometimes my Stepmum |
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"I tend to withdraw when I'm going through difficulties which isn't always helpful but it's force of habit.
I did this for a long time. I've now found that opening up is the only thing that really helps. The problem is it can sometimes make me come across as a bit odd "
This for me too. I will just shut myself away and not talk to anyone for a day or two. Then other times I will text to a couple friends and talk to my bf. He helps me see different angles of things and is not afraid to tell me if I'm overreacting. |
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"I tend to withdraw when I'm going through difficulties which isn't always helpful but it's force of habit.
This. Since my sis was killed there's nobody I really turn to and don't really think I could anymore "
That's what happened to me too when my sister died. I withdrew. Turns out it wasn't good for me. Lead to all kinds of problems. Things I'm still working through now. Since I found people I can open up to I'm a different person. I'm now moving forward. |
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I don't like to feel I'm burdening anyone with my woes. I have a friend I met online years ago I vent to now and then and my daughters and I talk through life worries. I don't expect anyone to help me though. |
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it does depend on the problem sometimes- but i can and do tell W anything and everything - and i think sometimes he knows more about me than i do - but i also have a couple of girlie mates that know me very well too - but before any of that i tend to keep stuff to myself and try and deal with it |
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"I have a few different friends for different things.
But I think this past year I have more turned to a couple of friends I have made through fab and this would be around problems I have encountered in the real world. Without some of them I don't know what I would have done, obviously I would have had to get by some how, but having them to call on has made some situations a lot easier. I'm not one to always call on help it advice when I need it, but knowing they're there if I need it is what counts. "
Just knowing someone is there is a comfort in itself. |
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I cherry pick the person according to the advice I need but it's usually me.
I was on my own when my brother told me dad had died. I howled the roof off, told my children and we made plans. Our grief has been entirely private although we share the hilarious stories that come from his funeral, often. |
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"The forumites are actually pretty good. I had a problem, did a thread about it and got tons of support. 
This is very true. There are some good people on here "
Speak for yourself, I'm wicked  |
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I have had a few times when I have been in dark places....the first my then wife helped me become sane....then later when we broke up a few select friends.....the last time I was pulled through by the same friends & the ex-missus!! I learned meditation & deep breathing but foremost I listened to a hell of a lot of music!! The same friends are now miles away but we always are just a phone call/email away if any of us need each other |
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I've always been happy alone and only shared with my ex wife and only then a bit. When she left I was destroyed with no one to talk too, luckily I had some good friends who just got me doing stuff and enjoying myself again, we didn't talk just did anything to take my mind off it.
It's massively head in the sand philosophy but I don't hold it in, I forget about it so it works for me. |
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It will depend on the particular problem, Anything work related I speak to work mates, My boss or my dad, Money I speak to family members or friends, Most others problems I keep to myself |
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"The forumites are actually pretty good. I had a problem, did a thread about it and got tons of support.
This is very true. There are some good people on here
Speak for yourself, I'm wicked "
You are but in a nice way |
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It is funny, but I hardly ever turn to anyone. Not because I don't have anyone, but I always feel that I will either waste their time or will end up giving them more to worry about. |
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"It will depend on the particular problem, Anything work related I speak to work mates, My boss or my dad, Money I speak to family members or friends, Most others problems I keep to myself"
Same here !! I have different people for different problems !! But i guess my sister and mum are my real besties! They never judge and I know it's unconditional from both |
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