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"Aww love honestly don't feel like you're alone. I'll answer in detail in a minute just wanted to get in there first with a message of support!" Xx | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say." It may seem everything and everyone is against you right now, but it won't always feel that way. You have done the right thing and gone to the council office, they are there to help. I can't comment on you're job and being sacked. I hope you feel better if only slightly getting it off you're chest. | |||
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"Have a big hug! Contact an organisation like stepchange. They were very good with me when I had debt problems and they provided help and knowledge to get me back on the right track. " Its their paperwork that's the biggest hurdle xx | |||
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"I've so much paperwork to go through. I'm an intelligent woman, I've a degree and post grad qualifications. I used to run a whole department. But apparently filling in benefits forms is beyond me. Actually being able to focus long enough to read them is beyond me. I shouldn't have got up today." Things WILL get better. They were better and will be better. | |||
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"Have a big hug! Contact an organisation like stepchange. They were very good with me when I had debt problems and they provided help and knowledge to get me back on the right track. Its their paperwork that's the biggest hurdle xx" Bloody forms and paperwork is enough to send you into despair by itself. Doesn't the citezen advice help with filling out things like that? Worth an ask maybe | |||
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"Have a big hug! Contact an organisation like stepchange. They were very good with me when I had debt problems and they provided help and knowledge to get me back on the right track. Its their paperwork that's the biggest hurdle xx Bloody forms and paperwork is enough to send you into despair by itself. Doesn't the citezen advice help with filling out things like that? Worth an ask maybe" I went to.them - in two towns. They were totally useless. Didn't have a clue what they were talking about. All I want is a friend. How pathetic is that. I cant even cry. | |||
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"First of all advice coming from someone that worked for DWP for 7 years. Get a sick note from your gp, make a claim for ESA today!! You should get the reduction on your council tax because you're a ingle parent. Concentrate on that one because it's a priority debt and can go to court and all other shit you don't want to deal with. Water can fuck off for now, out of all the utility bills water is the only one that the jobcentre wouldn't issue a crisis loan for because they will never cut off your supply. Leave that one till you've sorted everything else. Benefits wise you'll get ESS for depression, child tax credit and child benefit for the children. Dunno if you rent or own the property? Rent you can get housing benefit if you're in receipt of a means tested benefit, you'll qualify for income and contributions based ESA. Right emotional advice, you've got 3 kids and when they come back from school they don't want to see their mammy upset so you've got to let this go over your head. It's Friday, offices close, no post on the weekend, deal with this shit Monday (do the ESA claim now though!) you aren't whoring yourself out on here, even if you do use this place for some compliments or attention don't you think that's better than going to a nightclub and sleeping with random people to temporarily make you feel good. Use this place for whatever you want and however you choose, talking to people will make you feel better. Don't put your happiness in the hands of an undependable man. This afternoon when you get back home, shut the door take your bra off, put pyjamas on and just have cuddles off your kids. " Brilliant and practical advice, do it girl  | |||
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"Just messaged a friend who will give you some good advice- you are not alone-well done for reaching out xxxx" I have pm'd but really recommend Stepchange above anyone else x | |||
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"I went to.them - in two towns. They were totally useless. Didn't have a clue what they were talking about. All I want is a friend. How pathetic is that. I cant even cry. " Not pathetic at all. I'm fairly certain most people have felt similar to you in their lives at some point - I know I have. Please remember that what you're feeling now is temporary, however unlikely that feels at the moment. You've taken a big step by even being able to talk about it on here. Sorry I can't give more practical advice but hopefully someone on here will be able to help. | |||
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"First of all advice coming from someone that worked for DWP for 7 years. Get a sick note from your gp, make a claim for ESA today!! You should get the reduction on your council tax because you're a ingle parent. Concentrate on that one because it's a priority debt and can go to court and all other shit you don't want to deal with. Water can fuck off for now, out of all the utility bills water is the only one that the jobcentre wouldn't issue a crisis loan for because they will never cut off your supply. Leave that one till you've sorted everything else. Benefits wise you'll get ESS for depression, child tax credit and child benefit for the children. Dunno if you rent or own the property? Rent you can get housing benefit if you're in receipt of a means tested benefit, you'll qualify for income and contributions based ESA. Right emotional advice, you've got 3 kids and when they come back from school they don't want to see their mammy upset so you've got to let this go over your head. It's Friday, offices close, no post on the weekend, deal with this shit Monday (do the ESA claim now though!) you aren't whoring yourself out on here, even if you do use this place for some compliments or attention don't you think that's better than going to a nightclub and sleeping with random people to temporarily make you feel good. Use this place for whatever you want and however you choose, talking to people will make you feel better. Don't put your happiness in the hands of an undependable man. This afternoon when you get back home, shut the door take your bra off, put pyjamas on and just have cuddles off your kids. " This. Soooooo much this. Nice to see sound and practical advice as well as support. I've nothing to add to this advice, it's first class. As many others have said, things will improve over time. Fab is a good support network at times. | |||
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"First of all advice coming from someone that worked for DWP for 7 years. Get a sick note from your gp, make a claim for ESA today!! You should get the reduction on your council tax because you're a ingle parent. Concentrate on that one because it's a priority debt and can go to court and all other shit you don't want to deal with. Water can fuck off for now, out of all the utility bills water is the only one that the jobcentre wouldn't issue a crisis loan for because they will never cut off your supply. Leave that one till you've sorted everything else. Benefits wise you'll get ESS for depression, child tax credit and child benefit for the children. Dunno if you rent or own the property? Rent you can get housing benefit if you're in receipt of a means tested benefit, you'll qualify for income and contributions based ESA. Right emotional advice, you've got 3 kids and when they come back from school they don't want to see their mammy upset so you've got to let this go over your head. It's Friday, offices close, no post on the weekend, deal with this shit Monday (do the ESA claim now though!) you aren't whoring yourself out on here, even if you do use this place for some compliments or attention don't you think that's better than going to a nightclub and sleeping with random people to temporarily make you feel good. Use this place for whatever you want and however you choose, talking to people will make you feel better. Don't put your happiness in the hands of an undependable man. This afternoon when you get back home, shut the door take your bra off, put pyjamas on and just have cuddles off your kids. " Really sound advice I second that although I never had a bra to take off but been there lost everything it's difficult really difficult but like it's been said one step at a time survive and you come out the other side stronger easy said then done we all know that but you gotta start somewhere think positive stay positive. Big hugs and take care of ur self and the kids | |||
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"First of all advice coming from someone that worked for DWP for 7 years. Get a sick note from your gp, make a claim for ESA today!! You should get the reduction on your council tax because you're a ingle parent. Concentrate on that one because it's a priority debt and can go to court and all other shit you don't want to deal with. Water can fuck off for now, out of all the utility bills water is the only one that the jobcentre wouldn't issue a crisis loan for because they will never cut off your supply. Leave that one till you've sorted everything else. Benefits wise you'll get ESS for depression, child tax credit and child benefit for the children. Dunno if you rent or own the property? Rent you can get housing benefit if you're in receipt of a means tested benefit, you'll qualify for income and contributions based ESA. Right emotional advice, you've got 3 kids and when they come back from school they don't want to see their mammy upset so you've got to let this go over your head. It's Friday, offices close, no post on the weekend, deal with this shit Monday (do the ESA claim now though!) you aren't whoring yourself out on here, even if you do use this place for some compliments or attention don't you think that's better than going to a nightclub and sleeping with random people to temporarily make you feel good. Use this place for whatever you want and however you choose, talking to people will make you feel better. Don't put your happiness in the hands of an undependable man. This afternoon when you get back home, shut the door take your bra off, put pyjamas on and just have cuddles off your kids. " Couldn't have said it better 
Since 2011 when. I lost my job I have been through unemployment...depression...bankruptcy. .my house was repossessed ..then fucking cancer! but hey I'm still here...believe me you will get through this ...there's plenty of organisations and people out there to help you...it's never as bad as you think. ..trust me. I wish you all the very best xx | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say." OP, debt wise ive been in your shoes, you dont need to beg, get an appointment with citizens advice, they will break down your incomings and outgoings and negotiate realistic payment plans with those you are in debt to, its a long road, but you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. With respect to your "great" boyfriend, OP, I'm sorry but if he is never there then he isn't so great, also if he was so great you wouldn't be on here looking for other men. I think OP, you need to take a break from the site and from your boyfriend, ring citizens advice and sort out your finances, thats your first and most important step you need to tackle | |||
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"First of all advice coming from someone that worked for DWP for 7 years. Get a sick note from your gp, make a claim for ESA today!! You should get the reduction on your council tax because you're a ingle parent. Concentrate on that one because it's a priority debt and can go to court and all other shit you don't want to deal with. Water can fuck off for now, out of all the utility bills water is the only one that the jobcentre wouldn't issue a crisis loan for because they will never cut off your supply. Leave that one till you've sorted everything else. Benefits wise you'll get ESS for depression, child tax credit and child benefit for the children. Dunno if you rent or own the property? Rent you can get housing benefit if you're in receipt of a means tested benefit, you'll qualify for income and contributions based ESA. Right emotional advice, you've got 3 kids and when they come back from school they don't want to see their mammy upset so you've got to let this go over your head. It's Friday, offices close, no post on the weekend, deal with this shit Monday (do the ESA claim now though!) you aren't whoring yourself out on here, even if you do use this place for some compliments or attention don't you think that's better than going to a nightclub and sleeping with random people to temporarily make you feel good. Use this place for whatever you want and however you choose, talking to people will make you feel better. Don't put your happiness in the hands of an undependable man. This afternoon when you get back home, shut the door take your bra off, put pyjamas on and just have cuddles off your kids. " Xxxx I've done all if the above. I applied for esa, but they want 600 bits of evidence as do step change and legal.aid. I cant call my man undependable - he works away and has other priorities. I come third. That's ok. My kids are in their late teens. The eldest hates me because of the situation with his father. The middle one won't come home, he is staying with his gf's family as the atmosphere here is too stressful. The youngest is the only thing keeping me going. | |||
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"I've so much paperwork to go through. I'm an intelligent woman, I've a degree and post grad qualifications. I used to run a whole department. But apparently filling in benefits forms is beyond me. Actually being able to focus long enough to read them is beyond me. I shouldn't have got up today." I have great knowledge of depression and feeling hopeless all the time, sometimes there is nothing anybody can say to make you feel better, sometimes you just need to get stuff off your chest, sometimes your not looking for answer just to know somebody is listening, if you need to chat about it let me know Big hugs | |||
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"I could bang out an ESA claim online if you wanted me to call you and you give me all the details over the phone. They would call you back then to complete it. It's really personal though, they wanna know the ins and outs of a cats arse. If you do it online yourself you could message me privately if you're stuck on anything? Just have details of the illness, you need a sick note off your gp name and address of the doctor and surgery. Previous employment details, name, address length of time there. " She should do it herself. Giving her details out to strangers sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. | |||
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"I've so much paperwork to go through. I'm an intelligent woman, I've a degree and post grad qualifications. I used to run a whole department. But apparently filling in benefits forms is beyond me. Actually being able to focus long enough to read them is beyond me. I shouldn't have got up today." Ask a friend to help you, or contact citizens advice, they will help you fill them in as well | |||
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"I've so much paperwork to go through. I'm an intelligent woman, I've a degree and post grad qualifications. I used to run a whole department. But apparently filling in benefits forms is beyond me. Actually being able to focus long enough to read them is beyond me. I shouldn't have got up today. Ask a friend to help you, or contact citizens advice, they will help you fill them in as well" I haven't got any friends. They were all at work. Ling since given up on me and moved on. | |||
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"I've so much paperwork to go through. I'm an intelligent woman, I've a degree and post grad qualifications. I used to run a whole department. But apparently filling in benefits forms is beyond me. Actually being able to focus long enough to read them is beyond me. I shouldn't have got up today. Ask a friend to help you, or contact citizens advice, they will help you fill them in as well I haven't got any friends. They were all at work. Ling since given up on me and moved on. " Have you been signed off for health reasons? | |||
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"I could bang out an ESA claim online if you wanted me to call you and you give me all the details over the phone. They would call you back then to complete it. It's really personal though, they wanna know the ins and outs of a cats arse. If you do it online yourself you could message me privately if you're stuck on anything? Just have details of the illness, you need a sick note off your gp name and address of the doctor and surgery. Previous employment details, name, address length of time there. She should do it herself. Giving her details out to strangers sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. " I know that's why I said it is so personal and even though I wouldn't do anything sinister with the information and would treat it like the 1000's of other claims to benefit I've processed over 7 years, I am essentially a stranger so can understand how stupid the idea was now on reflection. | |||
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"I could bang out an ESA claim online if you wanted me to call you and you give me all the details over the phone. They would call you back then to complete it. It's really personal though, they wanna know the ins and outs of a cats arse. If you do it online yourself you could message me privately if you're stuck on anything? Just have details of the illness, you need a sick note off your gp name and address of the doctor and surgery. Previous employment details, name, address length of time there. She should do it herself. Giving her details out to strangers sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. I know that's why I said it is so personal and even though I wouldn't do anything sinister with the information and would treat it like the 1000's of other claims to benefit I've processed over 7 years, I am essentially a stranger so can understand how stupid the idea was now on reflection. " You were only trying to help | |||
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"First of all advice coming from someone that worked for DWP for 7 years. Get a sick note from your gp, make a claim for ESA today!! You should get the reduction on your council tax because you're a ingle parent. Concentrate on that one because it's a priority debt and can go to court and all other shit you don't want to deal with. Water can fuck off for now, out of all the utility bills water is the only one that the jobcentre wouldn't issue a crisis loan for because they will never cut off your supply. Leave that one till you've sorted everything else. Benefits wise you'll get ESS for depression, child tax credit and child benefit for the children. Dunno if you rent or own the property? Rent you can get housing benefit if you're in receipt of a means tested benefit, you'll qualify for income and contributions based ESA. Right emotional advice, you've got 3 kids and when they come back from school they don't want to see their mammy upset so you've got to let this go over your head. It's Friday, offices close, no post on the weekend, deal with this shit Monday (do the ESA claim now though!) you aren't whoring yourself out on here, even if you do use this place for some compliments or attention don't you think that's better than going to a nightclub and sleeping with random people to temporarily make you feel good. Use this place for whatever you want and however you choose, talking to people will make you feel better. Don't put your happiness in the hands of an undependable man. This afternoon when you get back home, shut the door take your bra off, put pyjamas on and just have cuddles off your kids. "
It's posts and threads like these that just as we become somewhat jaded with the opinions and values of some of our fellow forumites we see the other side of the coin...Compassion and empathy do still exist in some corners of Fab. Chin up OP...Things will get better and if we can't help physically we can at least help emotionally...Many virtual hugs to you and your kids. | |||
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"First of all advice coming from someone that worked for DWP for 7 years. Get a sick note from your gp, make a claim for ESA today!! You should get the reduction on your council tax because you're a ingle parent. Concentrate on that one because it's a priority debt and can go to court and all other shit you don't want to deal with. Water can fuck off for now, out of all the utility bills water is the only one that the jobcentre wouldn't issue a crisis loan for because they will never cut off your supply. Leave that one till you've sorted everything else. Benefits wise you'll get ESS for depression, child tax credit and child benefit for the children. Dunno if you rent or own the property? Rent you can get housing benefit if you're in receipt of a means tested benefit, you'll qualify for income and contributions based ESA. Right emotional advice, you've got 3 kids and when they come back from school they don't want to see their mammy upset so you've got to let this go over your head. It's Friday, offices close, no post on the weekend, deal with this shit Monday (do the ESA claim now though!) you aren't whoring yourself out on here, even if you do use this place for some compliments or attention don't you think that's better than going to a nightclub and sleeping with random people to temporarily make you feel good. Use this place for whatever you want and however you choose, talking to people will make you feel better. Don't put your happiness in the hands of an undependable man. This afternoon when you get back home, shut the door take your bra off, put pyjamas on and just have cuddles off your kids. " Brilliant advise ,hugsxx | |||
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"I've been there too OP, it's a struggle to function when the world is closing in on you, however follow the advice given here, get to your gp asap and tell them your situation, they are there to help you mentally as well as physically. You can beat this, you will beat this and you can get your life back on track. We are all here for you if you have no-one else to talk to, the people of fab are an amazing bunch to help you through this. Good luck, we believe in you xx" A GP appointment should be first priority. OP, you can self refer yourself for talking therapy if you feel you would benefit. Look on Google for how to go about it. MIND offer urgent help too. | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say." speak to step change they got my friends 400 pound a mnths outgoings down to 125 it's a government charity based company x | |||
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"Hi was going to PM you but can't. Depression is a terrible and debilitating illness. It's needs recognising and treating that's first. If you haven't seen anyone go and get referred. Then you can start on the practical difficulties. Make a list of stuff you need to do, organise them in to stuff you can sort in short and medium term and stuff you need help with. Go and see debt advisor and citizens advice they will help massively. Insist you get referred to some talking therapist not just meds, they should have an APT service or similar don't be fobbed off with GP and a prescription. You're never as alone as you feel, and you're always stronger than you think. Take care and keep talking " Xxx | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say. OP, debt wise ive been in your shoes, you dont need to beg, get an appointment with citizens advice, they will break down your incomings and outgoings and negotiate realistic payment plans with those you are in debt to, its a long road, but you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. With respect to your "great" boyfriend, OP, I'm sorry but if he is never there then he isn't so great, also if he was so great you wouldn't be on here looking for other men. I think OP, you need to take a break from the site and from your boyfriend, ring citizens advice and sort out your finances, thats your first and most important step you need to tackle" Please don't judge my boyfriend harshly. We don't live together and ge works away. He has kids he has to provide for and works all the hours he can to make sure they have what they need. I cant fault him for that. I wish my soon to be ex husband felt the same way about his kids. My bf gives me support and advice over the phone. And he found the time to cum to court with me on Monday. None of this is his fault. Its mine and mine alone. I made choices that lead to this. With good reason, but I made the choice to leave an abusive marriage. This is the consequence. | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say. OP, debt wise ive been in your shoes, you dont need to beg, get an appointment with citizens advice, they will break down your incomings and outgoings and negotiate realistic payment plans with those you are in debt to, its a long road, but you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. With respect to your "great" boyfriend, OP, I'm sorry but if he is never there then he isn't so great, also if he was so great you wouldn't be on here looking for other men. I think OP, you need to take a break from the site and from your boyfriend, ring citizens advice and sort out your finances, thats your first and most important step you need to tackle Please don't judge my boyfriend harshly. We don't live together and ge works away. He has kids he has to provide for and works all the hours he can to make sure they have what they need. I cant fault him for that. I wish my soon to be ex husband felt the same way about his kids. My bf gives me support and advice over the phone. And he found the time to cum to court with me on Monday. None of this is his fault. Its mine and mine alone. I made choices that lead to this. With good reason, but I made the choice to leave an abusive marriage. This is the consequence." *come. Not cum. Ffs! | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say. OP, debt wise ive been in your shoes, you dont need to beg, get an appointment with citizens advice, they will break down your incomings and outgoings and negotiate realistic payment plans with those you are in debt to, its a long road, but you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. With respect to your "great" boyfriend, OP, I'm sorry but if he is never there then he isn't so great, also if he was so great you wouldn't be on here looking for other men. I think OP, you need to take a break from the site and from your boyfriend, ring citizens advice and sort out your finances, thats your first and most important step you need to tackle Please don't judge my boyfriend harshly. We don't live together and ge works away. He has kids he has to provide for and works all the hours he can to make sure they have what they need. I cant fault him for that. I wish my soon to be ex husband felt the same way about his kids. My bf gives me support and advice over the phone. And he found the time to cum to court with me on Monday. None of this is his fault. Its mine and mine alone. I made choices that lead to this. With good reason, but I made the choice to leave an abusive marriage. This is the consequence." You may wish to seek some advice from women's aid due to being in an abusive relationship they can offer you emotional and practical support, I understand how hard it is to leave an abusive relationship sometimes talking about how you feel helps you with the negitivity. I think you could also benefit from some councelling. | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say." (((((((HUGS)))))))) | |||
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"Nope not a penny. " Go on cmoptions .... They have a website for child maintence for help plus free web chat even if you dont want to speak to someone x | |||
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"Nope not a penny. " well he bloody should there his responsibility as much as yours oh and beans on toast sounds fantastic x | |||
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say." Don't jump Life isn't that bad Phone Samaritans Phone MAS Phone CAB Or get up and get a job and stop wallowing in Fab | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal Wtf??! "Women empowerment Extension of women's rights I'd you own your body and can do what you want with it Not beholden to to men who tell you you can't It's a strand of feminism that shows women are fully in charge and sex isn't just for reproduction | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . " Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine?" Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine?" . I provide extensive help to someone with mental health issues and can only re iterate that all the people posting to this post provided either good advice or support . You made a cheap joke of it which I would consider to be highly inappropriate in the circumstances . No one said that you are not allowed an opinion , however yours does not provide any assistance to someone suffering from depression. | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? " A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine?. I provide extensive help to someone with mental health issues and can only re iterate that all the people posting to this post provided either good advice or support . You made a cheap joke of it which I would consider to be highly inappropriate in the circumstances . No one said that you are not allowed an opinion , however yours does not provide any assistance to someone suffering from depression. " It's not a joke It was a serious suggestion This is a swinging site - if the problem was that serious this wouldn't be the forum to ask for help would it? | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon " Never say never in this world | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world "Never I have no debt Big savings Rich parents and family / friends | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
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And all that is why you have no compassion for those in need. Spoilt rich kid"Not spoilt actually - I fund my own life My parents made me stand on my own two feet and earn everything I have It's why I have a strong work ethic and can enjoy what I have earnt I don't agree with giving kids everything and not having them work I do have compassion - never said anything horrible to the lady | |||
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"Some great advise posted here, I would definitely go and seek help from the places that have been mentioned, But your comment, "with no friends whoring yourself out"
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"Some great advise posted here, I would definitely go and seek help from the places that have been mentioned, But your comment, "with no friends whoring yourself out"
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal Wtf??! "He's from Bracknell. What else would you expect ? | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. " Sounds like you have first hand experience Whoring doesn't always mean sexual or weakness Didn't see the abusive bit - but that could have been years ago | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. " FYI - nothing about abusive relationship | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. FYI - nothing about abusive relationship" She posted that she was in a violent marriage which she has left hence why she is in this situation sometimes it pays to read the thread | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. FYI - nothing about abusive relationship She posted that she was in a violent marriage which she has left hence why she is in this situation sometimes it pays to read the thread " Read her post - I just did Nothing in there Maybe later on in the forum but not in first post | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. FYI - nothing about abusive relationship She posted that she was in a violent marriage which she has left hence why she is in this situation sometimes it pays to read the thread Read her post - I just did Nothing in there Maybe later on in the forum but not in first post " Sometimes with threads like these it pays to read the whole thread as often key things are said later on in the thread. She is asking for help and while in your brain you maybe saying the right thing, on paper it isn't the right thing to say. | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
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18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
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This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. Sounds like you have first hand experience Whoring doesn't always mean sexual or weakness Didn't see the abusive bit - but that could have been years ago" I have lots of experiences. If you are suggesting that any of my experience is in me personally escorting or prostitution then you would be much mistaken and, again, your comment is ill-advised. Anyway, this thread isn't about you so I will not respond to further comments from you and allow this to get back to helping the OP and others in a similar situation. | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
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I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
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"Back to giving the OP attention! Hunny you are juggling lots of balls in the air right now. Take time out. Do something to clear your mind of all your troubles. It could be listening to music, watching a film, baking (yeah even at this time of night. You're probably tired but not getting enough sleep so distraction techniques might help. Over the weekend grab a pen and paper and write down what you need to do, rather than keeping a mental list. Include the little things as well as the big things cos depression affects cognition and memory. The list may look daunting but the idea is for the jobs to be on paper and not in your head. Do what you can and those that you have to leave for another day, don't fret over. As you cross items off, see them as acts of achievement. Have you a good relationship with your GP and have you had a recent re_iew since being signed off work?" Great pun for a sex site - juggling balls - | |||
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"This was a lovely thread showing genuine support and caring it is now getting silly. As I have said OP you can claim for a lot of help, yes it means form filling but I am happy to help you there. There are certain things to put down to ensure you get the help. Another idea as your having problems with forms is talking to the CAB about a DRO, it costs £70 bit wipes out your debts, not sure about rent arrears. CAB deal with this, you just give them gne debts x" Not good for long term credit rating | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags "If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape. | |||
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"This was a lovely thread showing genuine support and caring it is now getting silly. As I have said OP you can claim for a lot of help, yes it means form filling but I am happy to help you there. There are certain things to put down to ensure you get the help. Another idea as your having problems with forms is talking to the CAB about a DRO, it costs £70 bit wipes out your debts, not sure about rent arrears. CAB deal with this, you just give them gne debts x Not good for long term credit rating " If I'm correct it's 3 years | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape. "You should see some of the lunches I have Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus Expensive wine Yummy | |||
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"This was a lovely thread showing genuine support and caring it is now getting silly. As I have said OP you can claim for a lot of help, yes it means form filling but I am happy to help you there. There are certain things to put down to ensure you get the help. Another idea as your having problems with forms is talking to the CAB about a DRO, it costs £70 bit wipes out your debts, not sure about rent arrears. CAB deal with this, you just give them gne debts x" A what? DRO? What does that stand for? | |||
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"This was a lovely thread showing genuine support and caring it is now getting silly. As I have said OP you can claim for a lot of help, yes it means form filling but I am happy to help you there. There are certain things to put down to ensure you get the help. Another idea as your having problems with forms is talking to the CAB about a DRO, it costs £70 bit wipes out your debts, not sure about rent arrears. CAB deal with this, you just give them gne debts x Not good for long term credit rating If I'm correct it's 3 years " Have to tell lender you have one if you want to borrow over 500 pounds - not sure how long that lasts | |||
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"I've been thinking about this poor lady half the day and something thats just occured to me is - can they actually sack you if you are off sick? Or aren't you being sacked and I've misunderstood it?" You can be managed out There is a process but it happens | |||
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"I've been thinking about this poor lady half the day and something thats just occured to me is - can they actually sack you if you are off sick? Or aren't you being sacked and I've misunderstood it?" Not sure how it works now, it used to be a case of legally they only had to pay you for 28 weeks after that they could let you go. | |||
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"I've been thinking about this poor lady half the day and something thats just occured to me is - can they actually sack you if you are off sick? Or aren't you being sacked and I've misunderstood it? You can be managed out There is a process but it happens " and thats legal? I guess it must be | |||
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"I've been thinking about this poor lady half the day and something thats just occured to me is - can they actually sack you if you are off sick? Or aren't you being sacked and I've misunderstood it?" It is complicated. I can't really talk about it here. I did manage to contact my union and they are helping, but the upshot will be I don't work there anymore, but I won't technically be sacked. Essentially it equates to the same thing though. | |||
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"I've been thinking about this poor lady half the day and something thats just occured to me is - can they actually sack you if you are off sick? Or aren't you being sacked and I've misunderstood it?" Yes you can be sacked if you are off sick - for being off sick. There is a bit of protection under the Disability Act but if you've been off for a year it is reasonable for an employer to consider their business. The better action is to work with the person to help them back into work, supported and phased, but that isn't possible for every employer to even consider. | |||
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"This was a lovely thread showing genuine support and caring it is now getting silly. As I have said OP you can claim for a lot of help, yes it means form filling but I am happy to help you there. There are certain things to put down to ensure you get the help. Another idea as your having problems with forms is talking to the CAB about a DRO, it costs £70 bit wipes out your debts, not sure about rent arrears. CAB deal with this, you just give them gne debts x A DRO is a debt relieve order, it's a form of bankruptcy for those who owe under a certain amount. I believe it is 3 years before you will be able to apply for credit once it is actioned A what? DRO? What does that stand for?" | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy "Yeah I'd be happy if a guy gave me a wispa and a yazoo milkshake providing he was handsome had a fit body and a donkey dick. | |||
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"I've been thinking about this poor lady half the day and something thats just occured to me is - can they actually sack you if you are off sick? Or aren't you being sacked and I've misunderstood it? Not sure how it works now, it used to be a case of legally they only had to pay you for 28 weeks after that they could let you go. " I didn't know that - thanks | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy
Yeah I'd be happy if a guy gave me a wispa and a yazoo milkshake providing he was handsome had a fit body and a donkey dick.
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy
Yeah I'd be happy if a guy gave me a wispa and a yazoo milkshake providing he was handsome had a fit body and a donkey dick.
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"I know I am going to regret posting this, but I feel so lost and I have nobody to talk to. I'm about to lose my job after being off sick for a year with depression. I am up to my eyeballs in debt. I've only just got up today because I didn't want to face the post. Yesterday's said I'm nearly £300 in arrears on council tax. Today's said I'm £221 in arrears on the water bill. I spent all day yesterday at the council offices. Literally begging. I used to be a well respected, well paid member of a community. Married for 20 years, 3 great kids. Now I'm a single mum begging for benefits, with no friends. Whoring herself on a sex website for a bit of attention and fun. I have an amazing boyfriend - who will be very cross when he reads this, but he's not here. He's never here. All I want is a cuddle and someone to tell me they love me and its all going to be ok. But the reality is that it isn't. I hate my life. I hate myself. For the haters out there - don't even bother. I know what you're going to say." Hugs. Been there Trust me if will get better. | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy "am I missing the point here? on a thread about debt & worry you're posting about the Michelin star restaurants you went to & the money you spent..... | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. FYI - nothing about abusive relationship She posted that she was in a violent marriage which she has left hence why she is in this situation sometimes it pays to read the thread Read her post - I just did Nothing in there Maybe later on in the forum but not in first post " Due to your post the emphasis of the thread has been taken away from the OP I hope you're proud of yourself. For what it's worth not every thing in life is about money, and wealth can be measured in many different ways. Depression is horrible I used to think what have people got to be depressed about until it hit me. I'm by no means struggling. OP, I fully understand the not getting up and the difficulties in functioning. MIND were/are a massive help and can offer you support. I wish you well. | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy
am I missing the point here?
on a thread about debt & worry you're posting about the Michelin star restaurants you went to & the money you spent..... "It's money related and I worry I may miss some good ones | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. FYI - nothing about abusive relationship She posted that she was in a violent marriage which she has left hence why she is in this situation sometimes it pays to read the thread Read her post - I just did Nothing in there Maybe later on in the forum but not in first post Due to your post the emphasis of the thread has been taken away from the OP I hope you're proud of yourself. For what it's worth not every thing in life is about money, and wealth can be measured in many different ways. Depression is horrible I used to think what have people got to be depressed about until it hit me. I'm by no means struggling. OP, I fully understand the not getting up and the difficulties in functioning. MIND were/are a massive help and can offer you support. I wish you well. " Depression is sad But this isn't the forum for real issues This is a swinging site | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy
am I missing the point here?
on a thread about debt & worry you're posting about the Michelin star restaurants you went to & the money you spent.....
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. FYI - nothing about abusive relationship She posted that she was in a violent marriage which she has left hence why she is in this situation sometimes it pays to read the thread Read her post - I just did Nothing in there Maybe later on in the forum but not in first post Due to your post the emphasis of the thread has been taken away from the OP I hope you're proud of yourself. For what it's worth not every thing in life is about money, and wealth can be measured in many different ways. Depression is horrible I used to think what have people got to be depressed about until it hit me. I'm by no means struggling. OP, I fully understand the not getting up and the difficulties in functioning. MIND were/are a massive help and can offer you support. I wish you well. Depression is sad But this isn't the forum for real issues This is a swinging site " Have a shovel dear..... | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy
am I missing the point here?
on a thread about debt & worry you're posting about the Michelin star restaurants you went to & the money you spent.....
It's money related and I worry I may miss some good ones
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Would you sell your bum hole if you were broke? A. I'd never be broke B. It's an option - that's all I presented - never said she had to C. If I offered services I'd prob be big spoon Never say never in this world
Never
I have no debt
Big savings
Rich parents and family / friends
18 months ago we had a joint income of 75k a year. I drove a very nice car and owned a boat. But I was in a very abusive marriage and I couldn't take it anymore.
This could happen to anyone.
As for the reason I chose this forum...actually I don't know. I suppose it's because it was there and easily accessible.
Pride comes before a fall.
Your right
Last year I earnt £71k in one month - sept I think - I must admit it does go quickly - easy to go from riches to rags
If you earned 71 thousand pounds in one month how come you're a curvy man? Did you eat the money? If I earned 71 grand a month my body would be in über incredible shape.
You should see some of the lunches I have
Prob did 20 Michelin star meals last year
Big lumpy 4/5 courses or even tasting menus
Expensive wine
Yummy
am I missing the point here?
on a thread about debt & worry you're posting about the Michelin star restaurants you went to & the money you spent.....
It's money related and I worry I may miss some good ones
I think you have had too much champagne - not Cava. If not, you're very insensitive
Dry Jan for me - sorry"That makes what you've said worse. If it was alcohol fueled I'd understand | |||
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"happy to loan the money - 500 pounds wasn't it? I'd rather each of the forum people gave a tenner each than her take anything from you. Give you more reason to lord it over people, nah like fuck off. If you haven't lived hand to mouth and haven't at one point in your life had to rob Peter to pay Paul or have empathy for someone in that situation then you shouldn't really comment. " Only poor people can advise poor? Bit discriminative | |||
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"happy to loan the money - 500 pounds wasn't it? Really? Surely I should just have sex with you and send you an invoice.
Careful
You may get banned for offering services for money
Hope that made you smile"It did actually. But the way people are behind me is amazing x I think I posted this in the best possible place. Swinging site or not. You lot are amazing. Thank you x | |||
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"Become an escort - sexy body xx Good money and not illegal . All the other posts about this ladies problems were extremely helpfull and the Seawitch who used to work for the DWP gave an excellent summary of what to do. I admire the OP for having the courage to seek advice on the forum and the detailes advice from all other members . Your comment is totally inappropriate in the circumstances . Am I not allowed an opinion? There is no right answers so my point is valid as anyone's In fact mine has a quicker time to resolution than the others Since when did your _iews become more appropriate than mine? Did you read the OP's comment on "whoring" herself out on here for attention? Did you read the bit about coming from an abusive relationship? Do you think this is the comment of someone feeling strong enough to deal with the shit of selling herself? Yes, escorting can be empowering for some but you have to start from a position of confidence and strength and not from a position of vulnerability. Putting oneself in a position where you add to the stress of your life, dealing with potentially dangerous situations and where you might face abuse similar to that you have just left is not to be recommended when vulnerable. That's why your opinion was poorly thought out and should not have been posted. FYI - nothing about abusive relationship She posted that she was in a violent marriage which she has left hence why she is in this situation sometimes it pays to read the thread Read her post - I just did Nothing in there Maybe later on in the forum but not in first post Due to your post the emphasis of the thread has been taken away from the OP I hope you're proud of yourself. For what it's worth not every thing in life is about money, and wealth can be measured in many different ways. Depression is horrible I used to think what have people got to be depressed about until it hit me. I'm by no means struggling. OP, I fully understand the not getting up and the difficulties in functioning. MIND were/are a massive help and can offer you support. I wish you well. Depression is sad But this isn't the forum for real issues This is a swinging site Have a shovel dear..... "When he is already using a dumper truck. I wish he'd stfu! Sadly he isn't breaking forum rules. | |||
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"happy to loan the money - 500 pounds wasn't it? Really? Surely I should just have sex with you and send you an invoice.
Careful
You may get banned for offering services for money
Hope that made you smile
It did actually.
But the way people are behind me is amazing x I think I posted this in the best possible place. Swinging site or not. You lot are amazing. Thank you x"I played the court jester Someone to vilanise so that the OP could see the positive side | |||
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"You lot are way to easy to wind up OP - hope you get it sorted All the best And there is some good advice on here " Have you cum yet? | |||
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"You lot are way to easy to wind up OP - hope you get it sorted All the best And there is some good advice on here Have you cum yet? "That's just sick How is this sexual? | |||
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"You lot are way to easy to wind up OP - hope you get it sorted All the best And there is some good advice on here Have you cum yet?
That's just sick
How is this sexual?"I'm.laughing though! So that's good right! | |||
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"You lot are way to easy to wind up OP - hope you get it sorted All the best And there is some good advice on here Have you cum yet?
That's just sick
How is this sexual?"Reverse psychology doesn't work on me lovely....enjoy your evening | |||
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"You lot are way to easy to wind up OP - hope you get it sorted All the best And there is some good advice on here Have you cum yet?
That's just sick
How is this sexual?
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"happy to loan the money - 500 pounds wasn't it? Really? Surely I should just have sex with you and send you an invoice.
Careful
You may get banned for offering services for money
Hope that made you smile
It did actually.
But the way people are behind me is amazing x I think I posted this in the best possible place. Swinging site or not. You lot are amazing. Thank you x
I played the court jester
Someone to vilanise so that the OP could see the positive side
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"happy to loan the money - 500 pounds wasn't it? I'd rather each of the forum people gave a tenner each than her take anything from you. Give you more reason to lord it over people, nah like fuck off. If you haven't lived hand to mouth and haven't at one point in your life had to rob Peter to pay Paul or have empathy for someone in that situation then you shouldn't really comment. Only poor people can advise poor? Bit discriminative " You don't have to be poor to give advice but knowledge of dealing with someone in these circumstances, maybe personal experience or simply having empathy towards someone in this situation would help. Your comments are insensitive but you know that. So burp your little worm and lap up this attention you don't normally receive. | |||
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"happy to loan the money - 500 pounds wasn't it? Really? Surely I should just have sex with you and send you an invoice.
Careful
You may get banned for offering services for money
Hope that made you smile
It did actually.
But the way people are behind me is amazing x I think I posted this in the best possible place. Swinging site or not. You lot are amazing. Thank you x
I played the court jester
Someone to vilanise so that the OP could see the positive side
Btw I didnt realise champagne has reached Bracknell, thought you lot were still on the Lambrini.... "Prob right But I'm not from Bracknell or live there Just the closes biggest town | |||
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"happy to loan the money - 500 pounds wasn't it? Really? Surely I should just have sex with you and send you an invoice.
Careful
You may get banned for offering services for money
Hope that made you smile
It did actually.
But the way people are behind me is amazing x I think I posted this in the best possible place. Swinging site or not. You lot are amazing. Thank you x
I played the court jester
Someone to vilanise so that the OP could see the positive side
Btw I didnt realise champagne has reached Bracknell, thought you lot were still on the Lambrini....
Prob right
But I'm not from Bracknell or live there
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"I've been thinking about this poor lady half the day and something thats just occured to me is - can they actually sack you if you are off sick? Or aren't you being sacked and I've misunderstood it? Yes you can be sacked if you are off sick - for being off sick. There is a bit of protection under the Disability Act but if you've been off for a year it is reasonable for an employer to consider their business. The better action is to work with the person to help them back into work, supported and phased, but that isn't possible for every employer to even consider. " Having read the whole thread I feel I can give a positive contribution to this part. Under the disability act you're covered by it after 12 months of being diagnosed with whatever the problem is. I was off work from July to November and get 6 months full pay (12 months after April) One thing I was told is I'm not covered under the disability act until 12 months...kind of shit really. | |||
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