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The Age of Loneliness
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some are
In my job I go out to peoples homes all day, its amazing how many people simply have nobody and see noone
I went out to a lady's home yesterday I have been out 10 days previous and she hasn't seen a single person since the last time I went into her
It's really sad how little some people have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's a difference to being lonely and being alone. "
Agree, I love my own company I love it when I come home and everybody has gone out, probably because it does not happen often so I make the most when it does |
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"There's a difference to being lonely and being alone.
Agree, I love my own company I love it when I come home and everybody has gone out, probably because it does not happen often so I make the most when it does "
I hugely value time on my own because it's such a rarity. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"There's a difference to being lonely and being alone.
Agree, I love my own company I love it when I come home and everybody has gone out, probably because it does not happen often so I make the most when it does
I hugely value time on my own because it's such a rarity. "
On the other hand - I work part time 3 days a week and the rest of the time for myself. The conversations I have at work can quite often be the only conversations I have in any given week - the exception being when I have my daughter. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
The loneliest I ever felt was when I was in a relationship that wasn't right. To the rest of the world I was still my gregarious self but I couldn't share the fact that I was being abused and I wasn't really allowed to have friends.
I think loneliness is about your relationship with yourself as much as it is about your relationship and interaction with others.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
Does it alleviate the loneliness or reinforce it?
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I think it depends, if you interact a lot and view people as friends then maybe it helps alleviate. If on the other hand you struggle to interact and see everyone else having a 'good time' it may reinforce the loneliness felt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The loneliest I ever felt was when I was in a relationship that wasn't right. To the rest of the world I was still my gregarious self but I couldn't share the fact that I was being abused and I wasn't really allowed to have friends.
I think loneliness is about your relationship with yourself as much as it is about your relationship and interaction with others.
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Well said!  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"There is a programme on tonight about loneliness.
Are we more lonely, in the midst of this busyness and having more communication channels than ever before?
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Nope; I can spend a whole week without speaking with another person and not think twice about it
How do I know?
Years ago, I was in such a situation and it suited me very well |
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"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
You might be right"
It's a sweeping statement but I think there's something in it... Not everyone, for sure, but there's a lot of it about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness"
I'm not lonely , I'm sure Mrs P is not lonely.
We are on here to have sex with other people. |
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"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
You might be right
It's a sweeping statement but I think there's something in it... Not everyone, for sure, but there's a lot of it about "
I never felt so lonely as when I was married |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
I'm not lonely , I'm sure Mrs P is not lonely.
We are on here to have sex with other people. "
I think it mostly applies to the singles on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was lonely when my kids were little, my ex ended up making sure i was isolated.
Now i prefer my own company really, the more people i get to know the more i don't really like people in general...they can keep their 'drama' and bullshit frankly Although i like a few people, most i do not care whether i bother with them or not. |
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Although I live alone in a 1 bed flat, I hardly get the chance to be lonely as there's usually one of the other 11 residents in this block banging on ma door for one reason or another 
Give me solitude anyday  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
A lot of the older people on the programme are talking about feeling needed, not having friends because they had a partner and family and losing that is what is causing their loneliness. They have adult children and grandchildren but it's the loss of role.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
I'm not lonely , I'm sure Mrs P is not lonely.
We are on here to have sex with other people.
I think it mostly applies to the singles on here. "
Im not lonely.. I enjoy being alone... I just like kinky sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
I'm not lonely , I'm sure Mrs P is not lonely.
We are on here to have sex with other people.
I think it mostly applies to the singles on here. "
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
I'm not lonely , I'm sure Mrs P is not lonely.
We are on here to have sex with other people.
I think it mostly applies to the singles on here.
Im not lonely.. I enjoy being alone... I just like kinky sex "
I'm not sure I'm loneley either, I possibly feel like I don't belong to the modern world either. Disconnected, maybe.
I don't know many others who can easily go three days without speaking a single word. |
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"A lot of the older people on the programme are talking about feeling needed, not having friends because they had a partner and family and losing that is what is causing their loneliness. They have adult children and grandchildren but it's the loss of role.
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^ this.
People live longer and develop chronic illnesses. Families/society has become atomised.
We don't have the time or the wherewithall to travel across country to see granny anymore, as 50, 70 yrs ago you would likely live in the same place, or within a few miles of each other.
Being old isn't for pussies, as Bette Davis said. |
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I left home at 16 and have mostly lived on my tod. Love living alone and my own company but find myself feeling frequently lonely.
There are times I question my usage of Fabs. Is it a replacement for friends? I love the sex but sometimes, just a bit of company would be nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes
I think the single common denominator for people on these kind of site is lonliness
I'm not lonely , I'm sure Mrs P is not lonely.
We are on here to have sex with other people.
I think it mostly applies to the singles on here.
Im not lonely.. I enjoy being alone... I just like kinky sex
I'm not sure I'm loneley either, I possibly feel like I don't belong to the modern world either. Disconnected, maybe.
I don't know many others who can easily go three days without speaking a single word. "
I don't get that luxury any more.. But I used to go whole weekends just me my dogs an TV.. Bliss.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on my own for 4 years but I have 2 dogs so I,m never alome
Wish I could keep a dog here but not allowed pets  "
I have 7 animals,2 being dogs.. Better than any human company ..... In a min sexual way obviously! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been on my own for 4 years but I have 2 dogs so I,m never alome
Wish I could keep a dog here but not allowed pets
I have 7 animals,2 being dogs.. Better than any human company ..... In a min sexual way obviously! "
Non sexual ** |
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"Although I live alone in a 1 bed flat, I hardly get the chance to be lonely as there's usually one of the other 11 residents in this block banging on ma door for one reason or another
Give me solitude anyday "
Ace can I borrow some sugar  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well i went from a home filled with 6people and varies animal
to two people and a dog
to just me i got myself a cat not just for the company
but to have someone to look after |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
I confessed how lonely I was feeling to a family member (actually, my only family member!) last night and that programme came on five minutes later. I was in floods of tears.
I'm lucky in that I have a huge network of friends - I'm the person everyone says "you know everyone" to.
I've been struggling with anxiety for two years though (and also the deepest unrequited love I've ever felt). I've been single a long time and it rarely bothe_ed me. However, loneliness hit me like a runaway train as life suddenly became full of uncertainties and fear.
I can't believe how strong it feels. I can see two people hug or hold hands and well up. Ridiculous really, but I'm man enough to admit it. I just think I/we need the human touch in tough times.
I do think a strong seam of loneliness does run through this site. Obviously, far from everyone though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loneliness is a terrible state of being and one I've felt for the majority of my life. It had nothing to do with how many people were around me, but the fact that, being aspie, I found it difficult to connect with anyone on and trust them with myself completely. Since meeting Mr Who I haven't felt like that at all |
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Having been on my own now for 7 years and a grown up son who barely grunts at me, I am lonely. I have friends, they have their families and lives. Massive step admitting your lonely, even bigger step trying to fix it
Work in progress |
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By *heOwlMan
over a year ago
Altrincham |
"There is a programme on tonight about loneliness.
Are we more lonely, in the midst of this busyness and having more communication channels than ever before?
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Good question. As communication technology have advanced we have been able to communicate more often but also more remotely. For some people this could equate to being more lonely, due to the _eduction in physical proximity.
Personally though I am alone (very much by choice) I am certainly not lonely. A friend I knew at school and recently got back in touch with, described me (and the rest of our 'generation') as emotionally independant. So I don't tend to get lonely not matter how alone I may be. The down side is I can be a bugger to really get to know, or at least be frustrating as most people seem to prefer others to be a bit more dependant on them. |
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