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Learning to love me!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Past few days ive discovered a fair bit about myself and think it boils down ultimately ive never liked myself much
Paranoia/ Depression certainly dont help but think i am coming to terms with it.
A lot of my close friends are happily married and having babies and something its what ive always wanted to have a family of my own (i have a child but missing a partner) I get close probably too uickly then panic and push them away for some crazy reason. I love to love, if that makes any kind of sense but in order for me to accept love back i have to love ME and thats what i struggle with
This year i hope its going to be the year i embrace who i am, and what i look like..
Since ive admitted this to myself and accept i need to change ive embraced make up a bit more and putting on a 'face' even for the school run. Yeah im feeling pretty good. Lets hope it continues 3
This thread has no real purpose or question, just felt like its good to type it out.. makes it a bit more real and honest |
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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago
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"Past few days ive discovered a fair bit about myself and think it boils down ultimately ive never liked myself much
Paranoia/ Depression certainly dont help but think i am coming to terms with it.
A lot of my close friends are happily married and having babies and something its what ive always wanted to have a family of my own (i have a child but missing a partner) I get close probably too uickly then panic and push them away for some crazy reason. I love to love, if that makes any kind of sense but in order for me to accept love back i have to love ME and thats what i struggle with
This year i hope its going to be the year i embrace who i am, and what i look like..
Since ive admitted this to myself and accept i need to change ive embraced make up a bit more and putting on a 'face' even for the school run. Yeah im feeling pretty good. Lets hope it continues 3
This thread has no real purpose or question, just felt like its good to type it out.. makes it a bit more real and honest "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Past few days ive discovered a fair bit about myself and think it boils down ultimately ive never liked myself much
Paranoia/ Depression certainly dont help but think i am coming to terms with it.
A lot of my close friends are happily married and having babies and something its what ive always wanted to have a family of my own (i have a child but missing a partner) I get close probably too uickly then panic and push them away for some crazy reason. I love to love, if that makes any kind of sense but in order for me to accept love back i have to love ME and thats what i struggle with
This year i hope its going to be the year i embrace who i am, and what i look like..
Since ive admitted this to myself and accept i need to change ive embraced make up a bit more and putting on a 'face' even for the school run. Yeah im feeling pretty good. Lets hope it continues 3
This thread has no real purpose or question, just felt like its good to type it out.. makes it a bit more real and honest "
Good on you!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Past few days ive discovered a fair bit about myself and think it boils down ultimately ive never liked myself much
Paranoia/ Depression certainly dont help but think i am coming to terms with it.
A lot of my close friends are happily married and having babies and something its what ive always wanted to have a family of my own (i have a child but missing a partner) I get close probably too uickly then panic and push them away for some crazy reason. I love to love, if that makes any kind of sense but in order for me to accept love back i have to love ME and thats what i struggle with
This year i hope its going to be the year i embrace who i am, and what i look like..
Since ive admitted this to myself and accept i need to change ive embraced make up a bit more and putting on a 'face' even for the school run. Yeah im feeling pretty good. Lets hope it continues 3
This thread has no real purpose or question, just felt like its good to type it out.. makes it a bit more real and honest "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have changed a lot over the years and needed to grow up really quickly. You seem to have done a really good job with that and I wish you all the best "
Thank you View.. means a lot |
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"Past few days ive discovered a fair bit about myself and think it boils down ultimately ive never liked myself much
Paranoia/ Depression certainly dont help but think i am coming to terms with it.
A lot of my close friends are happily married and having babies and something its what ive always wanted to have a family of my own (i have a child but missing a partner) I get close probably too uickly then panic and push them away for some crazy reason. I love to love, if that makes any kind of sense but in order for me to accept love back i have to love ME and thats what i struggle with
This year i hope its going to be the year i embrace who i am, and what i look like..
Since ive admitted this to myself and accept i need to change ive embraced make up a bit more and putting on a 'face' even for the school run. Yeah im feeling pretty good. Lets hope it continues 3
This thread has no real purpose or question, just felt like its good to type it out.. makes it a bit more real and honest "
Good for you
“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
? C.G. Jung |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A nice positive outlook OP! I wish the best of health and happiness.
It took me a while to be comfortable in my own skin but I can promise that once you've cracked it there's pretty much nothing you can't achieve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well done you! Your on the right road to self acceptance.
Only when you accept yourself and learn to love yourself can you then trust someone else to do it.
Keep up the good work, it's not easy sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Over the years I've seen a lot of your ups and downs as I'm sure you have mine and many others. Good to see you so positive and hope it continues. Wishing you all the very best. Hugs xxx"
was just a reflective moment and i was pondering over previous relationships ive had and before i thought it was them in the wrong, but i realise that it was me who was never opening up and giving myself. I locked my true self away. I pushed them away.. it was all ME
Still life is full of ups and downs and im almost 28 now (WHERE THE HELL HAS TIME GONE?!) Kinda makes you come to terms its certainly too short, so best put on my big girl knickers, admit my flaws, improve on the things i can, embrace what i have, get over the things i cant have and just LOVE LIFE, LOVE ME |
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Took me a long time to be happy and comfortable with myself. Relationships with the wrong people never helped. Over the last year or so, I have become the person I always should have been..fab has helped-it has made me realise that people can actually like me with no strings or conditions.
Glad you are on your version of that journey |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Took me a long time to be happy and comfortable with myself. Relationships with the wrong people never helped. Over the last year or so, I have become the person I always should have been..fab has helped-it has made me realise that people can actually like me with no strings or conditions.
Glad you are on your version of that journey "
See i was battling with people liking me.
Due to my size i presumed men who showed interest were genuinely mentally unstable or after me purely for fetish purposes.
Ive watched documentaries of women my size and they are fed up by feeders and theres a market for it out there. I resented the men who were part of that.
Ive my own health issues and struggles and i will be dammed if im going to be like that.. so this year i am finally getting my shit together, and doing something about it x |
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"Over the years I've seen a lot of your ups and downs as I'm sure you have mine and many others. Good to see you so positive and hope it continues. Wishing you all the very best. Hugs xxx
was just a reflective moment and i was pondering over previous relationships ive had and before i thought it was them in the wrong, but i realise that it was me who was never opening up and giving myself. I locked my true self away. I pushed them away.. it was all ME
Still life is full of ups and downs and im almost 28 now (WHERE THE HELL HAS TIME GONE?!) Kinda makes you come to terms its certainly too short, so best put on my big girl knickers, admit my flaws, improve on the things i can, embrace what i have, get over the things i cant have and just LOVE LIFE, LOVE ME "
Yep I hear ya. It's a while back now but I was there to. Sometimes it's hard to see your own faults and even harder facing up to them but sounds like your taking the 1st baby steps in the right direction. Hey I'll swop your 28 for my 47  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Took me a long time to be happy and comfortable with myself. Relationships with the wrong people never helped. Over the last year or so, I have become the person I always should have been..fab has helped-it has made me realise that people can actually like me with no strings or conditions.
Glad you are on your version of that journey
See i was battling with people liking me.
Due to my size i presumed men who showed interest were genuinely mentally unstable or after me purely for fetish purposes.
Ive watched documentaries of women my size and they are fed up by feeders and theres a market for it out there. I resented the men who were part of that.
Ive my own health issues and struggles and i will be dammed if im going to be like that.. so this year i am finally getting my shit together, and doing something about it x "
Good good.
I just had exes who put me down and made me feel worthless while rinsing me of everything...made me quite wary of people in general. Took me a long time to realise the issues were theirs and not mine...
Pretty sure if you ask on here you will find all kinds of support. There are a lot of people with a lot of knowledge in a lot of areas..dont be shy...just ask |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Took me a long time to be happy and comfortable with myself. Relationships with the wrong people never helped. Over the last year or so, I have become the person I always should have been..fab has helped-it has made me realise that people can actually like me with no strings or conditions.
Glad you are on your version of that journey
See i was battling with people liking me.
Due to my size i presumed men who showed interest were genuinely mentally unstable or after me purely for fetish purposes.
Ive watched documentaries of women my size and they are fed up by feeders and theres a market for it out there. I resented the men who were part of that.
Ive my own health issues and struggles and i will be dammed if im going to be like that.. so this year i am finally getting my shit together, and doing something about it x
Good good.
I just had exes who put me down and made me feel worthless while rinsing me of everything...made me quite wary of people in general. Took me a long time to realise the issues were theirs and not mine...
Pretty sure if you ask on here you will find all kinds of support. There are a lot of people with a lot of knowledge in a lot of areas..dont be shy...just ask "
lol ive been on here for around 5 years now i know how it all works xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Past few days ive discovered a fair bit about myself and think it boils down ultimately ive never liked myself much
Paranoia/ Depression certainly dont help but think i am coming to terms with it.
A lot of my close friends are happily married and having babies and something its what ive always wanted to have a family of my own (i have a child but missing a partner) I get close probably too uickly then panic and push them away for some crazy reason. I love to love, if that makes any kind of sense but in order for me to accept love back i have to love ME and thats what i struggle with
This year i hope its going to be the year i embrace who i am, and what i look like..
Since ive admitted this to myself and accept i need to change ive embraced make up a bit more and putting on a 'face' even for the school run. Yeah im feeling pretty good. Lets hope it continues 3
This thread has no real purpose or question, just felt like its good to type it out.. makes it a bit more real and honest "
this is something I am still trying to do love myself. Maybe one day |
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"Past few days ive discovered a fair bit about myself and think it boils down ultimately ive never liked myself much
Paranoia/ Depression certainly dont help but think i am coming to terms with it.
A lot of my close friends are happily married and having babies and something its what ive always wanted to have a family of my own (i have a child but missing a partner) I get close probably too uickly then panic and push them away for some crazy reason. I love to love, if that makes any kind of sense but in order for me to accept love back i have to love ME and thats what i struggle with
This year i hope its going to be the year i embrace who i am, and what i look like..
Since ive admitted this to myself and accept i need to change ive embraced make up a bit more and putting on a 'face' even for the school run. Yeah im feeling pretty good. Lets hope it continues 3
This thread has no real purpose or question, just felt like its good to type it out.. makes it a bit more real and honest "
I really feel for you and I so hope this year will see you moving towards your goals.
I found constantly repeating the affirmation "I love myself, I approve of myself, I am lovable" very helpful. It comes from the book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L Hay which I found very helpful. You can find copies on ebay.
I wish you all the best. |
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