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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx"
If she does not want to, then she does not want to. So no, no tips. |
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"We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx
If she does not want to, then she does not want to. So no, no tips."
this..
respect her decision at this time, pretty sure if she changes her mind that you will be the first to know..
treading a tricky path relationship wise if you keep raising the issue..
good luck |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx"
She should be your best friend, soul mate and confident. Perhaps your need to ask this question on here may be linked to her change of attitude? Purely based on your post, my suspicion would be that she does not feel equally excited in the lifestyle and possibly feels "pushed." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you respect and love your wife then you shouldn't (in my opinion) be asking strangers for tips on how to make her change her mind.. . You would maybe have a discussion with her and respect her wishes.. |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"She has said never say never but I was loving it! But then what man wouldn't "
And that might just be your problem. You were doing this to make yourself happy. Perhaps it should have been more about her? |
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"We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx"
If she doesnt want to then surely you should respect that instead of trying to talk her round |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with the general view. Take a break, talk to her and see if she starts to miss it. You could always offer to do a MMF session so it is all about her ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She has said never say never but I was loving it! But then what man wouldn't "
Have a chat, adult to adult, no blame no consequences. Find out the reasons.
Can you think why when you look back - maybe you were having such a grand time you didn't notice she wasn't having such a good time? Is there anything that, as a couple, you could do different?
Maybe take a break. Respect her wishes and don't force her down a path she doesn't want to go in (not suggesting that you would, of course!)
Good luck fella!  |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx"
I can understand this myself. Sometimes go through periods of losing interest. Hubby respects this, as I'm sure you do with your partner. If she feels she wants to get back to taking part, she will, but it has to be her decision, when she is ready. We continued to go to parties and I still enjoyed socializing with friends and I was happy for hubby to play if he wanted to. Be patient and let her find her own way back, if she wants to and good luck!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx"
If she doesnt want to do it, that should be the end of it. If you really love her, you shouldnt be asking this question.
It comes across this was always more about you than her??? |
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My hubby and I have always agreed it takes 2 yes's for anything to go ahead, but only one no to stop it . I'm sure your wife and your relationship are priority so if it means no swinging then small price to pay. Respect her and her wishes because if you try and coax and cajole the more it will back fire . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I love my wife to pieces and would never continue without her!! When we started we both said we will stop if either wants to stop! Thanks guys and happy swinging x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love my wife to pieces and would never continue without her!! When we started we both said we will stop if either wants to stop! Thanks guys and happy swinging x"
She's said she wants to stop. So why are you trying to persuade her to go against her wishes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love my wife to pieces and would never continue without her!! When we started we both said we will stop if either wants to stop! Thanks guys and happy swinging x"
What were her reasons for not wanting to continue? |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"I love my wife to pieces and would never continue without her!! When we started we both said we will stop if either wants to stop! Thanks guys and happy swinging x"
Absolutely this! Where is the fun if you can't both enjoy it together  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest you hide your profile,she may have a change of heart in the future,that way you don't lose any verifications,but until then you are now a single guy under the guise of a couples profile. |
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If I said to my husband that I didn't want to do this any more but he kept trying to talk me into carrying on then we would have words. Not nice polite words either.
She said no. Respect her decision and give up. Who knows, in 6 months time she may want to try again or this was your brief foray in to the wonderful world of swinging.
Take a break and leave her alone, being nagged makes me dig my heels in. But then I am a stubborn bitch  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She has said never say never but I was loving it! But then what man wouldn't "
That might be the problem,maybe she was doing it hopin you wwould satisfy your urge but in fact your urge to pplay is getting stronger..if you push your on a slippery slope
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She has said never say never but I was loving it! But then what man wouldn't "
Maybe you was loving it a bit too much?
Hence why she wants to stop
Our agreement was when we started that if either of us wants to stop then both of us do.
Swinging is a very small part of our relationship and when we are old and wrinkly it's memories of family Christmas's and long walks together I will cherish.
Not She-ra sucking some other blokes cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We started swing about 4/5 months ago & met some great couples and most of them more than once! But she has now decided she doesn't want to anymore! Any tips on how to get her back on the saddle? Xx"
This is the only thread I can think of where the responses are all pretty much in agreement ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She has said never say never but I was loving it! But then what man wouldn't
Maybe you was loving it a bit too much?
Hence why she wants to stop
Our agreement was when we started that if either of us wants to stop then both of us do.
Swinging is a very small part of our relationship and when we are old and wrinkly it's memories of family Christmas's and long walks together I will cherish.
Not She-ra sucking some other blokes cock. "
Exactly what he said ! |
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