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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm interested to hear other people's experience on this issue. I just don't understand why there are so many who do not show up for an arranged meet without a reason, given the time and effort it takes especial for single guys to arrange a meet. We're being told to put more effort in to get a meet. We hear mostly couples and women talk about it...but I'm guessing the reasons for AWOLl may be different.
My question is primarily levelled at single men as I've had it happen a couple of time....last one just this morning we have chatted about a week and had some good banter and arranged to meet this morning. Confirmed earlier this morning and had a No Show and still no replies to messages since. I hear it happening more freq here in NI. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd never arrange to meet unless I was 100% sure I could make it, if I had to cancel, I would let them know in plenty of time, not when they're sat expecting me to turn up. Some people get a kick out of the chase and nothing more, choose carefully, although I've been left standing in the past by couple who have been verified so there's no real right way to go about it, people change their minds, move on and don't stress yaself trying to get an answer on why they didn't show. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm interested to hear other people's experience on this issue. I just don't understand why there are so many who do not show up for an arranged meet without a reason, given the time and effort it takes especial for single guys to arrange a meet. We're being told to put more effort in to get a meet. We hear mostly couples and women talk about it...but I'm guessing the reasons for AWOLl may be different.
My question is primarily levelled at single men as I've had it happen a couple of time....last one just this morning we have chatted about a week and had some good banter and arranged to meet this morning. Confirmed earlier this morning and had a No Show and still no replies to messages since. I hear it happening more freq here in NI. "
Seems a common complaint but we have had few no shows, possibly luck, and possibly because we generally take common sense precautions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've never had a no show. Don't know if that's down to luck or that I have a very low tolerance of anything that doesn't seem quite right. That's my experience of meeting both as a single and as a couple.
Obviously no experience of meeting as a single guy... perhaps that's different. |
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It hasn't happened to us...yet, we have usually anticipated problems or picked up on clues such as no answer to messages etc but in your case all seemed ok. I wonder if the long Christmas holiday encourages dreamers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did you talk on phone? Did you swop mobile numbers?
If this is becoming an issue for you then your vetting process needs reviewed .
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It wasn't about finding a solution as there isn't any single solution. It was about finding out how common it is becoming.
To answer your question. ...yes i always exchange numbers if i can....for one its much easier to chat and have a bit of a conversation both verbally or by whatsapp. Messaging on here is a futile exercise for many reasonds other than to just get initial contact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on here 2 years and never had a no show, but have had people not communicate on day of meet so I don't bother going, or they leave the site.
I rarely do meets now due to time, so find clubs a lot more easier, that way I don't need to arrange anything. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Did you talk on phone? Did you swop mobile numbers?
If this is becoming an issue for you then your vetting process needs reviewed .
It wasn't about finding a solution as there isn't any single solution. It was about finding out how common it is becoming.
To answer your question. ...yes i always exchange numbers if i can....for one its much easier to chat and have a bit of a conversation both verbally or by whatsapp. Messaging on here is a futile exercise for many reasonds other than to just get initial contact."
We sympathize with you. We had this some years ago, par for the course, unfortunately. We now mainly meet at parties and clubs whilst we are holiday. There are no guarantees with arranging meets, but it doesn't take much for a quick text message, sometimes this isn't always possible, I know, but hopefully you will get an explanation at some point, or, maybe not! Good luck next time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm interested to hear other people's experience on this issue. I just don't understand why there are so many who do not show up for an arranged meet without a reason, given the time and effort it takes especial for single guys to arrange a meet. We're being told to put more effort in to get a meet. We hear mostly couples and women talk about it...but I'm guessing the reasons for AWOLl may be different.
My question is primarily levelled at single men as I've had it happen a couple of time....last one just this morning we have chatted about a week and had some good banter and arranged to meet this morning. Confirmed earlier this morning and had a No Show and still no replies to messages since. I hear it happening more freq here in NI. "
Never had one tbh.
Also what effort do you put in for a meet as a single guy?
Wash, like norm
Put on the same clothes i was gonna wear that day anyway (unless theres been a special request)
Err i suppose the main difference would be id wear cologne
But theres really no more effort getting ready for a meet than just a normal day |
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"I've never had a no show. Don't know if that's down to luck or that I have a very low tolerance of anything that doesn't seem quite right. That's my experience of meeting both as a single and as a couple.
Obviously no experience of meeting as a single guy... perhaps that's different. "
exactly the same here if I have an inclining it can be the tiniest of things. Except for an emergency I can't see why someone couldn't send a simple text just to say its cancelled
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By (user no longer on site)
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They don't text because they are ignorant people who don't give a rats arse wether you waste your time or money and they don't do it to just one person they constantly do it  |
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If I was not able to make it to an arranged meet, I would send a message apologising, with some explanation.
I'd understand that the person I'd let down might not wish to meet me after that, but it's a small world and we don't really hide behind an avatar.
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"Had this young lady do that to me went to meet her 3 times I should have guessed after d first time that she was just a messer "
3 times! Wow!
I take it from what you posted earlier that you had spoken on the phone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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So that's just 5 posts that have experienced it...All the others were giving their advice which clearly was stated in the opening question that it wasn't what it was about. I'm sure it's happening daily as a few friends of mine have shared their frustrations on this matter. |
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Evan as a couple looking for single guys we have no shows often what we do we don,t chase say were we are going to be and if they don,t show we have not wasted our time. These site,s have spoilt it when it was just contact magazines pen to paper no waster,s then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm interested to hear other people's experience on this issue. I just don't understand why there are so many who do not show up for an arranged meet without a reason, given the time and effort it takes especial for single guys to arrange a meet. We're being told to put more effort in to get a meet. We hear mostly couples and women talk about it...but I'm guessing the reasons for AWOLl may be different.
My question is primarily levelled at single men as I've had it happen a couple of time....last one just this morning we have chatted about a week and had some good banter and arranged to meet this morning. Confirmed earlier this morning and had a No Show and still no replies to messages since. I hear it happening more freq here in NI. "
Was it a man, woman or couple who you had the no show with today? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had it happen, like most guys on here.
Only once though, and was a 5 min walk from my flat - so apart from being left hanging about, no huge expense or anything.
Honest opinion ? Women would rather ignore you, even when you've already made plans - than tell you the truth.
Why are they so mentally weak? No idea - but that's the way it is.
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"I've had it happen, like most guys on here.
Only once though, and was a 5 min walk from my flat - so apart from being left hanging about, no huge expense or anything.
Honest opinion ? Women would rather ignore you, even when you've already made plans - than tell you the truth.
Why are they so mentally weak? No idea - but that's the way it is.
Here , there , everywhere "
Errr rather a sweeping statement !!I can assure you this woman has no issue resheduling a meet or canceling if I had to. I'm sure plenty others are the same .
As for mentally weak because they won't contact to say they ain't turning up . Well maybe that Profiles fake for starters lol.Even if they are genuine yes it's very rude behavior but hardly weak minded .
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm interested to hear other people's experience on this issue. I just don't understand why there are so many who do not show up for an arranged meet without a reason, given the time and effort it takes especial for single guys to arrange a meet. We're being told to put more effort in to get a meet. We hear mostly couples and women talk about it...but I'm guessing the reasons for AWOLl may be different.
My question is primarily levelled at single men as I've had it happen a couple of time....last one just this morning we have chatted about a week and had some good banter and arranged to meet this morning. Confirmed earlier this morning and had a No Show and still no replies to messages since. I hear it happening more freq here in NI.
Was it a man, woman or couple who you had the no show with today?"
Seeing as I clearly state no couples or men in my profile...suppose it could have been a TV....but they have been all women...I say all as it's happened a few times. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've had it happen, like most guys on here.
Only once though, and was a 5 min walk from my flat - so apart from being left hanging about, no huge expense or anything.
Honest opinion ? Women would rather ignore you, even when you've already made plans - than tell you the truth.
Why are they so mentally weak? No idea - but that's the way it is.
Here , there , everywhere
Errr rather a sweeping statement !!I can assure you this woman has no issue resheduling a meet or canceling if I had to. I'm sure plenty others are the same .
As for mentally weak because they won't contact to say they ain't turning up . Well maybe that Profiles fake for starters lol.Even if they are genuine yes it's very rude behavior but hardly weak minded .
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Unfortunately I think what has happened to put a big negative towards women is that in forums so many acknowledge the fact that they often can mass delete messages. There are alot of messages by genuine guess who have read profiles and tried to message carefully which have just got deleted. If this happens as frequently as is indicated then it leads to an often negative generalisation towards women. I personally think alot more filters would help this and many other misunderstandings and also reduce the clogging up of those particular inboxes. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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I've never had a no-show, ever.
I've had people cancel the day before, but that's cool, I just let them know that they know where I am if they want to rearrange.
Maybe try and get to know the people you are going to meet a bit? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Evan as a couple looking for single guys we have no shows often what we do we don,t chase say were we are going to be and if they don,t show we have not wasted our time. These site,s have spoilt it when it was just contact magazines pen to paper no waster,s then "
I tend to agree with you on this one..I used to get meets regularly both as a couple and single with no hassle using contact mags..the bloody Polaroid camera used to get some stick though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So that's just 5 posts that have experienced it...All the others were giving their advice which clearly was stated in the opening question that it wasn't what it was about. I'm sure it's happening daily as a few friends of mine have shared their frustrations on this matter."
It might have been clear in your head but it wasn't at all clearly stated in your post. |
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"I've had it happen, like most guys on here.
Only once though, and was a 5 min walk from my flat - so apart from being left hanging about, no huge expense or anything.
Honest opinion ? Women would rather ignore you, even when you've already made plans - than tell you the truth.
Why are they so mentally weak? No idea - but that's the way it is.
Here , there , everywhere
Errr rather a sweeping statement !!I can assure you this woman has no issue resheduling a meet or canceling if I had to. I'm sure plenty others are the same .
As for mentally weak because they won't contact to say they ain't turning up . Well maybe that Profiles fake for starters lol.Even if they are genuine yes it's very rude behavior but hardly weak minded .
Unfortunately I think what has happened to put a big negative towards women is that in forums so many acknowledge the fact that they often can mass delete messages. There are alot of messages by genuine guess who have read profiles and tried to message carefully which have just got deleted. If this happens as frequently as is indicated then it leads to an often negative generalisation towards women. I personally think alot more filters would help this and many other misunderstandings and also reduce the clogging up of those particular inboxes."
Ive had no shows with both women and men, it does happen not often but thats life im afraid. I have a meet this friday but with a long term close friend whos not on here so i know i can trust her. |
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We are generally spared this as we meet at clubs so if someone does not turn up its not a massive loss.
If no one turned up we'd still have fun together using mirrors and Jacuzzis etc that we don't have at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Evan as a couple looking for single guys we have no shows often what we do we don,t chase say were we are going to be and if they don,t show we have not wasted our time. These site,s have spoilt it when it was just contact magazines pen to paper no waster,s then
I tend to agree with you on this one..I used to get meets regularly both as a couple and single with no hassle using contact mags..the bloody Polaroid camera used to get some stick though."
Good old days.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So that's just 5 posts that have experienced it...All the others were giving their advice which clearly was stated in the opening question that it wasn't what it was about. I'm sure it's happening daily as a few friends of mine have shared their frustrations on this matter.
It might have been clear in your head but it wasn't at all clearly stated in your post."
Thought the use of the word 'experience' rather than thought may have been clear but guess not. |
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