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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am just wondering if you can be too polite and back off when you shouldn’t. I am not on about being rude or not pressurising people. I am on about mailing more than once if deleted and being a little cheeky and pushing a little harder for a meet. I know some men get more meets than others and I am wondering if they are less likely to be put off? |
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You just have to get the balance right. I like cheeky. However, I'm instantly put off if someone writes me a long (fairly boring) PM... usually the type that copy all my questions and answer them without any humour like they're filling in a job application and then when I've read it, 20 minutes later they PM again and say that they expected a response since they put in some effort.
No... putting in some effort would require a bit of banter for me. I like cheeky buggers who know how to take the piss. People who are serious all the time bore the pants off me, just not in a positive way! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I someone sends me a reply and i delete it without replying it simply means im not interested, if they mailed me again the chances are they will just get another message deleted lol
if i say no to someone and they try and push it i just see them as pushy guys who have no respect for what i say there for i wouldnt meet
if im interested in someone i make it clear |
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"You just have to get the balance right. I like cheeky. However, I'm instantly put off if someone writes me a long (fairly boring) PM... usually the type that copy all my questions and answer them without any humour like they're filling in a job application and then when I've read it, 20 minutes later they PM again and say that they expected a response since they put in some effort.
No... putting in some effort would require a bit of banter for me. I like cheeky buggers who know how to take the piss. People who are serious all the time bore the pants off me, just not in a positive way!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't push,if someone has'nt replied its because they don't want to
I don't see it as cheeky I see it as pushy and a waste of time as I still won't reply  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's one thing to email if we've been chatted and I've not replied for a couple of days - sometimes messages can get lost in your inbox, it only shows so many.
But, I don't like it when people email and ask if I'm interested when I've not replied yet or deleted. And I hate it when I say no thanks, good luck and they try to argue with me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I someone sends me a reply and i delete it without replying it simply means im not interested, if they mailed me again the chances are they will just get another message deleted lol
if i say no to someone and they try and push it i just see them as pushy guys who have no respect for what i say there for i wouldnt meet
if im interested in someone i make it clear"
Quite agree! Plus if they wrote again after I deleted I'd block as well, pushy, arrogant blokes who can't get over I'm not interested not for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a swingers site, not some kind of 'chase me, chase me' or 'playing hard to get' game. Most couples/ladies are not coy on here. If they are interested, they will let you know. If someone says no or deletes your message, don't "be a little cheeky and push a little harder for a meet" - accept it as a refusal, and move on. |
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"You just have to get the balance right. I like cheeky. However, I'm instantly put off if someone writes me a long (fairly boring) PM... usually the type that copy all my questions and answer them without any humour like they're filling in a job application and then when I've read it, 20 minutes later they PM again and say that they expected a response since they put in some effort.
No... putting in some effort would require a bit of banter for me. I like cheeky buggers who know how to take the piss. People who are serious all the time bore the pants off me, just not in a positive way!
mmmmmmmmm opps x"
It's cool when it's done with a bit of humour!  |
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"You just have to get the balance right. I like cheeky. However, I'm instantly put off if someone writes me a long (fairly boring) PM... usually the type that copy all my questions and answer them without any humour like they're filling in a job application and then when I've read it, 20 minutes later they PM again and say that they expected a response since they put in some effort.
No... putting in some effort would require a bit of banter for me. I like cheeky buggers who know how to take the piss. People who are serious all the time bore the pants off me, just not in a positive way!
mmmmmmmmm opps x
It's cool when it's done with a bit of humour! "
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