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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
My thoughts.....
If the lady has 100s of messages she needs to alter her filters to get less junk Mail.
If she advertises for a meet, she might be waiting for one of the chaps she has already met to contact her. Repeat meets are usually better , as often you know the person's likes and dislikes And Can relax more.
Hope that helps ?
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"My thoughts.....
If the lady has 100s of messages she needs to alter her filters to get less junk Mail.
If she advertises for a meet, she might be waiting for one of the chaps she has already met to contact her. Repeat meets are usually better , as often you know the person's likes and dislikes And Can relax more.
Hope that helps ?
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Understand the filters but why not just mail someone you want to meet or give em a ring? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hardly ever advertise for meets, you're right we don't need to. I do message previous meets to see if they're up for meeting first, if that's not possible then i take off male filters so other men within my age ranges can message me and i'll choose one or two of them if i fancy any of them.
If i'm feeling particularly impatient i'll put a meet up and see who replies to that.
Don't forget that just because someone gets 100s of messages it doesn't mean they're getting what they want via those same messages. Half the guys don't send a pic, plenty are just dire at chatting up women, many are just unattractive to the recipient. |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"Maybe they're looking for a certain type of person to meet but the only people responding are unsuitable people.
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Very good point i wish i could go through 250 messages and try to find someone unsuitable how unlucky is that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The funny thing is most don't know the reason they are so popular, it is cos the site is saturated with men lol.
The solution is for you to mail other men"
Yes, that is what women need to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe they're looking for a certain type of person to meet but the only people responding are unsuitable people.
Very good point i wish i could go through 250 messages and try to find someone unsuitable how unlucky is that?"
Sounds like way too much admin to me.
How people choose to run their time on here, or how full their box is, really doesn't concern me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it best to mind my own business,and leave others to get on with theirs as they see fit,whether rightly or wrongly.
You just chastised me, thought you minded your own business"
I'm Not perfect  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The funny thing is most don't know the reason they are so popular, it is cos the site is saturated with men lol."
It has been raining men a lot recently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The funny thing is most don't know the reason they are so popular, it is cos the site is saturated with men lol.
It has been raining men a lot recently."
Yes, good song lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The funny thing is most don't know the reason they are so popular, it is cos the site is saturated with men lol.
It has been raining men a lot recently."
Hallelujah! 
Down the gutters they go....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some women are popular for no reason ,some women are popular because they are active within fab in the forums and chatrooms ,some women are popular because they post sexy pics of themselves and advertise ,some women are just popular because they are a woman ,some women are very negative and yet still popular theirs a theme here oh yes the fact they are a woman and in short supply ,so it doesn't really matter in short what they look like or how they react to you or if you like them or dislike them ,they just block and move on ,women rule live with it ,happy Xmas  |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"Some women are popular for no reason ,some women are popular because they are active within fab in the forums and chatrooms ,some women are popular because they post sexy pics of themselves and advertise ,some women are just popular because they are a woman ,some women are very negative and yet still popular theirs a theme here oh yes the fact they are a woman and in short supply ,so it doesn't really matter in short what they look like or how they react to you or if you like them or dislike them ,they just block and move on ,women rule live with it ,happy Xmas "
Ha ha where has such wisdom been all my life??????? |
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Needs change and can be very specific - none of the 'applicants' may be appropriate or available at the right times.
I fancied cuddles so posted a meet - the responses were largely devoid of cuddle activity.
It's fine to be as selective as you want, whether you have none or tons of choice. |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"Needs change and can be very specific - none of the 'applicants' may be appropriate or available at the right times.
I fancied cuddles so posted a meet - the responses were largely devoid of cuddle activity.
It's fine to be as selective as you want, whether you have none or tons of choice. "
and you tell the 250 that message you this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
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They get of on the attention rather than the meets |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?...
Maybe... Message and ask them..
2 do they need to advertise
I'm always surprised why folk think volume of messages makes it easy.. if none are what you seek it's a hindrance.
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages.
You only Need 1 message if they're what you seek.
4 well folks your thoughts
Their profile their choices.. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
I find there are some bitter people who like to question how other people run their own profiles.
If they put as much effort into their own experience on here they might just improve their own luck |
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"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
They get of on the attention rather than the meets "
I've said it before but you really don't get women do you  |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"I find there are some bitter people who like to question how other people run their own profiles.
If they put as much effort into their own experience on here they might just improve their own luck "
The thread is about posting for meets not content and yes i am bitter, twisted and very dim so i probably don't have the intelligence to create a half decent profile, sorry for posting |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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I'm glad people put such crap up on their profile status tbh. It's better to realise someone aint for you sooner rather than later.
Profile words describing one thing but thankfully profile status updates contradict it and spell out something else 
Whether it's giving signs of attention needy, self obsession or anger issues away it's good to be aware.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I find there are some bitter people who like to question how other people run their own profiles.
If they put as much effort into their own experience on here they might just improve their own luck
The thread is about posting for meets not content and yes i am bitter, twisted and very dim so i probably don't have the intelligence to create a half decent profile, sorry for posting"
I just never understand why men think the volume of messages is a success measure, trust me it isn't....I am one who has many unopened mail in my inbox because I read their profile first.
If their profile does not intrigue me at all, then I know their message wont.
Or the one's with a one line profile and a cock shot...if they think their cock is so special and that is all they need to attract a woman then they will be left bitterly disappointed in most cases. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want lots of messages just take pics of yourself in a frock.
Works for me. 
I would get hate mail if I did that "
You'd be surprised, perhaps, how many women and couples message too.
Go on. You know you wanna  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
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200 shit messages from ugly people you dont want to shag isnt really useful is it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you want lots of messages just take pics of yourself in a frock.
Works for me.
I look 10x more manly in drag"
Then it really might just work for you too then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give me that 1 genuine message that is from a guy I can have a mutual connection and fun with rather than the 250 from the guys messaging me just because I'm female! Volume of messages is not all its cracked up to be.
And as Shag preaches it's only because the site is saturated with men that women even get such messages.  Some confidence booster huh? |
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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago
Near the Wall |
"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
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Exactly mate. I block profiles just for putting that up. If you get tons of messages why the need to tell it to the world? |
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"Needs change and can be very specific - none of the 'applicants' may be appropriate or available at the right times.
I fancied cuddles so posted a meet - the responses were largely devoid of cuddle activity.
It's fine to be as selective as you want, whether you have none or tons of choice. and you tell the 250 that message you this?"
I'm generally known for my attention to detail in my communication. I invest in fab and find this does influence my results positively. There will always be outliers, whatever we do to improve and influence our outcomes. For example, the meet I posted for a cuddle time was explicit - I was the anomaly that day: respondents wanted to fuck.
Some want short, and others longer profiles. My encouragement is to firstly understand your own needs and then continuously refine your approach, so that you become better at it.
We are learning organisms, and using this inherent bias leads to easy orgasms.
It's worth standing back and taking a good long hard look at what you're doing. Is this really the best you can do? |
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ah if they wish to post let them post away if it makes them happy then mehhh,I have replied to meet ads I don't think I have had one reply,I may be wrong but I think the meet ads are just a way for some people to try and remain current on site. |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"Needs change and can be very specific - none of the 'applicants' may be appropriate or available at the right times.
I fancied cuddles so posted a meet - the responses were largely devoid of cuddle activity.
It's fine to be as selective as you want, whether you have none or tons of choice. and you tell the 250 that message you this?
I'm generally known for my attention to detail in my communication. I invest in fab and find this does influence my results positively. There will always be outliers, whatever we do to improve and influence our outcomes. For example, the meet I posted for a cuddle time was explicit - I was the anomaly that day: respondents wanted to fuck.
Some want short, and others longer profiles. My encouragement is to firstly understand your own needs and then continuously refine your approach, so that you become better at it.
We are learning organisms, and using this inherent bias leads to easy orgasms.
It's worth standing back and taking a good long hard look at what you're doing. Is this really the best you can do?"
Obviously |
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The advertised meet could be the reason for the 100's of messages. When I advertise my meets always put friends only on the advert doesn't stop every other guy from just seeing the little meet logo and chancing their luck anyway |
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Ok, ive been on this site nine years and never used the meet today. However I've been on my own in the evenings last three days and I was looking for guys that could come over the last three days as a lot wouldn't be able to, three successful meets in three days.
I will definitely use it again if I'm looking for exact dates at short notice
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
I have found if I post a 'social meet' I get very little interest.
Though I may try for next weekend and see what happens.....Not hoping for much from past experience
If however I posted a sex meet, I know that would be a different story! |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"I have found if I post a 'social meet' I get very little interest.
Though I may try for next weekend and see what happens.....Not hoping for much from past experience
If however I posted a sex meet, I know that would be a different story! "
I'll meet you for a social if you can travel lol |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I have found if I post a 'social meet' I get very little interest.
Though I may try for next weekend and see what happens.....Not hoping for much from past experience
If however I posted a sex meet, I know that would be a different story!
I'll meet you for a social if you can travel lol"
Profile says I don't travel....keep up!  |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"I have found if I post a 'social meet' I get very little interest.
Though I may try for next weekend and see what happens.....Not hoping for much from past experience
If however I posted a sex meet, I know that would be a different story!
I'll meet you for a social if you can travel lol
Profile says I don't travel....keep up! "
Trying lol whats a mere 300 miles keep up |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"I block all men. I'm bi and it's the only way I can sort fab x
but if you are bi and you block all men does that not make you just Lesbian?"
Strap ons modern technology and they don't make a mess! |
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"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
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. I prefer to concentrate on how I manage my own profile , not how others manage theirs .
Members are entitled to be selective and it is quite possible that out of all the replies received , none are suitable .
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
. I prefer to concentrate on how I manage my own profile , not how others manage theirs .
Members are entitled to be selective and it is quite possible that out of all the replies received , none are suitable .
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Never had that problem. Good things come to all good men who wait.....perhaps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
. I prefer to concentrate on how I manage my own profile , not how others manage theirs .
Members are entitled to be selective and it is quite possible that out of all the replies received , none are suitable .
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hey be careful they may have knitting needles its dodgy out there |
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"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
. I prefer to concentrate on how I manage my own profile , not how others manage theirs .
Members are entitled to be selective and it is quite possible that out of all the replies received , none are suitable .
hey be careful they may have knitting needles its dodgy out there "
guess who's back, back again,needle man and his friend. |
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"I find there are some bitter people who like to question how other people run their own profiles.
If they put as much effort into their own experience on here they might just improve their own luck "
. Good post . As a broad generalisation , those who complain about lack of meets tend to have poorly written profiles and dull inappropriate pictures . |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"I find there are some bitter people who like to question how other people run their own profiles.
If they put as much effort into their own experience on here they might just improve their own luck . Good post . As a broad generalisation , those who complain about lack of meets tend to have poorly written profiles and dull inappropriate pictures . "
Ha ha ha nice one guilty as charged, along wth thousands of other men  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy. |
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"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
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. When you say that you would love lots of messages , would you like them if they were all outside your selection criteria . It would be the fab equivalent of junk male . |
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy. "
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??"
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though? |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"You see the status of some women on fab and it say things like;
250 messages unread bear with me
Too many messages deleted all
Can't answer messages too many
Inbox bulging sorry
Yet the same women advertise for meets
1 are they having us on?
2 do they need to advertise
3 wouldn't i love a 1/200 of that many messages
4 well folks your thoughts
. When you say that you would love lots of messages , would you like them if they were all outside your selection criteria . It would be the fab equivalent of junk male ."
But it would pass an hour answering them all |
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?"
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?"
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway... |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?"
Even worse what if he is 6'5" disaster |
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
Even worse what if he is 6'5" disaster "
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway..."
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance? |
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?"
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck "
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thing |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thing"
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thing"
I think people can look for what they like but I don't think they are entitled to moan when they can't find something that they are specific about
I never did find my z,,6ft4 black rasterfarian policemen with an Irish accent |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thingI think people can look for what they like but I don't think they are entitled to moan when they can't find something that they are specific about
I never did find my z,,6ft4 black rasterfarian policemen with an Irish accent "
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thingI think people can look for what they like but I don't think they are entitled to moan when they can't find something that they are specific about
I never did find my z,,6ft4 black rasterfarian policemen with an Irish accent
You aint met my mate paddy "
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thingI think people can look for what they like but I don't think they are entitled to moan when they can't find something that they are specific about
I never did find my z,,6ft4 black rasterfarian policemen with an Irish accent
You aint met my mate paddy
is that paddy marley?"
No you're thinking of marley davison black african irish dad his mum was a nun |
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thingI think people can look for what they like but I don't think they are entitled to moan when they can't find something that they are specific about
I never did find my z,,6ft4 black rasterfarian policemen with an Irish accent
You aint met my mate paddy
is that paddy marley?
No you're thinking of marley davison black african irish dad his mum was a nun "
I always mix those 2 up.im such a loser |
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
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"In short - because people can all use the site in exactly the way they want.
FYI, as a point to the whole 200+ messages... it's not the quantity of those messages but the quality. A while ago I did an experiment over the weekend, where I did a meet request and left my filters open all weekend, with a basic want of requirements and a request for those requirements to be met - 6'+, tattoos, between the ages of 30 & 40, piercings being a plus - and I received 150+ messages from single men and NONE of them fitted what I stated that I wanted.
I much prefer just to find men for myself, and even then I'm very choosy.
Playing devils advocate here missy but the c=fact that you posted for a specific type over a weekend on a sex site and received as you said no messages from what you are looking for looks like the guys you want do not want you in return or only as a last resort,sorry if that sounds harsh it is not meant as a criticism of you but perhaps owing to the lack of success in that particular post you should broaden your parameters??
Why would I meet someone I'm not attracted to or interested in though?
what say if a guy was 5'10 or 11 he is perfect for you in every way apaert from the height if he nessages you things click you have an amazing time,but said guy reads your requirements thinks ok I don't fit the bill does not message you receive nothing else of interest over the whole weekend you go unfulfilled?
But the thing is, I didn't go unfulfilled as it was an experiment and I wasn't going to meet any anyway...
again playing devils advocate what if a guy reads your profile sees he does not meet your requirements to the letter decides not to take the chance and you miss out on what could be something amazing due to parameters rather than taking more of a chance?
Then that's my sheer bad luck
sorry if I came across as being critical or cutting but I just find that rigidity in the profile parameters is a little against thje grain of the whole swinger thingI think people can look for what they like but I don't think they are entitled to moan when they can't find something that they are specific about
I never did find my z,,6ft4 black rasterfarian policemen with an Irish accent
You aint met my mate paddy
is that paddy marley?
No you're thinking of marley davison black african irish dad his mum was a nun
I always mix those 2 up.im such a loser"
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By *abphil OP Man
over a year ago
sheffield |
"I hardly ever advertise for meets, you're right we don't need to. I do message previous meets to see if they're up for meeting first, if that's not possible then i take off male filters so other men within my age ranges can message me and i'll choose one or two of them if i fancy any of them.
If i'm feeling particularly impatient i'll put a meet up and see who replies to that.
Don't forget that just because someone gets 100s of messages it doesn't mean they're getting what they want via those same messages. Half the guys don't send a pic, plenty are just dire at chatting up women, many are just unattractive to the recipient."
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
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"I block all men. I'm bi and it's the only way I can sort fab x
but if you are bi and you block all men does that not make you just Lesbian?
No. "
The lady can still search for blokes herself ..
My two lesbian neighbours gave me a Rolex for Christmas... i think they misunderstood when I said I wanna watch.. |
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"I block all men. I'm bi and it's the only way I can sort fab x
but if you are bi and you block all men does that not make you just Lesbian?
No.
The lady can still search for blokes herself ..
My two lesbian neighbours gave me a Rolex for Christmas... i think they misunderstood when I said I wanna watch.. "
Well ambiguous interpretations are probable when your intentions are not clarified correctly |
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over a year ago
sheffield |
"I block all men. I'm bi and it's the only way I can sort fab x
but if you are bi and you block all men does that not make you just Lesbian?
No. "
So too many men and no biladies (well there are but the husbands want to watch or join in) surprise!!! |
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I haven't posted a Meet on here before as I kind of assumed the messages would be no different from the ones currently sitting in my inbox.
In the early days ( B.F) I updated my status saying I had a free afternoon if any friends wanted to meet socially ~ logged on an hour later to 50+ messages, none from anyone I knew!
I can see why people might find it odd to see a ~on one hand I'm too busy status / then advertise for a meet. |
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over a year ago
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"I haven't posted a Meet on here before as I kind of assumed the messages would be no different from the ones currently sitting in my inbox.
In the early days ( B.F) I updated my status saying I had a free afternoon if any friends wanted to meet socially ~ logged on an hour later to 50+ messages, none from anyone I knew!
I can see why people might find it odd to see a ~on one hand I'm too busy status / then advertise for a meet."
That opens a new can of worms is it really worth having a friends list? |
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