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Have you changed how you do things on here over the time you've been on.
I've changed from not having socials first to always having socials first.
I'm going to experiment in the new year and see how I get on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only once have I not had a social first before a meet. But that was because we had been talking for months. I will (when I decide to meet again) carry on as I used to. So no I've not changed the way I use fab  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've changed in that I'm more fussy!
I know that, in order to not feel like a piece of cheap shit, I have to like a guy as well as fancy him! It also makes for far better sex - so all good!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mainly stick here on the forums . Its such a jolly hoot. I adore socials, if you check my veries I am Mr vanilla social lol
So I am just going to carry on being my almost normal silly self |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on and off fab for a while
I used to be a kid in the sweet shop having a number of meets and attending clubs
Recently apart from a reg friend I haven't been meeting and only using the site to perv and keep in touch with friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally changed. We used to have lots of meets and club visits each month.
Firstly our situation changed as to childcare and then we kind of realised we were not getting what we wanted. We now prefer 3 somes with occasional 4 somes as we found with 4 somes it was all about the other couple and we were not having so much contact together during play.
We also mostly only meet people to play who we have met on group socials previously, we sometimes do 1-1 socials too.
We never meet without a previous social |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After a couple of dates at the end of this year (thanks miss cheeky) I've changed from no social and only meeting at clubs to meeting outside of clubs. I think it was a lack of confidence in myself and my selection process.
Over the course of my time here though I've started using it as a way of keeping contact with those I've met rather than meeting new people. It seems to be working so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first 3years started with private meets, then found clubs and parties so have had an amazing time as a single lady
coming up to the end of my third year I'm now retired and deleted my single profile adores blackmen (as in a relationship now)
Just here to peek around forums and what it says on the tin,due my love of the social side of parties and bringing likeminded people together
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have a modus operandi on here. I hang around waiting for someone I'm interested in to pop up. If he wants to go for a drink first I'll do that,if I'm interested in him. I don't socialise to make friends. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I've started doing more socials and meeting people I'm not normally attracted to. Its not changed my success rate unfortunately.
Otherwise I use clubs more, and the majority of my fun is through those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We totally understand people liking socials .
However , we never have nor ever will use fab to arrange socials .
To us it's a place to meet like minded people for sexual liaisons . And since we are a confident and solid couple , we can tell pretty soon whether a meet will become sexual . If it's not going to , it's on to plan b. - arrange another meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unintentionally this year I decided to try not meeting at all. In hindsight, it wasn't the best move as I feel like a newbie all over again."
I'm guessing there must have been a point to being on a swinging site for a year , with no intention of meeting ? |
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"We totally understand people liking socials .
However , we never have nor ever will use fab to arrange socials .
To us it's a place to meet like minded people for sexual liaisons . And since we are a confident and solid couple , we can tell pretty soon whether a meet will become sexual . If it's not going to , it's on to plan b. - arrange another meet "
the question wasn't about socials its about whether you've changed how you use the site
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We totally understand people liking socials .
However , we never have nor ever will use fab to arrange socials .
To us it's a place to meet like minded people for sexual liaisons . And since we are a confident and solid couple , we can tell pretty soon whether a meet will become sexual . If it's not going to , it's on to plan b. - arrange another meet the question wasn't about socials its about whether you've changed how you use the site
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Ah sorry , no then |
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"Unintentionally this year I decided to try not meeting at all. In hindsight, it wasn't the best move as I feel like a newbie all over again.
I'm guessing there must have been a point to being on a swinging site for a year , with no intention of meeting ? "
Now I never had the intention of not meeting. It just happened that way.
However, I've spent a lot of time on the forums and in chat. And that is how I chose to use the site this year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Completely changed.
Used to be generic male sending lots of messages.
Now I chat, just get to know people and see what happens.
I also focus on being me. That way if/when I meet someone even for a social, I know they are interested in meeting me and not something I'm pretending to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Started by search and send to get a social meet. Took a while. Now have a few well aquainted friends whom I'm very happy with. That may change but not looking to change that. We arrange off here anyways. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you changed how you do things on here over the time you've been on.
I've changed from not having socials first to always having socials first.
I'm going to experiment in the new year and see how I get on"
Ive never had a social,except the forum social and the bi fem only social i turned up to by mistake 
Its much easier getting to know each other tucked up in bed having a nice cuddle
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"Completely changed.
Used to be generic male sending lots of messages.
Now I chat, just get to know people and see what happens.
I also focus on being me. That way if/when I meet someone even for a social, I know they are interested in meeting me and not something I'm pretending to be. "
What do you pretend to be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Completely changed.
Used to be generic male sending lots of messages.
Now I chat, just get to know people and see what happens.
I also focus on being me. That way if/when I meet someone even for a social, I know they are interested in meeting me and not something I'm pretending to be.
What do you pretend to be?"
Usualy a meerkat |
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"Have you changed how you do things on here over the time you've been on.
I've changed from not having socials first to always having socials first.
I'm going to experiment in the new year and see how I get on
Ive never had a social,except the forum social and the bi fem only social i turned up to by mistake
Its much easier getting to know each other tucked up in bed having a nice cuddle
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How on earth did you attend a bi fem only social by mistake? |
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over a year ago
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"Have you changed how you do things on here over the time you've been on.
I've changed from not having socials first to always having socials first.
I'm going to experiment in the new year and see how I get on
Ive never had a social,except the forum social and the bi fem only social i turned up to by mistake
Its much easier getting to know each other tucked up in bed having a nice cuddle
How on earth did you attend a bi fem only social by mistake?"
Cause it was before the forum social and one of the women at the bi fem aocial said we should get food before the main social.
So it ended up with me rocking up to the bi fem social (which i had no idea was on) to meet up with her :p
Fortunately the ladies were all lovley and were happy for me to join them for food rather than us to disappearing off :p (as the veris show lol) |
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"Have you changed how you do things on here over the time you've been on.
I've changed from not having socials first to always having socials first.
I'm going to experiment in the new year and see how I get on
Ive never had a social,except the forum social and the bi fem only social i turned up to by mistake
Its much easier getting to know each other tucked up in bed having a nice cuddle
How on earth did you attend a bi fem only social by mistake?
Cause it was before the forum social and one of the women at the bi fem aocial said we should get food before the main social.
So it ended up with me rocking up to the bi fem social (which i had no idea was on) to meet up with her :p
Fortunately the ladies were all lovley and were happy for me to join them for food rather than us to disappearing off :p (as the veris show lol)"
I see (I think),I'm sure they wouldn't complain about you joining them... |
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over a year ago
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"Have you changed how you do things on here over the time you've been on.
I've changed from not having socials first to always having socials first.
I'm going to experiment in the new year and see how I get on
Ive never had a social,except the forum social and the bi fem only social i turned up to by mistake
Its much easier getting to know each other tucked up in bed having a nice cuddle
How on earth did you attend a bi fem only social by mistake?
Cause it was before the forum social and one of the women at the bi fem aocial said we should get food before the main social.
So it ended up with me rocking up to the bi fem social (which i had no idea was on) to meet up with her :p
Fortunately the ladies were all lovley and were happy for me to join them for food rather than us to disappearing off :p (as the veris show lol)
I see (I think),I'm sure they wouldn't complain about you joining them..."
blame peach :p
Brilliant hotdog though. (Seemed right to have a bit of sausage) |
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"Have you changed how you do things on here over the time you've been on.
I've changed from not having socials first to always having socials first.
I'm going to experiment in the new year and see how I get on
Ive never had a social,except the forum social and the bi fem only social i turned up to by mistake
Its much easier getting to know each other tucked up in bed having a nice cuddle
How on earth did you attend a bi fem only social by mistake?
Cause it was before the forum social and one of the women at the bi fem aocial said we should get food before the main social.
So it ended up with me rocking up to the bi fem social (which i had no idea was on) to meet up with her :p
Fortunately the ladies were all lovley and were happy for me to join them for food rather than us to disappearing off :p (as the veris show lol)
I see (I think),I'm sure they wouldn't complain about you joining them...
blame peach :p
Brilliant hotdog though. (Seemed right to have a bit of sausage)"
Well who doesn't like a bit of sausage! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Yes I have changed how I do things.
When I first started I used to spend at least 4-6 weeks getting to know someone first before inviting them round to mine.
Until I had a bad experience....(I did always state they were a social at mine but he decided he just wanted me regardless) Took me about 3-4 months before I was ready to meet again.
Now I meet quicker, but still get to know them first but always meet in a public place now! Lessons learnt and all that! |
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i've decided for my own good to just lurk now more, post less and leave the profile on hidden for as long as I can..
might as well just stick to just living life in the shadows like I usually did before joining fab...
learned a lot of good and also some bad things on my time here so just going to watch how events unfold now really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!"
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
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over a year ago
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"i've decided for my own good to just lurk now more, post less and leave the profile on hidden for as long as I can..
might as well just stick to just living life in the shadows like I usually did before joining fab...
learned a lot of good and also some bad things on my time here so just going to watch how events unfold now really."
Why?
What does lurking and hiding achieve? Be big,bold and visible.
The people who dont like you will ignore you as they would anyway but the people who do like you will now be able to find you. |
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I've changed, due to circumstances and evolving interests. I don't get hassled, as I've done before, and ignore my inbox if hassle starts - usually related to workload and some user pressure to meet NOW. So I don't.
I also cherish my friends here more. Much rarer that I post meets. |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
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You saying I look weird?!  |
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over a year ago
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?! "
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
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Why?
What does lurking and hiding achieve? Be big,bold and visible.
The people who dont like you will ignore you as they would anyway but the people who do like you will now be able to find you."
evening thx118,
to answer you're question in real life I'm a loner and have been for years and frankly a lot of times used to get pretty angry with a lot of things be it on here or real life stuff....
after a while I just want to withdraw from it all and just lay back in the back ground and see how things go really for a while...
it's not like i'm harming anyone now is it? truth is i've not even lost my temper in real life for like over 2 weeks and for some one like me who has an unpredictable temper and is slowly fixing up his life one step at a time thankfully... |
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Why?
What does lurking and hiding achieve? Be big,bold and visible.
The people who dont like you will ignore you as they would anyway but the people who do like you will now be able to find you.
evening thx118,
to answer you're question in real life I'm a loner and have been for years and frankly a lot of times used to get pretty angry with a lot of things be it on here or real life stuff....
after a while I just want to withdraw from it all and just lay back in the back ground and see how things go really for a while...
it's not like i'm harming anyone now is it? truth is i've not even lost my temper in real life for like over 2 weeks and for some one like me who has an unpredictable temper and is slowly fixing up his life one step at a time thankfully..."
Fair enough just seems a bizarre aproach to take on a meet up site. |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
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I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird?  |
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Fair enough just seems a bizarre aproach to take on a meet up site."
who knows really Maybe I am bizarre in that way, one day I can be optimistic and happy go lucky in everyday life situations for a while then the next I can go into a shell for long periods off time..
less I have been on here though the more productive I have been in my real life and get out of my man cave more often now... |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird? "
Well im sure to the cubists out there you look lovely
In other news i just sliced mt thumb open trying to open cheese
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By (user no longer on site)
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Been on and off here since 2011, the last year and a bit I've used the forums, never used to use them before. So I've gone from the disappointment of meeting unsuitable people to using the forums and having a laugh. |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird?
Well im sure to the cubists out there you look lovely
In other news i just sliced mt thumb open trying to open cheese
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Dopey thing,be more careful in future. Get yourself a plaster |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know how I want to use the site right now - really!
I like meeting and taking to new friends but not sure what else I'm after yet. Having a think over the holiday break - will either dive in head first looking for a fuck fest in 2016 or think 'nah, the site's not for me' and UNLOS or, to be frank, anywhere in between.
Hopefully in the next couple of weeks it will all will become clearer for me  |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird?
Well im sure to the cubists out there you look lovely
In other news i just sliced mt thumb open trying to open cheese
Dopey thing,be more careful in future. Get yourself a plaster"
I have,its gonna be a nice new scar though quite deep.ime collecting a weird range of scars in that area (base of the first kniuckle of thumb) |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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When I became single again in the summer, I went a little mad and had meets frequently. Recently I have been a bit more choosy and had quality not quantity! (cringe)
I also discovered the forums and started going to clubs alone.
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird?
Well im sure to the cubists out there you look lovely
In other news i just sliced mt thumb open trying to open cheese
Dopey thing,be more careful in future. Get yourself a plaster
I have,its gonna be a nice new scar though quite deep.ime collecting a weird range of scars in that area (base of the first kniuckle of thumb)"
I think you need to look at another interest,a collection of scars sounds quite painful to me. Step away from the cheese... |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird?
Well im sure to the cubists out there you look lovely
In other news i just sliced mt thumb open trying to open cheese
Dopey thing,be more careful in future. Get yourself a plaster
I have,its gonna be a nice new scar though quite deep.ime collecting a weird range of scars in that area (base of the first kniuckle of thumb)
I think you need to look at another interest,a collection of scars sounds quite painful to me. Step away from the cheese..."
I'll never surrender the cheese!! |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird?
Well im sure to the cubists out there you look lovely
In other news i just sliced mt thumb open trying to open cheese
Dopey thing,be more careful in future. Get yourself a plaster
I have,its gonna be a nice new scar though quite deep.ime collecting a weird range of scars in that area (base of the first kniuckle of thumb)"
How the hell do you slice yourself open with cheese? |
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"Youve got to remember excitement that I'm an idiot.
Yeah,but you can get away with it if you're good looking do you not think?!
Shit...errr what do you do if you're kinda weird looking?
You saying I look weird?!
Well you look great from the neck down, but i gotta admit the whole big white rectangle thing you got going on in the face area is a little strange.
Call me old fashioned but i just dont understand all this modern plastic surgery lark.
I was sick to death of people saying I looked weird,so I popped along to my local cosmetic surgery. You seriously telling me all that money was a waste and I still look weird?
Well im sure to the cubists out there you look lovely
In other news i just sliced mt thumb open trying to open cheese
Dopey thing,be more careful in future. Get yourself a plaster
I have,its gonna be a nice new scar though quite deep.ime collecting a weird range of scars in that area (base of the first kniuckle of thumb)
How the hell do you slice yourself open with cheese?"
I was cutting open the sellotape holding the fancy box closed and did it with a bit too much force... knife straight through tape, through edge of box,into the back of my thumb |
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I was cutting open the sellotape holding the fancy box closed and did it with a bit too much force... knife straight through tape, through edge of box,into the back of my thumb "
Aww poor baby! I'll lick your bum hole to make it better! |
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