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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies. "
It's 2 hours 57 minutes till rant day.
Try to hold it in chap........  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies.
It's 2 hours 57 minutes till rant day.
Try to hold it in chap........ "
Rant day? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not having much luck this visit OP
Here is a clue, don't winge in the forums it won't do any good and might put people off altogether.  "
People outside of the forum meet. I really wouldn't worry about what the forumites think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies.
It's 2 hours 57 minutes till rant day.
Try to hold it in chap........
Rant day?"
Thursday is rant day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not having much luck this visit OP
Here is a clue, don't winge in the forums it won't do any good and might put people off altogether. "
Like I said, I ain't moaning or whinging. It's just making observations and speaking of my experience. I don't have issues with women at all unless they explicitly state what they require on their profile and when you think you suit and message them, 90% ignore or delete.
If we don't speak of it then we are just pretending to be ok with it when it should register to them that some men do make all the effort.
If I never have another meet again from fab, I wouldn't complain. I've pretty much done everything I came for. But this is to get my point across for the benefit of others and perhaps get a discussion going.
Don't get it twisted. I'm okay with action, even if fab was never in the equation |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not having much luck this visit OP
Here is a clue, don't winge in the forums it won't do any good and might put people off altogether.
People outside of the forum meet. I really wouldn't worry about what the forumites think. "
Wise words. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
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So what are you basing that on? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
So what are you basing that on?"
Based on 3 years experience and everything outlined in the initial post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies.
It's 2 hours 57 minutes till rant day.
Try to hold it in chap........
Rant day?
Thursday is rant day. "
From what I read,every day is rant day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
So what are you basing that on?
Based on 3 years experience and everything outlined in the initial post. "
Nothing in your opening post explains how you decided most men on here are fucked in the head and play mind games?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Surely the answer is to avoid messaging the women who seem up themselves and concentrate on those without profiles full of demands etc. "
I have actually been doing so. I don't message if anything will not fit with the lady. If she says she don't want someone who lives more than 50 miles away and I live 51 miles away, I won't. And yet here we are. But the post is for the wider benefit of other men. Me I'm sorted really. Thank you for your feedback though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies.
It's 2 hours 57 minutes till rant day.
Try to hold it in chap........
Rant day?
Thursday is rant day.
From what I read,every day is rant day."
Thursday I tells yah!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
So what are you basing that on?
Based on 3 years experience and everything outlined in the initial post.
Nothing in your opening post explains how you decided most men on here are fucked in the head and play mind games?
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I wouldn't know what exactly that is but I'll give you an example. When I first started out on here, I went to two different locations which were false. The guys had set up false profiles as females and pretended to be new to all this. What decent person finds kicks from pretending to be a woman and send another man a fools gold chase only to write Lolest on their status. Does that sufficiently answer your question? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the answer is to avoid messaging the women who seem up themselves and concentrate on those without profiles full of demands etc.
I have actually been doing so. I don't message if anything will not fit with the lady. If she says she don't want someone who lives more than 50 miles away and I live 51 miles away, I won't. And yet here we are. But the post is for the wider benefit of other men. Me I'm sorted really. Thank you for your feedback though "
That's not wholly what I was getting at - I was meaning more that profiles which come across as a list of demands of hoops for men to jump through - if all the men together decided they'd just ignore them, then the women who have let the attention go to their heads would sharp have to come back down to earth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
So what are you basing that on?
Based on 3 years experience and everything outlined in the initial post.
Nothing in your opening post explains how you decided most men on here are fucked in the head and play mind games?
I wouldn't know what exactly that is but I'll give you an example. When I first started out on here, I went to two different locations which were false. The guys had set up false profiles as females and pretended to be new to all this. What decent person finds kicks from pretending to be a woman and send another man a fools gold chase only to write Lolest on their status. Does that sufficiently answer your question?"
And how is that "most men? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
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goes to their heads ?.
Says he with the status that says "there's nothing wrong with an ego, unless of course you have a complex towards self assured individuals " |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
So what are you basing that on?
Based on 3 years experience and everything outlined in the initial post.
Nothing in your opening post explains how you decided most men on here are fucked in the head and play mind games?
I wouldn't know what exactly that is but I'll give you an example. When I first started out on here, I went to two different locations which were false. The guys had set up false profiles as females and pretended to be new to all this. What decent person finds kicks from pretending to be a woman and send another man a fools gold chase only to write Lolest on their status. Does that sufficiently answer your question?
And how is that "most men?"
You seem hellbent on questioning me mate. I speak to quite a few people and gather this from the conversations. I've also got so much experience. Many men are timewasters. Time wasting is mind fuck shit. You might be cool but that don't mean the rest of them are on here mate lol |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
A guy posted a similar thread yesterday 'single women'. ...,easy solution if it's hard work or you think the ladies arte up their bums.. Message another.. simples.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
goes to their heads ?.
Says he with the status that says "there's nothing wrong with an ego, unless of course you have a complex towards self assured individuals " "
Please show me where I have used my ego to make others feel inferior? I'm self-assured, not cocky. |
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"A guy posted a similar thread yesterday 'single women'. ...,easy solution if it's hard work or you think the ladies arte up their bums.. Message another.. simples. "
I do that everyday. Just that eventually, they shall end up with a small pool to draw from and that usually don't end well lol |
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"Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games. "
That's just men, got nothing to do with Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Surely the answer is to avoid messaging the women who seem up themselves and concentrate on those without profiles full of demands etc.
I have actually been doing so. I don't message if anything will not fit with the lady. If she says she don't want someone who lives more than 50 miles away and I live 51 miles away, I won't. And yet here we are. But the post is for the wider benefit of other men. Me I'm sorted really. Thank you for your feedback though
That's not wholly what I was getting at - I was meaning more that profiles which come across as a list of demands of hoops for men to jump through - if all the men together decided they'd just ignore them, then the women who have let the attention go to their heads would sharp have to come back down to earth."
We need (men) to start a movement lol...stop messaging these ladies lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies. "
stop with this bullshit I'm sure there are plenty of women who would meet you at least on here or just go to a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
goes to their heads ?.
Says he with the status that says "there's nothing wrong with an ego, unless of course you have a complex towards self assured individuals "
Please show me where I have used my ego to make others feel inferior? I'm self-assured, not cocky."
What I meant was,maybe these women you speak of are just 'self- assured' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
So what are you basing that on?
Based on 3 years experience and everything outlined in the initial post.
Nothing in your opening post explains how you decided most men on here are fucked in the head and play mind games?
I wouldn't know what exactly that is but I'll give you an example. When I first started out on here, I went to two different locations which were false. The guys had set up false profiles as females and pretended to be new to all this. What decent person finds kicks from pretending to be a woman and send another man a fools gold chase only to write Lolest on their status. Does that sufficiently answer your question?"
But that's men messing you around, not women  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I feel your pain OP...well, I did when I thought using the site as a single male maybe included getting to chat to cool lady or two but you soon realise that 80% of it isn't for you & of the 20% that is, 15% of that isn't really into you so you have this 5% margin to work with & at least half of those want to see valid passport, Ni number & latest text from the GUM clinic.
2.5% is what we're working with, may as well just knock one out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also I think your blowing too much smoke up your Arse on your profile.
He didn't ask for critique on his profile
You'll land on naughty step. "
i have built a home on the naughty step, it's quite comfortable  |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"A guy posted a similar thread yesterday 'single women'. ...,easy solution if it's hard work or you think the ladies arte up their bums.. Message another.. simples.
I do that everyday. Just that eventually, they shall end up with a small pool to draw from and that usually don't end well lol "
Are we talking about you or others.? |
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Would it be fair to say that females make the decision for sexy play or not both inside or outside of FAB?
Here the opportunity is to broach 20 in an hour if you wanted.... I would think you would not directly approach 20 women in a bar within an hour .. Say a few words and expect a pleasant reply every time. Just my opinion......
There was a study done on the ratio of male to female on swingers websites ... And it's not that massively high ... It
May have been 3 to 1 ... I
Know I was surprised however I can not site it to support my statement.
We all seek a "fit" - yes base line is sex .... Base line is women decide in here and outside of here..... It's their criteria and clever gentleman know this and know how to create a "fit" it they want that "lady" ..... X |
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"Would it be fair to say that females make the decision for sexy play or not both inside or outside of FAB?
Here the opportunity is to broach 20 in an hour if you wanted.... I would think you would not directly approach 20 women in a bar within an hour .. Say a few words and expect a pleasant reply every time. Just my opinion......
There was a study done on the ratio of male to female on swingers websites ... And it's not that massively high ... It
May have been 3 to 1 ... I
Know I was surprised however I can not site it to support my statement.
We all seek a "fit" - yes base line is sex .... Base line is women decide in here and outside of here..... It's their criteria and clever gentleman know this and know how to create a "fit" it they want that "lady" ..... X "
Funny thing is, I work in a bar and my job is primarily based on approaching punters. So yea, I do speak to way more than 20 females in an hour lol |
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies. "
I cannot understand the men, becoming more and more frequent, who say that the attention women get 'goes to their head'. Underlying this is the fundamental belief that all women on here don't deserve any attention, aren't worth, are below them, etc. Why? Why would you not assume a woman had needs like you do? Or even more so, or different? Could women not then assume that the men on here can't get a fuck in the real world .... if its good for the goose and all that .... |
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies.
I cannot understand the men, becoming more and more frequent, who say that the attention women get 'goes to their head'. Underlying this is the fundamental belief that all women on here don't deserve any attention, aren't worth, are below them, etc. Why? Why would you not assume a woman had needs like you do? Or even more so, or different? Could women not then assume that the men on here can't get a fuck in the real world .... if its good for the goose and all that ...."
It is her prerogative who she wishes to play with but the least you would expect is to at least get a no thank you when you have demonstrated that you have read everything on their profile and that you are respectful and genuine. To go on profile after profile and all you see is one liners will be deleted and you read everything and think great, I fulfill this criteria, type a good 100 word email full of all the charm and all. Then you see 5 minutes later it's been deleted. Wow! I don't say anything further. But I think this year alone, I have dozens such emails. So pardon me for not going back in that email section and ask what's wrong with me and putting it on a forum to gather some feedback from those that have similar experiences as well those that wish to give me their view on it |
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I still saw this as a knock against the very same people that you'd like to meet.
You'd have been better meeting a guy from here and saying it to him imo.
I'm wondering if it's because so many people here don't have any swinging or other friends to open up to that creates the conditions for guys to need to come here and unload their swollen tension, kind of like a moan. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think you have it hard on here and you will.
Accept that it's actually quite good on here and you'll enjoy it.
The whine of 'it's hard for men on here' is wearing thin..
Look for a problem and you shall find, look for good and you also will find.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you started Fab you were young and doing great. Every time you came back the pool of women got smaller and smaller. It's not your fault. You're not the new kid on the block anymore. It's time to give the young guys a chance.
You have 2 options. Find a girl and become the new couple on the block.
Or become a weekend warrior. Travel to a different parts of the U.K. On the weekends, so you are always the new face.
The older we as men get . The harder we have to work. The younger guys have the energy. We have the finances and experience.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When you started Fab you were young and doing great. Every time you came back the pool of women got smaller and smaller. It's not your fault. You're not the new kid on the block anymore. It's time to give the young guys a chance.
You have 2 options. Find a girl and become the new couple on the block.
Or become a weekend warrior. Travel to a different parts of the U.K. On the weekends, so you are always the new face.
The older we as men get . The harder we have to work. The younger guys have the energy. We have the finances and experience.
Good luck "
I dunno most women on here seem to be looking for older guys in my experience.
Not sure how much money you've got affects your swinging prowess though?
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As a forum user im guilty of not spending enough time searching and looking at profiles.
As a forum user I know the majority of us in here are not fly by night/come & go, fuck & run types. We are here because we also genuinely enjoy the banter, the social side and chatting sheit often
If I was using a site for pure meets, would I use this one?
No. It's not user friendly.
More than half of the single women are not single women but can't be honest about that as they get their profiles changed.
You can't trust half the couples profiles because it seems men, get fed up of not getting any attention/deleted and set up couples profiles. Both to increase the chance of being seen and to get round filters.
Some get aggressive or nasty when someone finally responds.
Now all of these things are annoying and frustrating. But again lots of us using the forum do not prioritise meeting on this site, and we are fully aware of it and the other issues. We on the forums stuck around and know how to use the site functions. Some of us even know the forum rules.
Men or others come into the forum and complain. A lot on the forum then jump on a band wagen and the "some" not all debate comes up.
Then you see the women defending their rights to not respond the white knights ( yes there are a lot) and they are advised patience, to grow a thick skin or to go to socials and build a network. All good advice.
The facts remain though. The site isn't user friendly. Some of the single/couple profiles demand a hell of a lot, gifts, spoiling, & yes some men have terrible attitudes and should never be rude but some of the women are equally as nasty/vile. It happens and yes whilst us using the forums do not, it does happen.
In a club, in a group, fab is often discussed and it's never the positives, only the "number of fakes/timewasters/delusional" which frankly I understand and to a degree agree with.
What the op said has merit. Many say it in a variety of ways and some not as polite as others. But in clubs anyone being nasty/aggressive/demanding gifts/payments (in kind) gets no where and yet on here it happens.
It's difficult if not impossible to police and as the majority of the forum users are not those with demanding profiles or nasty responses, the rest of the site, a much bigger percentage of the site can and are.
If I was a bloke, facing high club prices, reading horror stories on here (& let's face it, people come here to moan and showcase the not so nice aspect) and browsing the profiles I think I'd of given up a long time ago.
The op has a point. My opinion,
but I looked around, & what I saw would not have me site supporting or logging in. Even here in the forums the 'in fighting' can be very obvious  and the defence it's better than other sites, really doesn't wash me with.
Yes society has changed, not all for the better either.
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"As a forum user im guilty of not spending enough time searching and looking at profiles.
As a forum user I know the majority of us in here are not fly by night/come & go, fuck & run types. We are here because we also genuinely enjoy the banter, the social side and chatting sheit often
If I was using a site for pure meets, would I use this one?
No. It's not user friendly.
More than half of the single women are not single women but can't be honest about that as they get their profiles changed.
You can't trust half the couples profiles because it seems men, get fed up of not getting any attention/deleted and set up couples profiles. Both to increase the chance of being seen and to get round filters.
Some get aggressive or nasty when someone finally responds.
Now all of these things are annoying and frustrating. But again lots of us using the forum do not prioritise meeting on this site, and we are fully aware of it and the other issues. We on the forums stuck around and know how to use the site functions. Some of us even know the forum rules.
Men or others come into the forum and complain. A lot on the forum then jump on a band wagen and the "some" not all debate comes up.
Then you see the women defending their rights to not respond the white knights ( yes there are a lot) and they are advised patience, to grow a thick skin or to go to socials and build a network. All good advice.
The facts remain though. The site isn't user friendly. Some of the single/couple profiles demand a hell of a lot, gifts, spoiling, & yes some men have terrible attitudes and should never be rude but some of the women are equally as nasty/vile. It happens and yes whilst us using the forums do not, it does happen.
In a club, in a group, fab is often discussed and it's never the positives, only the "number of fakes/timewasters/delusional" which frankly I understand and to a degree agree with.
What the op said has merit. Many say it in a variety of ways and some not as polite as others. But in clubs anyone being nasty/aggressive/demanding gifts/payments (in kind) gets no where and yet on here it happens.
It's difficult if not impossible to police and as the majority of the forum users are not those with demanding profiles or nasty responses, the rest of the site, a much bigger percentage of the site can and are.
If I was a bloke, facing high club prices, reading horror stories on here (& let's face it, people come here to moan and showcase the not so nice aspect) and browsing the profiles I think I'd of given up a long time ago.
The op has a point. My opinion,
but I looked around, & what I saw would not have me site supporting or logging in. Even here in the forums the 'in fighting' can be very obvious and the defence it's better than other sites, really doesn't wash me with.
Yes society has changed, not all for the better either.
I'm no "
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I'm finding the site and the people therein quite good actually. I chat a lot and I meet as often as I can. Yes, there are negative threads - don't join in. Yes, there are 'time wasters' and 'fakes' - improve your selection choice and take your time.
Don't stay if it's not fun. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies. "
You got the job
Every evening, after work, you spend 3 minutes per message on my 50 messages I will receive. That is a mere 2.5 hours of my limited time saved, every day. Thank you in advance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So basically, this is a moan about women who you think you fit their criteria not replying? I guess they don't think you do. I wouldn't worry about it, lifes too short to get wound up over something so trivial. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Surely the answer is to avoid messaging the women who seem up themselves and concentrate on those without profiles full of demands etc. "
Good advice
Anyone 'demanding' more than one or two arms combination with one or two legs is an 'up her own arse bitch' and should be avoided at all costs. |
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"I dunno most women on here seem to be looking for older guys in my experience.
Not 53 yr old bisexual smokers they don't, or should I save that for another rant day "
Well, it is rant day Thursday.
I expect there's a Thursday rant day thread somewhere.  |
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies.
You got the job
Every evening, after work, you spend 3 minutes per message on my 50 messages I will receive. That is a mere 2.5 hours of my limited time saved, every day. Thank you in advance"
Easy. Activate filters. Reduce your messages and copy/paste a thanks but no, clear out those of no interest first.
Then go on to respond individually to those that appeal or spend 25/30 minutes skimming profiles and message those that appeal. I did say I use filters |
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Will never understand the hang up guys have about "No thank you" messages. What is so much better about logging in, seeing you have ten messages, and finding their all "no thanks"?
No reply = no thanks.
If your ego can't take a message being deleted, then don't send any. Messages are not some amazing favour or gift you're giving a woman. It's just some reading and typing, and doesn't entitle you to anything. |
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I think it's definitely easier in the real world as face to face you get the opportunity to have someone get to know the person and quietly admire before making a decision as to whether they wish to act on a man's social advances. Ladies also get to know (and hopefully like) the personality, whereas 49 out of 50 women on here won'the even give that opportunity, or the courtesy of a 'thanks, but not for me' - something which is always appreciated by me certainly and which always results in a thank-you and good luck reply from me (never any negative abuse which some men have the nerve to give out). Sadly, but realistically us men have to accept that the ladies hold Al the cards on here, even more so than in real life, with a percentage of those developing the notion that they'really above the men due to the fact that they can pick and choose as much as they wish. That being said I think with the vast majority of ladies it's purely down to the volume of messages they get and liking your photo. It's easy for men to feel 'unworthy' on here due to this, but we need to be realistic, irrespective of our frustration at times. I think eventually the majority of single males will give up on sites like this and walk away, leaving the swinging world to couples and single ladies, some of whom may then bemoan their lack of opportunity or interest, however I don't think this is likely any time soon. I've been lucky to meet some fantastic ladies, though it's certainly been quality over quantity, but can see all points of view on here. As much as all us males would love equality the tables are firmly turned on here. Good luck all! |
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V here..... Skipped a lot of the replies.
I like your profile by the way  .
We don't look for straight single guys. But should I bump into you at a club when I'm on my own.... Well 
Xxx
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it's fair to say that single males fare the worst on fab. Of course it doesn't help as well that many men are fucked in the head and don't know how to talk to women so they find it a great idea to play silly mind games.
I have been on fab for years since 2012 and take regular breaks that stretch to months on end. Every time, I come back I ensure that I improve my conduct on here come what may. I try to be polite, engaging, write cool looking profiles (well I hope that's how they come across) be genuine and the most important of all, read everything on the profile: does she/they like black people, accommodation, pictures, any special requirements etc.
I hardly ever message anyone I wouldn't think would welcome a decent and witty email (usually make reference to something in the profile just so I can demonstrate that I pay much attention to all details). But is this enough? Alas.
Won't say all single ladies are this and that blah blah but I think it's fair to say due to the volume of traffic they receive, the attention goes to their head and some of us suffer because of it.
Just making observations. Not moaning or anything. I fare better outside of fan than on here but the only reason I prefer fab over women in real life is because I would like to think we can be open and mature about our sexuality from the beginning.
Perhaps I'm wrong in my observations, but I really have grown tired of this from ladies.
You got the job
Every evening, after work, you spend 3 minutes per message on my 50 messages I will receive. That is a mere 2.5 hours of my limited time saved, every day. Thank you in advance
Easy. Activate filters. Reduce your messages and copy/paste a thanks but no, clear out those of no interest first.
Then go on to respond individually to those that appeal or spend 25/30 minutes skimming profiles and message those that appeal. I did say I use filters "
Can't filter out everyone as I do want to receive messages from event organisers who are mostly MF or FF couples and can be any age so can't filter on age either
But I do state my preferences on my profile very clearly
And I do ask for a 'code word' to be placed in the subject so atleast I know that someone bothered to read my profile. I still get messages from 25 year olds or guys who are 5'10" or guys wanting to meet for a coffee or .....
A "no thanks" sometimes results in a "who do you think you are?" response. I just delete and block. Its not as if he is going to get any taller in the next couple of years |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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"I wish everyone would stop saying all women get hundreds of messages a day, I don't, nowhere near that amount...  "
I've had 4 new messages since monday (not counting ongoing conversations with friends) but I'm a stroppy cow and my profile puts loads of folk off... but its fine its another layer of filtering.
As for messages getting deleted without a reply... well suck it up OP, it happens to us all. I initiate quite a few conversations, and think its about 50/50 whether I get a reply... but I do not expect one. |
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"I wish everyone would stop saying all women get hundreds of messages a day, I don't, nowhere near that amount...
I've had 4 new messages since monday (not counting ongoing conversations with friends) but I'm a stroppy cow and my profile puts loads of folk off... but its fine its another layer of filtering.
As for messages getting deleted without a reply... well suck it up OP, it happens to us all. I initiate quite a few conversations, and think its about 50/50 whether I get a reply... but I do not expect one."
I suck it up. I'm just tryna hear people's thoughts on it, that's all. |
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