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By *eeDee25 OP Woman over a year ago

crook

A while ago a guy i knew and myself went to a couples house for fun. It was supposed to be a straight swop howeva i was left standing totally naked while the guys played with her. In the end i got dressed and went. How would fabbers react here. Do what i did am guessing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

V here

If it were me I would either have piled in and made some caustic (but hugely witty) comment about freezing my tits off out in the cold. Or I would have sat back and enjoyed the show after I'd made a cup of tea

But then again I don't do being ignored

Xxxxx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why didn't you instigate some fun and why didn't the guy you was with. Surely you had spoken about it beforehand

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I would have squeezed in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's down right rude, disrespectful and hurtful I imagine. I would have left too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why just stand there? Says more about you than them!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A while ago a guy i knew and myself went to a couples house for fun. It was supposed to be a straight swop howeva i was left standing totally naked while the guys played with her. In the end i got dressed and went. How would fabbers react here. Do what i did am guessing?"
OP that's really very sad as should have been a fun night for all ........ Sounds like the man you was with was more into her then you. I hope you give him a good feed back saying how you was made to feel .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I may have gone home. It would depend what mood I'm in. The conversation with the man I went with would have been interesting after I imagine.

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"V here

But then again I don't do being ignored

Xxxxx"

This;although I would made the cup of tea after I'd had a wank - wouldnt want any scoulding

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple over a year ago

midlands

In that situation im fairly sure you'd bypassed the verbal invite.

I would have joined in or sat comfy and watched for a while.

If you really felt uncomfortable then leaving is an option. Did you leave because you felt uncomfortable or because she was getting all the attention at that time?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That sucks. Plain and simple. The last club I was at it seemed like my date got all the attention from both sexes. I'm fairly decent looking and in great shape... Bit of a blow

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

(((HUG)))

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's down right rude, disrespectful and hurtful I imagine. I would have left too! "

I totally agree - they should have picked up on how you were feeling and made sure that you were involved in whatever way worked best for you!

If you're not happy - get out - you don't own them any consideration! And never go to a group meet unless you have your own transport to leave whenever you want.

I've been there and had to walk out a couple of times - which is why I generally won't consider couples or group meets again, even though I'd like to.

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By *icky999Man over a year ago

warrington

wipe your fanny on the curtains and storm out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If DeeDee wasn't wanting a foursome, and that wasn't what was agreed, then that's shitty on the part of all involved.

And as for her not just diving in "saying more about her", I think that's totally unfair.

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

That's not very nice behaviour at all. So inconsiderate! It's the sort of thing that I could imagine happening to me. I'd have up and left too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The guy you went with should've made sure you were not left out. Bin him!

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. THE MOORLANDS. BARMOUTH.

Why were you standing , didn't they have chairs ?? Lol.... Personally I would have have joined the guys, kissing her, playing with her, then moved onto them and do a bit of rimming and ball sucking xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's down right rude, disrespectful and hurtful I imagine. I would have left too! "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What's the opposite of Fabswinging ?

Shitswinging lol

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS over a year ago

Derby

"my date got all the attention from both sexes. I'm fairly decent looking and in great shape... Bit of a blow"

Well a bit if a blow is better than no blow at all!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why were you standing , didn't they have chairs ?? Lol.... Personally I would have have joined the guys, kissing her, playing with her, then moved onto them and do a bit of rimming and ball sucking xxxxxx

Dee is straight. Why would she join in playing with another woman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

((hugs))

If it was agreed it was a straight swop I'd have been gutted and probably left too xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That sucks. Plain and simple. The last club I was at it seemed like my date got all the attention from both sexes. I'm fairly decent looking and in great shape... Bit of a blow"

Hence why we avoid couples that are looking for a "single woman or a couple" (read: single woman with a spare leg)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd choose my friends more carefully in future. That is a shitty,disrespectful thing that was done to you.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

That's pretty pants

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

Why were you standing there naked and not joining in ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why were you standing there naked and not joining in ?"

Because I can tell when I'm not desired... And it's no fun to just take

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my date got all the attention from both sexes. I'm fairly decent looking and in great shape... Bit of a blow

Well a bit if a blow is better than no blow at all!

That made me giggle

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Why just stand there? Says more about you than them!!"

Have to admit, that's what I thought too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why are some posters making comments about the OP???

It says a lot about the people she met not her, so I don't see the point for digs at her she didn't like the situation so left if I was in the same position I would do the same.

It's about respecting each other and mutual pleasure which this night she wasn't getting from those she met.

Good for you leaving OP block and move on Hun better people who are less selfish out there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are some posters making comments about the OP???

Because it's a forum and people are allowed to have their own opinion / troll under the guise of presenting an alternative opinion - take your pick

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why just stand there? Says more about you than them!!

Have to admit, that's what I thought too."

Why? It was supposed to be a straight swap. She could have dragged the other man away I suppose but she shouldn't have to. Says more about the others to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd choose my friends more carefully in future. That is a shitty,disrespectful thing that was done to you. "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are some posters making comments about the OP???

Because it's a forum and people are allowed to have their own opinion / troll under the guise of presenting an alternative opinion - take your pick"

The usual suspects

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No way would I have tried to join in after it was obvious that nobody was interested in me. That's too much like begging for attention. OP I would also have left. Sorry you had to experience such unpleasant treatment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why just stand there? Says more about you than them!!

Have to admit, that's what I thought too.

Why? It was supposed to be a straight swap. She could have dragged the other man away I suppose. "

Swap man for woman in the final sentence and it starts to sound very rapey, which is why the entire premise that she is at fault for standing there is flawed.

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

Did you chat to your meet beforehand, or did you go as two single people to play with whoever you wanted too.....hard to call without knowing the full facts of the arrangement

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By *ty31Man over a year ago

NW London

Next time chuck a bucket of ice cold water over them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmm I'd like to think in this situation I'd just go and get stuck in with them but the reality is I'd just get dressed and walk out as you did. Very sorry you had such a bad experience though OP big hugs and kisses

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

Very poor behaviour on their part.

I would have made a comment along the lines of - let me know when it's my turn, and if I was still being ignored find the TV remote and found something loud and irritating to watch.

Ruin their fun as much as they have ruined mine.

Yes I can be a bitch, it is part of my charm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did you chat to your meet beforehand, or did you go as two single people to play with whoever you wanted too.....hard to call without knowing the full facts of the arrangement"

Rubbish situation to be in.... Which is why talking things through beforehand is always a good plan. We never leave anyone out - whether it's a threesome or foursome, we want everyone to be relaxed, happy and having a good time. Hope you didn't meet any of them again!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No way would I have tried to join in after it was obvious that nobody was interested in me. That's too much like begging for attention. OP I would also have left. Sorry you had to experience such unpleasant treatment."

I also find it interesting how people on here think you should just throw yourself at the other couples husband when he was showing signs of not being interested! Not to mention the OP's fuck buddy who also ignored her!

It would have been pretty shitty if she had started play with him then he told her to get off!!

But I guess the people commenting on here, about the OP's actions have never had that happen to them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How does "don't just stand there, get stuck in" tally with the advice frequently given to men to ask before touching, don't take sexual attraction for granted and don't be pushy/make unwanted advances?

I'd have left.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How does "don't just stand there, get stuck in" tally with the advice frequently given to men to ask before touching, don't take sexual attraction for granted and don't be pushy/make unwanted advances?

I'd have left. "

oh c'mon Ruby, you know the rules on here by now!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd have left. "

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The guy you went with should've made sure you were not left out. Bin him!"

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's not very nice behaviour at all. So inconsiderate! It's the sort of thing that I could imagine happening to me. I'd have up and left too."

Possibly, if you turned up in toe socks

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

That's not very nice behaviour at all. So inconsiderate! It's the sort of thing that I could imagine happening to me. I'd have up and left too.

Possibly, if you turned up in toe socks

Funny bugger

I imagine quite the opposite. The socks are actually a fanny magnet...so there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd have left. "

Because it's... er... not rape when a woman does it to a man... ?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

I would have left too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would've sparked up a fag and played candy crush, maybe seen what was on the telly. Phhhaa as if, would've felt absolutely shit, kicked my man "friend" in the jimmy screamed at them that they're all a bunch of cunts and walked out, probably key their cars as I was leaving too. Nobody makes me feel shit and gets away it. As for the people saying she should have just joined in you can't do that. That's like turning up to a party you haven't been invited to, if you haven't asked me to come over or shown me that my presence was wanted I ain't gonna initiate shit.

That's a real horrible situation and sorry it happened to you love.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would of played with some balls or tried to fit in at first. if that didn't work I would of said something very cutting to all of them so they knew how I felt then walked out.

sometimes men don't think before they act and get carried away in the moment. They probably didn't notice you were upset until you walked out.

Very rude of them and thoughtless but don't take it to heart. Just put it down as a bad meet, we all have them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have left too....and severed contact with all concerned. I can't be doing with those that don't want me around. This is meant to be fun.

Sorry to hear you had a shit time op.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If have got joined on and made it quite clear I was not a bystander. Unless it was a bad day and I would have made a sarcastic comment , gone to my car telling the guy he had 10mins or he would be walking x

I've been made to feel left out but I just don't allow it now. And if the chat seems to hint at it, then I won't meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd have left. "

Because it was already meant to be a foursum not 3sum and watch. I always make sure we start off with own partners and to be fair I dislike full swap. Prefer all to be in it together x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd have left.

Because it was already meant to be a foursum not 3sum and watch. I always make sure we start off with own partners and to be fair I dislike full swap. Prefer all to be in it together x"

I read it as the OP was expecting a straight swap. She didn't want a threesome and watch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd have left.

Because it was already meant to be a foursum not 3sum and watch. I always make sure we start off with own partners and to be fair I dislike full swap. Prefer all to be in it together x

I read it as the OP was expecting a straight swap. She didn't want a threesome and watch.

My point is people are saying just grab the other bloke, get stuck in etc., but if all the signals are that they just want to play with the other woman I don't blame her at all for leaving and I would too."
I would have too. Or said something. I was just explaining why I thought people were saying. I've had women think that they are having both men and I'm going to twiddle my thumbs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have left too

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd have put the telly on and used their landline to phone a friend and had a catch up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id have got dressed and gone home

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

I would have let them know I was leaving (probably in quite a pointed fashion) and gone. That's well out of order so I might also have flounced out rather than tiptoeing politely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

mrs here i would have left too and the guy i went with would have been told to piss off next time he made contact ..simples me thinks

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple over a year ago

midlands

I'd have left. "

Being as they were ALL naked. The time for discussion HAD past. They had all agreed so how is it in anyway similar to a bloke needing to get consent before touching.

Had the couple posted this...

'We had a meet arranged with 2 singles coming to ours as a couple, so we all got naked, started having fun and without a word the woman disappeared!! If we'd wanted a single bloke we'd have invited a single bloke round"

Answers would be very different then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd have left.

Being as they were ALL naked. The time for discussion HAD past. They had all agreed so how is it in anyway similar to a bloke needing to get consent before touching.

Had the couple posted this...

Answers would be very different then."

From the OP: "it was supposed to be a straight swap". Granted we don't know all that happened but based on the OP, it had already deviated from what had been discussed.

And if in your alternative scenario, the woman had been standing there looking uncomfortable and at no point had any of the other three there tried to get her to join in, before she left, I'm not sure the answers given would be that different. You know when you're not wanted, based on the way people behave.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple over a year ago

midlands

I'd have left.

Being as they were ALL naked. The time for discussion HAD past. They had all agreed so how is it in anyway similar to a bloke needing to get consent before touching.

Had the couple posted this...

Answers would be very different then.

From the OP: "it was supposed to be a straight swap". Granted we don't know all that happened but based on the OP, it had already deviated from what had been discussed.

I've done group fun. I said earlier if she was uncomfortable she was free to and indeed should leave.

When I'm out with friends, them enjoying a moment (being pleasured by two men certainly qualifies) then I've enjoyed seeing them have fun. Not flounced off. It's supposed to fun. I've joined in and things change, 3 on 1 or splits into 2 on 2 & so many other combinations.

I wouldn't have then popped up on a forum with it. Especially not one where potentially both other parties can read about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd have left.

Being as they were ALL naked. The time for discussion HAD past. They had all agreed so how is it in anyway similar to a bloke needing to get consent before touching.

Had the couple posted this...

Answers would be very different then.

From the OP: "it was supposed to be a straight swap". Granted we don't know all that happened but based on the OP, it had already deviated from what had been discussed.

I've done group fun. I said earlier if she was uncomfortable she was free to and indeed should leave.

I wouldn't have then popped up on a forum with it. Especially not one where potentially both other parties can read about it. "

Good for you. I'd also have felt uncomfortable and "flounced off". I'm human.

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

I'd have left.

Being as they were ALL naked. The time for discussion HAD past. They had all agreed so how is it in anyway similar to a bloke needing to get consent before touching.

Had the couple posted this...

Answers would be very different then.

From the OP: "it was supposed to be a straight swap". Granted we don't know all that happened but based on the OP, it had already deviated from what had been discussed.

I've done group fun. I said earlier if she was uncomfortable she was free to and indeed should leave.

I wouldn't have then popped up on a forum with it. Especially not one where potentially both other parties can read about it. "

I've enjoyed group fun and it has been a fluid thing with various combinations. However, if I had arranged a straight swap and it ended up being something else entirely and I was being totally left out without a renegotiation or some acknowledgement of my presence then I too would be upset. Which is the impression I got from the OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bloody rude I think. Did they try and entice you back when it was clear you were getting ready to go?? Just curious x

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