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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"
If you;ve seen someone a few times it;s both cowardly and unpleasant to just blank them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'd met someone a few times then I thinks it's the adult thing to tell them it's not working out
Ignoring them wouldn't be very nice and I wouldn't want to be treated like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"
Definitely tell 
What if the shoe was on the other foot  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jesus you've got to tell them, I thought I was bad when I told some one face to face that I didn't think that our "relationship" was going anywhere, and used the phrase "hakkuna mattatta" I feel so much better about myself now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"  People just stop responding to people they are dating?
I'm so glad I didn't date much. 
-Courtney"
your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!
i dated a girl few times (no sex) and she said shes only 21 and does not want anything serious, i said thats fine, we can leave things if you like, she said she liked me and if wanted a bf id be at the top
now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" People just stop responding to people they are dating?
I'm so glad I didn't date much.
-Courtney
your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!
i dated a girl few times (no sex) and she said shes only 21 and does not want anything serious, i said thats fine, we can leave things if you like, she said she liked me and if wanted a bf id be at the top
now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s
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At least it sounds like she was trying to be nice. Imagine if she just ignored you!
-Courtney |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Dating??
If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes "
Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" People just stop responding to people they are dating?
I'm so glad I didn't date much.
-Courtney
your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!
i dated a girl few times (no sex) and she said shes only 21 and does not want anything serious, i said thats fine, we can leave things if you like, she said she liked me and if wanted a bf id be at the top
now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s
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Sounds like she was letting you down gently. Nothing confusing about that, although the best friend's motive in telling you is not clear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Discuss with them and just be authentic - it's like trying a sport and realising it doesn't suit you ..... Let the team know u don't wish to participate any more. done X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dating??
If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes
Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for "
Proud to be a bitch here.
I've found with stalkers that if you tell them they aren't interested they just ignore that, but feel is it best to tell them first then you've at least been clear and anything they do after that is obviously harassment or some kind of disorder where they don't care what you want. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Dating??
If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes
Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for
Proud to be a bitch here.
I've found with stalkers that if you tell them they aren't interested they just ignore that, but feel is it best to tell them first then you've at least been clear and anything they do after that is obviously harassment or some kind of disorder where they don't care what you want."
I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dating??
If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes
Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for
Proud to be a bitch here.
I've found with stalkers that if you tell them you aren't interested they just ignore that, but feel is it best to tell them first then you've at least been clear and anything they do after that is obviously harassment or some kind of disorder where they don't care what you want.
I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again!"
You don't have to change anything you do, that was just my opinion on it and it just makes me feel like i've been clear and they can't make excuses for their poor behaviour afterwards.
I think most guys are just here to fuck so that's why they wouldn't wanna stay friends witohut sex being involved, but at least you find out what they're really like eventually. People don't just turn abusive i reckon, they just hide it until they feel it's ok to show people what they're really like.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Dating??
If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes
Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for
Proud to be a bitch here.
I've found with stalkers that if you tell them you aren't interested they just ignore that, but feel is it best to tell them first then you've at least been clear and anything they do after that is obviously harassment or some kind of disorder where they don't care what you want.
I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again!
You don't have to change anything you do, that was just my opinion on it and it just makes me feel like i've been clear and they can't make excuses for their poor behaviour afterwards.
I think most guys are just here to fuck so that's why they wouldn't wanna stay friends witohut sex being involved, but at least you find out what they're really like eventually. People don't just turn abusive i reckon, they just hide it until they feel it's ok to show people what they're really like.
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Exactly!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dating??
If that's the case then of course you should tell them. Actually even of its just nsa it would be the right thing to do in my eyes
Ok, I'm obviously more of a bitch than I gave myself credit for
Proud to be a bitch here.
I've found with stalkers that if you tell them you aren't interested they just ignore that, but feel is it best to tell them first then you've at least been clear and anything they do after that is obviously harassment or some kind of disorder where they don't care what you want.
I've also been on the other hand where I have said I'm not attracted to them but wouldn't mind keeping in touch...loads of abuse after that one, so will not subject that to myself again!
You don't have to change anything you do, that was just my opinion on it and it just makes me feel like i've been clear and they can't make excuses for their poor behaviour afterwards.
I think most guys are just here to fuck so that's why they wouldn't wanna stay friends without sex being involved, but at least you find out what they're really like eventually. People don't just turn abusive i reckon, they just hide it until they feel it's ok to show people what they're really like.
Exactly! "
The suckiest thing about NSA for me is the amount of predatory, manipulative people involved in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are we talking about meets on fab or real life ?
If its fab I slowly but surely back off as in, sorry cant meet ive commitments, a family thing etc...
In real life, honesty is best policy, no point in toying with someone who is getting a little attached  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How many times is a few times? I'd prefer to be told rather than ignored. I hate being ignored, sends me insane if I see they've been online on whatsapp or something and not answered my message, messages that don't warrant a response are fine but messages where I've asked a question or if you aren't sure how the other person feels an ignored text gives me a horrible I can't shake off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"
I think it's only right to be upfront |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I haven't dated in real life in over 10 years so I don't owe anyone anything! On here I treat people how they treat me, so the answer may well be in the question, and NSA is just that, but I always give and expect respect where it is warranted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore them of course hahaha
Like anyone's going to admit to that here 
Already have!"
Quick to justify yourself by saying he was a 'stalker' though weren't ya 
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"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha
If you;ve seen someone a few times it;s both cowardly and unpleasant to just blank them"
So much this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" People just stop responding to people they are dating?
I'm so glad I didn't date much.
-Courtney
your lucky your married, dating these days seems confusing!
i dated a girl few times (no sex) and she said shes only 21 and does not want anything serious, i said thats fine, we can leave things if you like, she said she liked me and if wanted a bf id be at the top
now her best mates said she was never ever interested in me :s
At least it sounds like she was trying to be nice. Imagine if she just ignored you!
-Courtney"
yeah i just want the truth tho, we are still friends, i think shes a little confused, shes only young, who knows |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Ignore them of course hahaha
Like anyone's going to admit to that here
Already have!
Quick to justify yourself by saying he was a 'stalker' though weren't ya
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And you know otherwise do you? Typical bloody male who thinks every female is a bloody liar to suit their needs! Grow Up! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ignore them of course hahaha
Like anyone's going to admit to that here
Already have!
Quick to justify yourself by saying he was a 'stalker' though weren't ya
And you know otherwise do you? Typical bloody male who thinks every female is a bloody liar to suit their needs! Grow Up!"
Here, let me help you with those toys you just threw out your pram |
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"Only fair to tell them. I've been on the receiving end of the 'ignore' scenario and it aint nice. "
Here here....ive been in the "ignore" end twice now.
Do not get why people cannot be upfront and honest...we are not kids anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Treat others how you want to be treated...
If you ignore your gonna hurt them so why not grow a pair and hurt them straight out
Band aid being ripped and all that jazz.
If their creepy or clingy... I'd ignore though, after hinting initially. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, your dating someone a few times, then decide your not wanting to see them anymore, are you the tell them type and reply explaing or just ignore the messages type? haha"
Dating?
If you have been dating somebody why would you even think of not telling them it was over?
Or do you mean somebody you have met a few times off here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh my good golly gosh, if someone wants to stop seeing a person they've been dating, they should have the balls to respectfully let that person know. The 'ignoring and hiding' thing is ridiculous. |
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