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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would you say you are an open minded person, willing to listen to others who have, say, more personal experience in something or is your mind already made up and nothing will change it, even if you've made up your mind about something before you've even experienced it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Definitely open minded here  u never take things for granted, always have to try things once, and always like to listen to other viewpoints, sometimes they change my mindset, sometimes they don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I will listen to all views and experiences,sometimes I'll change my mind about something and other times I won't,that doesn't mean I don't find other peoples take on a subject less valid |
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I will certainly listen to other people's ways of doing things and at least try them if I'm having difficulty performing a particular task, but more often than not, they are no better and I go back to doing it my way in the end  |
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I don't think I'm quite so clear cut! Probably 2/3rds open. Whilst I like to think I always listen....I often have at least made some assumptions already. But I'm big enough to admit I have got it wrong.
I think though I'm far less open about forming opinions about people - and I think I'm nearly always right too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say you are an open minded person, willing to listen to others who have, say, more personal experience in something or is your mind already made up and nothing will change it, even if you've made up your mind about something before you've even experienced it?"
Open-minded.
I am happy to be temporarily resolute in my opinions but am ooen-minded enough to declare that experience/evidence/evolving may change that opinion at sometime in the future. |
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I'm open minded, will listen to there views. But if someone gets uppitidy because I ask a question on something I don't understand or they start going off and talking what I consider bollocks on something then it will turn me completly the other way and even if some of what they say is right I will already be completly turned off, I call it doing their cause more harm than good
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like to think of myself as being open-minded and listen to others' perspectives, even if they are difficult or uncomfortable to hear at the time. I like to think I learn from them as well. I try not to form fixed opinions about anything I haven't experienced, I may have a view based on assumptions and/or related experiences but try to remain open to learning. However some views I consider ill-informed or partial and depending on the situation I will share my different perspective with differing degrees of assertion. Alternatively I just let them continue to be ill-informed, because it isn't worth the effort of attempting to change that. On here I have learned to do the latter. I like to think I am very willing to admit when I'm wrong....eventually |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good post! I would say that I try to be open minded but I know in some cases that I'm not. "
Same here, I really thought I was open minded especially to new things. It can be a bit of a wake up call when I catch myself not being as open as I thought!  |
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"Good post! I would say that I try to be open minded but I know in some cases that I'm not.
Same here, I really thought I was open minded especially to new things. It can be a bit of a wake up call when I catch myself not being as open as I thought! "
I think open mindedness is like intelligence it's only really any use if you're aware of your limits in that respect and are prepared to challenge them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good post! I would say that I try to be open minded but I know in some cases that I'm not.
Same here, I really thought I was open minded especially to new things. It can be a bit of a wake up call when I catch myself not being as open as I thought!
I think open mindedness is like intelligence it's only really any use if you're aware of your limits in that respect and are prepared to challenge them."
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I'm an open minded person. I'm always willing to listen and take on board what people have to say. It can be a great way to learn. Obviously I can usually discern if someone's talking total bollocks but I'll listen to what they have to say nonetheless. People who close off their minds are fools. |
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"A person with an open mind is an idiot
A person with a closed mind is a bigot
A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be.
Quite correct."
I'd also agree
Suggesting the op statement is a simplistic and false dichotomy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A person with an open mind is an idiot
A person with a closed mind is a bigot
A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be.
Quite correct.
I'd also agree
Suggesting the op statement is a simplistic and false dichotomy "
Being open minded I have also discerned that this may be a very useful perspective |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A person with an open mind is an idiot
A person with a closed mind is a bigot
A person with a DISCERNING mind, that's the way to be.
Quite correct.
I'd also agree
Suggesting the op statement is a simplistic and false dichotomy "
Oh I'm so sorry, brains of Britain  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think there is a subtle difference between discussing a matter / topic with someone who has personal experience of the subject as opposed to them having just another opinion.
Overall I'm pretty open minded, it's a another way of learning even if I don't agree. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.
It drives me mad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.
It drives me mad."
Oh I do that. But only when I'm certain I'm right |
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"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.
It drives me mad."
You'll have also noticed as well then that some people know everything there is to know and are thus always right! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.
It drives me mad.
Oh I do that. But only when I'm certain I'm right "
You're a woman. You're always right  |
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Live and let live I say. We all have different views. I'm pretty open minded, I think. Something's will never be changed but how can you ever begin too know if you don't hear a different point of view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.
It drives me mad."
You say that on every thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say you are an open minded person, willing to listen to others who have, say, more personal experience in something or is your mind already made up and nothing will change it, even if you've made up your mind about something before you've even experienced it?"
Depends on what it is.
I'm always happy to change my mind with evidence but usually those claiming to be "open minded" are ignoring all evidence and instead asking us all to belive their word alone.
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"My post was influenced by seeing that some people say the same thing over and over again on certain topics without seeming to listen to anyone else's views.
It drives me mad.
You'll have also noticed as well then that some people know everything there is to know and are thus always right!"
Haha oh yes, quite a few of those! Just smile and nod |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say you are an open minded person, willing to listen to others who have, say, more personal experience in something or is your mind already made up and nothing will change it, even if you've made up your mind about something before you've even experienced it?"
Iv become more open minded since joining fab, sometimes I'm adament I won't do it try something, often give it ago, however if I get pressured I won't do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!
I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.
I think context is key here.
If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.
If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.
For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.
If he told me how to style my hair, I'd say "Oi May, Noooooo! I appreciate and aspire to your musical talent, however, I do not relate to your bouffant prowess, kindly stop advising me on this subject IMMEDIATELY!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say you are an open minded person, willing to listen to others who have, say, more personal experience in something or is your mind already made up and nothing will change it, even if you've made up your mind about something before you've even experienced it?
Depends on what it is.
I'm always happy to change my mind with evidence but usually those claiming to be "open minded" are ignoring all evidence and instead asking us all to belive their word alone.
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I concur |
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"Fairly open, student of life.
Bigotry, racism, misogyny, non consensual acts, homo and transphobia can stay in the bin though
Abso-friggin-lutely! Though add xenophobia on there too"
Ah yes, good call.
And anyone who doesn't like Prince  |
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Always open minded and have a growth mind set. However, if someone presents as closed minded or set in their ways, then I am not interested, so I guess that makes me have little of the close minded gene too, then ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm open minded and eager to learn. Some people are so full of shit though that they're extremely are to tolerate, so I get called stubborn when I just have a different perspective. |
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Depends on how the subject matter is being put across, if it is 'I know best' way then I am a closed mind. If it put across in a well thought out way then I will be open to it, I might take it fully on board and get behind it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!
I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.
I think context is key here.
If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.
If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.
For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.
If he told me how to style my hair, I'd say "Oi May, Noooooo! I appreciate and aspire to your musical talent, however, I do not relate to your bouffant prowess, kindly stop advising me on this subject IMMEDIATELY!""
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!
I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.
I think context is key here.
If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.
If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.
For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.
If he told me how to style my hair, I'd say "Oi May, Noooooo! I appreciate and aspire to your musical talent, however, I do not relate to your bouffant prowess, kindly stop advising me on this subject IMMEDIATELY!""
I love this answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Firstly, this is one of the best open questions that I've ever read!
I generally find that emotions can spur false perceptions.
I think context is key here.
If I consider advice to be thrust upon me, or the opinion is from someone that I consider to be "stuck in their way", I follow my heart.
If I respect the person for who they are, and the subject relates, I listen, ears wide open.
For example, if Brian May told me how to play a guitar, I'd listen, furiously.
If he told me how to style my hair, I'd say "Oi May, Noooooo! I appreciate and aspire to your musical talent, however, I do not relate to your bouffant prowess, kindly stop advising me on this subject IMMEDIATELY!""
Excellent! Exactly this, I'd say I'm fairly open minded, I'll listen to what anyone has to say on any subject, filter out the shit and pointless stuff and keep the interesting stuff stored in my head. |
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I've not read the comments and assume no one has stated they have a closed mind - could be a bit of a killer for them.
I'm much more in the open minded aspect of the continuum. I have some strong opinions on things but have also changed my opinions, based on what I've learned from others. In person I am a good listener and in the forums I usually am too.
It's a tough one sometimes where, for example, published evidence indicates very strongly that a certain position is more likely to be true and someone is arguing the opposite. I'll certainly be intrigued as to what it is that I may not be understanding of, that someone else may have grasped.
And I definitely accept that others who are experienced may very well understand things in a way that I won't have had the chance to. It seems foolish for me to ignore the value of others' experience and potentially even any person's insight. |
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