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Single guys...sometimes you just can't win

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I had a lady make contact on here last weekend, we got on well chatting and said when we were both able to, we should meet up for a social and see how we get on.

I wasn't pushing or pestering, so no problem there.

I haven't been on for a few days and come back to find she has now blocked me!?

I'm guessing it's because I'm not paying enough attention or not knocking her door down to meet instantly.

How can guys win, if we're too pushy we get blocked, if we behave appropriately we get blocked.

Aaaaargh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Possibly. Or she changed her mind? Could be many reasons, her prerogative.

Dust yourself off, keep positive, head high and hopefully something else will pop up as an alternative soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Her loss.

Move on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surely if you had behaved appropriately for her, you would not have been blocked?

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS over a year ago

nottingham

Maybe she just changed her mind

Shit happens

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Maybe she was a he

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She wasn't interested for whatever reason. Really no point wasting any of your time worrying about it. Put the effort into people who do want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she was a he"

Now thats just cynical talk!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she just changed her mind

Shit happens"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had a lady make contact on here last weekend, we got on well chatting and said when we were both able to, we should meet up for a social and see how we get on.

I wasn't pushing or pestering, so no problem there.

I haven't been on for a few days and come back to find she has now blocked me!?

I'm guessing it's because I'm not paying enough attention or not knocking her door down to meet instantly.

How can guys win, if we're too pushy we get blocked, if we behave appropriately we get blocked.

Aaaaargh!

Welcome to the wonderful world of fab and its many games

Obviously not worth meeting in the first place.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Maybe she was a he

Now thats just cynical talk!

There are so many men posing as women on here. I've been caught out more than once, but am now a good deal wiser...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes it could have been that or one of many other reasons.

not worth the effort in over thinking the situation.

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By *oward1978Man over a year ago

Rotherham

"I had a lady make contact on here last weekend, we got on well chatting and said when we were both able to, we should meet up for a social and see how we get on.

I wasn't pushing or pestering, so no problem there.

I haven't been on for a few days and come back to find she has now blocked me!?

I'm guessing it's because I'm not paying enough attention or not knocking her door down to meet instantly.

How can guys win, if we're too pushy we get blocked, if we behave appropriately we get blocked.

Aaaaargh!

Welcome to the wonderful world of fab and its many games

Obviously not worth meeting in the first place."

Yep, this is Fab! Don't try to think about it too much, it'll drive you mad.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well it aint just us ladies ive just had a guy message me and just now he msg me and said that he had been watching me and that i treated this place like fb and to stop with my stupid status and advertise for men as this is a swinging site

lmao some people just arnt worth the time of day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"well it aint just us ladies ive just had a guy message me and just now he msg me and said that he had been watching me and that i treated this place like fb and to stop with my stupid status and advertise for men as this is a swinging site

lmao some people just arnt worth the time of day"

I'm amazed how some are so obsessed with how others use their profile, it doesn't affect them at all. How sad. You should have thanked him for the attention lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lmao some people just arnt worth the time of day

I'm amazed how some are so obsessed with how others use their profile, it doesn't affect them at all. How sad. You should have thanked him for the attention lol"

i was going to but the mouse of a man blocked me b4 i could lol

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Maybe because you'd not had much contact prior to the meet she thought you were a time-waster, there are many possibilities.

Also please note that it is merely your opinion that you behaved appropriately, she could have an entirely different view. There would be arguments for the fact that since you've discussed the interaction publicly on the forums, you're not behaving very appropriately at all, yes you've not named names but to some it won't make it any less right that you've done this and she will know who you mean if she were to read it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lmao some people just arnt worth the time of day

I'm amazed how some are so obsessed with how others use their profile, it doesn't affect them at all. How sad. You should have thanked him for the attention lol

i was going to but the mouse of a man blocked me b4 i could lol"

Sounds like someone who has no self confidence and is frustrated with his lack of success on here. No one who is happy in their life wastes time slagging others off for no reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lmao some people just arnt worth the time of day

I'm amazed how some are so obsessed with how others use their profile, it doesn't affect them at all. How sad. You should have thanked him for the attention lol

i was going to but the mouse of a man blocked me b4 i could lol

Sounds like someone who has no self confidence and is frustrated with his lack of success on here. No one who is happy in their life wastes time slagging others off for no reason. "

exactly have a great day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a woman pretending to be a man pretending to be a woman

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By *aneandpaulCouple over a year ago

cleveleys

"I'm a woman pretending to be a man pretending to be a woman

Plenty of those about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe in hindsight she's just not that into you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe because you'd not had much contact prior to the meet she thought you were a time-waster, there are many possibilities.

I just knew it would end up being the guy's fault in the end!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe because you'd not had much contact prior to the meet she thought you were a time-waster, there are many possibilities.

If that rule were used across the board at all times then the forums would be fairly empty! Are you really saying people have no right to discuss their experiences on here?? I thought that was partially what the forums are for?

Anyway op - looking at your profile you've been around a while - so I doubt this will bother you too much!

Although I wouldn't have blocked - as I only do that in extreme circumstances - if someone I arranged to meet hadn't been online for several days then I might well assume he'd changed his mind (or life had simply got in the way) and make other plans - more because my child-free time is very limited than pique on my part!

Think some up-to date photos might be an idea btw - most seem about 5 years old? Great profile text though!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had a lady make contact on here last weekend, we got on well chatting and said when we were both able to, we should meet up for a social and see how we get on.

I wasn't pushing or pestering, so no problem there.

I haven't been on for a few days and come back to find she has now blocked me!?

I'm guessing it's because I'm not paying enough attention or not knocking her door down to meet instantly.

How can guys win, if we're too pushy we get blocked, if we behave appropriately we get blocked.

Aaaaargh!

The eternal question what do women want ? Lol keep smiling bud

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By *TMA that man againMan over a year ago

worester

"Maybe she was a he"

This......we have come across a fair few in time on here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe she was a he

This......we have come across a fair few in time on here!"

I'm a he!! I'm called Barry! I've got a great arse though!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just write it off and move on.

could be all manor of reasons why she blocked you ! No point in wasting your time by speculating Why ?

lots more women out there and on here.

Have Fun and Happy Swinging.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Maybe because you'd not had much contact prior to the meet she thought you were a time-waster, there are many possibilities.

Anyway op - looking at your profile you've been around a while - so I doubt this will bother you too much!

Think some up-to date photos might be an idea btw - most seem about 5 years old? Great profile text though!

No I'm not blaming the guy or saying they don't have a right to discuss it, which is why I did offer a suggestion of my the lady in question behaved they way she did, I'm merely saying its a perspective to consider

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