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How to leave the friend zone?
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"Worst that can happen is she says no and you're in the position you're in now right? " If she says no then our whole relationship would be totally different right? I'm assuming she'd be more distant if I do express myself. Ahhh love is so confusing lol | |||
"Basically I like this girl. I've known her a long time but only the past couple of years we've actually spoke and got closer. Problem is she sees me as a mate. Idk just wondering is it worth spending all this time on a girl who really is never going to be interested in you? "How do you know she only sees you as a mate? | |||
"How do you know she only sees you as a mate? " Cause she talks about other guys to me  | |||
"How do you know she only sees you as a mate? Cause she talks about other guys to me "so? | |||
"so?" Wouldn't that mean she's into other guys rather than me? | |||
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"Basically I like this girl. I've known her a long time but only the past couple of years we've actually spoke and got closer. Problem is she sees me as a mate. Idk just wondering is it worth spending all this time on a girl who really is never going to be interested in you? "It sounds like you see the end goal of friendship with women as sex. On that basis, I think you should stop being her friend. Because she doesn't need friends who are only tolerating her because they want a fuck. | |||
"Worth taking the chance. The positives if she feels the same outweigh the negatives if she doesn't. Take a chance OP and good luck. " Ahh him so confused  but thank you for your advice x | |||
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"I don't think it is possible to escape the friend zone. "You could be right there  | |||
"Basically I like this girl. I've known her a long time but only the past couple of years we've actually spoke and got closer. Problem is she sees me as a mate. Idk just wondering is it worth spending all this time on a girl who really is never going to be interested in you? "My ex is in the friend zone but he loves her so much, he even told her once bit their friendship survived, you know why? Because she actually feels the same way but both are so bloody awkward at making the first move when they are sober!! Tell her you might get a shock x | |||
"Ahhh love is so confusing lol" It is very confusing but if you're meant to be together it'll work out one way or another. If she doesn't know though you'll never find out take the plunge, good luck OP | |||
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"I don't think it is possible to escape the friend zone.
You could be right there "Of course it's possible , but one of you had to make the move. Better to find out sooner than later. Plus, I advise you to listen closely to what she says about the other guys. Can tell you a lot | |||
"I don't think it is possible to escape the friend zone. "Sure it is, borrow money from them, and don't pay it back, no more friend zone  | |||
"If you like and respect her for who she is then why would you not want to spend time with her? When I was younger I had a very good male friend and we would spend a lot of time together. It was always platonic and I never flirted, ever. I split up with a boyfriend and started seeing someone else. Male friend was furious as he believed that investing time into our friendship entitled him to a romantic relationship. He even said that it should have been 'his turn'. What a twat." Na I always cherish the time I spend with her. Even if it's for 5 mins. We talk a lot through texts and stuff and the amount of times I re read old messages is embarrassing lmao it actually feels nice to relive the messages if that makes sense? I would always support her 100% with all her decisions. Even if she decided to go out with someone else. I'll alway be there for her as friendship does and always come first. But the thing is if I do express my feeling and she does say no then I'm afraid the friendship won't be the same. Like you never know it might not change but I'm not willing to take that risk. Btw I'm sorry to here about yourale friend | |||
"Ahhh love is so confusing lol It is very confusing but if you're meant to be together it'll work out one way or another. If she doesn't know though you'll never find out take the plunge, good luck OP" Thanks you for your advice x | |||
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"i think that you should just tell her how you feel or you could regret it and life is to short to have regrets as for your friendship not being the same if she dusnt feel the same then just deal with that if and when it happens now are you a man or a mouse lol go get her good luck "Exactly - if you really like her would you really be happy just being friends? Go for it life's too short for regrets | |||
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"If you like and respect her for who she is then why would you not want to spend time with her? When I was younger I had a very good male friend and we would spend a lot of time together. It was always platonic and I never flirted, ever. I split up with a boyfriend and started seeing someone else. Male friend was furious as he believed that investing time into our friendship entitled him to a romantic relationship. He even said that it should have been 'his turn'. What a twat. Na I always cherish the time I spend with her. Even if it's for 5 mins. We talk a lot through texts and stuff and the amount of times I re read old messages is embarrassing lmao it actually feels nice to relive the messages if that makes sense? I would always support her 100% with all her decisions. Even if she decided to go out with someone else. I'll alway be there for her as friendship does and always come first. But the thing is if I do express my feeling and she does say no then I'm afraid the friendship won't be the same. Like you never know it might not change but I'm not willing to take that risk. Btw I'm sorry to here about yourale friend "Mate I know that this situation is hard for you, and I know you have the feeling that it's a do or die situation, all or nothing if you will, but, and I mean this with the upmost respect but you have to man the fuck up! If you lose you lose, if you win you win, but if you don't play your hand, you could waste your life day dreaming about what could have been, I mean what are you going to do, be her friend for the rest of your life, watch her get married, have kids with another man, even have her kids call you uncle? All the time thinking they should be calling you dad? No, you can't win in that situation, you just have to take a breath, and spill it all out, if she rejects you, yeah it will hurt, and then you start to live your life, the pain eases and you then meet someone else, but at least you know where you stand, instead of being in shrodingers relationship. I feel for you I really do, but don't hold on to strong emotions, or you will end up on her doorstep at Christmas with a portable stereo, and a load of cards | |||
"If you like and respect her for who she is then why would you not want to spend time with her? When I was younger I had a very good male friend and we would spend a lot of time together. It was always platonic and I never flirted, ever. I split up with a boyfriend and started seeing someone else. Male friend was furious as he believed that investing time into our friendship entitled him to a romantic relationship. He even said that it should have been 'his turn'. What a twat. Na I always cherish the time I spend with her. Even if it's for 5 mins. We talk a lot through texts and stuff and the amount of times I re read old messages is embarrassing lmao it actually feels nice to relive the messages if that makes sense? I would always support her 100% with all her decisions. Even if she decided to go out with someone else. I'll alway be there for her as friendship does and always come first. But the thing is if I do express my feeling and she does say no then I'm afraid the friendship won't be the same. Like you never know it might not change but I'm not willing to take that risk. Btw I'm sorry to here about yourale friend "It's ok, I found other friends who liked me for me rather than what they thought they could get from me. Sounds like you truly cherish her and I think you should tell her so. | |||
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"Google 'Kev's Courting Song' lyrics. "I've saved you the trouble.
Verse 1
Blown too much of me time buying dinner and wine
And me money on flowers and lollies
Only to find that what's on me mind
Isn't on hers and she's sorry
So I've made up some lines that save wastin' time
And keep me from blowin' me brass
I'm ever so cool I just prop on the stool
Right next to hers and I ask:
Chorus
'Do you fuck on first dates?
Does your dad own a brewery?
Could I feel your tits?
Or would you show 'em to me?
Cause you've you've got a nice head
And you look pretty honest
So me face'll be leavin' in a quarter of an hour--
I'd like you to be on it'
Verse 2
You know how it feels when you first meet a sheila
And the bullshit you've gotta go through
Like callin' her up and tellin' her you love her
When all that you'd love is just to screw
But she wants to hold hands and you to meet her old man
And sit around for hours and talk
But me new method is, you just cut through the shit
And get down to the goodies straight off:
Chorus
'Do you fuck on first dates?
Does your dad own a brewery?
Could I feel your tits?
Or would you show 'em to me?
Do you sleep in the nick?
Do you give head very often?
If we can decide, your place or mine
We can fuck off then'
Verse 3
So the next time you see a good-lookin' sheila
And you'd give a week's pay just to hold her
Don't sit acting dumb, just front her full-on
And drop a few lines like I told you
This new method of mine might not work every time
But then again no method will
I've been spat at and slapped, and kneed in the knackers
But then I've got a few fucks as well
Chorus
'Do you fuck on first dates?
Does your dad own a brewery?
Could I feel your tits?
Or would you show 'em to me?
If the answer is 'No'
To me questions above --
Then be a good sport and give me the name
Of a girlfriend who does!' | |||
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