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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, so I've been chatting to someone for a while now. We seem to get on really well and have both said that we find each other attractive and like each other. We're finally going to meet. My problem is that I'm now having thoughts, that I'll be a disappointment to them. They'll see me in the flesh and think omfg!! Is it just nerves? We nearly met once before but it never happened, life did!! Hhhhhmmmm. |
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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago
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I tend to make the first meet a social only. That way there's no expectations or disappointments especially if we don't get on face to face for whatever reason....the 2nd meet..well thats where all the fun starts 
I still get nervous but never upset if they don't like me....horses for courses and all the other clichés |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to make the first meet a social only. That way there's no expectations or disappointments especially if we don't get on face to face for whatever reason....the 2nd meet..well thats where all the fun starts
I still get nervous but never upset if they don't like me....horses for courses and all the other clichés "
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Meeting somebody new is always exciting and somewhat terrifying. Both people are going to be nervous, but I try and focus on the journey of discovery were both going to embark on. Having self confidence is a very sexy trait, and sometimes no matter what you do, it won't work out the way you envisioned. When it doesn't work it's not anybody's fault or because you lack something. I'm always honest and don't put on a show, if they don't like the real you it's their loss and there tons of fabbers in the sea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not just you OP - I feel exactly the same.
All you can do is go and be yourself, if they like you they like you, if they don't, well it was never meant to be.
They may well have he the same fears as you too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys. Have chatted with them again and told them I'm a bit worried they'll be disappointed. I've been told that they won't be!!!! So that has helped alot!! Now it's just the butterflies and nerves to deal with.  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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if your pictures are honest then you have nothing to worry about. Both you and them know what each other looks like and are meeting as you get along.
People can talk themselves out of meets - there's nothing more off putting than someone who is constantly going on about something. Say a spot; unnoticeable to most but you point it out to everybody and they will look at it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pre-nerves are part of it of us. Be yourself, they know what you look like, and as you are meeting, and they like what they see. Go for it and have a great time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just nerves & anticipation of meeting.
The day we stop getting butterflies before a meet is the day we know we wont enjoy swinging anymore, it all adds to the excitement & pleasures ahead.
Enjoy your meet x |
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