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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm still on annual leave, and I've found myself watching a programme on BBC 1 in the mornings called Wanted Down Under.
I make no apologies for loving it, and think for those wishing to emigrate it's a once in a lifetime opportunity to actually see if they could make it work.
What has surprised me is the parents seem to leave such an important decision to their children - we're talking 10 year olds in some instances. If little Johnny doesn't want to leave his friends them mummy and daddy will stay in Blighty!
Is this a cultural thing?!! My parents never consulted us when we were moving, and my husband and I never sat our kids down and asked them permission to move.
Would you leave such an important decision to your 10 year old?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't, but then I was raised that children were supposed to be children, and the adults made the decisions.
I wouldn't move now since my oldest child is now in high school and to move her wouldn't be a very sensible idea - going on the fact I have the choice at the moment, if it was needed for our families safety then in a heartbeat she would have her schooling disrupted.
However we have moved a few times during my oldest childs life and at no point did my husband and I ever consult her or my younger daughter, we are the adults and we knew the reasons for needing to move home. Work, need (junkies upstairs and through the wall) better area, whatever we deemed the reason.
I do however think it is better to move abroad when you have either no children or very young children since it may be disruptive to their schooling once they are of school age, however I am not in the position of having that as a choice so of course I can sit here and easily say I wouldnt ask my child, however if I was in the same position I would like to think I would make the adult decision with my husband.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's why I was a little perplexed: parents are supposed to be adults and make the decisions. These parents don't the kids seem to have the final say! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friends of ours were due to emigrate to Oz,house boughtand the visas and everything sorted. She got pregnant,"not to worry,we'll have the kid here and just put everything back a year" they said
She had the baby,then sadly she got post natal depression and they split and divorced
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As stockings & boxers says, my child's welfare was a factor to consider when we moved (internationally... twice!), but in no way was that decision left to him. He was told what we - the adults - had decided to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex husband and I spent many years being moved about with HM Forces, both my older kids benefited from travel and where ever we went they picked up friends.
If they weren't in boarding school all service kids were in the same situation.
Not once do I ever recall any of those kids being asked about moving. |
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