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Anyone else find that people just don't reply to messages?
Is there something super unattractive about my profile or something?
I'm from a pretty small island so i get it that people are nervous but im always polite and straight forward but often I notice they don't even look at my profile before deleting the message?
Any ideas folks?! Haha |
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"Anyone else find that people just don't reply to messages?
Is there something super unattractive about my profile or something?
I'm from a pretty small island so i get it that people are nervous but im always polite and straight forward but often I notice they don't even look at my profile before deleting the message?
Any ideas folks?! Haha"
You are from a small island. Three brief sentences and two cock pictures do not make an enticing profile, either. |
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""... Seen a few ladies being harassed on here recently. It's a real shame some men ruin it for all. Name and shame I say...."
In what possible way am I ruining your fab experience? "
? what was this for? No one said nothing on this thread.. |
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"Well it puts woman off and they stop coming on the site and don't recommend it to other women. That just makes sense, right?"
some will do and others will just ignore those whom in your perception are 'ruining it'..
not borne out by the number of people still enjoying meeting..
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"Anyone else find that people just don't reply to messages?
Is there something super unattractive about my profile or something?
I'm from a pretty small island so i get it that people are nervous but im always polite and straight forward but often I notice they don't even look at my profile before deleting the message?
Any ideas folks?! Haha"
Agree with your first line |
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""... Seen a few ladies being harassed on here recently. It's a real shame some men ruin it for all. Name and shame I say...."
In what possible way am I ruining your fab experience?
? what was this for? No one said nothing on this thread.. "
I did. It's a common mistake for men to blame others. As per the OPs status. That negativity in itself will dissuade people from making contact. By asking a direct question like that, the OP will be able to see that as part of the 'all' as he describes, I'm not actually part of the problem, therefore he might decide to change his status. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Apparently psychologists have found that when we're looking for something it helps if you say what you're looking for over and over again..
Boobs in my inbox boobs in my inbox..
In your case fella... Message in my box try it it's worked for me..    |
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"That was my status before I just changed it. But also true, not the point here really "
You've changed it! Made me look like a dick! 
Cue the jokes, folks......
OP: it's just because there's not many swingers on Jersey.....nothing to do with your profile or height |
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Harsh reality - that's just how it is. There are a lot of guys on here and it is difficult to stand out.
I delete more messages than i read based purely on the profile pic. And if the profile pic is appealing, my next step is the actual profile. If there's nothing witty, intelligent or something to suggest we might actually get on, I move on PDQ. |
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"Anyone else find that people just don't reply to messages?
Is there something super unattractive about my profile or something?
I'm from a pretty small island so i get it that people are nervous but im always polite and straight forward but often I notice they don't even look at my profile before deleting the message?
Any ideas folks?! Haha"
what you're doing wrong is being born with xy chromosomes dude it's just that simple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its a smalk island.
You are clearly attached.
As I woman, it is a profike I wouldnt go neqr with an island size flagpole."
si, si, si..............que?  |
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"Anyone else find that people just don't reply to messages?
Is there something super unattractive about my profile or something?
I'm from a pretty small island so i get it that people are nervous but im always polite and straight forward but often I notice they don't even look at my profile before deleting the message?
Any ideas folks?! Haha
what you're doing wrong is being born with xy chromosomes dude it's just that simple "
Erm... There's plenty of guys who are on here who know how to use the site to get what they want from the site.
All together now... effort in = reward out. |
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I'm actually referring to the fact that people don't reply to my well spoken and polite introduction messages more than hoping to attract naturally via my profile
I don't expect people to just find my profile randomly and message me |
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"I'm actually referring to the fact that people don't reply to my well spoken and polite introduction messages more than hoping to attract naturally via my profile
I don't expect people to just find my profile randomly and message me"
Some women - like me - tend to look at profiles before reading messages, but most do it in  mode. |
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"I think to say I don't make an effort is a bit judgemental considering you have never received one"
When we get a message we look at the profile for clues. You profile tells us, as it stands, you're not that great. You're just another guy with a cock looking to meet.
Despite messages I think you've not realised the importance of your profile. |
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"I'm actually referring to the fact that people don't reply to my well spoken and polite introduction messages more than hoping to attract naturally via my profile
I don't expect people to just find my profile randomly and message me"
The fact is this, we have the reins here, we answer the messages we want to, if your message doesn't stand out etc, we won't reply to you, some nicer ladies might take their time to reply but my view is if you get a deleted message or block then that's the female saying 'no thanks' without saying it, it's not nice I know and even as a woman I've had a fair few messages deleted and dare I say it blocked! There will be one out there but that's just the luck of the draw, your find someone it takes hard work! |
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"I did. It's a common mistake for men to blame others. As per the OPs status. That negativity in itself will dissuade people from making contact. By asking a direct question like that, the OP will be able to see that as part of the 'all' as he describes, I'm not actually part of the problem, therefore he might decide to change his status. "
Nice one Steve, I stumbled across a thread the other day whereby the OP had totally negated his post by his status update  |
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Plus also take your cock pic off your avatar, lots of ladies have already said it but I'll say it again, they do nothing to help your cause. You've seen one dick you've seen them all.
Good luck OP x |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"I think to say I don't make an effort is a bit judgemental considering you have never received one"
Folk are making judgements all the time, advice was offered as to why your messages weren't replied to, some of the reasons have been suggested folk look at profiles or the picture and base the I'd next decision on those... Your messages are only a small part of that decision process.
Have you tried saying what you want over and over again it helps you find the things you're looking for..
I posted I wanted to find boob pictures in my inbox and guess what I found.. (*)(*) pictures ...ladies there's room for more..  |
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"You need to catch the girl in question online rather than just leave a message that will get buried with all the others."
I rarely go onto inbox  being online is no guarantee
Site rules though. No response is a no thank you |
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Ask most of the women on here whether they would care what your message said if they didn't find you attractive.
Then ask them if you seem attractive based on two cock pics and your 3 line profile.
I look at every profile that messages us, I look at profiles that post in the forums, etc. And I read the entire thing. I do it in stealth mode, so you would never know. For example, I have looked at your profile 3 times already.
Nothing enticing. People move on. The content of your message doesn't matter much if you leave your profile as it is.
-Courtney |
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"I did. It's a common mistake for men to blame others. As per the OPs status. That negativity in itself will dissuade people from making contact. By asking a direct question like that, the OP will be able to see that as part of the 'all' as he describes, I'm not actually part of the problem, therefore he might decide to change his status.
Nice one Steve, I stumbled across a thread the other day whereby the OP had totally negated his post by his status update "
My point exactly |
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"Ask most of the women on here whether they would care what your message said if they didn't find you attractive.
Then ask them if you seem attractive based on two cock pics and your 3 line profile.
I look at every profile that messages us, I look at profiles that post in the forums, etc. And I read the entire thing. I do it in stealth mode, so you would never know. For example, I have looked at your profile 3 times already.
Nothing enticing. People move on. The content of your message doesn't matter much if you leave your profile as it is.
-Courtney"
Three times? Stalker |
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"Ask most of the women on here whether they would care what your message said if they didn't find you attractive.
Then ask them if you seem attractive based on two cock pics and your 3 line profile.
I look at every profile that messages us, I look at profiles that post in the forums, etc. And I read the entire thing. I do it in stealth mode, so you would never know. For example, I have looked at your profile 3 times already.
Nothing enticing. People move on. The content of your message doesn't matter much if you leave your profile as it is.
-Courtney
Three times? Stalker "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone else find that people just don't reply to messages?
Is there something super unattractive about my profile or something?
I'm from a pretty small island so i get it that people are nervous but im always polite and straight forward but often I notice they don't even look at my profile before deleting the message?
Any ideas folks?! Haha"
the big thing you're doing wrong is leading with a cock pic other than that lots of patience and well thought out messages with a smiling face pic eventually you will get a reaction  |
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"Ask most of the women on here whether they would care what your message said if they didn't find you attractive.
Then ask them if you seem attractive based on two cock pics and your 3 line profile.
I look at every profile that messages us, I look at profiles that post in the forums, etc. And I read the entire thing. I do it in stealth mode, so you would never know. For example, I have looked at your profile 3 times already.
Nothing enticing. People move on. The content of your message doesn't matter much if you leave your profile as it is.
-Courtney"
Well summed up
-Marc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP - try changing your profile picture from the Leaning Tower Of Piza to maybe somewhere else in the world?
Feet with a That backdrop works well for me............ until perverts message me wanting to spurt on them, that is... "
Thai backdrop* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its a smalk island.
You are clearly attached.
As I woman, it is a profike I wouldnt go neqr with an island size flagpole.
si, si, si..............que?
Its a Hhamserrr Mr Faulty, a Hhamsterr!! "
are you d*unk? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You're doing nothing wrong. Either move your profile to a big city or offer a free trip to your island.
I think distance is your biggest problem .
This place is not the real world. I'm sure you do better in person. Good luck |
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"You're doing nothing wrong. Either move your profile to a big city or offer a free trip to your island.
I think distance is your biggest problem .
This place is not the real world. I'm sure you do better in person. Good luck"
Amusingly, you live on an island in a big city  |
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"Its a smalk island.
You are clearly attached.
As I woman, it is a profike I wouldnt go neqr with an island size flagpole.
si, si, si..............que?
Its a Hhamserrr Mr Faulty, a Hhamsterr!! "
Whhere is door? |
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"Anyone else find that people just don't reply to messages?
Is there something super unattractive about my profile or something?
I'm from a pretty small island so i get it that people are nervous but im always polite and straight forward but often I notice they don't even look at my profile before deleting the message?
Any ideas folks?! Haha
what you're doing wrong is being born with xy chromosomes dude it's just that simple
Erm... There's plenty of guys who are on here who know how to use the site to get what they want from the site.
All together now... effort in = reward out."
Harley be careful or I will report you to Oswald Cobblepot |
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