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Has anybody told you that they love you, without actually meeting you.
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over a year ago
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I'm feeling a little mischievous today so I thought I'd ask this question.
I've found that I've actually grown to like people on here without meeting or even talking to them.
Has anybody gone further and been told by anyone that they loved them without meeting. That would be a little scary me thinks. |
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Not love - but I've had people message me constantly both on fab and phone (kik, whatsapp etc) to tell me how perfect we are together and how we HAVE to meet!
Also had a lot of guys who, after one meet, have suggested we leave fab and walk hand in hand into a relationship!
Guess it's a good job I've got squidgy tits - I'd probably get marriage proposals if I had great tits!!  |
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Yes I've had someone declare their love for me after chatting a bit. I assumed they were d*unk at the time!
I've also had a declaration of love and offer to 'take me away from all this' during a social coffee in Starbucks on a 1st meet and we hadn't even finished our Latte. Needless to say we didn't make it to a 2nd cup and I ran to my car as fast as I could! |
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I've had a couple of strange first messages that proposed marriage, holidays, love etc but they were clearly cut and pasted for many women.
Someone wanted to get me pregnant and offered to financially support me and the hypothetical child 
I think some people have grown fond of me through messaging, and I them, but nobody has believed themselves in love with me. I think most people are rational enough to realise that our online persona's are not a complete reflection of the real person. |
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"I've had a couple of strange first messages that proposed marriage, holidays, love etc but they were clearly cut and pasted for many women.
Someone wanted to get me pregnant and offered to financially support me and the hypothetical child
I think some people have grown fond of me through messaging, and I them, but nobody has believed themselves in love with me. I think most people are rational enough to realise that our online persona's are not a complete reflection of the real person."
And your saying that you declined the offer to carry child?
Good god, some people  |
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"I've had a couple of strange first messages that proposed marriage, holidays, love etc but they were clearly cut and pasted for many women.
Someone wanted to get me pregnant and offered to financially support me and the hypothetical child
I think some people have grown fond of me through messaging, and I them, but nobody has believed themselves in love with me. I think most people are rational enough to realise that our online persona's are not a complete reflection of the real person.
And your saying that you declined the offer to carry child?
Good god, some people "
Actually I played along with it for a few messages, just to see how far he would go. He had NO sense of humour whatsoever and seemed to think I was seriously considering his proposal, so I got bored and blocked him... |
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Yeah in 2011 when I was on here before, was on cam (nothing rude just showing my face) was in the Wales room minding my own business looking for handsome guys to watch them cum, saw a gorgeous guy with a lush willy but he was from way way up north. Would watch him almost every night and go in the Canada room where there wasn't so many people, but then we exchanged numbers and ten would Skype, this went on for about 2 months, would speak to each other every night for hours and then he said on the phone that he thinks he's in love with me! Another month went by and then I just thought fuck it I'll hop on a train 6 bastard hours and met him for a night in a hotel, next weekend he came down to my house and the next and the next and it lasted like that for about 14 months, me catching a train up or him coming down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. And I don't think my personality would lend itself to such declarations.
-Courtney
As a giver or receiver. "
Receiver. As the giver I'd tell everyone I love them 
-Courtney |
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"Yeah in 2011 when I was on here before, was on cam (nothing rude just showing my face) was in the Wales room minding my own business looking for handsome guys to watch them cum, saw a gorgeous guy with a lush willy but he was from way way up north. Would watch him almost every night and go in the Canada room where there wasn't so many people, but then we exchanged numbers and ten would Skype, this went on for about 2 months, would speak to each other every night for hours and then he said on the phone that he thinks he's in love with me! Another month went by and then I just thought fuck it I'll hop on a train 6 bastard hours and met him for a night in a hotel, next weekend he came down to my house and the next and the next and it lasted like that for about 14 months, me catching a train up or him coming down. "
Do tell how it ends. |
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It would freak me out if anyone told me they loved me. That's all a bit too bunny boilerish for my liking. Quite a few tell me they like me which I find really nice. That always puts a smile on my face  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm feeling a little mischievous today so I thought I'd ask this question.
I've found that I've actually grown to like people on here without meeting or even talking to them.
Has anybody gone further and been told by anyone that they loved them without meeting. That would be a little scary me thinks. "
yes one woman on here did havnt met her yet xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well there's love and there's Love (capital L!)
The two are very different and no, nobody has said it to me for either.
I wouldn't know what to do if anyone ever did (which they won't!) ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A few people i've never talked to or met have told me, usually is a lol at the end of it though. 
Barstarrds. "
I think they're nervous really coz they were on my freindslist. Anyway whatever, they're usually old enough to know better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yup I had one tell me (jane) he loved me and had bought me lots of gifts ect... we'd never met and only been chatting for a little while.
Wierd doesn't come close  hit the block button pretty dam fast...he's since tried making contact again by making a new account, block button again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well there's love and there's Love (capital L!)
The two are very different and no, nobody has said it to me for either.
I wouldn't know what to do if anyone ever did (which they won't!) ha "
Love you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well there's love and there's Love (capital L!)
The two are very different and no, nobody has said it to me for either.
I wouldn't know what to do if anyone ever did (which they won't!) ha "
Love u Dan. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Very interesting thread this one
We all grow attraction to someone else if we click, whether that on line or in person - taking that feeling to "loving someone" without even meeting them, is a scary thought
Equally and please don't all shoot me down (again) - I do believe you can love some as a friend and it does have meaning, but without commitment
11 years after I met my first "solo" meet with a beautiful single and younger female off another chat room, and although we have not met up for near 8 years now and we are both married to other people, we both love each other dearly as friends
ps; she knows my new wife and I know her husband |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well there's love and there's Love (capital L!)
The two are very different and no, nobody has said it to me for either.
I wouldn't know what to do if anyone ever did (which they won't!) ha
Love you "
lol I'm at a loss what to do now!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well there's love and there's Love (capital L!)
The two are very different and no, nobody has said it to me for either.
I wouldn't know what to do if anyone ever did (which they won't!) ha
Love u Dan. "
Likewise!! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm feeling a little mischievous today so I thought I'd ask this question.
I've found that I've actually grown to like people on here without meeting or even talking to them.
Has anybody gone further and been told by anyone that they loved them without meeting. That would be a little scary me thinks. yes one woman on here did havnt met her yet xx "
That was supposed to be between us 
-Chip |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well there's love and there's Love (capital L!)
The two are very different and no, nobody has said it to me for either.
I wouldn't know what to do if anyone ever did (which they won't!) ha
Love you
lol I'm at a loss what to do now!! "
I bet you feel all warm and fuzzy inside now don't you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah in 2011 when I was on here before, was on cam (nothing rude just showing my face) was in the Wales room minding my own business looking for handsome guys to watch them cum, saw a gorgeous guy with a lush willy but he was from way way up north. Would watch him almost every night and go in the Canada room where there wasn't so many people, but then we exchanged numbers and ten would Skype, this went on for about 2 months, would speak to each other every night for hours and then he said on the phone that he thinks he's in love with me! Another month went by and then I just thought fuck it I'll hop on a train 6 bastard hours and met him for a night in a hotel, next weekend he came down to my house and the next and the next and it lasted like that for about 14 months, me catching a train up or him coming down.
Do tell how it ends. "
Really cos I've got a fucking insane memory I'll go into too much detail. To summarise met him the first time Saturday 18th fen 2012 that was me catching a train way way up north. After that night he drove down almost every weekend till June time (my birthday) I went up there this time staying in his house (where he lived with his mother) not a hotel, met all his family saying we met on a fitness forum! Carried on going up for weekends or him coming here for weekends till Xmas that year, he came down Boxing Day (as my child stays with her dad for a few days) and that was the first time I'd spent 4 consecutive days with him, it was that day I had a panic attack cos he was in my kitchen cooking a cooked breakfast all 6 foot 3 and he was doing the stuff wrong using every pan I had and then put a big lump of butter in with beans and I lost it and went in my dining room and had a panic attack where I couldn't stop crying and could hardly breath cos I just wanted him out of my house! Kind of had a little argument but made up, then over the next few months April time 2013 I thought I really liked him and wanted him to come live down here in wales, he said he couldn't leave his job or family and friends, I couldn't go up there cos of my daughters school and her family and my support network were all here, decided to call it a day, 6 weeks passed no contact then he calls again saying he made a mistake and that he would come live here by that point I was over him and kinda realised I just liked the train journey with a packed lunch and likes being the only welsh person in an English place and liked the fact shops gave free carrier bags, I said I didn't want to see him as it was over and done with, he said if I would give him a chance and just see how I feel if I see him face to face, he'd mentioned he's been given £40 nandos vouchers from work so I thought kill two birds with one stone, see him see if there's any feelings left and go to nandos for my first time as I'd never been. He came down we went to nandos, I had butterfly chicken but then got pissed off as they don't even do BBQ sauce, then final straw came when they said they don't warm the chocolate cake so i realised I didn't like him anymore or nandos. That night in bed I was half asleep in that hazey feeling and could feel he was fingering me and for a moment I was dripping but then came round and realised it was him and it was as if someone had put one of the silica sachets up my fanny, I dried up and shouted at him to get off, in that moment realised that I wasn't attracted to him anymore and I went to sleep in my spare room. Next morning I told him to leave and he was upset and cried and I was quite harsh and told him to just get the fuck out of my house. Looking back I was mean to him and probably karma from that is me being single 2 and a bit years on!
See told you I go on! My recall skills are fantastic! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes. A guy I chatted to on here before summer told me he was falling in love with me after 5 days of messaging.
He even started a thread.
I still cringe.   |
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"Yeah in 2011 when I was on here before, was on cam (nothing rude just showing my face) was in the Wales room minding my own business looking for handsome guys to watch them cum, saw a gorgeous guy with a lush willy but he was from way way up north. Would watch him almost every night and go in the Canada room where there wasn't so many people, but then we exchanged numbers and ten would Skype, this went on for about 2 months, would speak to each other every night for hours and then he said on the phone that he thinks he's in love with me! Another month went by and then I just thought fuck it I'll hop on a train 6 bastard hours and met him for a night in a hotel, next weekend he came down to my house and the next and the next and it lasted like that for about 14 months, me catching a train up or him coming down.
Do tell how it ends.
Really cos I've got a fucking insane memory I'll go into too much detail. To summarise met him the first time Saturday 18th fen 2012 that was me catching a train way way up north. After that night he drove down almost every weekend till June time (my birthday) I went up there this time staying in his house (where he lived with his mother) not a hotel, met all his family saying we met on a fitness forum! Carried on going up for weekends or him coming here for weekends till Xmas that year, he came down Boxing Day (as my child stays with her dad for a few days) and that was the first time I'd spent 4 consecutive days with him, it was that day I had a panic attack cos he was in my kitchen cooking a cooked breakfast all 6 foot 3 and he was doing the stuff wrong using every pan I had and then put a big lump of butter in with beans and I lost it and went in my dining room and had a panic attack where I couldn't stop crying and could hardly breath cos I just wanted him out of my house! Kind of had a little argument but made up, then over the next few months April time 2013 I thought I really liked him and wanted him to come live down here in wales, he said he couldn't leave his job or family and friends, I couldn't go up there cos of my daughters school and her family and my support network were all here, decided to call it a day, 6 weeks passed no contact then he calls again saying he made a mistake and that he would come live here by that point I was over him and kinda realised I just liked the train journey with a packed lunch and likes being the only welsh person in an English place and liked the fact shops gave free carrier bags, I said I didn't want to see him as it was over and done with, he said if I would give him a chance and just see how I feel if I see him face to face, he'd mentioned he's been given £40 nandos vouchers from work so I thought kill two birds with one stone, see him see if there's any feelings left and go to nandos for my first time as I'd never been. He came down we went to nandos, I had butterfly chicken but then got pissed off as they don't even do BBQ sauce, then final straw came when they said they don't warm the chocolate cake so i realised I didn't like him anymore or nandos. That night in bed I was half asleep in that hazey feeling and could feel he was fingering me and for a moment I was dripping but then came round and realised it was him and it was as if someone had put one of the silica sachets up my fanny, I dried up and shouted at him to get off, in that moment realised that I wasn't attracted to him anymore and I went to sleep in my spare room. Next morning I told him to leave and he was upset and cried and I was quite harsh and told him to just get the fuck out of my house. Looking back I was mean to him and probably karma from that is me being single 2 and a bit years on!
See told you I go on! My recall skills are fantastic! "
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"Yeah in 2011 when I was on here before, was on cam (nothing rude just showing my face) was in the Wales room minding my own business looking for handsome guys to watch them cum, saw a gorgeous guy with a lush willy but he was from way way up north. Would watch him almost every night and go in the Canada room where there wasn't so many people, but then we exchanged numbers and ten would Skype, this went on for about 2 months, would speak to each other every night for hours and then he said on the phone that he thinks he's in love with me! Another month went by and then I just thought fuck it I'll hop on a train 6 bastard hours and met him for a night in a hotel, next weekend he came down to my house and the next and the next and it lasted like that for about 14 months, me catching a train up or him coming down.
Do tell how it ends.
Really cos I've got a fucking insane memory I'll go into too much detail. To summarise met him the first time Saturday 18th fen 2012 that was me catching a train way way up north. After that night he drove down almost every weekend till June time (my birthday) I went up there this time staying in his house (where he lived with his mother) not a hotel, met all his family saying we met on a fitness forum! Carried on going up for weekends or him coming here for weekends till Xmas that year, he came down Boxing Day (as my child stays with her dad for a few days) and that was the first time I'd spent 4 consecutive days with him, it was that day I had a panic attack cos he was in my kitchen cooking a cooked breakfast all 6 foot 3 and he was doing the stuff wrong using every pan I had and then put a big lump of butter in with beans and I lost it and went in my dining room and had a panic attack where I couldn't stop crying and could hardly breath cos I just wanted him out of my house! Kind of had a little argument but made up, then over the next few months April time 2013 I thought I really liked him and wanted him to come live down here in wales, he said he couldn't leave his job or family and friends, I couldn't go up there cos of my daughters school and her family and my support network were all here, decided to call it a day, 6 weeks passed no contact then he calls again saying he made a mistake and that he would come live here by that point I was over him and kinda realised I just liked the train journey with a packed lunch and likes being the only welsh person in an English place and liked the fact shops gave free carrier bags, I said I didn't want to see him as it was over and done with, he said if I would give him a chance and just see how I feel if I see him face to face, he'd mentioned he's been given £40 nandos vouchers from work so I thought kill two birds with one stone, see him see if there's any feelings left and go to nandos for my first time as I'd never been. He came down we went to nandos, I had butterfly chicken but then got pissed off as they don't even do BBQ sauce, then final straw came when they said they don't warm the chocolate cake so i realised I didn't like him anymore or nandos. That night in bed I was half asleep in that hazey feeling and could feel he was fingering me and for a moment I was dripping but then came round and realised it was him and it was as if someone had put one of the silica sachets up my fanny, I dried up and shouted at him to get off, in that moment realised that I wasn't attracted to him anymore and I went to sleep in my spare room. Next morning I told him to leave and he was upset and cried and I was quite harsh and told him to just get the fuck out of my house. Looking back I was mean to him and probably karma from that is me being single 2 and a bit years on!
See told you I go on! My recall skills are fantastic! "
But what about Nandos? Have you made it up with them? |
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"Go in the chat rooms you here it several times, along with then asking to marry you. I'm polite and always say yes, still waiting for the day though "
I'm still trying to find a best man. |
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"I'm feeling a little mischievous today so I thought I'd ask this question.
I've found that I've actually grown to like people on here without meeting or even talking to them.
Has anybody gone further and been told by anyone that they loved them without meeting. That would be a little scary me thinks. yes one woman on here did havnt met her yet xx
That was supposed to be between us
-Chip"
chip don't tell everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yes met on orange chat and he told me that he loved me we arranged to meet after a few months and as he was from Wales he was staying for the weekend
he never went back home again and we shared 7 and a half years together and for me a lifetime of treasured memories that know can take away from me |
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Yes. Many years ago. It was quite mutual and when we eventually met it was confirmed. Fireworks, butterflies and sadly heartbreak followed.
I'd say it's likely still there though. You never forget your first love. |
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Yes and its weird can't say I like it much, the guy that said it to me ended up in court for stalking and had to attend a program for his weird behaviour, he also received a restraining order
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"yes met on orange chat and he told me that he loved me we arranged to meet after a few months and as he was from Wales he was staying for the weekend
he never went back home again and we shared 7 and a half years together and for me a lifetime of treasured memories that know can take away from me"
Orange chat! Now that's a blast from the past. |
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"I'm feeling a little mischievous today so I thought I'd ask this question.
I've found that I've actually grown to like people on here without meeting or even talking to them.
Has anybody gone further and been told by anyone that they loved them without meeting. That would be a little scary me thinks. "
If I am being 100% honest OP I can say No, only time some one wanted to go out with me without meeting me was some girl I was sexting with one night who was a mutual friend of my mate....
that was back in secondary school though.....can't say a girl has ever told me she loved me as I've never been in a relationship with anyone.
I've been with a woman before sexually yes but that was a few years ago. |
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Yes. A couple of years ago, someone I got chatting to a lot online over a period of months. He sent me a message when he was d*unk telling me he was falling in love with me. It was weird, and horrible, and I had to just nip it in the bud. |
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"I'm feeling a little mischievous today so I thought I'd ask this question.
I've found that I've actually grown to like people on here without meeting or even talking to them.
Has anybody gone further and been told by anyone that they loved them without meeting. That would be a little scary me thinks. "
Yes. Talked everyday for a week. Told me he loved me. Met a week later and 2 years on we still very much love each other. But no longer together. For the time being!! |
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Unfortunately yes this has happened to me twice, resulting in me immediately blocking the guys from all means of contact. I positively discourage any kind of emotional attachment and it's just weird and creepy.
Has also happened with men I've met regularly. |
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"I'm feeling a little mischievous today so I thought I'd ask this question.
I've found that I've actually grown to like people on here without meeting or even talking to them.
Has anybody gone further and been told by anyone that they loved them without meeting. That would be a little scary me thinks. "
Yes I had a phone call Sunday evening over leak in central heating system I said I could be there in 20 mins to Which I got I love you . That's a record even for me |
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"Yes and its weird can't say I like it much, the guy that said it to me ended up in court for stalking and had to attend a program for his weird behaviour, he also received a restraining order
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Fucking hell, adds to block list |
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